- 2 years ago
Video Information:
Context:
Wisdom Quote: “Human beings start tranquilizing themselves using this thing called sex. To a great extent, it represents our failure in setting the right goals. And having the courage and the effortful to achieve them.”
00:00 Series trailer
01:25 Why are men so damn desperate?
04:30 Damn desperation is not in animals
07:49 That's the male thing
10:01 Damn desperation doesn't really work
12:50 Why don't women act equally desperate?
15:09 Instant gratification
17:12 Take her down unexpected lanes
18:45 He & she will need to be created after physical birth
19:17 Episode 2 trailer
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Context:
Wisdom Quote: “Human beings start tranquilizing themselves using this thing called sex. To a great extent, it represents our failure in setting the right goals. And having the courage and the effortful to achieve them.”
00:00 Series trailer
01:25 Why are men so damn desperate?
04:30 Damn desperation is not in animals
07:49 That's the male thing
10:01 Damn desperation doesn't really work
12:50 Why don't women act equally desperate?
15:09 Instant gratification
17:12 Take her down unexpected lanes
18:45 He & she will need to be created after physical birth
19:17 Episode 2 trailer
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00:00 Sir, why are men so damn desperate?
00:09 You don't feel that attraction towards any man that I want to swoop in and get him and
00:13 make him mine?
00:14 Not with so much eagerness, no.
00:17 It's more of a, you know, the water is kind of boiling and it's boiling slowly, slowly,
00:23 slowly.
00:24 So you spend more time with them.
00:25 You get more, you know, you get to know them better.
00:28 What do women want?
00:32 Safety security.
00:33 You are not adding money to the list?
00:36 Oh, sorry, money, rich.
00:38 Oh, safety, it comes under safety and security.
00:40 Money.
00:41 If you are truly a feminist, never be dependent on somebody's money.
00:45 True self, free of biology, free of social impositions is what you must strive for.
00:51 And that is true freedom.
00:52 And there is such great and irresistible power in it.
00:56 Life blossoms like never before.
01:12 Sir, why are men so damn desperate?
01:31 I suppose Darius would take the lead on this.
01:41 They are attracted to their form.
01:46 Something takes me over.
01:49 What do you think?
01:55 Something is pulling them towards, something is attracting.
01:59 That's not the same as calling them damn desperate.
02:03 So some deep desperation, that's what I'm trying to understand.
02:12 I don't get that pull.
02:14 I don't understand what that pull is, that if you have a little bit of familiarity with
02:19 any woman and you just swoop in as like, be mine or come let's go out on a date or let's
02:25 do something.
02:26 I just, that is something I cannot comprehend.
02:29 So that is the entire.
02:32 What do you think Darius, why does that happen?
02:37 I was actually going to ask you, you don't feel that attraction towards any man that
02:41 I want to swoop in and get him and make him mine?
02:46 Not with so much eagerness.
02:50 It's more of, the water is kind of boiling and it's boiling slowly, slowly, slowly.
02:56 So you spend more time with them.
02:58 You get more, you know, you get to know them better and if they're, you know, they're all
03:03 right, then that happens.
03:06 But not in that, it's not, you know, just with guys, it's with men, it's more like anybody
03:12 will do, like any girl will do no matter, you know, she's pretty or just anything.
03:19 So that is something that just frustrates.
03:23 They have no standards.
03:25 So you're wondering, it could be me, it could be someone else.
03:28 It could be anybody.
03:31 That is what the whole point is.
03:33 It could be anybody.
03:36 And that's so, it's just so uncomprehensive.
03:39 Like, how could you just pick anybody?
03:45 To begin with, it's the ubiquitous mating behavior we witness in all living beings.
03:55 Go to the jungle, it's happening all the time, all over the place.
04:00 So that's how it begins, first of all.
04:09 You don't have to be a human being to be attracted to the other gender.
04:15 A male rhino would be pulled to a female rhino.
04:19 So that's how it begins.
04:22 But this kind of damn desperation, probably you would not ascribe to animals, right?
04:31 You won't.
04:33 I'd have doubts before ascribing because I'd have to get into it a little deeper.
04:39 So there is that pull that exists even in the jungle.
04:45 That's the biological part of it.
04:50 But then man is characterized by his consciousness.
04:55 When I say man, I mean human beings, man and woman both.
