00:04at the age of five he is the provider and I am the taker he holds the umbrella I walk
00:10in its shade
00:10that's the biological mandate what else can you do at the age of five but when you are 25 why
00:15must
00:15you still look at the other as your father is it not only unreal but also unloving think of it
00:22if
00:22calling someone your father implies a sense of the other holding the umbrella for you why do you
00:29still want to call the poor 50 year old as your father you still want him to provide for you
00:35you
00:35still want him to carry the umbrella for you is it not unjust is it not exploitative it behoves you
00:41to
00:42relate to the other as a person a person you share a special past with a person probably you would
00:49want
00:49to be friends with your father your mother then you can go to them and say guys come on both
00:54of you I'll
00:55drive you out for dinner there is not something easy to say to parent but you can say this to
00:59friends if you find a son or a daughter capable enough to no more need to remain a son or
01:05a daughter
01:06that's the greatest tribute to her parent wow how nicely they have raised this girl or that boy
