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Ready to Love [ Season 11 Episode 6 Full Episode ]
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00:00Previously on Ready to Love.
00:02I am hosting a throwback, 70s Motown dance party.
00:06We never play a game!
00:09Ladies, one of you will be going home tonight.
00:13Oh!
00:14You look so pretty.
00:16It's a little distracting, actually.
00:18My connection with Devon has blossomed.
00:20I like it.
00:21Sometimes I just look at you, you know, like, she look good.
00:24Really?
00:25And that's not game, you know what that is?
00:26What?
00:28That's gospel.
00:30I believe our misalignment is Jesus.
00:33There's a stalemate when it comes to religion.
00:36We may not be on one accord with that.
00:39Donna's a no-go.
00:40If you can't take care of me as well as my daddy take care of my mom for 39 years, I don't want it.
00:46Christina, all you trying to do is get paid.
00:49The person who will be going home is...
00:54No, it took me some time to get to the place that you wanted me to be.
01:04Oh, but now I'm ready.
01:07I'm ready to love.
01:11Donna, the guys think you are intelligent, you have a great energy, but some have concerns that you're not religious.
01:32People just don't know who I am, and they're making assumptions.
01:35So, it could be my time to go home.
01:37I don't know.
01:38Christina, you have a great personality, but some have concerns about the expectations that you have for the men that you date.
01:49Donna was in the last elimination, and knowing that I have connections with at least two of the men, I don't think I'll be going anywhere.
01:59So, the fellas have decided the person who will be going home is...
02:09Christina.
02:12Christina, please say your goodbyes.
02:16I really appreciate getting to know everyone, and I honestly feel like if my expectations are too much for someone, then they're not ready to take care of a woman.
02:24It is a little bit shocking, but if I got to chase you, I don't want you.
02:30If you don't want to provide for me, God don't want you for me, because if I have to do it on my own, why do I need you?
02:35Y'all have a great night.
02:40It is unfortunate, because there was a lot of different experiences that we got to enjoy.
02:45Take care, y'all.
02:48But at the same time, I'm just really grateful that I'm not wasting your time and no one's wasting mine.
02:53All right, we are halfway through this journey, and if feelings deepen, it's time to get real.
03:00If there's anything that you haven't shared yet, whether it's your past, your fears, this is the week to lay it all out and clear those skeletons from the clouds.
03:10Ladies, the power is shifting back to you.
03:14At the end of the week, we will meet to discuss everything you found out and determine which of these guys is simply not ready to lock.
03:22I had a blast at the Motown party, and knowing that I'm still in the process, it will give me the opportunity to have more conversations with the men who are left.
03:32I appreciate every one of y'all for showing up and showing out.
03:35I'll see y'all soon.
03:36This is where you clap when I leave.
03:38That's what happens.
03:39This week, Tommy's assignment was to dig deep, so I set up a group date with myself, Donna, Ashley, Vince, Steve, and Chris to do hot yoga.
04:04Got stockings.
04:05Wait, wait, wait.
04:06Why would you call them stockings?
04:07These are compression pants.
04:09I am most looking forward to seeing Vince.
04:12I know I'm going to laugh, and I know he's going to make any activity feel like a good time.
04:17You're going to draw the first inhale through your nose as you fill up completely.
04:22Exhale it out with a sigh.
04:25Good.
04:26From there, we're going to the lumbar area.
04:28Bring the hands to the low back.
04:29I feel like I'm tearing this up.
04:31Oh, I'm sorry.
04:32I'm sorry.
04:33Yeah, then exhale, send your butt backwards.
04:35Donna and Nicole, you can tell they do this every week.
04:38It helps if you pull on a breathe out, y'all.
04:40But everyone else, we couldn't get a move down.
04:43You're going to send the feet up.
04:45Bring the hands to the low back.
04:46It's like a Diddy pose.
04:48Chris over here is shaking like a stripper.
04:52Let's take one final inhale together as we fill up.
04:56Exhale it out.
04:58Good job.
05:02All right.
05:03So, what you think?
05:05I broke a little sweat.
05:06Broke a little sweat.
