00:00I don't think he's doing it because he loves me, because I don't care, because he's
00:04dependent on someone, because he feels he's doing it. It's not because he's maltratating me
00:10psychologically, but because he's dependent on me all the time.
00:52My name is María Angelica Durán, I'm 38 years old, I'm abogada at the University of Rosario,
00:59and I work in the sector public.
01:02How would you describe having been in a relationship abusively?
01:06The relationship I had with my ex-pareja, Leonardo Parada Sierra, he me agrede psychologically.
01:12At first he was a person who was very friendly, who wanted to love all the time, he was
01:21in my mind, and then over the time, when I was living with him, the only thing I did was
01:30treat me bad, tell me lies, I blocked people in my social media, in my WhatsApp, I didn't
01:37let me talk to my friends, I didn't allow them to see them, I didn't let me put my red
01:45lips,
01:45I asked him to send photos of how I was dressed when I wasn't with him. He told me that
01:52if I
01:52put my red lips, that was from prostitutes. If I showed you, I had a scot and I was in
01:59the
01:59office with minifalda, so what was it, because who knows what I was going to do in the office.
02:07He always worked in the public sector, and he always worked in the public sector, and he
02:16always loved what I did, I didn't value it, I thought it was because my dad was political,
02:24so he gave me my job, or he kept me in the work, and he said that I was a
02:33brute, and that I
02:34didn't deserve it, I didn't even admire it, it was all for my dad, my dad is the
02:42ex-concejal Jorge Durán Silva. It was the hardest process for me as a woman, to lose my
02:48love, my own love, to feel in a state of submission, to feel manipulated and
02:58physically and physically, and the sexual abuse has been the most painful part of my life.
03:11After the events occurred, I was guilty. It was very frustrating for me, very
03:16painful for me, that the person that I had met in love, that I believed that I would have a
03:22stable relationship, to be a future. I thought I was the most culpable for me, that I
03:28allowed to get me together, more, that my own love, my kind of self-serving, I loved it, my
03:33auto-st assumes, my self-esteem, when I saw me, to see myself, it was very heavy for me, and
03:38I was
03:38very uncomfortable to see myself with them on my eyes, without un diente, with this issue of
03:41the abuse, I couldn't sleep, I had anxiety, I had fear, I knew that I was going to die. I
03:48tried to
03:51I felt so much alone because I thought I would never achieve that big pain that I had.
04:02I am a lawyer, I am intelligent, I am lovely, I have friends.
04:10Why did I choose a bad person? Why did I choose a bad person? Why did I choose a bad
04:16person?
04:16Because I didn't realize those warnings that God gives you to life and I didn't put limits.
04:24Because I didn't learn, because I didn't see, and I already understand that I was absolutely in love.
04:32And I love a person who is a sociopath and who is a person who, in addition to that, I
04:38have a lot of fear for other women who can cause pain.
04:47I was like, what did they say to me? They will say that what of me will be my fault,
04:53have said that why I allowed me.
04:55It was too horrific, thanks to God. So, there was a very good support.
04:59support.
05:00Digamos, hasta ahorita hay muy pocas personas que sufrieron de mi caso, también por el
05:05temor, ¿no?
05:06Porque estoy muy expuesta y muy vulnerable y pues a veces la gente no entiende por este
05:13tipo de maltratos que pasamos las mujeres y no tienen conciencia.
05:20¿Cuándo ocurrieron los hechos?
05:21A los tres días fui a citar a la psiquiatra.
05:24Ella se dio cuenta de mis golpes y me dijo que tenía que denunciar, tenía que ser fuerte.
05:28Ella fue la que me impulsó.
05:30Vale la pena porque es el primer paso para no quedarme callada, para no ser cómplice de
05:36un maltrato.
05:37Han pasado ya más de cuatro años.
05:39La verdad, no ha habido muy buena respuesta por la fiscalía.
05:44La fiscalía imputó mal los cargos y de hecho no incluyó dos agravantes como el abuso sexual
05:52en el estado de indefensión.
05:56Hoy me siento preparada fuerte emocionalmente.
06:03Lo más importante es que volví a tener amor propio, volví a ser segura de mí misma.
06:09Lo más importante para mí en este momento es que ya no tengo miedo.
06:13Ya no tengo miedo de decir que fui víctima de violencia de género y que estoy aquí para
06:19que ya las mujeres en este país no callen más en este tipo de situaciones y que puedan
06:27denunciar en estos casos.
06:29A mí nunca me enseñaron a tener una relación sana ni de cómo poner límites en las relaciones.
06:40Nunca tuve como nadie que me enseñara eso.
06:43Ahora me parece importante porque las mujeres tenemos que saber cómo poner límites en las
06:49relaciones y hacerse respetar.
06:51Y saber que primero la relación se basa en amor y en respeto.
06:56¿Qué le dirías a otras mujeres que están pasando por una relación abusiva o en un trato?
07:01Que a través de mi voz estoy representando a todas las mujeres que tienen miedo a hablar.
07:07A las mujeres que han naturalizado estos comportamientos y creen que esto hace parte de una relación.
07:13Es que no puedo hybridizar.
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