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00:00:16We're all here to give feedback on each other's relationships.
00:00:18There's no need to, he's not telling you to shut up.
00:00:20Look at you, how do you look at me?
00:00:22Jeez Louise.
00:00:25Shut up.
00:00:27Don't say shut up, shut up.
00:00:48You're supposed to be a partnership against the world first.
00:00:51What do you mean?
00:00:52Not against each other.
00:00:54Yeah.
00:00:54I agree with that.
00:00:55Yeah.
00:00:56Okay, so what I'm hearing is that you're not working as a partnership.
00:01:00So what we really can work on is primarily your communication.
00:01:05So that you feel supported and you feel respected.
00:01:09Yeah.
00:01:10I still love her, you know?
00:01:13I want to save it.
00:01:17I understand what Sarpur is talking about, looking for respect from his wife, because
00:01:23it's his culture.
00:01:25This is the job of the man.
00:01:27He's supposed to have the charge for everything.
00:01:30That's normal.
00:01:31I think Sarpur is just a chauvinist.
00:01:34Respect is earned, and I don't want you getting any ideas from Sarpur at all.
00:01:43All right, thank you guys for that.
00:01:45Up next, Jenny and Samit, tell it to me.
00:01:48How are you guys feeling jumping into all of this?
00:01:50Don't know where to start.
00:01:53Like, right now we're living with his parents.
00:01:56So that's causing problems.
00:02:01But, I mean, we have other issues, too.
00:02:04Like, last night we went out and Samit likes to drink, but I don't want him drinking.
00:02:11And he doesn't listen, and I feel like he's disrespecting me.
00:02:17I don't want people to say, don't do that.
00:02:22So, that's problem number two.
00:02:26Problem number three, I would say, he hides things.
00:02:30Like, when you went and invested $50,000 without telling me.
00:02:36Oh, damn.
00:02:38I did inform her?
00:02:41No, you did not.
00:02:45We're married.
00:02:46I'm in this, too.
00:02:48It's both our money.
00:02:51Jenny's making it a bigger deal than it could be.
00:02:55I got a tip from my friend that I can make some money, and if I wait for her permission,
00:03:00I could have missed out.
00:03:02I didn't lose any money, and if it's up to you, I will never be able to take any risk.
00:03:08You have to be honest.
00:03:12It's a very interesting difference there between, you know, having an issue with communication
00:03:16and choosing when and when not to communicate.
00:03:20So, Matt, why are you so afraid to tell Jenny the truth?
00:03:24It's anger issue.
00:03:26She gets mad.
00:03:27And, you know, one time, we were in the mall, like, and we were discussing about something,
00:03:32and she got so mad, she even, like, trying to punch me in the public.
00:03:36Like, that is not true.
00:03:41I pretended like it, but not in real.
00:03:47I'm actually very surprised to hear this.
00:03:50I cannot imagine Jenny trying to hit Sumed.
00:03:53Oh, my God.
00:03:54I think that Sumed has pushed her to the breaking point, and she's ready to start swinging.
00:04:00Yeah, I can picture Jenny throwing her back.
00:04:03You saw that face.
00:04:04The finger's going to turn into her.
00:04:06Don't mess with Jenny.
00:04:08You better don't get on Jenny's bad side.
00:04:09Yeah, note yourself.
00:04:11Not going to do that.
00:04:12Note.
00:04:13So, we have some issues around trust and communication and potentially anger management as well.
00:04:20There's going to be some work here to try and meet in the middle.
00:04:22Are you both willing to compromise?
00:04:25I always compromise, because I can't imagine my life without Jenny.
00:04:31Clearly, there is still a lot of love between the two of you.
00:04:34Yeah, and definitely when we get mad at each other after a fight, make a fix always.
00:04:40We love and enjoy.
00:04:41Interesting.
00:04:44Yeah, in the moment, it just happens.
00:04:47You want it, it happens.
00:04:48So, when it happens, is it good for you, Jenny?
00:04:51Yeah.
00:04:51Is the sex good?
00:04:51Of course.
00:04:53Young.
00:04:55You're young don't mean good.
00:04:58Honestly, listening to Jenny and Samantha's sex life's not really my thing.
00:05:02Like, I wish I had some earmuffs.
00:05:04Well, I can help you.
00:05:06Oh, thank you.
00:05:06Is this better?
00:05:07Ah, perfect.
00:05:10Whenever I'm 50, 60, 70, I'm definitely going to be having a ton of sex.
00:05:16You know, fun fact, my dad had me at 64.
00:05:20So, it's in my blood.
00:05:22I mean, I don't know about a lot of tape of sex.
00:05:26Okay.
00:05:27Well, yeah, there's makeup sex, there's morning sex, there's vacation sex.
00:05:33Ah, so now we have, like, castle sex?
00:05:37Like we had last night.
00:05:39Like we did last night.
00:05:41You know what?
00:05:42There is something in common.
00:05:44Passion, right?
00:05:45Like, passion, intimacy, and fighting and argument, they're both heat.
00:05:50Oh.
00:05:50So, that's why.
00:05:51Not always healthy.
00:05:52So, we'll address that later.
00:05:53Right.
00:05:54Okay.
00:05:54I agree.
00:05:56Yeah.
00:05:57And he wants it more than I do.
00:05:59I'm older than him.
00:06:02Men always ask more of the woman.
00:06:05It's not always that way, and you know it.
00:06:09Not always.
00:06:10Not always.
00:06:11Women love sex, too.
00:06:12We just love good sex.
00:06:14Amen.
00:06:15Yeah.
00:06:18Okay, so next we're going to be moving on to Rebecca and Ziad.
00:06:22So, tell us what's been going on with you guys.
00:06:26Well, so, for, we've been together for, what, almost seven years?
00:06:30So, for, like, the first three years, it was amazing.
00:06:34We were literally, like, best friends.
00:06:36But about three years ago, he just started going to the gym all the time.
00:06:41He started dressing different.
00:06:43It's just slowly eroded to where now we never wake up at the same time.
00:06:50We never go to bed at the same time.
00:06:52Half the time, he doesn't even sleep in the same bed.
00:06:55And if I ask, what are you doing?
00:06:57What's going on?
00:06:58You're like, I'm going out with my friends.
00:07:01And nothing else is any of my freaking business.
00:07:04She's working between 12 to 16 hours a day, so gotta be alone.
00:07:08And if she's not working, she's staying in the couch watching her phone or watching TV or something.
00:07:15So, when I be bored or I don't have any person to talk, I like to sit outside coffee shop
00:07:21or smoke cigarettes.
00:07:23Because it's how I grew up.
00:07:25But she'd be mad.
00:07:26Yeah, 100%.
00:07:28I hate to have to worry about where you are and what you're doing.
00:07:32You always think I'm cheating on you.
00:07:34We have application in the phone, so she always watch me where I am.
00:07:40No, don't make it sound like I'm obsessive.
00:07:43No.
00:07:43I literally...
00:07:44No, no, no, no.
00:07:44No, hang on.
00:07:45Tracker.
00:07:46I used to be a private investigator.
00:07:47You checked off the top three boxes.
00:07:50You started going to the gym.
00:07:52You changed the way you were dressing.
00:07:54You stopped letting me get anywhere near your phone.
00:07:59Sometimes I feel the same way.
00:08:01As yet, tracked, you know?
00:08:04I had some air tags on me.
00:08:06She was following, tracking me.
00:08:08I just always put air tags on my keys, and you took the keys.
00:08:12You air tagged yourself.
00:08:14You knew that she was a private investigator when he first met her, right?
00:08:18So he kind of signed up for this.
00:08:23Ladies, let's see what y'all think about this.
00:08:25We get into a fight.
00:08:26He throws a mortal fit, packs a bag, and disappears.
00:08:33He had done this several times before, and every single time, he is gone.
00:08:38For the entire day.
00:08:40I fell asleep and woke up at midnight, 2 o'clock in the morning, something like that.
00:08:45And he's 400 miles away in a hotel in Virginia.
00:08:49Holy crap.
00:08:52So what were you doing there?
00:09:01The actual problem, she was drinking a lot, as she ended up kissing another guy.
00:09:10Have you had sexual relations with other people during your separation?
00:09:19I have a bad feeling with her.
00:09:21Like, all of you guys, you heard what she said about me.
00:09:24Like, I'm cheating on her, right?
00:09:26Why are you in this relationship, then?
00:09:28I mean, I see you unhappy.
00:09:31Let Ziet and Sarper, his little boyfriend, go stand outside.
00:09:35I'm really kind of sick and tired of both of them right now.
00:09:38Ziet, don't forget what we talk.
00:09:41Sometimes the trash takes itself out.
00:09:54So what were you doing there?
00:09:57Uh-oh.
00:10:00So I get pissed.
00:10:02I'm so angry this time, so I'm just driving and watching the road.
00:10:07I'm not focused where I'm going, you know.
00:10:09I keep going, driving, all the way I find myself in Virginia.
00:10:13I just sleep in my car, and in the morning, I turn out of my car.
00:10:17He says he slept in his car.
00:10:21That's so sketchy.
00:10:23Makes sense that Rebecca doesn't trust Ziet, that he drives 400 miles.