05:07You know what I'm saying?
05:09Chris is not a romantic connection for me.
05:12I think the last time we had a conversation was at the mixer.
05:15So, look.
05:16How?
05:17What?
05:18Are you spilling the beans?
05:19Are you going to spill the beans?
05:21What beans do I got?
05:22He kind of overpowered the conversation, but I'm still willing to get to know him a little
05:26bit better.
05:27I grew up being extremely romantic, and when you're being overly romantic, really young,
05:32that's really off-putting than girls.
05:34I had, like, keloid skin.
05:36I had a great gap in my teeth.
05:38I had really bad self-esteem issues, so I worked on being a conversationalist to get
05:44an edge on the prettier-looking dudes until I got handsome.
05:48Now it's clicking.
05:50Chris has created speaking as a form of healing.
05:55So, this has been very interesting for me to see myself in this life.
05:58It doesn't change that overpowering a conversation can be confusing and irritating, but at least
06:05I have the why for Chris now.
06:07It's ingrained.
06:08It's ingrained.
06:09Right.
06:10All right, give me a little bit more.
06:11Okay, that's about it.
06:12That's about it.
06:13Go again.
06:14I like this.
06:15See?
06:16We're supposed to be prepping.
06:17Y'all doing good.
06:18All right.
06:19This is a good connection.
06:20Oh!
06:21Oh, I like Vince.
06:24We held hands during this date, and it might be something sparking between us.
06:29Our assignment from Tommy this week is to reveal something to the other person.
06:35Hmm.
06:36So, do you want to go first?
06:39Okay, I can go first.
06:40So, I would say so far in this experience, I have always told people that I didn't want
06:45kids, and I am not gonna cry here.
06:50I think I do want kids.
06:53I just am scared of being a bad parent or a bad mother or falling at something.
07:00I will share this with you.
07:02Okay.
07:03Right?
07:04I, of course, have two children.
07:05Yes.
07:06Fourth grade.
07:07I was driving them to school.
07:08I was like, you know how you guys don't know stuff, and you're learning stuff as you're
07:13growing?
07:14Yeah.
07:15I want to let you guys know that I've never been a parent before.
07:18Yeah.
07:19That's why I'm wrong a lot.
07:22What my daughter said.
07:23She said, so, we're like raising you too.
07:27Hmm.
07:28That's deep.
07:29And I said, yes.
07:30Yeah.
07:31You are.
07:32Yeah.
07:33I had to drop them off before I broke out into tears.
07:35And I just say all that to say, as long as you do everything that you can do, you should
07:40be able to sleep at night and be happy with whatever result you get.
07:47I knew me and Vince could have fun.
07:49But this is the first time that I'm starting to see Vince in a more, like, romantic light.
07:54I know that Ed has been my top connection this entire experience, but Vince has been
07:59moving up and up and up for me.
08:01So, I would just advise you to just be you, which is obviously wonderful, and let go.
08:08We're about to catch a vibe now.
08:13Now it's like, hey, it's the time.
08:14We got to share a little more.
08:16Yeah.
08:17We got to.
08:18So.
08:19I mean, I think we had to kind of say it's about, like, the gap that you had of being
08:22single.
08:23Seven years or something.
08:24I'm like, yo.
08:25So, like, how did that occur?
08:26Or, like, why?
08:27Or why did you feel it was necessary?
08:29End of 20s, beginning of 30s, I was in two back-to-back, really poor relationships.
08:34So, when I got out of that, I said, all right, nope.
08:37We're not doing that again.
08:38Let's get to know myself.
08:40Maybe even recreate a new version of myself.
08:42Because the last one kept up.
08:44So, that was when I started my PhD.
08:47Oh.
08:48So, that was six years ago.
08:49And I got a time where I was like, okay, I can start dating again.
08:52Start dating again, yeah.
08:53Talking with Donna, she's someone who is serious about her love life.
08:56Which makes me really focused.
08:58Like, hey, if you want her, like, you can't play games.
09:00So, I'm interested in knowing if the relationship with your mom and dad has impacted you making romantic decisions.
