How To Set And Maintain Personal Boundaries

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Personal boundaries are the limits that we set for ourselves with other people.
They define what kinds of behaviors and interactions we find acceptable or not.
Maintaining proper boundaries involves developing a healthy sense of self-value and self-worth.
But Why Is It So Hard To Maintain Our Boundaries
- Knowing your boundaries is only the first step.
- Following through with them is a much more complicated process
- If you haven't been taught boundaries as a child, then you may struggle to maintain them as an adult.
- We can also find it hard to stick to our boundaries for fear of jeopardizing our relationships.
Given all the above, you can use the following steps to help maintain your boundaries.
Step 1. Identify The Boundaries You Have
- The first step is to identify what boundaries you have.
- Take time to scrutinize your past experiences for situations where you felt discomfort, frustration, or anger towards an individual.
- These are the circumstances where you tested your boundaries, either successfully or not.
- Remember, your boundaries will evolve and change over time as your experiences grow and develop.
- So don't be afraid to adjust them for new experiences, ensuring that you remain true to yourself and the person you want to be.
Step 2. Be Assertive
- For your boundaries to be effective, you need to follow-through.
- Don't be afraid to tell someone when they crossed one. Be assertive.
- If you're not ordinarily assertive, start with something small.
- For example, if a waitress brought you the wrong order, tell her, and ask her to deliver what you ordered.
- When you behave this way, while still being kind and courteous, it displays confidence and high self-esteem.
- These are rare traits not often seen in individuals and are valuable as a result.
Step 3. Say No
- While it may seem daunting, it's perfectly acceptable for you to say 'No.'
- You can say no without providing any further information or excuses.
- One of the most empowering things you can do is to say no to people and not worry about it.
- Once you start saying no, you'll begin to see such a big difference in your life, especially with how much more people respect you.
Step 4. Practice
- Being assertive and affirming your boundaries with others takes time and practice.
- It is only by telling someone that they have crossed your boundaries that you can set better ones for yourself.
Step 5. Don't Be Afraid to Ignore
- Providing you have voiced your limits and courteously asserted yourself.
- Then if someone continues to disrespect you, it is acceptable for you to ignore them from that point onwards.
- This behavior protects your self-esteem.
Step 6. Focus on Your Feelings
- How you feel about something is a reliable indicator of what you want, what makes you happy, and how you see yourself.
- Tune into these feelings when setting your boundaries.
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