05:02 We have a task to do, a goal to achieve, a test to pass.
05:07 We have something to attain in life.
05:13 Animals aren't burdened with that inner mandate.
05:19 Man is born with that inner mandate, which is to make life worth living.
05:27 Which is to make something of himself.
05:32 So there is that deep inner question, a constant one.
05:44 Am I fulfilled?
05:48 Have I attained?
05:51 What do I have in my hands?
05:54 What have I yet become?
05:57 There is that desire.
06:01 The desire is the lack of fulfillment of consciousness itself.
06:06 The mind is a constant craving.
06:11 The mind is a constant hollow, waiting to or begging to be filled.
06:20 So you require something to fill it up, right?
06:27 And when you have nothing else to fill it up with, you go for sex.
06:33 So that's what we're doing.
06:36 So to begin with, there's a biological pull.
06:40 But then in homo sapiens, that biological simple pull is a thousand times amplified
06:51 because of our wasted lives.
06:57 We know that we don't have a thing in life.
07:00 We know that we just haven't lived up to our potential.
07:05 We have a thousand unfulfilled desires.
07:11 And worse still, we do not know what to desire.
07:18 So we are losers all around and everywhere and all the time.
07:22 How do we compensate for that inner loss?
07:26 And that inner loss is teasing us all the time.
07:31 It's nibbling at our heart from within all the time.
07:39 How do you compensate for that feeling of inadequacy?
07:47 You go and have sex.
07:49 That's the main thing.
07:52 Because you are in general inadequate in life.
07:56 Because none of your achievements are really worth it.
08:02 So there is at least one achievement that you can have.
08:06 A heavy dose of sex, like one takes a heavy dose of a tranquilizing drug.
08:15 The patient is terminal, can't recover.
08:23 But he can at least be tranquilized.
08:26 So from the age of 15 or 18, human beings start tranquilizing themselves using this thing called sex.
08:37 To a great extent, it represents our failure in living rightly.
08:47 To a great extent, it represents our failure in setting the right goals
08:53 and having the courage and the effortfulness to achieve them.
08:58 Or at least strive for them, if not achieve them.
09:02 Neither do we know what to achieve, nor are we committed enough to go for it wholeheartedly.
09:09 If you go for it wholeheartedly and fail, that's not really an inner defeat.
09:15 That might be an external defeat.
09:17 But we are riddled with inner defeats.
09:22 So what's the last resort?
09:26 Chase a woman, conquer her.
09:30 When I say conquer her, I mean her body.
09:32 Conquer her body and tell yourself, I've had something at last and at least.
09:40 I'm somebody, not that I'm a complete loser.
09:43 I have the woman's body.
09:45 That's the loser's last resort.
09:48 So that's what is happening and that's what makes them damn desperate.
09:57 What is funny, what I find funny is the damn desperation doesn't really work to a large extent.
10:04 No, it works to a large extent.
10:07 But it works on a self-defeating way.
10:09 The more it works, the worse it is for you.
10:14 So you are lucky if it doesn't work for you.
10:20 Because if it works, it means you are on the right diet and the right or you are on the wrong diet and the wrong medicine.
10:29 And you are convincing yourself that this is the right thing for you.
10:33 Bad, very bad.
10:35 And why sex more, not other things like food or even drugs to that extent?
10:47 Why, I understand that it's a biological thing, but there can be other substitutes as well.
10:54 Some people might use food or drugs in a sense a replacement.
10:59 Anyway, after a particular age, sex is no more appealing.
11:04 So what do people then sustain themselves on?
11:07 They find other pastimes and other props to fill their inner hollow with.
11:16 But sex being a very basic urge, the very basis of prakritic life, physical biological life is obviously more appealing and more powerful.
11:29 It has a stronger pull.
11:31 It has a stronger pull.
11:32 So we misuse it by expecting from it what it is not designed to give you.
11:43 You expect inner fulfillment from sex and it won't give you that.
11:48 So what do you do?
11:51 Your lack of inner fulfillment, you want to cover through sex.
11:57 Won't happen.
11:59 You continue to have sex a million times.
12:02 You'd still be as empty as you were in the beginning.
12:07 Maybe more.
12:09 Maybe more, yes, it's actually more.
12:11 So the woman is complacent in all of this.
12:17 Is it complacent or complicit?
12:20 Complicit, like she goes along with it.