00:10:28Oh, I'm glad you understand that, because that's how I feel when I can't get a hold of you forever.
00:10:33Maybe next time I'll hire Rebecca to find you.
00:10:36Do I drive 400 miles?
00:10:38No, I know you can't drive 400 miles, so...
00:10:41Right.
00:10:43You don't do that s***.
00:10:45The problem is you can't run forever.
00:10:47Yes.
00:10:48Like, it's going to come back.
00:10:49You can pull off and then come back.
00:10:51He wants to get away from her as much as possible, you know what I mean?
00:10:55Yes.
00:10:56Let me be out of that area of her.
00:10:58Yeah.
00:11:00That is such...
00:11:01You know what?
00:11:01If you're dating somebody, do that.
00:11:03No, it's not...
00:11:04Once you get married, you don't do that s***.
00:11:08You're a grown-ass man, and you took your grown-ass out to be angry with me.
00:11:15I would just like to say something really quick.
00:11:17I think you talk disrespectful, period.
00:11:19Okay.
00:11:20And I think if you soften your tone a little bit, you'll be heard a lot more, and you'll
00:11:24be received differently.
00:11:25I don't need to soften my tone to be heard.
00:11:29Okay, then you're going to keep getting the same result.
00:11:31You should talk.
00:11:34You have been popping off this whole time in a rude way.
00:11:37Well, I'm sorry you don't like it.
00:11:39I don't think anyone likes it.
00:11:42Okay, so it seems like this has been an ongoing problem.
00:11:45I mean, you will drive to Canada if you continue like this.
00:11:49Ew!
00:11:51Move to what?
00:11:52He said next time you're going to drive to Canada.
00:11:54What's wrong with Canada?
00:11:55No, he's like, even further away.
00:11:56No, but it's even farther away because I'm so awful.
00:11:59Come on, mom.
00:12:00You're not awful.
00:12:00I didn't say you are awful.
00:12:05I really feel bad for Rebecca because I feel like a starboard, Chekina, and Siet is trying
00:12:11to gang up against her.
00:12:12Like, that's unfair.
00:12:14I don't know.
00:12:14Rebecca doesn't seem like the easiest person to get along with.
00:12:17I kind of speak like Rebecca sometimes, so...
00:12:20You don't say.
00:12:22Yeah, I'm feeling for Ziad at this point.
00:12:27Okay, so Rebecca and Ziad, clearly there are some trust issues.
00:12:33Are you both willing to work on this?
00:12:36You're here for a reason.
00:12:37You're willing to work on it.
00:12:38You both still love each other?
00:12:40Very much.
00:12:40I still love her.
00:12:42I still want to stay in this marriage.
00:12:45And you're willing to do whatever it takes to work through this issue?
00:12:50Yeah.
00:12:51And you believe it's possible?
00:12:54Yes.
00:12:55Yeah.
00:13:00Okay, moving on to the next couple.
00:13:02Cara and Guillermo, why don't you share a little bit about what's been going on in your relationship
00:13:08recently?
00:13:10Well, we've been apart for over a year.
00:13:15What was it that caused you to separate a year ago?
00:13:20I was feeling really like everything was, like, on me.
00:13:24The logistics in the household, like, to cook meals, to take care of our, at that time, really
00:13:30small baby.
00:13:31Also while working several jobs.
00:13:33Like, I felt like I was drowning.
00:13:35And he was just, like, not helping.
00:13:37You know?
00:13:38And then it got...
00:13:39All right, listen.
00:13:40This had some bull...
00:13:42The actual problem, she likes to go out.
00:13:45She likes to drink.
00:13:47And she will do things that they will be very cheaty.
00:13:54Like, going out with friends.
00:13:56Like, doing, like, a girls' night.
00:13:58Then going to these men's houses until, like, 4 a.m.
00:14:03Please clarify that piece.
00:14:04Yeah, can you just explain what exactly you're talking about?
00:14:07I can tell you what he's talking about.
00:14:08Go on.
00:14:09So, I slept with a guy in 2011.
00:14:12We both agreed, hey, whoops, misstep.
00:14:14Let's write that back.
00:14:15We're better friends.
00:14:16It was weird.
00:14:17So, we moved on.
00:14:18From then on, we've only ever been friends.
00:14:20But at the same time, she was in that man's house when we were married.
00:14:25So, can I just clarify, you were at this man's house until 4 a.m.?
00:14:29Yeah.
00:14:30But not just the two of us.
00:14:31It was a party.
00:14:33You with her?
00:14:34Wait, no.
00:14:35But was he always invited to be there?
00:14:37Yes.
00:14:37Did he ever want to go?
00:14:38No.
00:14:39There's a friend of her.
00:14:41This friend came to me and he said that in one of those girls' nights when we were living
00:14:45together, she was drinking a lot as she and I were kissing another guy.
00:14:53That didn't happen.
00:14:55Don't.
00:14:55Come on.
00:15:21Akira, can you tell us what happened that night?
00:15:23I have nothing to hide from him.
00:15:27I went to have drinks with my friends and we all had drinks and then we came home.
00:15:33So, I don't know where this story comes from, where I was making out with a man, because
00:15:40that guy that's recounted it to him wasn't there.
00:15:42So, I don't know who he got his information from.
00:15:46That guy that he spoke to wasn't there?
00:15:48No, he wasn't there.
00:15:50Why the would I jeopardize our entire marriage?
00:15:54Why would I do that?
00:15:55Yeah, I was going to say.
00:15:56No, but why would I do that when you know all of the that I did every day to keep
00:16:01our
00:16:01lives together?
00:16:02I have no idea.
00:16:02Why would I actively go out and it up?
00:16:05I don't know.
00:16:05Why would I do that?
00:16:06I have no idea.
00:16:07I have the same question.
00:16:08I need to just use your logic.
00:16:10Like, I show up every single day in so many ways.
00:16:13Why, why then would I go and throw it all away to make out with a guy at a bar?
00:16:17Because drinking removes logic.
00:16:19That's why.
00:16:20Like, when you're drunk, you're not logical anymore.
00:16:25I've never cheated on Guillermo, but he has it in his mind that I have, even though I've
00:16:29explained the facts to him many, many times.
00:16:32And I think he's leaning on this cheating angle because I feel like maybe he's, like,
00:16:36trying to make me look bad, but he doesn't want to have to take accountability.
00:16:41Like, it's not fair.
00:16:44Okay, so these are some of the reasons why you separated, but let's talk about what were
00:16:50some of the barriers to you reconciling?
00:16:52You know, it reminded me of a time that she actually came to me.
00:16:57She was like, hey, I want to fix it.
00:16:59And that gave me so much hope.
00:17:02And I said, in order to fix these problems, you needed to stop drinking how you do it.
00:17:08Number two, you need to stop going out how you do it.
00:17:11And listen, I promise you, I will do whatever you want.
00:17:15And she said, yes, let's do it.
00:17:18But Dean, she never did that.
00:17:21He just, like, doesn't take accountability and then wants to accuse me of being flagrant
00:17:27or being out or whatever.
00:17:29And, like, he's over here sending bitches Venmo on Valentine's Day, saying, can't wait
00:17:34to see you, smiley face.
00:17:36Here's $150.
00:17:37Oh, could you say when I sent those messages?
00:17:41When I sent that?
00:17:42Valentine's Day.
00:17:43Were you together?
00:17:44This is when we were separated, but when we separated, there were not clear parameters.
00:17:49She's also been doing things.
00:17:54Okay, let's just make this really clear.
00:17:56Have you both had sexual relations with other people during your separation?
00:18:04I have.
00:18:07Oh.
00:18:09Mm-hmm.
00:18:10You have.
00:18:11Mm-hmm.
00:18:12Yes.
00:18:13You're both dead.
00:18:14This is crazy to me.
00:18:16Yeah.
00:18:16That's sad.
00:18:17I mean, how do they come back from that?
00:18:19Like, some of these problems, they're massive.
00:18:23They need more than a therapist.
00:18:25They need a magician.
00:18:29So, the question is, do you want to work through this?
00:18:33Do you still love each other?
00:18:34Even though both of you have been with other people during your separation.
00:18:39I love him.
00:18:40I love you.
00:18:41It's not a question.
00:18:42Are you in love with him?
00:18:48It's a love institution.
00:18:50Mm.
00:18:52That's a hard one.
00:18:54I don't know.
00:18:56Is that something you want to explore while you're here?
00:18:58Yeah.
00:18:59I need to know that we did everything that we could.
00:19:12Guillermo?
00:19:13Yes, ma'am?
00:19:14Do you still love Cara?
00:19:20Uh.
00:19:21That's a no.
00:19:25She's the mother of my kid.
00:19:26I will never stop feeling love for her.
00:19:31Are you in love with her?
00:19:36I have no idea.
00:19:38Are you willing to explore that while you're here?
00:19:41Yes.
00:19:41Okay.
00:19:48So, Cara and Guillermo, there is a lot of tension, there's a lot of conflict, but I also feel
00:19:53hopeful because the very fact that they have been willing and brave enough to come here
00:19:57and to show up and expose themselves, it shows that they care enough to give it a go.
00:20:03So, we have a long journey ahead of us, we have a lot of work to do, but if you
00:20:08keep showing
00:20:08up like you did today, then I think that there's a lot of hope for us all.
