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Belajar Etika Sama Dhita Wirapradja, Aci Resti Emosi Ke Eca!
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00:00 What if the guy is dating a middle-aged man?
00:03 What do you mean?
00:04 For example, if I'm dating a middle-aged man who's 40 years old...
00:10 You're 22 years old now.
00:12 What if your boyfriend is 42 years old?
00:14 What will happen?
00:16 He'll be 10 years older.
00:17 The good guy with a middle-aged man.
00:19 Are we going to cut his head off?
00:23 Yes.
00:24 [music]
00:48 [speaking in Indonesian]
00:54 [music]
00:57 [speaking in Indonesian]
01:00 I didn't know that someone on YouTube compiled the names for him.
01:05 That's right.
01:06 What are they?
01:07 At that time, it was Bibit Sawi Putih.
01:09 Grimpick Bunda Korla.
01:11 What's this? Sedotan...
01:13 Ultramil.
01:14 Gocil Rimek Pangi.
01:16 This is the bald guy.
01:20 The bald guy with the legs.
01:22 Oh, the bald guy with the legs.
01:24 Today, we're here again at Tok Pot Academy.
01:26 This is where we develop ourselves to be better.
01:31 Okay.
01:32 We've invited experts in their respective fields.
01:35 Today, we're going to talk about soft skills, ethics, etc.
01:42 This will help us as humans to support our work.
01:47 Whether it's public speaking or presentation.
01:50 These are experts who have 10 years of experience in human resources and public relations.
01:59 They also obtained international certificates in the United States, England, and Singapore.
02:03 They are also licensed trainers for ethics and soft skills in Asia.
02:10 This is learning soft skills in soft drinks.
02:13 That's different.
02:14 It's good.
02:19 She found two more people.
02:21 Eca and Eji.
02:23 Eca and Eji.
02:25 In 2016, they were in the same school.
02:28 They were talking to each other.
02:29 They were talking to each other.
02:30 My name is Eji.
02:34 Eji.
02:35 Eca.
02:36 Yes.
02:37 Yes.
02:38 That's different.
02:40 They're both different.
02:42 In 2016, they created their own school.
02:45 Now, they're the founder and principal trainer of DW Etiquette.
02:50 Let's invite them.
02:51 This is Dita Wira Praja.
02:54 Hello, Dita.
02:56 Hello, Eca.
02:57 Hello, Eca.
02:58 Give her a hand.
03:04 Okay.
03:06 You'll be late.
03:07 We're still waiting for you.
03:09 Thank you.
03:11 Dita, can you give me a hand?
03:14 Actually...
03:16 Which one do you want to sit?
03:20 Where do you want to sit?
03:21 I'm afraid of being slapped.
03:23 One, two, three.
03:26 Okay.
03:29 Sit down.
03:31 I'm afraid of being slapped.
03:34 I've never been slapped.
03:36 What did you do?
03:37 I've been hit on the back.
03:38 Don't ask me.
03:39 Dita.
03:41 We want to ask you.
03:43 Don't ask me.
03:45 I'm afraid of being slapped.
03:47 Don't ask me.
03:50 You're funny.
03:51 Are you a stand-up comedian?
03:52 Yes, I'm a stand-up comedian.
03:54 You're so stupid.
03:58 What's the difference between Etiquette and Etiquette?
04:01 So, Etiquette is a norm or a rule...
04:05 that applies to a culture, a habit.
04:08 And it's flexible.
04:10 In the sense that in this country, it can be different from other countries.
04:14 In this area, it can be different from other countries.
04:17 Whereas, Etiquette is about ourselves.
04:22 Our morality.
04:23 Which means it's really rigid.
04:25 It can't change.
04:28 For example, if we take someone's life,
04:31 everyone will know that it's wrong.
04:33 It's not right.
04:34 That's the difference between Etiquette and Etiquette.
04:37 You have a good voice.
04:39 You're like a dog.
04:40 Yes.
04:41 I'm sleepy.
04:42 Don't sleep.
04:43 Work first.
04:44 Don't sleep.
04:45 Work first.
04:46 So, Etiquette depends on the culture of the country.
