Selena Gomez Says Fan Relationships Can Be 'Really Heavy' Gomez would like to have more direct communication with her fans, but she feels it can be overwhelming and has recently decided to take a step back. Selena Gomez, to Apple Music Selena Gomez, to Apple Music Gomez shared some of the key traits she looks for in a romantic partner, saying she wants to date someone who doesn't try to hide their true intentions. She recently revealed that she wants a boyfriend who is "genuine."