00:20:12So, thank you and have a good night.
00:20:16Thanks, guys.
00:20:24That was quite a session.
00:20:26Yeah.
00:20:26A lot of work to do.
00:20:28That was crazy.
00:20:42Check the door out.
00:20:44It's cold.
00:20:46That was a lot.
00:20:50I know I get mad, but a lot of my anger comes out of frustration.
00:20:56I'm frustrated with so many things.
00:20:59Because you want everything to be your way.
00:21:03No.
00:21:05How is this thing going to work?
00:21:07I don't know.
00:21:09Maybe it's not.
00:21:12We do have a big age gap, and that's what's causing the problem.
00:21:18Maybe it's like when you are in love, age is just a number.
00:21:22No, it's causing the problem.
00:21:31I don't really understand like how we've gotten to the point where you feel like you had a high
00:21:37glycosuction.
00:21:37I know you planned it.
00:21:39You hide things from me, too.
00:21:42It's bull****.
00:21:43We're not playing tit for tat.
00:21:45That's not what I'm talking about.
00:21:45Yeah, because when I tell you like it's not, I tell you like, you know I'm very open.
00:21:49Are you going to do it again?
00:21:51Huh?
00:21:52No.
00:21:52Okay, that's all I'm asking for.
00:21:54I don't know.
00:21:54Don't lie to me again.
00:22:02Well, that was interesting.
00:22:03Mm-hmm.
00:22:08How do you really feel?
00:22:15When do you have sex with another person?
00:22:18When?
00:22:20Why is this relevant?
00:22:22We are already here.
00:22:23We're trying to fix things.
00:22:25I feel like, why not to say it?
00:22:29Is that in Europe, in one of your trips, or it was in Charlottesville?
00:22:32No, no, no, no, it was on a trip, but not to Europe.
00:22:35Mm-hmm.
00:22:35It was in the United States.
00:22:37With who?
00:22:37I don't know.
00:22:38What?
00:22:38With who?
00:22:39No, I'm not.
00:22:40No.
00:22:41I just don't know that I understand why those details are really important.
00:22:48I feel like if we want to actually fix something, we need to be clear with each other.
00:22:57Yeah.
00:22:58Are you still with them?
00:22:59With him?
00:23:02Mm-mm.
00:23:03So only one time?
00:23:06Twice.
00:23:08Oh, yeah.
00:23:10Do you want to tell me about this girl?
00:23:12How many times did you have sex?
00:23:14Two times.
00:23:16Actually, same way.
00:23:18So, can you just tell me when did you have sex?
00:23:22I went to New York in the fall.
00:23:25I don't know, I feel like I had sex for the very first time after you, way longer.
00:23:32We both did the same thing.
00:23:34Mine was just slightly sooner than yours.
00:23:36Slightly, no.
00:23:37It was like five months of difference.
00:23:38I feel like you just constantly want to villainize me and make me, like, the bad person.
00:23:43You agree that, like, it took two of us to get to where we currently are?
00:23:50Sure.
00:23:51Yes.
00:23:53Definitely, I did something that upset you.
00:23:55And definitely, I did something to make you take different decisions that you had probably before.
00:24:01Yeah.
00:24:02Okay.
00:24:03And that may be the rest we should, like, talk about with a professional, like, with a therapist.
00:24:09Uh-huh.
00:24:10I agree.
00:24:14Cool.
00:24:23I'm going up with a bed.
00:24:26Okay.
00:24:27I'm going to stay here.
00:24:28I'm ready.
00:24:30I'm emotionally drained.
00:24:31Okay.
00:24:32A few drinks I need to drink.
00:24:43You think that what you...
00:24:44The real problem is that out of all of the that I put up with, your main argument is that
00:24:52I'm on my phone too much.
00:24:55Do you know how bad I wanted to just stand up and scream?
00:24:59Why you scream?
00:25:00We are here for therapy.
00:25:02You need to calm down and you understand my problem.
00:25:05You're not like my feeling.
00:25:07This is my problem with you.
00:25:09Do not come here and act like my problem is what is keeping us from being intimate or close
00:25:15or having a connection.
00:25:17The problem is you have not deserved to be trusted.
00:25:21I have no idea who you're talking to, what you're doing.
00:25:25You have made it clear that I'm not allowed to touch your phone anymore.
00:25:28You can.
00:25:29Which when we...
00:25:29I never stop you.
00:25:31No.
00:25:31At any time.
00:25:32You specifically told me no.
00:25:33In fact, I have asked you for your phone for like a setting or something.
00:25:37You literally will move it to that section, hand it to me, and then immediately take it
00:25:42back.
00:25:43Like, oh, oh.
00:25:44You get it like that, but...
00:25:46So why would I not be worried that you might be cheating on me if that is the constant attitude
00:25:51that I get from you?
00:25:51I'm not cheating on you.
00:25:58I'm not cheating on you.
00:26:07I'm not cheating on you.
00:26:21I'm not cheating on you, but if you're going to come on me, that, to be honest with you.
00:26:39I mean, I just will paint my face to the blue and we will run.
00:26:51I don't like that.
00:26:53I kind of get like a 60% of his jokes.
00:26:56They don't all land.
00:27:14Hello.
00:27:15Hi.
00:27:15Hello.
00:27:15How are you?
00:27:16Good.
00:27:17What can I get for you?
00:27:18Do you have gin tonic?
00:27:19Yeah, we do.
00:27:20Thank you so much.
00:27:21Always.
00:27:25Are you married?
00:27:27No.
00:27:27Don't.
00:27:28All right.
00:27:29Please don't.
00:27:30We have a Turkish saying, listen to whatever I say, but don't do whatever I do.
00:27:34Okay.
00:27:35Ring finger.
00:27:36Okay?
00:27:37All right.
00:27:37Keep that in mind.
00:27:39After the therapy, all couples, we agreed to meet and have some drinks.
00:27:43We need it.
00:27:44She kind of feels so overwhelmed to socialize.
00:27:49And I'm glad she feels that way.
00:27:52I mean, sometimes keeping distance is better.
00:27:56Yeah.
00:27:56Because of the bar?
00:27:57This way?
00:27:58Where's the bar?
00:27:59This way?
00:27:59Yeah.
00:28:01It feels great.
00:28:02Hey, guys.
00:28:03What's going on?
00:28:04Hi.
00:28:05You're already here.
00:28:06Good.
00:28:07Yeah.
00:28:08Good Shekinah.
00:28:10In the room.
00:28:11Sleeping.
00:28:11Sleeping?
00:28:12What?
00:28:14Therapy is strong.
00:28:15Yeah.
00:28:16Yeah.
00:28:16It was exhausting.
00:28:18I think I'll take MACDL in 15.
00:28:21Yeah.
00:28:21Absolutely.
00:28:23Do you want you on the rocks as well?
00:28:24On the rocks.
00:28:31Hey.
00:28:31What's up, guys?
00:28:33What's up?
00:28:34How are you?
00:28:34Where's Rebecca?
00:28:35She stay in the room.
00:28:37Why?
00:28:38I don't know.
00:28:39Maybe she'll follow me soon.
00:28:42I choose to go hang out with the other couples because I'm here for therapy. Plus, I want
00:28:49to have a good time. I want to make my mood is good. I want to have fun. You want
00:28:55to be sad,
00:28:55be sad.
00:28:58Exactly.
00:28:59I forgot how exhausting therapy is. Like, I did it for a while myself and my whole day
00:29:04would be wrecked because I'd just be like, talking about feelings.
00:29:10It is exhausting.
00:29:10Boys, will you join me? There's a bonfire outside, huh?
00:29:16I was waiting for you in the room. I didn't realize that you were down here.
00:29:21Oh.
00:29:21I'll join you. Bonfire time.
00:29:24Ziyech, if you can.
00:29:26If you can.
00:29:26I'll be there soon.
00:29:27You are welcomed.
00:29:28Oh, so you're going out with him?
00:29:30With all of them. And with him, yeah.
00:29:32Whatever.
00:29:33I cannot believe my husband right now. We just had a therapy session where we talked about
00:29:38him running away. And the second that things get tense with us, he runs away and starts
00:29:43drinking with the other couples and doesn't tell me.
00:29:46I don't care anymore. Let Ziyech and Sarper, his little boyfriend, go stand outside.
00:29:51I'm really kind of sick and tired of both of them right now.
00:29:54Sometimes the trash takes itself out.
00:30:01Today, I felt something. I mean, we need a union. Like, man union, you know?
00:30:07Oh, my God.
00:30:08Today, in the therapy, I saw in Shekinah's eyes, this love, unlove to me. I mean, that kind
00:30:14of things that I heard from her. And I'm in shock right now, you know?
00:30:18She was rough on you.
00:30:19She is rough on me. I always say she is my punishment in this life because I had a lot
00:30:24of, I mean, yeah, I did a lot of bad things in my past. And right now, I'm taking, I'm
00:30:30paying
00:30:31the redemption.
00:30:33The way Sarper talks about Shekinah, like, I don't know why they're together.
00:30:38Maybe he's joking. I don't know. I kind of get like a 60% of his jokes.