04:49 Like in Japan, you have to bow.
04:52 You have to...
04:53 If you're offered a drink, you have to drink it.
04:56 Yes.
04:57 That's Etiquette.
04:58 That's Etiquette.
04:59 It depends on the culture.
05:01 It depends on the culture.
05:02 That's it.
05:03 It depends on the culture.
05:04 Wherever you go, you have to find out.
05:07 For example, if you want to go to Korea,
05:09 you have to find out if it's polite or not.
05:13 But people in other countries have to find out first.
05:16 We're guests.
05:17 Yes, but it doesn't mean you can do it.
05:20 It's up to me.
05:21 Please.
05:26 I see.
05:27 I see.
05:28 So, the point is,
05:29 the etiquette we bring everywhere,
05:31 the one that's already in us,
05:33 we have to adjust it.
05:34 For example, in China,
05:36 it's not compulsory to bow.
05:40 The older people don't bow if they don't make a mistake.
05:42 Really?
05:43 Yes, they say so.
05:44 One of them is like that.
05:46 Americans don't bow to the older people.
05:48 Yes.
05:49 They still call their father by his name.
05:50 Yes.
05:51 They call their father.
05:52 They sometimes call their father by his name.
05:53 Father.
05:54 I have a son.
05:56 Just try it.
05:57 If not, you can start to call your boyfriend's father.
05:59 Yes.
06:00 Maybe you should be slapped.
06:02 What's your father's name?
06:05 My father's name is Saptono.
06:07 Saptono, where are you?
06:09 Saptono, where are you?
06:11 It's dangerous to call him that.
06:13 Yes.
06:14 It's not polite.
06:15 In Indonesia,
06:16 but in America, it's okay.
06:19 Your father hasn't brought you to America.
06:22 I think it's better to be in Indonesia.
06:24 What do you learn in etiquette?
06:28 What do you learn?
06:30 Actually, in etiquette,
06:32 we have one basic thing.
06:34 Respect.
06:35 Respecting ourselves.
06:36 And respecting people around us.
06:39 Our surroundings.
06:40 Respect.
06:41 We learn how to be
06:43 responsible in any situation.
06:47 Wait.
06:49 What's this?
06:50 Why are there two watches?
06:52 He misheard.
06:54 He said it's not respect, but respect.
06:56 I'm sorry.
07:01 I'm sorry.
07:04 So, respect.
07:06 It's okay.
07:07 Does it affect people's personality?
07:09 Yes.
07:10 Does it affect people's personality and surroundings?
07:12 Yes, it does.
07:13 For example, we're passing by this building.
07:17 There's a person who's doing his job.
07:19 There are still many people who just pass by.
07:23 They feel like it's their duty.
07:25 But, they will feel respected
07:27 when you ask for permission or look at them.
07:30 Or apologize.
07:32 That's right.
07:33 And, often,
07:34 this is a small thing that we miss.
07:37 For example, we're in the elevator.
07:39 Nowadays, it's easy for people to get in the elevator.
07:42 What do they do?
07:43 They're busy with their work.
07:45 Suddenly, someone gets stuck in the elevator.
07:47 We don't get stuck in the elevator.
07:49 We're in a position near the button.
07:51 This is one of the social etiquette
07:54 or public etiquette that should be embedded in everyone.
07:58 Gosh.
08:00 I'm sorry.
08:05 I'm sorry.
08:06 I'm sorry.
08:07 Guys, someone got stuck.
08:08 Gosh.
08:10 Someone got stuck.
08:11 This is about getting in the elevator.
08:13 Oh, yes.
08:14 There's an etiquette when you get in the elevator.
08:16 When this is the elevator door,
08:18 you should wait beside it.
08:20 Beside the elevator door.
08:23 That's right.
08:24 Don't wait in front of the elevator door.
08:27 You can't do that.
08:28 Because, you should get in any door.
08:31 Train, train, MRT, or whatever.
08:33 You should wait beside it.
08:34 When people are outside, you can get in.
08:37 I often do that in the mall.
08:39 I'm bringing a stroller.
08:40 People are waiting in front of the door.
