Don’t you wish you could flip a switch and stop loving someone? Unfortunately, it’s not that easy. But stick around and I’ll tell you what you need to do right now to get over him and get on with your life.

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Let’s get into it. First, it doesn’t matter if you were in a relationship with this guy, only knew him as a friend, or barely knew him at all, if you love someone and they don’t love you back, it hurts. It can feel like your heart is being ripped out of your chest. You wish there was something you could do to make them change their mind, but at the end of the day, it’s often impossible. And that’s going to be our first step

Accept it

You need to accept that whatever you had, or might have had, or never got a chance to have, is over. You must kill that little voice in your head that says “maybe, some day, if things are different” or “maybe he’ll come to his senses and come running back to me”.

I’m not saying that there’s no chance that someday, you two could be together. The truth is, I don’t know your situation. Maybe you two are soulmates and he’ll realize that five years down the road.

But what I’m saying is: if you want to move on, to stop loving this guy and start living for the future instead of the past, then you need to accept that it’s over, once and for all. Because it doesn’t matter if you hold out hope or not, that won’t affect the outcome one way or another. So try your best to make your peace and let him go.

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Once you’ve done that, you’ll be ready to begin the process in earnest. Which brings us to step two….

Get some distance

Unfortunately, you can’t just wish these feelings away. It takes time and distance to truly get over another person.

This means that you need to get him out of your life. Stop talking to him, sleeping with him, and, whatever you do, don’t try to be friends with him.

There are situations where this kind of complete separation is impossible. Maybe you have mutual friends, work together, or are forced to spend time with one another for whatever reason. If you’re in this situation then just focus on limiting your time together as much as you can.