00:30:46I think a lot of his language barrier or something, they don't all land. But one thing's for sure,
00:30:53I wouldn't want to be Mary Shekinah.
00:30:55Hello.
00:30:56Hey, beautiful.
00:30:57Hi, hi. Oh, pink, pink.
00:30:59Pink, pink, pink.
00:31:00You love that.
00:31:01I'm like a pink inspector gadget.
00:31:05I think I want to sit in here just like I can see you guys.
00:31:07Sit where I can see your face.
00:31:09Cheers.
00:31:10Cheers, y'all.
00:31:11Cheers.
00:31:12Put a little bit of like.
00:31:13To independent women.
00:31:14Oh, hell yeah.
00:31:15Yeah.
00:31:17Hi.
00:31:18Oh, my ladies. Thank you, Jesus.
00:31:20Look at you just wafting in.
00:31:22So beautiful.
00:31:24I'm glad you guys feel that way.
00:31:26Because I feel like a mess.
00:31:28No, you look gorgeous.
00:31:31Can I ask you?
00:31:32Yeah, I was going to say, because obviously, I know a little bit about you all's relationship.
00:31:37But not like what I really want to know, which is like.
00:31:40Can you elaborate more on the position that you refer to as the dead cow?
00:31:46I've never heard of that position.
00:31:48I want to know how to execute.
00:31:49I don't know.
00:31:50Just imagine a dead cow just laying down on the bed like the guy like a tortoise like.
00:31:54Wait, but I imagine a dead cow would be on their side.
00:31:56Yeah, but this.
00:31:58I'm trying to be.
00:31:59I feel that's actually a good position.
00:32:01I know.
00:32:01I'm like, wait, what?
00:32:02So it's like when the guy chose do all the job.
00:32:05But it's like, I just feel like.
00:32:06We have an English version called a starfish.
00:32:09The starfish.
00:32:10Yeah, the starfish.
00:32:10Yep.
00:32:10You just all the.
00:32:13All the limbs out.
00:32:14A lot of these women feel adventurous in bed, but they're all still young.
00:32:22To me, there's nothing wrong with the dead cow because that seems kind of nice.
00:32:28I don't have to do any work.
00:32:33Like I'm a sexual person.
00:32:35Me too.
00:32:35And I'm very sensual too.
00:32:36Me too.
00:32:36But if I don't have that like reciprocate.
00:32:39Like you know, I feel like why am I even trying to be all of this when I'm going to
00:32:44get the same way.
00:32:45Why?
00:32:46Yeah.
00:32:47Yeah.
00:32:47So it's like, it's no motivation.
00:32:48I wonder what the guys are talking about.
00:32:50They're bitching about us.
00:32:52This.
00:32:53Better not.
00:32:54Like us.
00:32:54Like us.
00:32:55We don't even need them, do we?
00:32:57Mean is a strong word.
00:32:59Mean is a strong word.
00:33:00Mean is a strong word.
00:33:02Today, I felt like there's not a word like this.
00:33:06Feminist for women, we have to create a word.
00:33:10Meanest.
00:33:10Meanest.
00:33:11Meanest.
00:33:13Meanest.
00:33:13Ew.
00:33:14What's up?
00:33:14Hello.
00:33:15Just like this.
00:33:16Oh, hello, brother.
00:33:17What's going on?
00:33:18We're on the party.
00:33:19Oh, man.
00:33:19Yeah, thank you.
00:33:20This is a union, guys.
00:33:21Got the he-man woman haters club going on.
00:33:23Yes.
00:33:24We have to be together.
00:33:26I mean, we are in the middle of a freaking castle in United Kingdom.
00:33:30And I feel like William Wallace, you know?
00:33:32Freedom!
00:33:34I mean, I just will paint my face to the blue and we will run.
00:33:39And we will die at the end.
00:33:41Yeah.
00:33:41I mean, we're just all begging for mercy.
00:33:46I'm happy that we're all connecting and having fun,
00:33:51but I kind of wish Shekinah was here.
00:33:54Oh, my God.
00:33:54Shekinah.
00:33:55Where is Shekinah?
00:33:56I feel so bad for her day.
00:33:58She just looks so upset.
00:34:01I can't imagine what it's like to be married to Sarper.
00:34:04Yeah.
00:34:06I mean, when Sarper speaks, you can literally tell, like, he controls everything.
00:34:12He wants to control everything.
00:34:13He wants to.
00:34:14I think he wants someone that he can control, you know?
00:34:17Like, Sarper is who he is.
00:34:19Yeah.
00:34:19Yeah.
00:34:19Right?
00:34:20I'm just like...
00:34:22Well, did you not see this coming?
00:34:24She said he's mean to me.
00:34:26But I'll go the whole city is crazy.
00:34:28I think that's something that she really wants to address very strong.
00:34:31He just rubs me the wrong way.
00:34:36We are so easy to be happy, bro.
00:34:39I know.
00:34:39But the thing is, they want us to be complex.
00:34:41We can't.
00:34:42I can't.
00:34:43I know.
00:34:44We are toasters.
00:34:45I just had this conversation while we arrived.
00:34:47Bread in, bread out.
00:34:47Bread in, bread out.
00:34:49Like...
00:34:49That simple we are.
00:34:50They are like smartphones.
00:34:52And we all of us have...
00:34:53Yeah, we have the same problem.
00:34:56Like, just like 30 months ago, we...
00:34:59We just fight again.
00:35:01You and Rebecca?
00:35:02Yeah, bro.
00:35:03Brother, I just want to say something to you about...
00:35:06I mean, I am so sorry for today.
00:35:09I mean, I couldn't stop myself.
00:35:11I'm so sorry for that.
00:35:12I mean, I just want to say that.
00:35:13I appreciate you, bro.
00:35:14I appreciate that.
00:35:15And I'm sorry for what she told you.
00:35:17Like, shut up.
00:35:18I don't like it.
00:35:19To be honest with you.
00:35:20I have a bad feeling with her.
00:35:22You...
00:35:22Like, all of you guys, you heard what she said about me.
00:35:25Like, I'm cheating on her.
00:35:26Right?
00:35:30If she think I'm cheating on her, so why she stay with me?
00:35:34Let's broke up.
00:35:37I'm so close to finish my relationship, to be honest with you.
00:35:42Damn.
00:35:46Why are you in this relationship then?
00:35:48I mean, I see you unhappy.
00:35:50I'm not happy in my relationship, but I love her.
00:35:54I hope you decide the best thing for yourself.
00:35:57Yeah, but we see, bro.
00:35:59We see what's going on.
00:36:01Make it or break it, bro.
00:36:05Oh, my goodness.
00:36:07She's good.
00:36:08Oh, hello.
00:36:09I'm sorry to ruin the fun.
00:36:10Hello, hello.
00:36:11What are you guys doing?
00:36:12We keep fun in there.
00:36:13Hi.
00:36:14How's it going?
00:36:15How are you doing, guys?
00:36:16We have a good time together.
00:36:18Oh.
00:36:18Do we ruin the moment?
00:36:19Sounds so serious.
00:36:21No, we're talking about work.
00:36:21So serious.
00:36:22I know, God.
00:36:23We're talking about stuff.
00:36:24It wasn't convincing, Ziad.
00:36:26Nope.
00:36:26Just sports.
00:36:27Guys, I want to excuse myself.
00:36:32Ziad, don't forget what we talk.
00:36:34Bye.
00:36:34See you, buddy.
00:36:35Bye.
00:36:36Besties.
00:36:36You guys are like besties.
00:36:40No accounting for taste.
00:36:44What did you say?
00:36:46Nothing.
00:36:47I don't get it.
00:36:48No, I feel like you and Sarpa really have, like, bonded.
00:36:51Yeah.
00:36:51And it doesn't matter how he talks to people.
00:36:54Like your wife.
00:36:55Actually, he's already apologized about what's going on.
00:36:58Oh, he apologized to you?
00:36:59That says a lot.
00:37:00Yeah.
00:37:01He was talking to me.
00:37:02No, he need to apologize to me.
00:37:03I'm the husband.
00:37:04Oh, sh-
00:37:05Oh!
00:37:06Really?
00:37:07On that note.
00:37:08Oh, my God.
00:37:08Queen.
00:37:09On that note.
00:37:12Go in to bed, y'all.
00:37:16How are you going with her?
00:37:18I'm going to go there soon.
00:37:19But not right now?
00:37:25that.
00:37:30I want you to both give each other a compliment.
00:37:34I believe, Kara, that you are very beautiful in the inside.
00:37:38Do you feel proud when you look at her and think,
00:37:40that's the mother of my child?
00:37:51I don't know.
00:37:54I don't know.
00:38:03Bye.
00:38:04Night.
00:38:04Bye.
00:38:12Did you understand the concept of the dead cow?
00:38:16Well, of course I did.
00:38:17Do you feel like I am the dead?
00:38:19Don't I?
00:38:20Okay.
00:38:20Just sometimes I feel like I've become like a dead cow.
00:38:25I don't want to.
00:38:26Without money.
00:38:35Oh, no, I put, yeah, no, I put it over there.
00:38:41Oh, dry.
00:38:43Is it scary?
00:38:47Is it?
