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00:17 Hey guys and welcome to Jinn
00:19 Dao
00:20 Hoes
00:20 My name is C-L-I-N-T-O-N and as always with the 263 on the side
00:25 and as always I've got two beautiful ladies in the house
00:28 Lady, what's your name?
00:31 My name is Mrs. Siegle
00:32 Merci, Yang
00:34 And you know today I'm super excited because you know I'm about to paint a certain picture
00:42 that people don't want to actually paint
00:44 People don't want to actually say this but this is happening and this is true
00:49 You're scaring me
00:50 Y'alls lie to yourselves about like I mean the relationship
00:54 I'm sorry y'alls?
00:55 Y'alls?
00:57 I'm not part of that group
00:58 Okay
00:58 We're in a relationship huh?
01:01 In actual fact it's a situation-ship
01:03 So we want to talk about relationships
01:07 Why are we hurting some people?
01:08 I'm sorry
01:08 I mean Gen Z relationship are crazy
01:12 They're over there, here
01:14 Relationships is a big word
01:16 Yeah
01:17 It's a big word
01:18 We fear it though
01:19 It goes back to the thing that we spoke about last year
01:24 When we were talking about things like ghosting
01:28 Right?
01:29 Oh
01:30 Yeah so you know if you're in a relationship and I want to end it
01:35 I'll be very honest about it
01:36 I'll tell you yo, mercy, yo, bliss
01:40 It's not working
01:40 But if it's not clear I'm just gonna ghost you
01:46 I mean
01:47 But why the ghosting part and the way he said with a period?
01:52 I mean I guess I see where he's coming
01:56 Okay let's take an example
01:58 So you're on social media
01:59 You're on Instagram
02:00 And then this guy or this girl will text you
02:04 You're texting here and there
02:05 Like you know those cute emails
02:07 Hi hello how are you?
02:08 Then you start to get to know each other
02:11 But you know it's not a relationship
02:13 You know you're just talking
02:15 And then suddenly people have feels
02:17 And then you start talking
02:18 People?
02:18 You two
02:20 No no no
02:20 One person
02:21 Let me tell you the situation she probably it goes
02:24 It's one person
02:25 Developing
02:26 Developing
02:27 Developing
02:28 You know what I think?
02:28 I think okay I think it could be two
02:31 But like with less interest from one side
02:34 Less interest from one side
02:36 Where I mean he told you
02:38 He talked about it last year when he said
02:39 You could you could you could be
02:41 If you're a guy you are talking to mercy
02:43 You're talking to bliss
02:44 You're talking to Diane
02:46 You're talking to
02:47 You know you're talking to so many people
02:48 Then you start catching feelings for for like mercy
02:51 But you're still talking to bliss
02:52 And you're still talking to Diane
02:54 And then suddenly you start cutting off
02:56 Bliss and Diane
02:57 And you start only focusing on mercy
02:59 But already we're attached
03:00 But already we're attached
03:01 So we have those entanglements
03:04 In that kind of relationship
03:06 How about
03:06 When you say entanglement
03:07 No how about we list
03:09 Relationship
03:10 Like like those type of relationship
03:13 That's in in our generation
03:15 There's there's situationship
03:16 How about you list how many you've been
03:18 There's relationship
03:22 There's entanglement
03:23 There's open relationship
03:25 What what's open relationship for
03:27 An open relationship
03:28 What's that?
03:29 Is when it's even worse
03:31 Because it's in two stages
03:33 There is the
03:34 We tell each other
03:36 We love each other every day
03:38 We are exclusive boyfriend and girlfriend
03:40 But you are allowed to do whatever you want
03:43 And I'm allowed to
03:44 You know what
03:45 See don't don't don't don't dump on it before you get
03:48 If you both know
03:50 If you're both on the same side
03:51 Yeah
03:52 You know it's an open relationship
03:53 I am good with that
03:54 No
03:54 The problem is if I don't know
03:56 That it's an open relationship
03:57 Because then that's called cheating
03:59 Let me tell you something
04:00 There are remember
04:01 There are
04:02 There is like a close to all of these things
04:05 Why this is my favorite topic is
04:07 I've extensively done research about this
04:10 Okay
04:10 Do you know that?
