00:04Congratulations, Nicole, because you graduated. Wow! Summa Cum Laude.
00:10I was from San Francisco State University. How proud were you?
00:16So proud. I always tell people that she's my pride and joy.
00:24A lot of things may have not been perfect in my life, but she's the most perfect thing.
00:31That's been close to perfect that was given to me by God.
00:35How do you respond to that?
00:37I'm not perfect, but I guess I'm so close to it.
00:40According to mommy, right?
00:42But whenever she expresses pride in me, my face is full.
00:50I feel like I'm doing right.
00:53And you are doing a lot of things right.
00:58During your graduation, your mom was there, your dad was there, Norman. How was that?
01:03It felt different. But at the same time, it was invigorating.
01:11Because the family was like, and not just that.
01:15Because there were additions to our family.
01:18So my mom and my titas, they were there at my graduation.
01:23My dad and my stepmom.
01:25I feel like, I feel like they really need to diverge their paths for the family to be more whole.
01:31So, you said that you have a better understanding.
01:35Yes, ma'am.
01:36Did you explain to Nicole, nung naghiwalay kayo ni Norman?
01:39I did. As much as I can, Kuya Boy, at that time.
01:43Because she was only seven years old.
01:45At alam naman nating mga magulang, kapag hindi talaga nagkakasundo ang tatay, ang nanay,
01:51at kailangan talaga nating magpart ng ways, kahit na mahirap sa ating mga kalooban,
01:55sa damdamin, at masakit para sa pamilya natin.
01:57I think it is the responsibility of either the father or the mother to tell or break the news to
02:04their child.
02:05And that's what I did.
02:06Did you understand na unawaan mo nung nalaman mo at ipinaliwanag sa'yo na nagkahiwalay ang mom at dad?
02:13Honestly po, nung bata ako, hindi ko po talaga siya naintindihan.
02:17Akala ko, kailangan na may taong ibiblame.
02:23Pero, hindi po yun realistic.
02:28Kasi sometimes, ngayon na mas matanda ako.
02:31People are just different.
02:33And sometimes, life takes you to different paths.
02:36And that's okay.
02:37If anything, sometimes it makes it better.
02:39So, ngayon, na mas matanda na ako.
02:42Mas may pag-unawa na ako.
02:45Kasi may mga sacrifices po silang ginawa.
02:48Even just to stay together for as long as they did.
02:51Lalo na para sa akin.
02:52So, I'm so thankful for both of them.
02:55Pero, this understanding is now happening in hindsight.
02:59Diba?
02:59Now that you're 24, you have a better understanding.
03:02Now at 24, you realize na magkaiba, may mga problema, etc.
03:07Pero, nung ikaibata, paano ka naapektuhan?
03:10Were you asking the difficult questions?
03:12I was asking if it was me.
03:14Kung ako yung may kasalanan.
03:17Oh.
03:18Kasi, yung problem po noon is, nasa Pilipinas kami, may dad naman na sa US.
03:26So, dahil ba nandito ako at malayo tayo, hindi pwede maging buo yung pamilya natin.
03:35I've always had doubts.
03:38And I thought,
03:41Well, hindi pwede si mommy magkamali.
03:43Si daddy hindi pwede magkamali.
03:46Pero ako, siguro, ay noon nung bata pa ako, na I saw myself as human.
03:53So, kung silang dalawa, both of my idols, my heroes, hindi pwede magkamali.
03:58Siguro sa akin yung mali.
03:59Oh.
04:01Okay.
04:02And then, of course, you realized na hindi pala gano'n.
04:04Hindi pala gano'n.
04:05Did you know this, Cheryl?
04:08Were you aware?
04:09Actually, this is a revealing, a revelation.
04:12It's a revealing moment for me.
04:15And actually, I understand her better for that.
04:18Ang akala niya sa ang may kasalanan.
04:19Yes.
04:20At nakakalungkot, nakakasama ng loob na gano'n pala yung mga nararamdaman ng mga anak natin.
04:27Hindi naman natin alam.
04:29They are just there in the cross-airs ng pagkalimbawa at nagkahiwalay ang magulang.
04:36Diba?
04:36Kahit na nagmamahalan yung magulang natin,
04:38pero talagang hindi na sila magkasundo,
04:41it doesn't mean that it's a failure on the children's part or on the child's part.
04:46Unexpressed yung iba.
04:48Yes.
04:48Hindi na-articulate, hindi na ipapaliwanag.
04:51Yes.
04:52Ika nga ng isang kaibigan, they just ride the tide.
04:55Yes.
04:55Kasi maraming mga bagay talaga ang hindi naiintindihan.
05:16Yes.
05:19Yes.
05:34Yes.
05:35Yes.
05:38As you can see, you are good.
05:39Yes.
05:39Yes.
05:39Yes.
05:41My God.
05:42Yes.
05:42Yes.
05:42Yes.
05:43Yes.
05:46You
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