08:42 I'll hit them.
08:44 I swear. I'll hit them.
08:46 Yes.
08:47 Many people forget that there are people who have more rights.
08:52 In public places.
08:53 Priority.
08:55 Priority.
08:56 There are strollers, manuals, wheelchairs.
09:00 Yes.
09:01 People are still in the elevator.
09:02 They rush to get in.
09:03 The annoying thing is,
09:05 we want to go out.
09:06 But, they get in first.
09:08 So, it's hard for us to go out.
09:10 I was there once.
09:12 I wanted to go out.
09:13 But, someone rushed to get in.
09:15 So, I just did this.
09:17 I didn't get in.
09:18 I was surprised.
09:19 I was surprised.
09:20 I was trapped on the 9th floor.
09:22 I was surprised.
09:23 I was on the 28th floor.
09:24 I was surprised.
09:25 I was on the 9th floor.
09:26 I got down.
09:27 I got in.
09:28 I got in.
09:29 When I got in, there was no button.
09:31 Right, Mas?
09:34 The button was outside.
09:35 Yes.
09:36 The button was outside.
09:37 I didn't know.
09:38 But, luckily, it was down.
09:40 I was like, "Why is the button down?"
09:42 Most people get in by cheating.
09:44 There's an escalator.
09:50 Escalator.
09:51 Travelator.
09:52 All of them.
09:53 The left one is silent.
09:55 Right?
09:56 But, it's rare in Indonesia.
09:58 That's why we told you.
10:00 If it's a toilet,
10:02 I'm so angry.
10:03 Toilet seats are supposed to be straight.
10:05 If someone has a straight toilet,
10:06 he will rush to get in.
10:07 Then, he will queue in front of the door.
10:08 Right.
10:09 If I were him,
10:10 I will make him pee.
10:11 You guys are so...
10:13 I will queue in front of the door.
10:15 I will pee.
10:16 Let's talk about...
10:17 I will share it with you.
10:18 If we talk about escalator,
10:19 usually, the left one is silent.
10:22 Right.
10:23 Or, this one is moving.
10:25 But, in England,
10:27 the left one is moving.
10:29 Right.
10:30 The right one is silent.
10:31 It's equated to the position when we're driving.
10:34 It's adjusted.
10:36 The country is where we're going to drive.
10:39 It's adjusted to the position when we're standing on the escalator.
10:42 The one who's first is from which direction.
10:44 That's what we follow.
10:45 In Indonesia,
10:47 we always stand on the left side.
10:50 Because the one who's first is on the right side.
10:52 So, we don't let people rush to get in.
10:54 We even block them.
10:56 It means,
10:58 to learn this etiquette,
11:00 for example,
11:01 let's say we're not aware of things.
11:05 It doesn't mean that she's not polite.
11:07 But, because she doesn't know,
11:08 you know?
11:09 How to let her know?
11:11 Do we have to learn from her?
11:13 Do we have to be slapped first?
11:15 Slap?
11:18 Slap?
11:19 She's using violence.
11:20 Yes.
11:21 To talk directly,
11:22 for example, in a public place,
11:24 we can remind them in a polite way.
11:26 For example,
11:27 "Excuse me, I want to pass by."
11:29 "Can you move a little?"
11:31 So, people can be aware.
11:32 "Oh, I'm not supposed to stand here."
11:34 So,
11:35 it's more about how we communicate.
11:37 Like what?
11:38 If she doesn't know,
11:40 and we give her permission,
11:42 she'll be angry.
11:45 What should we do?
11:46 Like what Mr. Jigil asked,
11:49 is there a course
11:53 or learning...
11:55 What's the name?
11:56 The etiquette.
11:57 Oh, I'm sorry.
11:58 I'm sorry.
11:59 I'm sorry.
12:00 I'm sorry.
12:01 Yes, ma'am.
12:02 That's one of the reasons
12:03 I started the etiquette school
12:05 under the name "Di Dapuju Etiquette"
12:07 So, there,
12:08 we learn a lot of basic knowledge
12:11 for our social life
12:13 and professional life.