00:38:52It makes me sad that he feels like he can't, like, share a bed with me.
00:38:56I mean, I feel like we were making a lot of progress.
00:38:59We did a whole day of therapy, and we were able to talk about some hard stuff,
00:39:02and he slept in the bed yesterday.
00:39:04And so, him moving to the couch kind of does feel like a step back in a way.
00:39:09But, I mean, I guess the fact that he's willing to even sleep in the same room with me,
00:39:13even though it's on the couch, is better than nothing.
00:39:16I just wish that he would be, like, a little more relaxed and not so rigid.
00:39:36You literally did that to me at the party earlier.
00:39:39And did you text me?
00:39:40Did you call me?
00:39:41Did you come back up and go, hey, there's a party going on downstairs?
00:39:43No.
00:39:44Do you want to come with me?
00:39:44No.
00:39:45So, maybe don't walk out here and ask me why I left you there.
00:39:48You went down by yourself, you can come back up by yourself.
00:39:53Right.
00:39:54You're right.
00:39:56You're right.
00:39:57This is what happens when you buddy up with somebody that your wife obviously has an issue with.
00:40:03Why you make it issues? You don't have any issues.
00:40:06Because of the way he talked to me earlier.
00:40:08Now I'm supposed to just shut up and not say anything else to him because he apologized to you?
00:40:13That's bull****.
00:40:15What do you want me to do, Rebecca?
00:40:17Someone, he said something to my wife.
00:40:19He come to me, apologized, said, no, don't apologize to me.
00:40:23Wait, when she come here, what you talking about?
00:40:26Or, or maybe, okay, hey, I appreciate that.
00:40:29Okay, that's what I said.
00:40:30That's it.
00:40:31Not done talking.
00:40:31Not done talking.
00:40:33You're not hearing me and you're not letting me talk.
00:40:35Yeah.
00:40:35Which is completely normal.
00:40:36Just me, I'm talking.
00:40:38Bro.
00:40:40No.
00:40:55Should we wait for Jenny?
00:40:56Yeah.
00:40:57Okay.
00:40:59We just find out that we have a fancy banquet tonight.
00:41:02So we have to dress to impress, which is obviously my specialty.
00:41:07But I'm a little nervous because we have to do this couples therapy.
00:41:11And to be honest, I don't think that's a great idea to make therapy, unlimited wine, and sharp knives.
00:41:19Oh, it's so nice outside.
00:41:20This place is so magical, isn't it?
00:41:23Yeah.
00:41:24Jenny!
00:41:25Hi, girl.
00:41:28You look adorable.
00:41:30You do.
00:41:30I love your outfit.
00:41:32It's a little too cute.
00:41:33I think the colors are matching.
00:41:35And you're beautiful as usual.
00:41:40I haven't gone out often with Rose, so I just kind of like, want to give a great impression tonight.
00:41:45So we're going to a local salon to get glam up.
00:41:48Jenny and I invited Chikaina because she didn't come out last night.
00:41:51And she already got into multiple fights with women in here.
00:41:55I just really want to find out if she's having a really hard time in here or just being a
00:42:01brat.
00:42:02Riding backwards is such a trip.
00:42:05Right?
00:42:11Well, this is going to be fun today.
00:42:13Are you excited for tonight?
00:42:14What did you say?
00:42:15I can't say that word.
00:42:16Banquet.
00:42:17Banquet.
00:42:17I was saying buffet.
00:42:19Buffet?
00:42:20I was like, wait.
00:42:21Have you been to a banquet before, Jess?
00:42:23Oh, in India.
00:42:33Jack.
00:42:33Gosh.
00:42:34This is interesting.
00:42:36I don't understand this game.
00:42:38All right.
00:42:38Well, we each get a ball.
00:42:39And then basically, we got to try to get it through that.
00:42:42But the ball is bigger than that thing.
00:42:45No, it's not.
00:42:46Isn't it?
00:42:47Oh, okay.
00:42:49Okay.
00:42:50What the hell is croquet?
00:42:52It's kind of like the English version of mini golf.
00:42:55Oh.
00:42:56Yeah.
00:42:56You got a mallet.
00:42:57You get the ball.
00:42:58But the ball doesn't go in the hole.
00:43:02So, to be honest with you, it's not that fun.
00:43:04Why?
00:43:06Huh?
00:43:06There's no holes.
00:43:08Oh, you like the hole.
00:43:09I like your .
00:43:12Stop.
00:43:15Hi.
00:43:19Damn it.
00:43:20You're horrible.
00:43:22Okay, now my turn.
00:43:24And then swing that booty.
00:43:26Oh.
00:43:28Yeah.
00:43:31Ah.
00:43:33You missed it?
00:43:34How did you miss it?
00:43:36Think about the tied up.
00:43:37Oh.
00:43:38Oh.
00:43:39Oh.
00:43:47You're horrible.
00:43:50I won.
00:43:52I mean, how could you have won?
00:43:54We don't even know if we're playing it right.
00:43:55No, I did win.
00:43:57I was actually ahead, and I was just being nice.
00:44:00Oh.
00:44:01I always excused.
00:44:03Isn't this fun?
00:44:04Like, having one-on-one time.
00:44:06I love this.
00:44:07I love having time with you while we just...
00:44:09like, being distant, and we don't have that much time together.
00:44:13We got married, had a child.
00:44:15You have really taken this, you know, prioritize yourself thing really far,
00:44:22and I don't think you realize how much it's affected me.
00:44:26You want me not to do anything?
00:44:26No, I just want you to realize, like, there's a balance to it.
00:44:30Yes.
00:44:31Okay.
00:44:31You know.
00:44:32You used to be the one that don't like to talk about things, right?
00:44:36Yeah, but that's...
00:44:37I mean, we're here to talk.
00:44:40Like, I don't want to ignore everything and then go back home and everything's the same.
00:44:45No, me either.
00:45:02Ooh, look at that.
00:45:05This is getting much better.
00:45:06This looks amazing.
00:45:08Thank you so much.
00:45:10I get massages, like, every single week at home.
00:45:13Oh, really?
00:45:14Two-hour massages.
00:45:15Yes.
00:45:16I need to feel the...
00:45:17Oh, I don't like that.
00:45:18Oh, I love it.
00:45:19You don't like it, Jenny?
00:45:20It hurts.
00:45:21When was the last time you had your makeup done or you got glammed up, Jenny?
00:45:24I can't even remember.
00:45:27I'm just staying in my room.
00:45:29His parents are there.
00:45:30I'm hiding out.
00:45:33That's a lot.
00:45:34Because it happened to me with Ross at the beginning when I moved to US.
00:45:37I went to live with his parents at the beginning and I'm like, you gotta get me out of here.
00:45:40Yeah.
00:45:42So, I missed out on last night because I was so tired.
00:45:45Yeah.
00:45:46I didn't know you guys were separated.
00:45:48I thought it was everyone together.
00:45:50You don't know what happened with the guys because you weren't even with them.
00:45:52No, but my husband kind of like filled me in a little bit.
00:45:56What did he say?
00:45:56Sarper said they are now besties.
00:45:59That makes me worried.
00:46:01Yeah, because they're very alpha, alpha controlling.
00:46:04Oh my God, get over yourselves.
00:46:05They're giant babies.
00:46:07Did you guys get to talk after the therapy?
00:46:09We haven't said a word to each other.
00:46:11That's crazy.
00:46:14I do really like that Sarper is a little more of a strong type than Sumit and Russ, for example.
00:46:20Like, I just feel like they come across as very weak men.
00:46:25And like, I would have already left Russ if I was in Powell's situation.
00:46:29She has so much to offer and I feel like he's just like a weight pulling her down and keeping
00:46:35her from reaching her true potential.
00:46:38Yeah, I feel like I do want Russ to have a little bit like alpha male on him, but not
00:46:44in a controlled way because I'm an alpha female.
00:46:46But I do want him just to be a little bit more strong in a way, like I can actually
00:46:51be more feminine because I feel like I'm more like a man sometimes.
00:46:56And I just don't like that.
00:46:57Because you're just being put in that position.
00:46:59I want some changes because I'm tired of that.
00:47:03I'm doing this just to give it one more try, but I feel like I, I don't know, I feel
00:47:09like I'm just, I'm done trying.
00:47:11But he always threatened me.
00:47:13Like he told to my son, like, oh, mommy's breaking up the family.
00:47:16Like he told, yeah.
00:47:19I do want this to work, to be honest.
00:47:21And I'm here for a reason.
00:47:23And deep down, like I know that we have so much history together.
00:47:27But I don't know, it's, I'm tired of feeling sad, depressed, feeling that I'm letting my best years go by
00:47:37and for someone that is not even trying.
00:47:40And it's a concern that maybe there is no hope.
00:47:52Welcome to your royal banquet.
00:47:56All right.
00:47:57A crucial element to these high society events is etiquette.
00:48:03Want to watch where we're putting that forks in it?
00:48:05Sorry?
00:48:06Means he wants to kill me.
00:48:08That's what it means.
00:48:09There are a few people who are eating with their bare hands.
00:48:13Some are even eating with their mouths open.
00:48:17I can see that there is a lot of work to do.
00:48:30He told to my son, like, oh, mommy's breaking up the family.
