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00:00 [Music]

00:17 Hi, welcome to GEM.

00:19 Now.

00:20 Voice.

00:21 This is a show about our own perspectives as a generation of now.

00:26 I'm with...

00:27 Merci.

00:28 And my name is C-L-I-N-T-O-N.

00:31 You can call me Clinton or Mr263 on the site.

00:34 And I, the presenter, I am...

00:37 Monique Ciblett.

00:38 Thank you for being with us.

00:39 Here we are with...

00:41 With you, Merci.

00:42 So, what do you think?

00:45 Ah.

00:46 Estive season.

00:47 Festivities.

00:48 Yeah, like, especially that we're in December, we celebrate Christmas.

00:53 Yeah.

00:54 Yo, Christmas, when I was a kid,

00:57 it was the time I was looking forward to.

01:00 Like, it was the time I got new clothes.

01:04 New clothes.

01:05 [Laughs]

01:06 Jeez.

01:07 Oh my God.

01:08 That actually reminds me, you know, my family would host,

01:10 like, they would invite these people, these children from, like,

01:13 from our neighbors, like, who weren't going to celebrate as much as we were.

01:18 And then they would bring them at home and then we would cook a bunch of food.

01:22 And we would just all eat.

01:23 It wasn't like gifts.

01:24 There were no presents whatsoever.

01:26 I didn't get--

01:27 I didn't get nothing.

01:28 But the amount of people and the amount of food that was there

01:32 and everyone just chilling and enjoying, that--

01:35 that was my Christmas.

01:37 Well, you know, in my experience,

01:41 I would have, you know, shown you a little bit of some rumba moves.

01:44 Oh.

01:45 Some rumba moves.

01:46 And those were manifested because of celebrating Christmas.

01:49 We had these competitions back home where if you're a kid,

01:53 you have to dance for sweets.

01:55 Oh, my God. Can I see?

01:57 No.

01:58 I want to see. Please.

01:59 There's no way.

02:00 I mean, you have to show us.

02:01 There's like a small one.

02:02 There's no way.

02:03 You have to show us.

02:04 Please.

02:05 Yo, yo, yo, yo.

02:06 Are you guys going to pay?

02:07 You have to show us. Yes, we'll pay.

02:08 We got money. We'll pay.

02:09 It had something to do with me being like--

02:11 Yes, please.

02:13 Show us, though.

02:14 Come on.

02:15 Yeah, but it was a moment for competition.

02:19 Yes.

02:20 Because, you know, the packet of sweets would be put right here.

02:22 And we're used to sharing a packet, but we have a packet of sweets.

02:26 If you beat everybody, you take the whole packet.

02:29 Oh, wow.

02:30 And you distribute it the way that you like.

02:32 So if you don't like someone, what happens?

02:34 So this is why trauma comes with us.

02:38 Oh, my God.

02:39 Oh, yes.

02:40 Okay, so you guys--

02:42 Okay, so that's basically your childhood memories of Christmas.

02:45 Yes.

02:46 Okay, but so do you enjoy Christmas now?

02:49 Are you looking forward to the next how many days into Christmas?

02:53 Or do you just miss Christmas as a child as when you were still young?

02:57 Well, you know, it's sad to say traumas for me are hitting on both ends

03:01 because now I'm grown and I have responsibilities, you know.

03:05 So the Christmas part of the celebration, I also have to chip in.

03:10 So, you know, make ticks.

03:12 Oh, the money.

03:13 Exactly, the money.

03:14 And, you know, like what we were saying earlier, as a kid,

03:18 your happiness is leaning on your parents.

03:21 So sometimes, you know, just because your report was bad,

03:24 your clothes are there, but your parents just want you to see fire.

03:28 So you're not getting clothes this year because you got a bad report.

03:31 So, you know, you then see everybody be like,

03:33 "I'm going to be wearing blue jeans, blue tops, blue everything.

03:36 I'm going to be in this color."

03:38 And you don't even know half of the things that are going to go.

03:41 Now that you know.

03:43 I would go for now.

03:44 I would enjoy Christmas now than when I was a kid.

03:47 I would be like, do you think the way that they would have--

03:51 the way they awarded you because of how you did in school

03:54 has an effect on how you work now, even as a person who's working?

03:58 Nah.

03:59 No?

04:00 Don't forget about Christmas in January like that.

04:03 Let me tell you something.

04:04 How about you?

04:05 Like the way my parents raised me, it was in that way.

04:09 Like I got to get something due to the good marks.