12:15 And we'll know
12:17 how to maneuver ourselves,
12:18 how to behave
12:20 in our daily life
12:22 and in a more formal way.
12:25 Like that.
12:26 Especially, we want to fight the raster code on earth,
12:28 the ladies.
12:29 No, no, no.
12:31 So, we can go back to the beginning.
12:33 That's right.
12:36 Now, we're taught in fast food
12:38 that before you leave,
12:41 you should throw it away.
12:42 Yes.
12:43 Even though the culture has been around for a long time.
12:46 And now, we're taught
12:48 that we should throw it away.
12:50 Because usually,
12:51 we just leave it after eating.
12:52 Yes, we throw it away.
12:54 And now, we put it back.
12:57 And now, people's awareness
12:59 has been improved.
13:00 So, I'm proud to see the change.
13:03 Wow.
13:04 In social life,
13:06 usually, those things
13:08 in the group
13:09 become like a...
13:10 What's the name?
13:11 It's normal.
13:12 Sometimes, if we're like that,
13:14 we're considered too rigid.
13:16 "You're not fun. You're not this."
13:18 How do you do that in social life?
13:20 First, we should move to another group.
13:22 That's it.
13:25 Actually,
13:26 people like to
13:27 say that we're rigid.
13:30 Rules, rules, rules.
13:31 But actually,
13:32 it's helping
13:34 how we behave
13:36 until our behavior
13:37 make people feel uncomfortable
13:38 but we don't realize it.
13:40 Now, if we're hanging out with friends,
13:43 of course, you can be yourself.
13:44 Yes.
13:45 It's like,
13:46 we're just normal.
13:48 But there are some norms
13:50 that we should keep.
13:51 For example,
13:52 we're eating together
13:54 with friends.
13:55 When we're eating together,
13:56 what do we do?
13:57 We laugh, right?
13:58 Yes.
13:59 We have fun.
14:00 What we like to do is
14:02 we laugh
14:03 until we become
14:05 the center of attention
14:06 of that place.
14:07 Wow.
14:08 There are many people like that.
14:10 And it's disturbing the environment.
14:11 So, we should be more like
14:13 how we notice
14:15 whether what we do
14:17 is disturbing our environment
14:18 or not.
14:19 We should be more like that.
14:20 So, it doesn't mean
14:21 when we're hanging out with friends,
14:23 we should have rules.
14:25 It's not like that.
14:26 But more like
14:28 how we can be ourselves
14:30 and not be the side
14:31 that harms our environment.
14:33 It means we should be more like that.
14:35 Yes.
14:36 Don't disturb us.
14:38 Yes.
14:39 It's disturbing to be a maid
14:40 until 12 AM.
14:42 Yes.
14:43 Yes.
14:44 Until 1 AM.
14:46 Yes, we can party.
14:48 But outside,
14:49 some people have heart disease.
14:51 Some people have toothache.
14:53 Some people have a fever.
14:54 That's right.
14:55 Some people haven't been paid yet.
14:57 Yes.
14:58 If we're at home,
14:59 we should be at the place.
15:01 So, we won't be disturbed.
15:03 What do you mean?
15:04 What?
15:05 What do you mean?
15:06 I mean, if we're at home,
15:07 if we're noisy at home,
15:08 we should be at the place.
15:10 Yes.
15:11 Party time, guys!
15:20 We should be polite to our parents.
15:22 But what if we're dating
15:24 a middle-aged man?
15:26 What do you mean?
15:27 I mean,
15:28 if I'm dating a middle-aged man
15:30 who's 40 years old,
15:32 how should I...
15:33 40 years old?
15:34 How should I...
15:35 How old?
15:36 60?
15:37 How old is the middle-aged man?
15:39 41.
15:40 No!
15:41 He's 41!
15:43 How should I
15:45 etiquette a good middle-aged man?
15:49 That's a good question.
15:51 Are you dating a middle-aged man?
15:53 No, I've never been.
15:54 That's why I asked.
15:55 If you're dating a middle-aged man,
15:57 and you're 22 years old,
15:59 and your boyfriend is 42 years old,
16:01 how should you...
16:03 I'm 10 years older.