09:07My mom has passed.
09:09So, I think that, number one, has made a big impact.
09:13I'm like, if my mom was too alive, I would have somebody to bounce ideas off of.
09:18I missed out on that tremendously.
09:20Like, I seek out on the women now probably more than the men in my family for, like, those conversations.
09:25So, like, I think now, in my relationships, like, going forward, I'll be able to just be more willing to be more, like, wide open.
09:34He got real with me for a second.
09:36And I really appreciated that.
09:37So, I'm leaving this date wanting to spend a little bit more time with Steven.
09:42I think that's probably the deepest conversation we've had.
09:45So, I'm glad to, like, kind of be in that space with you.
09:47It was very good.
09:48Now I know Donna.
09:49I know Donna a lot better than I knew before.
09:52So, how'd you like everything?
09:54It was hot.
09:55It was very hot.
09:56It felt just like me.
09:57Ashley is super fine.
09:59We talked a few times over phone calls, a lot of texts.
10:02So, being able to have one-on-one time with her was really cool.
10:05How's everything been going for you this week?
10:07I'm hanging in there, but it's definitely becoming a little challenging.
10:11I actually was really struggling.
10:13The party?
10:14Yeah, I was like, I'm not having a good time.
10:17It's been really heavy on me that, like, what if I don't find my person here?
10:21You know, I went through a situation, um, probably about four or five months ago where I actually fell in love with somebody really, really fast.
10:28Mm-hmm.
10:29And they just ghosted me.
10:31It was like...
10:32But you felt like that was love at first sight.
10:34Oh, yeah.
10:35And when that happened, it was just like, damn.
10:37When Chris told me he fell in love with that woman, I definitely listened, but I cannot stand a man with a bruised ego.
10:44At the end of the day, this whole thing, you're forced to have to communicate and have these relationships with people that are not interested in you, right?
10:52Mm-hmm.
10:53And then the whole perspective is, was you should be trying to deal with people that you typically don't deal with.
10:58So...
10:59Yes.
11:00It's like, I don't know what to do with my hands.
11:01I can see why, and maybe there's a wall up, but if you can be vulnerable and do all those things with that woman outside of this, just give us the same grace.
11:10I feel like I only have a certain amount of time.
11:13Why would I waste time with individuals that I'm not interested in?
11:18I can't deal with that.
11:28You look nice.
11:31I invited Bello out to tour the Detroit River with me on this tiki boat.
11:39I have always been like, wow, he's super attractive.
11:42I like this outfit.
11:44So what I hope to establish by the end of this date is whether we're going to be a romantic connection or if he's just better off in the friend zone.
11:53Maybe I should get like a bartender name or something.
11:56Luscious Lauren.
11:57Luscious?
11:58Luscious Lauren.
11:59Ooh, I was checking her out.
12:01Lauren, her hair is on point, her outfit.
12:05I like your nails.
12:07That's nice.
12:08Lauren is somebody that I have interest in because I like her energy.
12:12She's down to earth.
12:13So I'm excited to uncover what we got going on.
12:25Look at the Detroit skyline.
12:27Yeah, that is beautiful.
12:29We should definitely take a photo.
12:31Absolutely.
12:32I'll give you a hug.
12:33Okay.
12:34Cute.
12:35Oh, gorgeous.
12:38This is nice.
12:39So obviously you're a good looking guy.
12:42You just seem like every time I'm in person with you, it seems very like gentleman, good guy.
12:48What's really going on, you know?
12:50Are you secretly married or?
12:52No, no, no rings.
12:54I'm not secretly married.
12:55Okay.
12:56Okay.
12:57But I have a one-year-old daughter.
12:59Oh, wow.
13:00I would never guess.
13:01She's in Miami.
13:02I'm out here, so.
13:03Mm.
13:04And it's so new.
13:05I have one child.
13:06Her name's Nava.
13:07It was a surprise.
13:08I found out like four or five months ago, but I'm in my daughter's life.
13:12I try and see her as frequent as possible.
13:14I had my first child at 37.
13:17Was that intentional?
13:19It wasn't my accident.
13:20I had a one-night stand.