12:22 That is why man is able to…
12:24 Complicit.
12:25 The woman is not fundamentally different from the man.
12:30 It's the same species.
12:32 So there are differences.
12:35 Fundamentally, there is the ego tendency and it operates through two genders.
12:41 Fine.
12:42 Let's not exaggerate the differences.
12:45 And you said, why don't women act equally desperate?
12:52 What do you say, Devya?
12:54 I was just thinking about what you said.
12:59 Where you said there's a hollow and that's why the men chase the women.
13:05 I'm just wondering, could it be that Anu is turned off because the more desperate the man is,
13:12 she senses more of a hollowness and more his longing for her to fulfill him.
13:18 And she's being honest enough to know that she can't do that.
13:23 She can't do that.
13:24 It's a thing of honesty.
13:25 If a woman is honest, one of the things she'll tell the desperate man is,
13:29 "Sir, you won't get from me what you really expect."
13:33 The problem is you do not even know what you expect.
13:36 You do not even know what you really need.
13:39 All you know is your desire.
13:41 You do not know your need.
13:42 And your desire is not worth much to you.
13:47 You are placing premium on the wrong thing.
13:51 That's what the woman would tell the man.
13:54 There is this beautiful scripture, Tripura Rahasya.
13:59 In that the protagonist, the wise one is a woman.
14:06 And this is exactly what she tells the man.
14:10 The man is the king there.
14:11 She tells him, "You are deluded.
14:15 Get rid of your delusion first and then try to get me.
14:22 Go and firstly get rid of your delusion."
14:27 That's what a wise woman would tell this damn desperate man.
14:30 Doesn't happen.
14:36 Just as the man is a noise, the woman too is.
14:40 Now, why don't women experience those spikes?
14:46 Come to me, let's have it and finish it off.
14:51 And let's be done with it tonight itself.
14:54 Why don't women have an equally strong urge?
14:58 Some of them might have it.
14:59 We don't deny that.
15:00 Is it hormones?
15:02 It's something biological.
15:05 You see for the man, it's instant gratification.
15:10 10 minutes, 1 hour, 2 hours, 4 hours at the max.
15:16 One night.
15:22 But the woman knows through evolutionary knowledge that to her it is going to cost a lot of energy.
15:32 Probably 9 months of pregnancy, several years of raising the child and consequent dependence on an untested person.
15:51 Pregnancy is not merely the responsibility of giving birth to the child and then raising it.
15:58 It is also dependence on the child's father or somebody else.
16:04 When you are pregnant, what do you do?
16:07 In the old times, you couldn't go out and collect fruit, fetch stuff for yourself.
16:18 Nowadays, when you are pregnant, you have to be on maternity leave and there is no guarantee that your career interests will be safeguarded.
16:26 So some kind of dependence is surely going to be created.
16:31 Is the fellow worthy enough?
16:32 So she'll test the person and that's exactly what I'm saying.
16:36 I need to test and test and test and test.
16:40 And when he comes through as reliable, only then do I feel interested.
16:50 It's biological.
16:53 The man would be done with it and just disappear.
16:59 For the woman, it's not so instant.
17:04 The closure doesn't come instantly.
17:09 It can take her down very unexpected lanes.
17:17 Her entire life can go topsy-turvy after one night of bed-breaking.
17:25 That's the reason why she's more circumspect.
17:31 Testing waters.
17:33 Testing waters before jumping.
17:35 She tests the waters. It's a long-term investment and responsibility and dependence for her.
17:42 It's 15-20 years.
17:45 So it's a biological thing.
17:49 There's nothing actually temperate or wise about the woman being less enthusiastic or, it's just biological conditioning.
18:07 The man is acting out his biology.
18:12 The woman too is acting out her biology.
18:17 So there's not much in it for either party.
18:22 Why can't there be a different kind of relationship?
18:30 But for that different kind of relationship, first of all, you require a different quality of human being.
18:37 That human being will really not be born from the mother's womb.
18:45 He or she, actually both of them, he and she, will need to be created.
18:54 Created after their physical birth.
18:57 They'll need to be given a second and a real birth.
19:02 Only then can we expect a top-class relationship.
19:07 Otherwise, we'll continue to have such things, that damn desperate man and the reluctant or circumspect woman.
19:15 So...
19:18 [Music]
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