16:04 How should you...
16:05 be nice to him?
16:07 Should we shave his head,
16:09 including his mustache?
16:11 Yes!
16:12 He's older.
16:13 Yes, he's older.
16:14 Yes, dear.
16:15 But he's older.
16:16 Yes.
16:17 Yes.
16:18 How?
16:19 That's up to you.
16:20 The point is...
16:21 Oh, can I?
16:22 We should always...
16:23 Wait.
16:24 What do you mean?
16:25 Can I hold his head?
16:26 Yes, you can!
16:27 You can hold anything.
16:30 It's fun to hold middle-aged men's head.
16:32 Wow, middle-aged men's head.
16:34 His head.
16:35 Yes.
16:36 Yes.
16:37 So,
16:38 if the question is like that,
16:40 it's back to us.
16:42 The point is,
16:43 we should give mutual respect.
16:45 No matter...
16:46 the age gap,
16:48 especially with the older men.
16:50 If we know...
16:51 the basic way to behave,
16:53 with whoever we interact with,
16:55 whether they're younger or older,
16:58 we'll get the right feeling.
17:00 That's right. Respect, dear.
17:02 If you're dating middle-aged men,
17:03 you'll meet them and say,
17:05 "Respect, dear."
17:06 Respect.
17:07 Respect.
17:08 Respect.
17:09 "Dear,
17:10 respect.
17:11 I'm single.
17:12 Respect.
17:13 Respect.
17:14 Respect.
17:15 Respect.
17:16 Yes.
17:17 So, first impression is very important, right?
17:20 Very important.
17:21 How?
17:22 First impression is very important.
17:23 Because, you know what?
17:24 When people see us,
17:26 they only need less than a minute
17:28 to assess
17:30 how this person is.
17:32 Can you guess?
17:34 When our brain first meets people,
17:37 what's the first thing that we assess?
17:39 When we see people.
17:40 Face.
17:42 Face and lipstick.
17:44 Face and lipstick.
17:46 Intonation.
17:48 Almost right.
17:49 Gesture.
17:51 Please give her a round of applause.
17:53 So, one thing that we see is the visual.
17:58 If it's the scent, ma'am.
18:00 The scent depends.
18:01 If she's bathing in rose water,
18:03 what will happen?
18:04 The scent is...
18:05 Aroma.
18:06 If you meet manager Yong Liping,
18:08 you'll be like this.
18:09 Or Bin Can.
18:10 If the scent is aroma...
18:13 I said I'll slap you.
18:17 You're here, I'll slap you.
18:20 What's the gesture, Adita?
18:22 We'll learn the gesture
18:24 that can be used anywhere.
18:27 For example, social events,
18:29 meeting new people,
18:30 or formal events.
18:32 Can we learn it?
18:34 Can we do this?
18:39 It's too much.
18:41 It's too much.
18:42 When we meet people,
18:43 sometimes they want to be close.
18:45 They want to know us.
18:47 But it can be hurtful.
18:48 "Surya, how much did the Instagram brand deal?"
18:52 "This person."
18:54 How?
18:56 What should we do?
18:57 So, the first thing is,
18:58 we're talking about respect.
19:00 Self-respect.
19:01 We have to...
19:03 show the positive impression
19:05 from our body gesture.
19:07 The first thing is,
19:08 when we stand up,
19:09 we have to be firm.
19:11 When we're firm,
19:13 it'll bring out positive aura.
19:16 The vibe will be positive.
19:17 Imagine, we come to a room,
19:19 and we walk like this.
19:21 It's different.
19:23 It's different.
19:24 You're smart.
19:27 Which room?
19:31 The vibe is different.
19:33 We're in a meeting.
19:35 There's a meeting.
19:37 This is great.
19:39 What's wrong with him?
19:41 The first thing is,
19:43 men and women have different posture.
19:46 For men,
19:47 make sure...
19:48 our legs are parallel to the shoulders.
19:52 So, you have a firm posture.
19:55 The brain will show the man's manliness.
19:59 So, have a great posture.
20:02 Open your posture.
20:03 For women,
20:05 we have to be like a flower.