04:13 So it made me-- let me tell you, it made me like--

04:17 now I know that I could get something through hard work.

04:21 Because it was in nursery.

04:24 In nursery, I was, what, four, five?

04:27 And that's when my parents, my dad especially, would be like,

04:30 "If you come in top five, it's 5,000."

04:34 Wow.

04:35 Four, ten.

04:36 If you be the fourth, it's ten.

04:39 I'm sorry, a thousand, 10,000?

04:41 Francs or USD?

04:43 I just want to make sure.

04:45 What currency is this?

04:48 Random francs.

04:50 So in essence, it was a--

04:52 It is a lot of money, actually, for a four-year-old.

04:55 I know.

04:56 And so I knew at class I had to work hard in order to get the clothes.

05:02 So I believe it helped me and it groomed me to know that

05:08 if I want something, I have to work for it.

05:11 Because back then, I knew I was going to get those blue jeans all day.

05:16 I remember, like, let me--

05:18 While you're still on that topic of awarding,

05:20 I feel like when we speak of--

05:22 if we're going to be like, okay, festivities and traumas,

05:25 when we come back to traumas and families and whatnot,

05:28 if you look at the way you work and you think about how they gave you--

05:32 they gave you something small for the amount of work

05:35 and the hard work that you put in,

05:37 do you think you're looking for appreciation when you're doing work?

05:42 Not necessarily appreciation,

05:45 but I feel like it made me realize at a young age

05:53 that we have to work in order to get something,

05:56 not waiting or sitting around waiting for someone to give you--

06:00 you know, give you what you need.

06:03 So I believe it's not a bad thing,

06:07 but at some point, it would come out as a bad thing

06:11 because I'd be like, so other kids are getting this no matter how great.

06:17 Sometimes I would feel like, why am I working as a child?

06:23 When the rest of the people are getting famous for it.

06:26 Yes, exactly.

06:27 But now that I'm older, I get to know the value

06:32 that they were building in me, actually.

06:35 I do get that, but I've always wanted--

06:37 I'm not one to follow rules, just for the record.

06:41 Yes, you, for the record.

06:44 To be honest, it's good that you learn the value,

06:47 but you're too young.

06:49 For me, that's so traumatic.

06:51 That part of my childhood where my parents had to make me feel like I have to work

06:57 just because they're also working.

06:59 I'm not working for their love.

07:01 Because even the words of encouragement,

07:03 they will give them to you after you've done a certain amount of work.

07:07 Exactly.

07:08 And I'm like, do I have to work this--

07:10 If I don't do the work, for me, I was raised--

07:14 thank God I was raised--

07:16 they're like, okay, yes, you have to work hard.

07:18 You're a grown-up.

07:19 You have to grow into a person who's this kind, who's responsible and whatnot.

07:24 And they taught me the basics, and they're like,

07:26 you have to learn on your own.

07:28 But if I didn't do it, like if you didn't do good in school,

07:31 they're like, okay, okay, do well.

07:34 The holidays, they'll be like, okay, enjoy.

07:37 How many hours you're playing, you're doing this and this,

07:40 and then these hours you have to study, but we love you.

07:43 We're not going to take away the TV.

07:45 We're not going to take away the--

07:47 but we will reduce the amount of time because now we know you need more work.

07:51 So do you think that has an effect when parents make you feel like

07:56 you have to work for their love?

07:58 Does that have something to do with--

08:00 Yes, I will tell you sometimes I feel like my mother wasn't my mother.

08:06 Mommy, you hear her.

08:08 Sorry.

08:09 I love you, Mom.

08:10 I love you.

08:11 I love you, you know that.

08:13 But let me tell you, my mom is the tough one.

08:18 So I was the--I bet for the first years, I was like the only kid for 10 years.

08:25 So I feel like my mom is like that.

08:28 She gives tough love.

08:30 So as a kid, I wouldn't understand like that tough love,

08:34 what is tough love actually.

08:36 But now I know it's different, but then I didn't understand.

08:39 I was like, wait, who--are you even my mom?

08:43 And then she's my stepmom or something, and yet we are like twins.

08:49 Okay, that reminds me.

08:50 Are you guys still expecting Christmas clothes from your parents?

08:53 You guys got Christmas clothes?

08:55 You want my genuine answers?

08:58 Do you really want Christmas clothes from your parents?

09:01 I want some Christmas gifts, tell me.

09:03 You want Christmas gifts from your family?

09:05 Yeah.

09:06 I think I've already got one already.