00:48:34Like he told, yeah.
00:48:36He'll suffer from the dysfunction that you guys had.
00:48:40You will think Rosie's the sweetest guy, but you will never think that he actually like, oh, it's not going
00:48:45to be easy.
00:48:46I'm sure.
00:48:46Like he does that.
00:48:47Oh, it's the quiet, sweet ones that are the most scary when they don't get what they want.
00:48:51Yeah.
00:48:52I went through a really scary experience when I was leaving my daughter's dad.
00:48:57He also said something similar that he was going to, it was going to be hell for me.
00:49:01And he tried to take full custody of my daughter and I didn't have money to get my own attorney.
00:49:08I was representing myself.
00:49:09I don't know anything about the legal system.
00:49:12And when I got to court, he was like, just kidding.
00:49:15I'm not going to try to take our daughter from you.
00:49:18Oh, really?
00:49:19He was just trying to scare me.
00:49:20I've been divorced for like 20 something years now.
00:49:23Was it an easy breakup?
00:49:25Yeah.
00:49:26He wanted, he left.
00:49:28My daughters were still young.
00:49:30So I took him to court, made sure he paid child support, spousal support.
00:49:38And I got everything I asked for.
00:49:40Good for you.
00:49:41See, I never did any of that.
00:49:42I didn't know how to do anything.
00:49:46For some reason, when I hear Shekinah and Jenny talking about the divorce, it's a lesson for me, to be
00:49:51honest, because I don't think it's fair.
00:49:53It shows me making decisions because of my son.
00:49:57I need to think about myself, too.
00:49:59But at the same time, they are with somebody else already.
00:50:03And they are struggling right now.
00:50:05So I'm not going to give up.
00:50:07It's gorgeous.
00:50:09Yeah.
00:50:09Look at those eyes are all popping.
00:50:11Do you think Samit is going to love it?
00:50:13Yeah, of course.
00:50:14Will he notice?
00:50:15Does he notice things like this?
00:50:17Yeah.
00:50:17Yeah.
00:50:17He'll notice, especially the eyelashes.
00:50:21Okay, you're welcome.
00:50:22Yeah.
00:50:23Nice job.
00:50:31Hello.
00:50:32Hey there.
00:50:32How are you guys?
00:50:33Good.
00:50:34How are you?
00:50:35Good to see you.
00:50:36Feel free to take a seat.
00:50:39That was the start to your day so far.
00:50:40Not too bad.
00:50:41Yeah.
00:50:41Better than yesterday.
00:50:42Yeah.
00:50:43Things are still frosty between Ziad and I after our fight last night.
00:50:47But we do have our one-on-one therapy today.
00:50:50And I'm just really hoping this session can give us both some insights.
00:50:54So how did you feel about the group session yesterday?
00:50:58Um...
00:50:59It's cool.
00:51:00I like to sharing my story and people sharing story with me.
00:51:05Do you know what I mean?
00:51:06That setting is good for that.
00:51:07Yeah.
00:51:07You know, you get to kind of know that you're not alone.
00:51:10Yeah.
00:51:10For me, yesterday was draining and I was uncomfortable with the fact that he got so buddy-buddy with
00:51:19Sarper after Sarper became very disrespectful to me.
00:51:24As soon as we got back upstairs to our room, it turned into a huge argument.
00:51:29Then I felt like there was zero support from him.
00:51:31I just know Sarper like this two days, okay?
00:51:35Mm-hmm.
00:51:35He's a good guy.
00:51:36I don't get exactly what he said mean to her.
00:51:39And I don't like it when she told him a five or six times shut up.
00:51:43Mm-hmm.
00:51:44In the front.
00:51:44I said it twice.
00:51:45No, you said more of twice.
00:51:47I promise you.
00:51:47You know, you're not supposed to talk with men like that.
00:51:51I'm gonna pause.
00:51:52Shouldn't it be more important that he was disrespectful to me than whether or not I told him something?
00:51:57Why couldn't you just be on my side?
00:52:01In this moment yesterday when he start talking, I'm not thinking he talk about to her specifically,
00:52:07but I thought he be in men's side and she not like it.
00:52:12She told him shut up.
00:52:14No.
00:52:14When he talk about men's side, about like me and him with men and like...
00:52:20No.
00:52:20Mm-hmm.
00:52:20Can I finish, dog?
00:52:22Don't stop me.
00:52:23Let me finish.
00:52:24Don't be rude.
00:52:25You see, like, you wanna control me.
00:52:28No, you're just repeating the same thing over and over again.
00:52:30The point is, I thought it was disrespectful.
00:52:35And you hurt my feelings worse than he did when we got back to the room.
00:52:39You hurt my feelings.
00:52:40Even if I'm wrong about those feelings, you still hurt my feelings.
00:52:44Okay.
00:52:45And you're still arguing that you didn't say or do anything wrong.
00:52:55I honestly can't even look at him.
00:52:58Why?
00:52:59There's so much distance.
00:53:01I feel stupid dressed up.
00:53:03I feel like I don't belong here.
00:53:04Aw.
00:53:22You hurt my feelings.
00:53:23Even if I'm wrong about those feelings, you still hurt my feelings.
00:53:27And you're still arguing that you didn't say or do anything wrong.
00:53:33So I'm gonna pause you right there because you feel like he doesn't understand your experience
00:53:36and he doesn't understand that you were disrespected.
00:53:39But we may need to help him get there and understand exactly what your perspective is.
00:53:43We have to slow down in these conversations or arguments and break it up piece by piece.
00:53:48Yes, sir.
00:53:50There's an emotional disconnect because I think the language barrier is huge.
00:53:54And it's not only a language barrier, it's a cultural barrier as well, where it puts Zied in a place
00:53:58where he constantly is trying to explain himself.
00:54:01And it puts Rebecca in a position where she doesn't feel like he ever understands anything that she's saying.
00:54:07And that's gonna be a major challenge as they continue to move through this.
00:54:10So Rebecca was asking for an apology or acknowledgement that her feelings were hurt.
00:54:18I got you. And I'm sorry if I hurt your feelings. All right?
00:54:25How do you feel about the apology that he's giving you?
00:54:30I appreciate it.
00:54:34But you see how quickly an argument just almost happened just because of the misunderstanding.
00:54:40You guys are from two completely different ends of the world, right?
00:54:44Yeah.
00:54:44Exactly.
00:54:44And certain things that you may not see a problem with or you think are just how it should be
00:54:49might be difficult for her to understand.
00:54:51So both of you guys get very frustrated.
00:54:53And you guys have your own internal response that is happening.
00:54:56For you, you want to fix it right away and you start talking to him about it.
00:55:00And if he doesn't give you that validation, it does spark something in you where it just puts you in
00:55:05a defensive space
00:55:06and it doesn't feel good.
00:55:08And Rebecca, when you approach a situation aggressively or angrily, he's going to shut down.
00:55:14I could certainly learn to be less aggressive with my time.
00:55:19For me, when we get fight, she say everything what she wanted comfortable.
00:55:23For me, it's take me like 30 minutes.
00:55:25So I need to explain slowly, slowly, slowly.
00:55:27When I start explaining, she get angry, of course, because she not get my words.
00:55:32She start to stop me to say something.
00:55:36OK.
00:55:36So I get angry again.
00:55:39I've tried to be patient with the fact that he's not great with English.
00:55:43But I'm sure that I've screwed that up at times.
00:55:46So I think that if you guys can maybe pause an argument before it stops,
00:55:52it's OK for you to go to another room.
00:55:54You can sit outside on the front porch.
00:55:56You can get your emotions more clear.
00:55:59So it's easier for you to express.
00:56:01And it's going to be easier for her to listen and allow you that space because she understands what you're
00:56:06trying to do in that moment.
00:56:09Dr. Grandison's right.
00:56:11My initial instinct whenever Ziad and I are fighting is to push for a response right away.
00:56:17But Ziad responds to things way more differently than I do.
00:56:22And honestly, I tend to feel like I'm right more often than I probably really am right.
00:56:29And so I need to be a little bit more patient instead of assuming that he doesn't care.
00:56:36I'll set up a, uh, uh, what do they call it?
00:56:39One of those actions on my phone that automatically sets a 15-minute timer.
00:56:43Timer.
00:56:44Oh.
00:56:44Let's see.
00:56:46Rebecca and Ziad's relationship, they're going to need a lot of work.
00:56:50Both of them definitely have some fiery personalities.
00:56:52But the love, the care is still present.
00:56:55And hopefully they can give each other a chance to actually explain and express what they need to.
00:57:02I like the conversation with you, by the way.
00:57:04Oh yeah, good.
00:57:05And we're working progress and this is step one.
00:57:07This is definitely step one.
00:57:22I'm back.
00:57:26Wow, baby.
00:57:27You're looking pretty.
00:57:28It's okay.
00:57:29It's just different from how I do my makeup.
00:57:32Yeah, sometimes different is good.
00:57:34That's why we're here.
00:57:35To do something different.
00:57:36True.
00:57:37Good point.
00:57:38Yeah, but really I'm telling you, you're looking very pretty.
00:57:43Like for a moment I didn't recognize you.
00:57:45I don't recognize you.
00:57:56Hera, we're going to be late.
