00:04The very first time I heard about the news that Denny is after almost 26, 25, 26 years.
00:13What was that about?
00:16It was more like just before pandemic, I felt that we were the usual fighting but nothing anything.
00:23And then I realized that he was working more during the pandemic, of course, because it was so strict.
00:31And Balisin was doing so well.
00:33I noticed that there was one particular staff of his that they would meet all the time.
00:39Marketing, who became, rose to the ranks, naging GM ng Egle Wellness Center.
00:46And every weekend they were in Balisin.
00:49Not necessary.
00:50And then I would go to the beach and stuff.
00:52And I said, this is too strange because of their age gap.
00:56I didn't think of anything.
00:58And when I discovered it, I said, you know, it's like right now.
01:02It might lead to something so quick.
01:05And because it wasn't anything at that time.
01:08It was platonic, quote, unquote.
01:09So they said, I'm going to keep you and her.
01:13But wait, Tessa.
01:14When Dennis said to you, I'm going to keep you two.
01:20How do you agree?
01:21I said, what?
01:23Really?
01:24Are you like Muslim or something?
01:26And to think, I was to clarify that statement.
01:31You are Muslim.
01:32How interesting.
01:33You get a second wife.
01:34But the first wife has to agree.
01:36So I said, I'm not agreeing.
01:38Because I said, who would agree, right?
01:41And I felt like, she's a friend of my kids.
01:46Their age gap was 36 years.
01:48So for me, I said, let's give our marriage a chance.
01:52You know, up to today.
01:53I don't want to talk about it.
01:54Right?
01:55It's right.
01:55Now we're going to see it.
01:57Now we're going to see it.
01:58Now we're going to see it.
01:59But everyone's like saying, let's go, Tessa.
02:02Listen, Tessa.
02:02When you tell your story,
02:03there are so many lectures that are watching.
02:05You know that, right?
02:07I don't mind sharing.
02:08Because I feel like,
02:10wow, women should stand up on their own.
02:14Wives, mothers,
02:15that you can't just because
02:18the guy is a breadwinner or something
02:21that you will tolerate.
02:22And that's the reason why we're talking about it.
02:24Because this is the first time you're appearing on Fast Talk.
02:26And people would come to you and say, thank you.
02:28And you're talking about it.
02:31And this is my life.
02:33And this is what I'm doing in my life.
02:35Correct.
02:35I think that's the intention.
02:36But let me go back to that.
02:38So, sabi mo, ayoko,
02:39kahit sa Muslims ay may consent ang first wife.
02:44Yes.
02:44And I'm not going to allow that.
02:45So, how did Dennis react?
02:47Parang sabi niya,
02:48because he insisted na platonic and its work.
02:50Platonic ang relasyon?
02:52Nila.
02:52Ah, okay.
02:53Alright.
02:54And then I said like,
02:55ano bag ibig sabihin ng platonic?
02:56Platonic means there's no emotional attachment.
03:00Eh, I could feel na meron na.
03:02You know, that kilig or whatever.
03:04So sabi ko, alam mo na,
03:05go do whatever you have to do.
03:07And then...
03:07Did you talk to the girl?
03:08You know, I never did.
03:10Why not?
03:11I felt that you could see na si Dennis ang nag...
03:18Pursue.
03:18Pursue.
03:19If I...
03:20You know what?
03:21Parang looking back,
03:22I should've just say,
03:23get out.
03:24Okay.
03:25There's also looking...
03:27No, looking back.
03:29Looking back.
03:30But she's so young.
03:31She's the friend of my daughter.
03:33Right.
03:33I get that.
03:34I'm looking back and said,
03:36I could've put my foot down.
03:38But I said,
03:39it had to be Dennis to say,
03:41I want to fix our marriage.
03:43But he didn't say that.
03:44Because there's other reasons pa,
03:45pero I said like,
03:46no more na.
03:47No, but first,
03:48you wanted to give it another try.
03:51Super.
03:52Like,
03:52nabatin na nung ako.
03:53What about now?
03:54No more na.
03:55No more na.
03:55Move on na.
03:56It's too late.
03:57Cross the bridge.
03:58Tapos na.
03:59We're annulled.
04:00We're finished.
04:00Yeah, I know.
04:01Pero looking back,
04:02I was about to ask you,
04:03ano ang nagawa mong mali?
04:05At narating niyo yung stage na yun ng iyong marriage?
04:10I...
04:10Because you told me what was...
04:12Yeah.
04:12What Dennis committed wrong.
04:14You know,
04:14there's...
04:15I'm super miss no regret.
04:17And I have no...
04:19What did I do wrong?
04:20Nothing.
04:20I'm full on,
04:23100% wife, mother.
04:25I'm like this.
04:26Take me as I am.
04:27And he did take me as I was.
04:29And that was beautiful.
04:32Because I saw that.
04:33After how many...
04:34After how many years?
04:35Huh?
04:35I'm too much.
04:37I'm too selfish daw.
04:38I'm self-centered.
04:39Parang laging ako.
04:41I said,
04:41what's wrong with that?
04:44Okay.
04:45But I mean like,
04:45you know,
04:46I...
04:46I wanted to...
04:48That's my most masakit,
04:50hinanakit na.
04:51Yung marriage namin na 26 years,
04:54hindi binigay ng proper chance.
04:57And it was treated like
04:59he was miserable the entire time.
05:01You know yung feeling?
05:02I get it kung talagang pinors ko siya,
05:05or I was really,
05:06you know,
05:07parang walang kwentang asawa.
05:10Hindi eh.
05:10But did he tell you,
05:12did he make you feel like he was starting to distance himself?
05:17I know yung...
05:17Men go through menopause in a different way, right?
05:20Andropause ang karadon.
05:21Okay. Yes.
05:22I felt that midlife crisis, everything, okay.
05:25Pero the midlife crisis maybe happened way before when Phil Webb and that gulo happened.
05:30So there was a financial shakedown.
05:32And I felt maybe it was enough for him, too much.
05:35Pero at that time,
05:36it was super plain and simple tukso.
05:40That's it.
05:41And I felt...
05:42Should I stop it?
05:44No, because I felt we were solid.
05:47Then everything became gaslighting.
05:49My fault.
05:49Everything lang lang.
05:50My fault.
05:51My fault.
05:51My fault.
05:52I said like,
05:53Ay, nako.
05:54Okay na.
05:54Kung ayaw mo.
05:55You know,
05:56What's that Tagalog thing?
05:57Kung may paraan.
05:58May something.
05:59Whatever.
05:59If there's a will, there's a way.
06:00Diba?
06:01Ayaw niya.
06:01Ayaw niya.
06:16Ayaw niya.
06:19Say rita night.
06:30Bye.
06:32Bye.
06:32Bye.
06:33Bye.
06:35Bye.
06:36Bye.
06:38Bye.
06:41Bye.
06:50You
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