13:22Then she calls me in May, and then she's like, I'm pregnant.
13:25Really?
13:26Oh, my God.
13:28You're not going to run away now that scared you were?
13:30No, I'm just processing.
13:32Have you physically?
13:33Yes.
13:34Oh, my God.
13:35Yeah, I've seen her twice.
13:36Was that like the first time you, did you look at her and say, that's my, oh, my God.
13:40Ah, you know what?
13:41It was weird because I went there to do the paternity test.
13:44Oh.
13:45So when I went there, I'm touching her, I'm grabbing her, I'm looking at her.
13:48I'm like, is this mine?
13:49Is she mine?
13:50And then I didn't get the paternity test until after I left.
13:53Would you work things out with the mother?
13:55It's a strict co-parenting.
13:56Strict co-parenting.
13:57This was something that wasn't part of the game plan, but I got to step up because I
14:03want to be involved in my child's life, period, full stop.
14:07And I feel like parenting is very important.
14:10I'm glad that they're so open about things.
14:13Like, if you ask him, he's going to tell you.
14:15100%.
14:16It's not a secret.
14:17And I'm glad we were able to kind of clear some things up about having a child and just
14:23how you found out and everything.
14:24Yeah.
14:25Speaking on Bello's situation with the baby, like, he is mature enough to understand.
14:34You just want to speak and get some stuff off.
14:36You want clarification, and I can give that to you.
14:38And that, that was big for me.
14:40So this date, I believe, has drawn us closer.
14:43You see that ship?
14:44It says La Bello.
14:45Ain't that cool?
14:46You need a boat.
14:51Let's go!
14:53What up?
14:54What up?
14:55Looking amazing.
14:56Hi.
14:57You look nice.
14:58You smell good.
14:59Yeah, you always smell great.
15:01This week, I've decided to take Cardi out on a date, and we're doing trivia.
15:06I'll give you some trivia slips here.
15:08Just need your team name across the top.
15:10My connection with Bello at this point is fabulous.
15:13But Cardi, we talked when we went into the second mixer.
15:17It's, um...
15:18Oh, you put your arm around me.
15:19Oh, I like you.
15:20Oh, it's all good.
15:21We good.
15:22We good.
15:23We outside.
15:24We inside.
15:25So I was interested in spending some time with him, just some one-on-one.
15:28What's our name going to be?
15:29Well, we want to do like...
15:30Cardam.
15:31Cardam is actually dope.
15:32Cardam.
15:33That Dominique, she looks beautiful.
15:35A smiley face with a fro.
15:38The women are in power this week.
15:39I know I have to make an impression, so it's time to show up for the glow up.
15:42All right.
15:43The next game of trivia.
15:45Here's your first question on the Backstreet Boys.
15:49Which two Backstreet Boys members are first cousins?
15:54I'm gonna just say Jake and Josh.
15:57I don't even know if they in here.
15:59I don't even either.
16:01The Backstreet Boys were named after the open-air Backstreet Market in what city?
16:06I don't know what Backstreet Boys is from.
16:09I have no idea.
16:11Child.
16:14They asked us all about Backstreet.
16:16I don't know no facts.
16:17I don't even know the lyrics.
16:18Name the two albums that followed Backstreet's back.
16:21I don't know.
16:22Bro, they gonna ask me some questions about Michael Jackson.
16:24I feel we got set up.
16:27Should have been some Motown flair, personally.
16:29But, I mean, you can't win them all, right?
16:31Cardown sucks right now.
16:32Yeah.
16:33But anyway, I wanted us to have some one-on-one time.
16:36I appreciate it.
16:37I appreciate it.
16:38I wanted to dive a little deeper.
16:40I know that you have a daughter.
16:42Mm-hmm.
16:43She'll be three.
16:44And what does that look like with the mother?
16:46Um, we co-parent.
16:47I think it's important to make sure that we do right for our daughter.
16:50And we've kind of done it since, like, since she was born.
16:52Okay.
16:53So, your last relationship was how long ago?
16:56About 18 months ago.
16:57You see yourself, like, being married again?