00:57:59No, I'm done.
00:58:00I'm done.
00:58:01I'm done.
00:58:02Ooh.
00:58:04Let me see.
00:58:06Yeah.
00:58:06Girl?
00:58:07Oh.
00:58:08No way.
00:58:10Ooh.
00:58:10Ah.
00:58:11It's given...
00:58:12What's it giving?
00:58:13It's given...
00:58:14Cuter.
00:58:14Wine.
00:58:15It's given wine.
00:58:15It's given red.
00:58:16Burgundy.
00:58:17Red wine.
00:58:18It's given red wine.
00:58:19The New York.
00:58:20It's given...
00:58:21It's given castle.
00:58:23It's given castle-ish.
00:58:24Like, I feel like I could blend into the floor.
00:58:26Huh.
00:58:34You don't want to see this.
00:58:36I forgot to put Jira.
00:58:38The last thing I want is to stink.
00:58:41What age is the menopause having, guys?
00:58:43I'm having lashes at the end, maybe.
00:58:46I need to know.
00:58:47I have to go out and get some pills or something.
00:58:50Actually, it's really cold here, but I don't even know why am I sweating so much.
00:58:53I'm very anxious for tonight.
00:58:56Personally, I'm hoping for some good food.
00:58:58But for me, I'm not, like, the person who can experience new stuff.
00:59:02With food, no.
00:59:04So I won't be eating, unless they have rice and beans and pineapple pizza.
00:59:09I'm pretty sure the British would take offense to that.
00:59:14Honestly, you're wearing a turtleneck in a while.
00:59:17I wonder if it's nice.
00:59:18They look great, too.
00:59:20Shiny.
00:59:22Okay.
00:59:23Let's go.
00:59:24Let's do this.
00:59:33Oh.
00:59:34It's here.
00:59:35Time to have some fun.
00:59:38Oh, wow.
00:59:39Look at this.
00:59:41Hello.
00:59:42Champagne.
00:59:47Wow.
00:59:48Wow.
00:59:49So we're going to be queens tonight?
00:59:53I'm excited because there might be pig with, like, the apple in the mouth and just, like,
00:59:59turkey legs.
01:00:01They might have a gesture, too.
01:00:02Someone that just tells jokes.
01:00:04Like, Harper, they do like that?
01:00:09Oh, Samantha and Jenny.
01:00:11Hi.
01:00:12Hi.
01:00:13What's going on?
01:00:14Oh, my God, you guys look so good.
01:00:16You're looking so nice, too.
01:00:18Oh, I want to try.
01:00:20Oh, it is so good.
01:00:21Oh, my God.
01:00:22Oh, yes.
01:00:23Yeah, I get it.
01:00:24There you go.
01:00:25You have to put it on right.
01:00:28Look at her sneaking in the door.
01:00:30Hi.
01:00:31You look gorgeous.
01:00:35Hello, guys.
01:00:36You look great.
01:00:37Looking good.
01:00:38Looking good.
01:00:39Hi.
01:00:40Don't knock me over.
01:00:44Shikaina and I, we are barely spoken after the group therapy.
01:00:49Obviously, we will be the hottest couple out there today.
01:00:53I'm not being humble, but it doesn't work like this because we don't look at each other.
01:00:59I mean, she needs to look at me and say, wow, he's a hot guy.
01:01:03I'm a lucky bitch.
01:01:05Ooh.
01:01:06Wow.
01:01:07This is beautiful.
01:01:09Oh, girl.
01:01:10My goodness.
01:01:12Sounds like a party.
01:01:14Oh.
01:01:16And you're all wearing crowns.
01:01:18I know, right?
01:01:19There is a tiara for you in there.
01:01:21I feel like this one's supposed to be like that, no?
01:01:26Hi, everyone.
01:01:27There we go.
01:01:28Oh, it's the damn bitch.
01:01:30Welcome to your royal banquet.
01:01:33All right.
01:01:35A crucial element to these high society events is etiquette.
01:01:40Etiquette is particularly important in British culture, but really is important in all relationships.
01:01:46How we listen to each other, how we communicate with each other.
01:01:50It's a mark of respect.
01:01:52And it is a sad truth, unfortunately, that we are often rudest to the people that we love and care
01:01:58about the most.
01:02:00What I've noticed so far about the way these couples interact is that there is a really notable lack of
01:02:07respect for the most part.
01:02:09They talk over each other.
01:02:11Some of the partners are, quite frankly, yelling and screaming at their partner, and they're doing this in front of
01:02:17other people.
01:02:18So what I'm really looking for this evening is that the couples exhibit respect for each other.
01:02:24They pay attention to etiquette, not just for their partner, but for everyone in the group.
01:02:30Because the key to a happy and thriving relationship is to understand how your partner desires to be treated.
01:02:39So the first instruction you were given was to dress your best in proper formal attire.
01:02:45So, Russ, how do you think Power looks?
01:02:48Stunning. She looks great.
01:02:50Shiny.
01:02:52She's beautiful.
01:02:54And how do you think your man looks?
01:02:56I chose his outfit.
01:03:00What are we thinking of the shoes, everyone?
01:03:02They're amazing.
01:03:04But can you notice that Power is looking at you very differently from how she was looking at you yesterday?
01:03:09Look how much she's smiling.
01:03:11Look how much she's smiling.
01:03:13Look how easy a fix that is.
01:03:15Yes, you're right.
01:03:16How does that feel for you, Russ?
01:03:18It's good.
01:03:19It is good to see her looking at me and admiring the way I'm looking.
01:03:24You are handsome.
01:03:26I'm not much of a turtleneck guy, but I'm digging it.
01:03:29There is something hot and sexy on a guy wearing a turtleneck.
01:03:34And Russ is actually looking very hot.
01:03:36Like, he's kind of turned me on.
01:03:37He looks so hot.
01:03:41Okay, so what we can really establish from this is just by putting in that little bit more effort
01:03:47into our appearance, into dressing up, how much that makes your partner feel seen, feel respected, feel that connection.
01:03:55Most importantly, feel that desire for you.
01:03:59100%.
01:04:00Okay, go on.
01:04:01He has a very unique style and he's very opinionated about it.
01:04:07What's more?
01:04:08Yes.
01:04:09But I'm grateful that he looks amazing tonight.
01:04:12Sapa, how do you think Shekinah looks this evening?
01:04:16Great, as usual.
01:04:18And how about Sapa?
01:04:21He looks great.
01:04:24This is the first jacket and probably shirt combined.
01:04:30First date.
01:04:30Combination, first date combination.
01:04:33How did it make you feel when you saw him this evening?
01:04:36I'm gonna cry.
01:04:38It makes me feel sad.
01:04:39I honestly can't even look at him.
01:04:42Why?
01:04:43Because yesterday was so hard and he hasn't spoken to me since then.
01:04:47And I just feel like there's so much distance.
01:04:51What do you think?
01:04:52I feel stupid dressed up right now.
01:04:53I feel like I don't belong here.
01:04:55Oh.
01:04:58Why is Shekinah crying?
01:05:00Already?
01:05:00Is this just for her attention?
01:05:02I just feel like everything Shekinah does is pretty cold and calculated, so.
01:05:06I don't care.
01:05:16What you said in the other room, that was harsh.
01:05:20How'd you get there?
01:05:22There's some decisions that she take in life that I definitely feel embarrassed of.
01:05:28Like what?
01:05:28You said, I will never be naked in those pictures.
01:05:32Oh.
01:05:37Oh.
01:05:47Yesterday was so hard.
01:05:49I feel stupid dressed up right now.
01:05:51I feel like I don't belong here.
01:05:53Oh.
01:05:55What do you feel would help close that distance between you?
01:06:02I don't know.
01:06:03To be honest.
01:06:07Whenever we have a big fight, Sarper gets defensive and I have to be the one to eventually coax him
01:06:12out of the corner.
01:06:13And I hate myself for doing it, but I do it anyways.
01:06:17I feel like he should be the one coming to me and apologizing, but he actually refuses to talk to
01:06:24me.
01:06:26I would like to know, what is the most meaningful compliment that Sarper has ever given you, Shekinah?
01:06:34He told me that he saw my inner child and he loved her.
01:06:40And when was that?
01:06:41It was when we first met.
01:06:43I saw a very transparent, naive person.
01:06:49And I loved it.
01:06:52Today I wanted to compliment her in the room, but I couldn't.
01:06:57I hate that side of me because vindictiveness.
01:07:02Why don't you do it right now?
01:07:05Why don't you turn to her, take each other's hands and tell her how you feel about her?
01:07:13And how do you feel when you look at her now?
01:07:20I love her.
01:07:22Say it to her.
01:07:23I love you.
01:07:25I just want us to be happy. I just want to be happy.
01:07:28Life is freaking short. I don't want to be unhappy, you know?
01:07:32That's what I want.
01:07:36I really want you to both work on just trying to stay with it
01:07:39and letting that connection develop between you.
01:07:43Can you work on that this evening?
01:07:45Mm-hmm.
01:07:47There was a real tension and energy between them.
01:07:50I could feel she was still very much holding back.
01:07:54I noticed her looking down at the floor a lot, not wanting to catch Sapa's eyes,
01:07:59let alone anyone else's eyes.