09:09 Oh, you have?

09:10 I'm just putting that there.

09:11 You want to tell me?

09:12 No.

09:13 Of course not.

09:14 Do you want a Christmas gift or clothes from your parents?

09:18 I got them last--like I was so excited last year.

09:21 We did a whole--we did--

09:23 Name picking.

09:24 Name picking.

09:25 Yeah.

09:26 And I got my mom.

09:27 Oh, wow.

09:28 And my mom got to me.

09:29 Oh, my word.

09:30 I was so excited.

09:31 The moment I knew my mom had me, I was like, I'm fine.

09:33 Should I say--

09:34 The rest--

09:35 Should I say I'm never lucky with that?

09:36 With that name picking?

09:38 I'm never lucky with that.

09:39 I always--someone who picks me, the last time we did, they gave me--

09:44 like we were older, others were getting handbags and everything.

09:47 Do you know where they got me?

09:49 Yeah.

09:50 Okay, so you know--

09:51 No, but like--

09:52 That's what--

09:53 That's what--

09:54 Like we did something a whole different--

09:55 Like we made sure there were--we made lists.

09:59 Like you would make a list, and then you would write your name on it,

10:02 and then your name--

10:03 Yo, I've never gotten any luck with that.

10:06 I've never gotten luck.

10:07 Whoever picks you has to get the list.

10:09 I've never--

10:10 You have to get the list of what you want.

10:11 I should be wise with that, but I never get lucky with that.

10:14 And my mom was the nicest woman ever, and she was so nice,

10:17 and she was like, "My children are not going to spend so much money on me,"

10:20 and she asked for sandals.

10:23 Oh, my word.

10:24 I asked for handbags.

10:25 I asked for perfume, for shoes.

10:28 Oh, my word.

10:29 [laughter]

10:30 Just for the record, my parents--I don't want clothes, I don't want gifts.

10:34 Just buy us beer, please.

10:36 Please.

10:37 Jeez.

10:38 I mean--

10:39 Just make sure at that family event, there's so much drama going on.

10:43 Already.

10:44 So, please, just let us be drunk through it.

10:46 We don't want to see it.

10:47 That brings me to a better--that's just a good comment.

10:50 The family drama.

10:52 Especially around when we're doing the--if we're gathering,

10:55 and most of the times this is when families are going to be like,

10:58 "Okay, we will have at least one party."

11:00 I've seen that that has become a thing in--

11:03 I'm excited, I'm happy, and they're like, "Okay, so on 26th, maybe,"

11:08 because it's maybe a little bit after Christmas,

11:10 you have extended family, the uncles, the aunties.

11:15 And as I bring--let's start off with something easy.

11:18 How are we feeling about the awkward hugs, if you've ever gotten one?

11:23 You know the three-peck thing?

11:25 You don't know where to go.

11:28 Have you had that?

11:29 Have you had that moment?

11:30 Yes, yes, yes.

11:31 I'm going to tell you.

11:33 I like the way she goes like, "Let me tell you."

11:35 Okay, we hear you, girl.

11:37 We hear you.

11:38 Yo, you guys, those family gatherings?

11:41 Here's the thing.

11:42 I'm an extrovert, really, I know, but when I get to family, I'm an introvert

11:47 because, yo, you don't want to be the center of the party.

11:51 Isn't that the sad part that you're with your people,

11:55 but you can't actually express yourself?

11:57 You can't actually be as loud as you want to be.

11:59 Let me tell you.

12:01 There's so much drama going on, so you want to be--

12:04 "Let me take the front row and be the head for the drama."

12:08 How about you?

12:10 Okay, I will go back to how I deal with the attention,

12:16 but it then got me thinking, if she's an introvert because she's a family,

12:22 but she's an extrovert when we're together,

12:25 it now wants me to ask family, "Who then becomes your family?"

12:29 That also means if you're to face a problem, the first person you think about,

12:32 "Hey, Mr. 263, I'm a Franka right now. What's happening?"

12:37 So, who then is family? Okay, we'll get to that.

12:41 I'm just saying what I'll do.

12:43 Like I said, I've got one ruse in these family gatherings.

12:47 I'm that cousin. You know that cousin who's quiet,

12:50 who drinks his alcohol and just disappears?

12:53 - But he was there. - He was there.

12:55 He greets everybody. I've got no beef with nobody,

12:58 but give me my six-pack, on the fourth beer, I'm out.

13:03 Have you met everyone by then? Have you said hi to everyone by then?