17:00Absolutely.
17:01When I first got divorced, I didn't want to be a wife again
17:03because I was afraid of something breaking.
17:06And it's like, sometimes things are meant to be broken
17:08and put back together.
17:09Mm.
17:10I have wife qualities.
17:12You're playing it.
17:13That's who I am.
17:14I can kind of, like, from looking in your eyes,
17:16I can see, you know, there we go.
17:18Like, you can get lost in your eyes, you know?
17:20Mine?
17:21Yeah, yours.
17:24In that moment, I was anticipating and hoping for a kiss.
17:28I ain't got lost in this moment.
17:30Lost in love.
17:31But that's just nothing that I personally want to rush.
17:35So, there's always next time.
17:38Cardam did not win.
17:39Cardam did not win.
17:40But we did win tonight.
17:42We did.
17:43I had a great time with Cardi.
17:45I had lots of laughs, and he was intentional
17:48getting to know me on a deeper level.
17:50These boots.
17:51Oh, I'm in bad boots.
17:52Do I think that Cardam is gonna go past trivia?
17:57Hmm.
17:59I guess we'll all have to watch and see.
18:01I like Bello a lot.
18:02But, you know, may the best man win.
18:04We have your table right here for you.
18:05OK.
18:07The ladies are in power this week.
18:08So, I invited Shannon, Devon, and Darius to a really cool little speech easy spot.
18:15Wow.
18:16Got it good for you.
18:18Check it out.
18:19Really?
18:20How did you know my favorite?
18:21I remember you explained it to me.
18:23Oh, my God.
18:24Most definitely.
18:25With Darius, I am a fan of his fashion sense.
18:27But I'm really trying to figure out what's real, what's not.
18:29How y'all doing, babe?
18:30It's good to see you.
18:31Good to see you, too.
18:32It's good to see you.
18:33It's good to see you, too.
18:34Devon, he's so impressed.
18:35The ladies are in power this week.
18:36So, I invited Shannon, Devon, Devon, and Darius to a really cool little speech easy spot.
18:40Wow.
18:41That a good for you.
18:43Check it out.
18:44Really?
18:45How did you know my favorite?
18:46I remember you explained it to me.
18:47Oh, my God.
18:48Most definitely.
18:49Devon, he's super consistent.
18:51But our connection started kind of further along in the process.
18:55You look cute.
18:56Hey, how you doing?
18:57So I'm just curious to see how this is going to go.
19:00Wow, you're always so put together.
19:02Am I?
19:03Yeah, all the little detail.
19:04I'm looking at y'all like...
19:05We want to save.
19:09So, you know, one of the things Tommy wanted us to do this week
19:13was to get rid of the surface level.
19:15Let's go deep.
19:16So is there something that you're willing to share?
19:19When I was in my most recent grad program,
19:23I ended up fainting and smacking the whole left side of my head on the wall.
19:27Oh, no.
19:28I had post-concussive syndrome,
19:30and still, even now, it impacts me today.
19:34Wow.
19:34I admire Shannon because she's not afraid to be vulnerable.
19:38It speaks to her ability to communicate in a healthy way,
19:41and that's a trait that I want in my future wife.
19:44So as a kid, when my mother used to drop me off at school in the morning,
19:48all the little girls was lined up,
19:50and they would kiss my hand and say,
19:52King Darius.
19:53Oh, bye.
19:54My mother said, that's what my mother did.
19:56My mother was like, uh-uh, stop.
19:58This has to stop.
19:59Explains a lot.
20:01Nice.
20:02Yummy.
20:02Good story, but I don't know if it was super deep.
20:07My mom and dad had a very terrible relationship.
20:12Right.
20:12And then it just led me down a whole path of that's not what love looks like.
20:17But now you know.
20:18Plus, I have son.
20:20And so when I look at them, I'm like, guys are good until you show me otherwise.
20:25I just seen Lauren as an untouchable individual.
20:30She kind of comes off as perfect to me.
20:32And to learn that she had some experiences that she'd been through,
20:37wow, that was very touching.
20:40My parents got divorced when I was six.
