00:00We received a note from someone named Taylor who has an issue and isn't quite sure how
00:06to resolve it.
00:07Exactly.
00:08All right.
00:08So here we go.
00:09Taylor writes, I genuinely like one of my coworkers.
00:12We get along great at work, but I have zero interest in hanging out or being friends outside
00:18the office.
00:19They keep suggesting grabbing drinks or doing things on the weekend.
00:22And I can tell that they're trying to turn this into a real friendship, which makes me
00:26feel awkward for not wanting the same thing.
00:30It's not about disliking them.
00:31I really just prefer to keep my work life and my personal life separate.
00:36I'm worried that turning them down too directly could make things weird at work, but constantly
00:40dodging invitations feels dishonest.
00:43How do I turn them down without damaging our good working relationship?
00:48Oh, wow.
00:50That is so awkward.
00:52It is awkward.
00:53It's mostly awkward because that other person isn't getting the hint.
00:56Right.
00:57And listen, let it be known that Taylor loves having this good working relationship.
01:03She says at the very end, without damaging our good working relationship.
01:07She likes this person.
01:08She just doesn't want to hang out with them.
01:10And I get that.
01:11I do get that.
01:12I mean, look, you will not find coworkers closer than the four of us here on the Andy
01:17Summer Show.
01:18We know everything about each other.
01:20But this studio, our day-to-day is a sacred space.
01:26Totally.
01:27We are not hanging out together every day outside of here.
01:31And that's fine with me.
01:32And what I like about that too is when we do get together outside, it's very special.
01:38It really is.
01:38It really is special whether we're on a trip together or we go to an event together or
01:43a luncheon or whatever it might be.
01:44Yeah.
01:44It really is a special moment for us where we show up for each other.
01:47That's so cool.
01:48So maybe you can use us as an example and be like, listen, I just want it to be special
01:52like the Andy Summer Show.
01:53Yeah.
01:53There it is.
01:54Done, Taylor.
01:55But also, it's something to keep in mind.
01:57And I don't want to say you can white lie your way out of this because that's never a
02:01good lesson to be learned.
02:03But I do think there's a way to say, even though I'm so much of a people pleaser, I
02:08know I personally would be like, yep, we'll be best friends.
02:10Come on over.
02:11You're coming to dinner tonight.
02:13But I would just say, listen, I keep my circle really tight outside of work.
02:18And I'm so happy that you are in my circle at work.
02:22But outside work, I'm a recluse.
02:24I stay inside.
02:25Yeah.
02:25I keep it tight.
02:26Love ya.
02:27But let's keep it in the workplace.
02:29And that might hurt feelings, but I think it makes for a good excuse, so to speak.
02:36In my Venn diagram of social circles, work and personal life do not intersect.
02:42Maybe that's it right there, Andy.
02:44Maybe that's just what, seriously, what you say is like, hey, I like to keep a separation
02:49of work and life, right?
02:51And I love you at work, and that's the way I like to keep things.
02:55I don't want work coming home with me.
02:57I agree.
02:57I'm the same way.
02:58I am a recluse when I leave here.
03:00Like, I don't, I keep it really tight.
03:03Right.
03:03Just because I don't need to, to everyone to know what I'm doing.
03:06Right.
03:07But here, I mean, I'll tell you anything.
03:09We don't know, though.
03:10We, I mean, Taylor might be one of those people that isn't super quiet at home.
03:15And maybe she is, or he, I guess we don't even know if Taylor's a girl, but maybe Taylor
03:19is going out and like doing things and posting all over social media.
03:23And the coworker sees that and kind of wants in on the action.
03:26You know, listen, if you've been in a situation like this, maybe you can help Taylor out.
03:31And if you haven't, but you just have some good advice or something is coming to mind
03:35right now, I know that Taylor could use your help.
03:38Right.
03:38Or another small piece of advice, Taylor, go have a kid.
03:42Best way to get out of anything.
03:43For sure.
03:44Isn't it?
03:44Like, oh, I just got the kid back.
03:46Maybe, oh, germs, you know, anything can work for you.
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