20:08 We always have to be in close position for our legs.
20:12 So, our legs are not open like this.
20:14 When we stand up,
20:15 it'll have a different vibe.
20:16 For example, I stand up like this.
20:17 My hand is like this.
20:19 I'll say, "Rini, I want to teach you about etiquette."
20:22 What's the vibe?
20:23 - For the bride. - For the bride.
20:25 We want to give an open vibe.
20:28 For women,
20:30 we put our hands like this.
20:31 Down.
20:33 Straight. Very good.
20:35 For the hands,
20:36 when we talk to people,
20:37 according to the international standard of ethics,
20:40 there are two open positions.
20:42 The first one is like this.
20:44 When we talk,
20:45 "Hi, how are you?"
20:47 This will give a positive vibe.
20:50 Or, we put the other one on the side.
20:53 But, if we put it on the side,
20:55 sometimes we're confused.
20:56 What are we doing?
20:57 It's a bit awkward.
20:58 So, I prefer...
21:00 - The other one. - Put this one on the side.
21:02 I got it.
21:03 No, we're borrowing money.
21:05 We're borrowing money.
21:06 We ask, "How are you?"
21:08 It's worse if we're being bullied.
21:10 What if we're being bullied?
21:11 If we meet someone,
21:12 "Hey, you!"
21:13 "What's wrong with you?"
21:14 "You're so rude!"
21:15 "You're so rude!"
21:17 "You're so rude!"
21:18 - "You're so rude!" - "You're so rude!"
21:19 - "You're so rude!" - "You're so rude!"
21:20 - "You're so rude!" - "You're so rude!"
21:21 - "You're so rude!" - "You're so rude!"
21:22 We can use this one.
21:24 For example, we meet a new person.
21:26 We meet a groom.
21:28 We want to propose a marriage.
21:29 This gesture,
21:31 it will portray confidence.
21:33 Now, the next step is...
21:35 when we greet someone.
21:37 - Greeting. - When we shake hands.
21:39 There are many types of shaking hands.
21:41 Sometimes, let's try this,
21:43 Miss Echa.
21:44 We...
21:45 Then, the person is like this.
21:46 Not touching.
21:47 - The person doesn't feel like shaking hands. - Oh, I see.
21:49 The person is just like this.
21:50 "Hi, Adita."
21:52 The person is like, "What's wrong?"
21:54 - "Oh, Gigi." - "Gigi."
21:56 Maybe the person who's being greeted...
21:57 just finished walking.
21:59 - Maybe there are many cars. - Many cars.
22:02 "Yes, Miss. Who are you?"
22:05 We have to make sure...
22:06 our hands meet.
22:08 - Hugging. - Hugging hands.
22:10 We have to hug our hands...
22:11 - to show our warmth. - To show our warmth.
22:14 Yes. For example,
22:15 "Hello, Miss. How are you?"
22:17 - This is warm. - Yes, it's warm.
22:19 We put our body forward.
22:22 - So, we... - Not like that.
22:24 - Not like that. - Not like that.
22:26 You have to be like Mio.
22:28 Like Mio.
22:31 Like Mio.
22:33 Mio Sol.
22:34 Don't put your chest forward too much.
22:36 Like a baby.
22:38 Yes, so we have to put our chest forward.
22:42 So, it's good if we're greeting each other.
22:44 "Hello, how are you?"
22:45 This will give a warm impression.
22:47 "Hi, Adita."
22:49 For example, "Hi, Adita."
22:51 - This is... - Oh, yes.
22:52 - It's a good sign. - From our greeting,
22:54 - Adita will come in. - Yes.
22:56 - What's your character? - I've already greeted her.
22:58 - I've greeted her. - Yes, before that.
23:00 I'm so proud.
23:01 I felt the warmness from the greeting.
23:04 The hug was also good.
23:05 So, it's good.
23:07 So, we have to always...
23:10 For example, we're talking.
23:11 I'm talking to you.
23:12 My body has to go to his face.
23:16 And I'm talking to you.
23:18 I have to go there.
23:19 Sometimes, we forget the gesture.
23:21 We talk and then...
23:23 - Oh, yes. - To the side.
