00:00It's very hard to walk into a movie, like Jack Loudon did, to play a douchebag.
00:08It's very, very difficult to do.
00:12Do you remember when he came in, it was like this new burst of...
00:15But he came in with all of his charm and humor and complexity.
00:23He's fantastic in the movie.
00:25But it's very hard to do that.
00:27And he just came in and won us all.
00:31We all fell in love with him.
00:33But there's that great line.
00:34There's that hard truth that really hit me when I saw the movie,
00:39when you say, I think what I've always thought,
00:42that your husband is a ticking time bomb in your life.
00:46And you saying that, and the timing of it,
00:49and you kind of braving to take that step,
00:52it's so impactful, and it's very telling,
00:56because people stay sometimes for the wrong reasons.
00:59They stay attached to a version, a past version of their partner, their husband.
01:03And they hold on to that hope that it's going to be okay.
01:07And when we have a value system,
01:08and we have to honor these values that we've created for ourselves,
01:11and this family unit we're trying to get going.
01:15But you've also chosen him for all the reasons why you would choose him.
01:20Exactly.
01:21Stable family.
01:22So it's part of it.
01:23Loving units from a broken family where that wasn't the norm.
01:27Yeah.
01:28But it's part of that whole package, I suppose.
01:31The big thing is, given the kind of woman she is,
01:36and which is also really a smart woman,
01:41and so why is she with him had to be answered.
01:45Why she was with him had to be all in him, his charm, what he said to her,
01:51what he saw in her.
01:52And he saw in her, he saw that they were high school sweethearts,
02:02and he was never going to want to go to college,
02:06and she was headed for all this stuff.
02:08And it was a reason for him loving her.
02:11And the magic of that, you're going places and you don't even know where,
02:15and I'm going to go there with you.
02:17And so that's what he was, so it's love.
02:21He fell in love with her.
02:22That's sort of at the core of the love, and it backfires a little.