04:12 Okay Mr. Researchman
04:13 No no no
04:15 No
04:15 Okay
04:16 So what happens is
04:17 When even if it's an open relationship
04:20 There are rules to it
04:20 I'm not supposed to be with your best friend
04:23 For starters
04:24 But then it also defeats the purpose of saying
04:27 You can have whoever you want
04:28 Outside of this
04:30 And normally that is what happens
04:33 The moment you say
04:34 My best friend is off limits
04:36 Your best friend becomes this
04:37 Most attractive person
04:39 Right
04:39 In the whole world
04:41 It could be that your best friend is not the prettiest person
04:44 Exactly
04:44 But just because you put limits on them
04:46 So normally open relationships end up ending
04:50 Because you have stepped on the wrong toe
04:54 All that that you said you're not going to do
04:57 Is actually what you were doing
04:59 Yeah
05:00 That's an open
05:01 That is the definition of an open relationship
05:03 And then a situation
05:04 Is what this generation
05:08 We are actually practicing
05:09 Yeah
05:10 Okay
05:10 Where to be honest
05:12 You didn't start to discover the person
05:14 As you are now telling each other that you love each other
05:16 Where it is you're supposed to do that before
05:19 So you're now in a situation whereby
05:21 You're now in a situation whereby you can't break up
05:26 Because you have set a solid foundation
05:29 But the actual feelings
05:30 The respect for the relationship
05:32 Have you ever had a relationship where
05:34 It's just hey babe good morning
05:36 Right
05:37 The whole day you don't even check in
05:39 Yeah
05:39 How you're feeling
05:41 How's work
05:41 The boredom
05:42 Exactly
05:43 And then in the evening it's
05:44 I'm about to leave work
05:45 Then I got home
05:47 I'm about to eat
05:48 I'm watching a series
05:49 All right good night
05:50 That's not a relationship
05:52 How are you saying in the relationship
05:53 That's a situation
05:54 A relationship is when by now
05:58 I should have known it
06:00 No
06:03 When I'm actually in
06:04 Oh honey
06:05 That's what you're in
06:06 Oh yeah
06:07 No not now
06:08 Let me tell you
06:09 I was at the point
06:11 I was talking
06:12 In the talking state with someone
06:13 But yet
06:14 We are not established
06:16 We are not boyfriend girlfriend
06:19 Yet we're
06:20 Were you meeting up
06:23 What's this
06:24 You're meeting up
06:25 The situation is
06:25 You're vibing
06:27 It was crazy
06:28 It is a place I don't want to go back to
06:30 You're in a funny situation
06:32 I hate being uncertain of something
06:35 I hate
06:38 I hate
06:38 I don't know if others are like that
06:41 But situation
06:42 No one should ever be as comfortable to be
06:44 To not know where they are in a relationship
06:46 I've heard that
06:47 But like
06:48 As this generation has
06:50 Started this thing where we are more comfortable
06:53 With the gray area
06:54 We're not black
06:57 We're not white
06:57 But like
06:58 We are
06:59 We want
07:00 We want something that looks like a relationship
07:03 But it's not a relationship
07:04 I feel like we want to enjoy some
07:06 Test everything
07:08 We don't want to have the fights
07:10 We don't want to have
07:10 The mean talks
07:11 We don't want to
07:12 We don't want to get too deep
07:15 And too close to someone
07:16 Because at the end of the day
07:18 You find like
07:19 Some of us have traumas
07:20 You find
07:21 You've either started dating when you were like
07:24 13
07:25 Or 12
07:27 When did you start
07:28 Really
07:28 Why are you surprised
07:30 When did you start
07:30 I started dating when I was 18
07:32 You see that's a good boy
07:33 I'm joking
07:33 That's a good boy
07:34 I'm joking but yeah I get you
07:37 You started dating at 12 at 13
07:40 And then at the end of the day
07:41 At 15 you're heartbroken
07:43 At 12 what do you really know about love
07:47 First you see these romantic movies
07:50 And you hear all these people who have
07:51 Made it
07:53 You know
07:54 Who has made it
07:55 Who have this long-term relationship
07:58 But you don't know behind the scenes
08:00 Of what their relationship actually looks like
08:02 The fact that we've started as a generation
08:04 Like most of us have started dating at such a young age
08:07 It allows us to have more pain
08:09 and more trust issues.
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