23:24 Like this.
23:25 This will give a warm impression.
23:28 But, in the broadcasting world,
23:29 sometimes, we have to do this.
23:31 This is a profile.
23:32 - Yes. - That's right.
23:34 - So, we have to do this. - It's adjusted.
23:36 - Like this. - Oh, like this.
23:38 You can see the difference.
23:39 - This and this. - Yes.
23:41 - It's different. - It's the price.
23:42 But, it's blocking.
23:43 What if it's blocking?
23:44 If it's blocking, we have to adjust it.
23:46 Like this.
23:47 If we do this,
23:48 - Adita is behind. - Yes.
23:49 So, what?
23:52 You can see her eyes.
23:53 I can see her eyes.
23:54 If you go anywhere, you'll be a spy.
23:56 - Like this. - Yes.
23:57 This is a tip that can be used...
24:00 - when we apply for a job. - A job.
24:02 Or we want to register for a scholarship.
24:04 Then, there's an interview.
24:06 People often fail in the interview.
24:09 So, the administration is okay.
24:11 All the paperwork is okay.
24:12 - They're smart and everything. - Okay.
24:14 But, of course, the recruiter...
24:16 or the person who tests...
24:18 they will see...
24:19 what a person's gesture is like.
24:21 These are the tips that we can use...
24:23 for you to have a great first impression.
24:26 - Yes. - But, Adita,
24:27 sometimes, when we're interviewing,
24:29 we know who the boss is.
24:31 Sometimes, we're afraid.
24:33 - We're shy. - We're shy.
24:34 So, sometimes, we tend to be shy.
24:36 - We're not polite. - That's what I want to ask.
24:38 What's the difference between being confident and arrogant?
24:41 - Yes. - Yes, that's right.
24:42 Confident and not polite.
24:43 We have to show that we're confident.
24:44 - That's right. - But, on the other hand,
24:45 we can't look arrogant.
24:46 - That's right. - That's right.
24:47 - And we have to be polite. - Yes.
24:48 That's why...
24:49 there's a term called "soften".
24:52 As we have to smile,
24:54 so, we...
24:55 even though we're doing our gestures,
24:57 we're straight.
24:59 Like we're doing a dance.
25:01 - We smile from our heart. - That's a very fat boss.
25:03 So, when we meet,
25:05 what will make a difference is...
25:07 this soften knowledge.
25:08 Smile, open gesture,
25:10 forward leaning,
25:11 intonation when talking,
25:13 eye contact,
25:15 and lastly,
25:16 we nod.
25:17 Or, if I write this, is it okay?
25:19 Yes, yes, yes.
25:21 - So, it's memorable. - Yes, yes, yes.
25:23 - So, it's memorable. - Soften.
25:24 - Yes. - Soften.
25:25 So, this is what can make a difference
25:27 how we...
25:28 don't make us arrogant.
25:30 - Yes. - Because,
25:31 we're showing that we want to believe in ourselves.
25:33 - Yes. - If we make a wrong gesture,
25:35 it will be inaccurate.
25:37 So, you will do this.
25:38 - Soften. - Soften.
25:39 Yes.
25:40 Okay. First, you have to smile.
25:43 - And the smile... - Yes, thank you.
25:45 - Thank you. - I'll bring this to the teacher's room.
25:47 - Yes. - Yes.
25:48 - Secretary first. - Yes.
25:49 - Secretary first. - Yes.
25:51 - Smile. - Smile.
25:52 - Yes. - Open gesture.
25:54 - We've learned this. - Okay.
25:56 - Forward leaning. - Forward leaning.
25:58 It means...
26:00 our body is leaning forward a little bit.
26:02 - To be interested in talking to him. - Yes, that's right.
26:04 Then, the intonation when talking is also important.
26:07 We're already good at the movement.
26:09 But, our way of talking is flat.
26:11 Or, it's a bit crooked.
26:12 - It's the same. - It will have a different impression.
26:14 Yes.
26:15 And then, this is eye contact.
26:17 - Eye contact. - Eye contact.
26:19 Eye contact is also important.
26:20 Because it means we respect our opponent.
