“I’m a 35-Year-Old Virgin"

Credit: SWNS  Meet the 35-year-old virgin who has never been kissed because she picks nights in with cake over socialising.

Transcript

00:00 Being a virgin, it just makes me feel in other people's shadows.

00:03 I never thought I would like to jump into bed with you, or you.

00:07 I never thought that.

00:08 My name's Anya.

00:18 I'm quite a lonely person. I'm almost 36 and I've never had a boyfriend.

00:24 I've never been with anybody. I've got no experience with men.

00:27 I've been single my whole life.

00:29 I'm a virgin.

00:31 Being a virgin, it just makes me feel in other people's shadows.

00:37 Most of my friends, yeah, we were really pally when we were young.

00:40 But when they got married and had kids, I sort of felt like I was left behind.

00:43 I had depression from the age of 16 to 21.

00:46 I didn't think I would have a physical relationship because I didn't really see men in that sort of way.

00:50 Like, I'm a bit asexual or whatever.

00:52 I've always felt like I can't trust men. I've always felt like I can't touch men.

00:56 I never thought I would like to jump into bed with you, or you.

00:59 I never thought that.

01:00 When people hear I'm still a virgin, they sort of ghost me.

01:08 They say things like, "Oh, but somebody your age should have had a reasonable number of partners by now."

01:14 Or they say, "Oh, but you're so pretty. You should attract somebody. You have a nice figure and things."

01:18 Because I didn't really go out very much, I'm quite reclusive.

01:21 I'm one of these people, rather than going to the pub or club or bar when I was young,

01:25 I'd stay at home and I would eat a cake or something.

01:27 I'd like to eventually find my soulmate and companion.

01:37 That's what I'm really looking for.

01:39 It is love, though, and affection I want, but not sleeping with a man.

01:42 My dream date scenario would be somebody who had a bit of cash.

01:45 Someone who's quite attractive. I'd like to be a stunner.

01:48 Someone who is very down-to-earth.

01:51 Someone who's probably got a car driving me around and all that.

01:54 Someone who likes me for me or accepts me for me.

01:58 When you're single and you're a virgin and you haven't got much of a social life,

02:08 and you're socially anxious, you start feeling like you're an outcast,

02:12 like you don't really fit in with the human race.

02:14 If someone else was in my situation, I would probably tell them,

02:17 "Don't ever care what people think of you. Just always have confidence,

02:21 have an important self or sense of self.

02:24 Go out a bit more, socialise a bit more.

02:26 Surround yourself with friends and family who love you.

02:29 Do what makes you happy, basically."

02:31 [Music]