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In this powerful talk, Sadhguru explains why learning to be alone is essential if we want our relationships to be rich and meaningful. True togetherness becomes beautiful only when we are comfortable within ourselves.

This inspiring speech explores self-growth, emotional independence, inner peace, and the importance of self-awareness. If you want deeper relationships and a stronger connection with yourself, this message will transform your perspective.

Watch till the end to understand how being alone can empower your life and improve your relationships.

🙏 Speaker: Sadhguru

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00:00He said, it's better to walk alone than to walk with a fool.
00:07If you want, consciously you can evolve in this evening.
00:11There is no limit as to how a human being can become.
00:17This is something that every human being must do.
00:21Then coming together will be hugely rewarding.
00:34When Gautama, the Buddha was asked, is it better to walk alone or in company, he said, it's
00:49better to walk alone than to walk with a fool.
00:58Well, that's him, not me.
01:02He was quite sure that only a fool will walk with you .
01:08So he said, it's better to walk alone than to walk with a fool.
01:15Certain lore in this country says, when you want to do a short and quick journey, walk
01:26alone.
01:29When you want to do a long journey, walk in company.
01:34But the important thing is, who is walking with you?
01:39Not always being together is a good thing.
01:43Many times being together can be a nuisance.
01:53So, first and foremost, unless you are a twin, even then, we come alone and we go alone.
02:04So, if one does not know how to be by himself or herself, then being together can be a lot
02:15of nuisance.
02:21Human beings means every other creature is what it is simply because of what it does.
02:38But a human being can simply be, which is a unique quality of the human being, that we
02:46can simply be.
02:47That we are not compulsive action, that's what it means.
02:52Our action is conscious and judicious.
02:56But generally, when people get together, generally, people are in compulsive action.
03:05It can be an association, where there could be a purposeful action.
03:11Or it can be a gang, where there can be more purposeful action.
03:16Or it can be a crowd, which can be a compulsive action.
03:23So essentially, to be human means, we have reached that point of evolution within ourselves,
03:31that if we wish, we can simply sit here, just be.
03:37We can consider as to what action to take and what not to take.
03:44This is definitely individual.
03:48When individuals come together, we say, it's we in plural, but still it is individuals who
03:58have to come together.
04:01To be an individual means you are not further divisible.
04:07That means you are just one.
04:13People find different ways to divide themselves within themselves.
04:19In India, with eighteen thousand years of cultural history, we have invented various words to divide
04:27ourselves.
04:30It's very common for people to talk in terms of Atma, Paramatma, Ankara, this one and that
04:36one.
04:37But every… every culture has this in their own way.
04:42When things are going right, when good things are being done, if you ask people, they say,
04:49yes, I did it.
04:51When things don't go right, when things go wrong, then they will try to find somebody.
04:58If they don't find anybody, he is always there .
05:10When they are very wonderful, of course, they take pride in being how wonderful they are.
05:17When they turn nasty, they say, it was my ego.
05:22Mr. Ego is always a false guy.
05:26So individual means, if I am wonderful, it's me, if I am nasty, it's me, all of you.
05:35Are you twenty-four hours wonderful?
05:38Hello?
05:41Are you twenty-four hours wonderful?
05:44No, no, sometimes wonderful, sometimes nasty, sometimes beautiful, sometimes ugly.
05:50It's okay.
05:55If we understand it is me who is capable of being absolutely wonderful and it is me who
06:02is capable of being absolutely nasty on another moment, then gradually the number of moments
06:09of nastiness will keep on receding.
06:13If I see what is wonderful is me, what is nasty is…
06:20In India we have many words, it's my karma, what can I do?
06:26Now you must fix this.
06:29Being an individual is very important, that means you are not further divisible.
06:35If I am wonderful, it's me, if I am nasty, it's me.
06:38If I succeed, it's me, if I fail, it's me.
06:42You have to fix this.
06:44I am just asking you a simple question.
06:47Within this, how many people?
06:51Hello?
06:52How many people within you?
06:54One, two?
06:57Only one.
06:58If you are one, you are normal human being.
07:01If you are more than one, you are either schizophrenic or you are possessed.
07:08You either need a psychiatrist or a exorcist.
07:13But you will see whenever things don't go right, another guy will pop up from somewhere.
07:20So, becoming an individual means you killed all those pop-ups and just said, this is me.
07:30This what is me has many dimensions.
07:35If I don't see this is an individual, I cannot divide this further, then transformation will
07:42not happen.
07:44If transformation does not happen, if people come together in that state, there will be
07:52more mess than solutions.
07:58All creatures hang out together.
08:02Whether it is various wild creatures, most of them hang out together.
08:09Even monkeys who are just one step behind us, they are also in bunches.
08:14It is only human being who can sit alone and transform himself or herself, because this
08:25is the prerogative of being human that we can simply be.
08:29This is why you are called human being, you are capable of being.
08:32You are not in a compulsive state of activity.
08:36If you want, consciously you can evolve.
08:39In this evening you can evolve, if you are willing.
08:42It doesn't take a million years, because our evolution is not biological anymore, our evolution
08:49is conscious.
08:50For every other creature, it is fixed.
08:53Nature has fixed two lines within which every other creature lives and goes.
08:59But once you have come as a human being, there is only bottom line, there is no top line.
09:05There is no limit as to how a human being can become.
09:10So before we associate ourselves with people, it'll be good every day in the morning or a certain
09:18period of your life, if one withdraws to spend a little time with oneself and see how, in what
09:29ways can this be little better than the way it was yesterday, this life?
09:36How it can be a little better life than what it was yesterday?
09:40Because most people are coming together for their needs.
09:46To fulfill needs, people come together.
09:50Some people come together to fulfill a purpose or a cause.
09:56Some people come together to eat, drink and be together because they cannot be alone.
10:03This is something that every human being must do.
10:07A certain period of time, you do one thing, just twenty-four hours, take a break from everything,
10:13not today, right now you're among people.
10:15So, you take a break sometime, just twenty-four hours and don't read, don't watch television,
10:24don't use the phone.
10:26Simply sit in your room, alert, not sleeping.
10:32And if you watch the nature of your mind, you yourself will certify this is a madman.
10:42Because for most people, their mind cannot stay on any one thing, unless they're in activity,
10:49simply they cannot be here.
10:52In compulsive state of psychological activity is on.
10:56When you are like this, you cannot be.
11:01That means you cannot be a human being.
11:06Being has to happen.
11:09Only then togetherness will be very rich.
11:13If you know how to be by yourself, then coming together will be hugely rewarding and of tremendous
11:21value.
11:21That means we came together consciously.
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