26:23 And the last one is...
26:25 nod.
26:26 - Nod. - Nod.
26:27 So, we meet someone.
26:29 - We say, "Hi, how are you?" - Hello.
26:31 - Hello. - Hello.
26:32 - Nod eye contact. - Oh, that's it.
26:34 - Forward leaning. - Yes.
26:35 - It's too much. - Yes.
26:36 - It's too much. - It's too much.
26:38 - It's too much. - It's too much.
26:39 - It's too much. - Just nod.
26:41 Yes.
26:42 - It's important to nod. - Yes.
26:44 Never.
26:45 For example, you're sitting in a room.
26:48 And there's someone next to you.
26:50 And we don't intentionally look at each other.
26:52 So, in international etiquette,
26:54 if we're about the same distance,
26:58 there must be interaction.
27:00 But, the definition of interaction is not suddenly,
27:02 "Where's your house?"
27:04 "What are you doing here?"
27:05 - It's too far. - We shouldn't talk like that.
27:07 At least, we smile.
27:09 We nod.
27:10 So, it shows, "Hey, I know you're here."
27:13 "I respect that you're here."
27:15 So, it will bring a good vibe.
27:17 Wherever we go.
27:19 - Yes. - If we talk,
27:21 we're so nice.
27:22 - Yes. - We're so nice.
27:23 If you meet someone,
27:25 you're annoying.
27:27 - You're not fun. - Yes.
27:29 What should we do?
27:31 - What's the etiquette? - Yes.
27:32 What's your etiquette?
27:34 - If... - Don't be like that.
27:36 - Yes. - Yes.
27:38 - Yes. - You're so mean.
27:40 - If... - If someone's annoying.
27:42 - Yes. - I understand.
27:43 I'll respond politely.
27:45 But, I'll leave the scene.
27:47 So, it won't be long.
27:49 Because, to be able to
27:51 be someone
27:53 we want to portray elegance,
27:55 we have to avoid debate in public.
27:57 If we feel like, "Oh, this person is..."
27:59 - Too much. - Yes.
28:01 Too much.
28:02 We just keep quiet.
28:03 We just smile.
28:04 - Just keep quiet. - Smile.
28:05 - Then, you'll be on Instagram. - Yes.
28:07 Yes.
28:09 - That's right. - We're just being pretty.
28:11 - Pretty. - We're just being pretty.
28:13 BTW, I want to ask.
28:15 What if you laugh at Anggun?
28:17 - Laugh at Anggun? - Yes.
28:19 - If you laugh at Anggun... - It's another Sambal.
28:21 (Laughing)
28:23 It's another Sambal.
28:25 We'll laugh at him.
28:27 The important thing is,
28:29 don't let the volume disturb the people around you.
28:31 - Yes. - That's enough.
28:32 Because, everyone has different style.
28:33 And, don't be too loud.
28:35 Yesterday, I was like...
28:37 - Mr. Kemali. - Mr. Kemali.
28:39 Mr. Kemali.
28:40 If we're like this,
28:42 we're like this,
28:44 it will disturb the people around us.
28:46 So, is there no ethics?
28:48 Or what?
28:50 You didn't pass the emission test.
28:52 (Laughing)
28:54 No, ma'am.
28:55 People's personal branding is different.
28:57 That's what makes you unique.
28:59 So, we just have to adjust it.
29:01 We want to portray our personal branding.
29:03 - What is our personal branding? - Yes.
29:05 Thank you so much, Kadita.
29:07 - Thank you. - Thank you, Kadita.
29:09 Thank you, Kadita.
29:10 The culture of a nation...
29:13 can be changed by a person who has changed.
29:15 Little by little, it will become a nation's culture.
29:18 - That's it. - Wow.
29:20 We start to change...
29:22 our ethics.
29:24 - From now on. - From being yourself.
29:26 - Yes. - That's it.
29:28 - Thank you so much, Kadita. - Thank you.
29:30 - We learned a lot today. - See you again next time.
29:32 Thank you.
29:34 (Cheering)
29:36 (Music)
29:38 (Music)
29:40 (upbeat music)
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