01:08:00I think she's got a lot going on within her at the moment.
01:08:03And I can see that there is a lot of work to do with this couple.
01:08:08Jenny, how do you think Sumit looks this evening?
01:08:11I mean, he looks great.
01:08:13I like to see him dress up.
01:08:15And how do you think your wife looks today, Sumit?
01:08:19Yeah, she looks good. She always looks good, like...
01:08:23But, like, this is Indian I see every day. I was expecting a little more.
01:08:31But, yeah, like, she's comfortable in that and she's always about comfort.
01:08:36Well, aren't you lucky to have a wife who always looks good?
01:08:39Yeah, I am. That's true.
01:08:42That's hard. I mean, it's hard to hear, I think, as your wife.
01:08:46But also, like, if that's his truth, like, you know, if...
01:08:49Mm-mm. Personally, if I was him, I will keep my mouth shut.
01:08:55I mean, we are in a therapy, so you don't need to lie in this situation.
01:09:00It's not like you are ugly.
01:09:03Who is him to say it with his fake, giant glasses?
01:09:07Look like the Edna Moe from The Incredibles.
01:09:10Let's be honest.
01:09:10You only need to call his bangs, because he will be perfect.
01:09:14Come on, Sumit.
01:09:18Cara and Guillermo, what is the most meaningful compliment you've given each other throughout the course of your relationship?
01:09:26Okay, and here's a thing that happens, maybe more recently, is, like, he'll give me a compliment, like today.
01:09:31He said, yeah, I think you're really smart, but I don't think you use it.
01:09:35Okay, so you start well.
01:09:38It's like he wants to be nice, but it's, like, too hard for him to be nice.
01:09:41Yeah.
01:09:41So then he has to end it with, like, a dig, and I'm like, well, that didn't feel great.
01:09:45So what if you, just right now, gave her a compliment without the dig?
01:09:52The person that I fell in love with, it has been the most beautiful person I've ever made in my
01:09:59life.
01:10:00And that is you.
01:10:04And what was it that, when you first met Guillermo, that made you fall for him?
01:10:10I'm gonna cry.
01:10:16I just felt like I had really found, like, a good person.
01:10:23So why don't you look at each other for a moment?
01:10:27Take her hand.
01:10:29And I want you to both give each other a compliment, something sincere, something that you really do mean.
01:10:41I believe, Cara, that you're a very authentic person.
01:10:46And actually friendly and beautiful in the inside.
01:10:54Do you feel proud when you look at her and think, that's the mother of my child?
01:10:58Does it make you feel proud?
01:11:06No.
01:11:11No.
01:11:13No.
01:11:14No.
01:11:17No.
01:11:29No.
01:11:31No.
01:11:32No.
01:11:33No.
01:11:39Do you feel proud when you look at her
01:11:41and think that's the mother of my child?
01:11:44No.
01:11:50Why not?
01:11:52I don't think that is something that I would like to talk about right now.
01:12:00Okay, so this is something we can dig into and explore at dinner
01:12:06because this whole evening really is about respect and etiquette
01:12:10and what these two things can do for our relationships.
01:12:15It's just unbelievable to me.
01:12:18It's one of the worst things I think you can say to a mother
01:12:21and I don't know if he's doing it because he really believes that
01:12:25or if he's trying to just hurt me because he's hurt.
01:12:28I don't know.
01:12:29Just, I don't know.
01:12:30What goes through his mind sometimes.
01:12:34So we're going to move to the next section of our evening together,
01:12:38which is the dinner.
01:12:40Yay.
01:12:40Yes.
01:12:41Let's eat.
01:12:42Starry, man.
01:12:44Off to you.
01:12:53Oh, wow.
01:12:54Oh, my God.
01:12:55Look at this.
01:13:01Wow.
01:13:02Oh, my God.
01:13:02What?
01:13:03Welcome.
01:13:07I love that.
01:13:09I feel like I've never seen that in, like, the movies.
01:13:15Oh, wow.
01:13:16We don't eat with that much fork and spoons.
01:13:19Personally, I don't like using forks.
01:13:21I just like to eat everything with a spoon.
01:13:22How do you just do?
01:13:23My hands.
01:13:25You're a caveman.
01:13:27Then we eat, too.
01:13:28You're just slurping all the time.
01:13:34I guess even with all of our problems, we still have a good match, right?
01:13:43So, as you're eating, I will keep an eye on you.
01:13:47And if I notice any egregious mishaps, I will gently let you know.
01:13:53Bon appetit.
01:14:03Oh, vegetables.
01:14:08Pork is beheaded in the castle.
01:14:13I actually took etiquette classes when I was younger.
01:14:16My mom sent me to literally learn to walk with books on my head.
01:14:21You can tell it was the 80s, but we definitely have the best etiquette manners.
01:14:28Prepare up, you guys.
01:14:30Sarp, be very careful where you point that.
01:14:34Oh!
01:14:36Oh!
01:14:38Oh, bro.
01:14:38That's not good etiquette.
01:14:41Bad etiquette.
01:14:43I want to watch where we're putting that fork, Simit.
01:14:46Sorry?
01:14:47Just watch where we're putting that fork.
01:14:49This one?
01:14:51You raised it to her face.
01:14:53Nah, you're pointing at me.
01:14:55Oh, I'm sorry.
01:14:56It means he wants to kill me.
01:14:58That's what it means.
01:15:00Can anyone tell me the correct way to hold a wine glass?
01:15:06Correct.
01:15:07Excellent wine etiquette.
01:15:08Cheers.
01:15:10So in terms of the couple's manners, we have a mixed bag.
01:15:14There are a few people who are eating with their bare hands.
01:15:19Some are even eating with their mouths open.
01:15:23But at the same time, given what happened earlier with Sarp and Shekinah and Cara and Guillermo,
01:15:30it's clear to me that the focus right now of this banquet has to become less about the formal eating
01:15:36etiquette
01:15:37and all about can the couple's exhibit respect for each other?
01:15:42Can they demonstrate care and consideration for their partners?
01:15:46I just want to remind everyone that the theme of this evening is respect and etiquette, not just dining etiquette
01:15:55rules.
01:15:59Is there anything that your partner does that feels maybe it's a very subtle thing that makes you feel very
01:16:05respected?
01:16:06It's just feeling seen.
01:16:09What makes you feel seen, Cara?
01:16:11Just the work that I do, everything that I've done as a mom.
01:16:17So acknowledging.
01:16:18Yeah.
01:16:26God, I hate that I can't jog without crying.
01:16:27Sorry.
01:16:29Um, like the stuff he just, like what he just said in the room over there.
01:16:36It's hard for me.
01:16:40He can look me square in the eye as a mother and tell me that he's not proud that I'm
01:16:47the mother of his child.
01:16:50Yeah.
01:16:51That was not nice, to be honest, to hear it.
01:16:56I mean, what you said in the other room, like, that was harsh.
01:17:02How'd you get there?
01:17:04There's some decisions that you take in life that I definitely feel embarrassed of.
01:17:11Was that when you guys were married and together?
01:17:14Yeah.
01:17:16Like what?
01:17:20Okay, let me elaborate my thing.
01:17:22Um,
01:17:24You decided to start selling pictures and videos online.
01:17:30Yeah, I mean, I thought.
01:17:33A platform where I can sell pictures of myself.
01:17:35I can take pictures at home.
01:17:36I can still take care of my son at home.
01:17:38I came to you and I said, hey, this is something that I'm interested in doing.
01:17:41I want you to please listen.
01:17:43And then after, I'm going to let you know and you can talk.
01:17:48Is that okay?
01:17:50Cool.
01:17:50Okay, can we just remember that we're here to try and practice being respectful to our partners?
01:17:56Just being aware of the language that we're using and most importantly, the tone that we're communicating our words in.
01:18:03I apologize.
01:18:05What kind of pictures are we talking about?
01:18:12Implied nudity.
01:18:16Wait a minute, wait a minute, wait a minute, hold on.
01:18:19I remember two years ago, in the first conversation that she had with me, she said very clear, hey, I
01:18:27will be literally posting the same pictures that I post on my social media, in bikini, you know, being sexy.
01:18:33You said, I will never be naked.
01:18:35And it was like, hey, listen, I don't, I don't, I don't like this.
01:18:40Yeah.
01:18:41I mean, he had his reservations, but I think ultimately we were like, okay, cool.
01:18:44Yeah, that's fine.
01:18:44So that's what I did.
01:18:46So what happened from that place of healthy communication to where you are now?
01:18:52So now I have this platform.
01:18:55Yeah.
01:18:57And I'm like, I really want to get back into music.
01:19:00Music is something I've done my entire life.
01:19:02How can I do that?
01:19:03Cost money.
01:19:04I'm like, okay, well, I have this income source.
01:19:05Let me use that to pay for my music.
01:19:08In the meantime, him and I are fighting a lot.
01:19:11He tells me he doesn't like my music.
01:19:12I feel completely unsupported.
01:19:14And so then we have a blow up and then he moves out.
01:19:18Now I'm thinking, uh-oh, single momhood is expensive.
01:19:24So guess what?
01:19:25My tits came out.
01:19:27Wow.
01:19:28God damn.