13:06 I make sure I'm the one who's showing somebody where to sit.

13:09 You know, like, "Hi, welcome. Please park there."

13:12 So that by the time that everyone's like, "Oh, no, we actually saw him."

13:17 He was actually there, and he actually made everything orderly.

13:20 What's your excuse for leaving early?

13:22 - I'm drunk. - Oh, God.

13:24 - I'm going. - Okay.

13:26 - Do you tell people or do you just bounce? - I just bounce.

13:28 - Oh, my God. Sir. - Shady like that.

13:32 Sir.

13:34 Why would you want to stay? Do you know the aunties?

13:37 Like, okay, where I come from, aunties are the ones who actually start the drama.

13:41 Let's go. Aunties will be like, "When will you get married?"

13:44 - "Auntie, sorry, not anytime soon." - Oh, they've asked you that?

13:48 - "Not anytime soon." - The thing comes to, okay, so,

13:54 - "Are you married?" - Oh.

13:56 "We want grandchildren."

13:59 And then the comparisons. How would you feel about comparisons?

14:02 - Okay, luckily, I'm the eldest. - Yeah.

14:06 - And the cousins, so they have to be compared to me. - They're comparing themselves to you.

14:11 - Lucky you. I'm the last one. - Are you serious?

14:15 I'm the last one. The most unpredictable one. Quiet, unruly.

14:19 You know, at Lox, there's this one time we go to a rural home.

14:22 Everyone's son is cleanly shaved, looking nice, in, you know, nice clothes.

14:28 I am, sweatpants, Nikes, big T-shirt, my locks are all over the place.

14:32 I've got a bantana, not on my head, on my hand.

14:35 I'm looking rowdy as anybody else.

14:38 That's who I am, yo. If I can't show this to my family, I don't think it actually is my family.

14:43 Exactly. But who would you consider your family in that case, in this scenario?

14:47 'Cause if these are the same people who have trained us to be quiet, to keep to ourselves,

14:55 to just be as, how would I call it, to be as regal as possible.

15:00 Sit up straight, look into the eyes of your elders.

15:04 If they say this, do this. You don't have, as if you don't have a mind of your own to just rowdy, just go.

15:12 So who do you call your family in this case?

15:16 Growing up, of course, I was blinkered to my mum, my dad, my sister, my brother being my family.

15:22 And of course, we have to extend the path. But you know, over the years, you travel to different countries,

15:28 you meet people who pull the world's greatest favour on you,

15:32 that they automatically transcend from friend to bro or from friend to sis.

15:38 So family to me, I've redefined family to who is there for you when you need people around you.

15:46 Who will accept you exactly the way you are.

15:48 Who will come to you and say, OK, I understand you cheated on your boyfriend and you were wrong,

15:54 but you can actually walk out of this exactly. You're still a person.

15:58 For me, that is family.

16:00 How about you?

16:01 For me, through years, I've learned that family are the people you choose.

16:08 Yeah.

16:09 So this...

16:10 I like that.

16:11 I know.

16:12 We finally have you guys agree on something.

16:15 Once you guys keep following this, you will find out that this is true on both ends, different ends.

16:21 Yo, so like through years, as I was saying, family, the one who are supposed to be called family,

16:29 well, it's blood.

16:31 But those people, they might throw some shade, they might be shady and everything,

16:37 but the one you chose for yourself, who knows you really, like my best friends, those are my family.

16:44 I was telling you, my dad and my mom and my brother are my family, but there's so many things they don't know about me.

16:51 Mom, you hear that?

16:52 Are we shading? Are you shading?

16:54 No, we're not shading.

16:55 What's happening?

16:56 It's like that. I spent like 24/7 with my friends.

17:04 For example, when I was in high school, they knew me in the holidays.

17:09 You see, I went to college, they knew me when I came to visit them.

17:15 So the one who's been with you the whole time.

17:19 That is secret, whatever, those are my family.

17:22 Okay.

17:23 Yes.

17:24 Thank you so much. That was our show for today. Tune in on next Friday. Thank you.

17:28 I mean, let us know how you're celebrating your Christmas down below in our comments.

17:33 And name your favorite movie.

17:35 I mean, it's Christmas.

17:37 It's Christmas at the end of the day.

17:39 Get it. Get it. Please. If you don't have money to buy us clothes or gifts, make sure that party has beer.

17:49 Whatever it is, just get us beer.

17:51 Well, I will rock my new clothes and stuff.

17:53 And we'll talk with more. Thank you.

17:56 [Music]

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