20:43They were a lot of times fighting.
20:45My father didn't get along with my mother,
20:47and it taught me a lot.
20:49Making sure that I'm healed, breaking generational curses.
20:53I'm bringing peace into my life.
20:54Any partner that I have is coming into something that's already whole.
20:58You know what I mean?
20:59Yeah.
20:59I feel like Devon understood the assignment.
21:02That probably has totally impact how he interacts with partners and relationships.
21:07I'm glad that he felt comfortable sharing that with us.
21:10Well, guys, this has been really fun.
21:13Yeah, most definitely.
21:14I actually have an event I'm going to have to cut out.
21:16Overall, I thoroughly enjoyed sharing deep moments with Devon and Shannon.
21:23Oh, you smell good.
21:24However, I'm still up in the air about how I feel about Darius.
21:28Bye, Shannon.
21:30Okay, see you guys.
21:31Hey, I never fronting, no.
21:42Never be the one to leave you wanting, no, no.
21:45Baby, you're my queen.
21:46We be living our best life.
21:47Hi.
21:49Nick!
21:50That was so extra.
21:52Going into this date with Ed, I feel all of the things.
21:56What am I going to say?
21:57What is he going to say?
21:58Is he going to fall in love with me?
22:01It's so good to see you.
22:02You smell good.
22:03I took a bath.
22:03I feel like a little kid who has a crush.
22:06I hope he feels the same.
22:07I don't really know, but I am hoping that I find that out during this date.
22:11How are you doing?
22:12Good.
22:13You soft hands?
22:14I ain't been hitting people like you've been hitting people with the boxing gloves.
22:17So I'm going into the date.
22:18I see Nicole.
22:19She looks gorgeous.
22:20I guess this is the salad.
22:22My boy.
22:23It looks good.
22:25You know, I'm already starting to learn more about Nicole.
22:28I'm starting to see a softer side, but haven't really had any one-on-one time.
22:32So I'm excited to see where this goes.
22:37It's crazy.
22:37We've known each other for almost 15 years.
22:39I know.
22:40And we've never been on a date.
22:41We've known each other since undergrad.
22:44And I'm glad we're getting a chance now.
22:45Yeah, me too.
22:46I can usually meet somebody and I see what type of relationship we can have, like how
22:53I can navigate this.
22:54But you don't got a clue.
22:57What's something that you feel like you should know about your person that you don't know
23:02about me?
23:03How you show up in relationships today, like how has past pain and hurt affected who
23:07you are as a person today?
23:08Sure, sure.
23:10I would say...
23:11Or like the most pain you've ever been in that wasn't physical?
23:17The most pain that I've ever been in that wasn't physical...
23:21Uh...
23:22Was...
23:25I have a high tolerance for pain.
23:32All around.
23:35Ed is someone who has been married before.
23:37So I think that there is some fear.
23:39There is some trust issues he might have.
23:42Like I like to feel like closeness with people.
23:45If we doing good, if we doing bad.
23:46I don't know anything about you.
23:49So do we actually work?
23:50Could I see myself dating him?
23:52I have no clue.
23:53So one of my ultimate deal breaker in a relationship...
23:57Mm-hmm.
23:58I absolutely cannot date somebody that will not open up to me.
24:09Ring, ring, call him up.
24:14I'm what you're looking for.
24:16Hey, what's up?
24:17Ring, ring, hit the dial.
24:19Walk this way and flash that smile.
24:21Darius is my top connection.
24:23But Bello is somebody that I could be interested in.
24:26So I invited Bello out on a date just to pick his brain and get to know him more.
24:30Guess who?
24:33Hey.
24:34He makes everything so calm and comfortable.
24:37So I knew it would be easy for me to just let Lucent talk to him.
24:41You know, I was actually thinking about wearing a jean jacket this morning.
24:44Really?
24:45Yeah.
24:45But I still like that fit.
24:47Oh, yeah.
24:47I like it.
24:48Ashley looking cute.
24:49She had the jeans with the black on.
24:52Yeah.
24:53Yeah.
24:54Guys, how you been?
24:55I've been good.
24:56How was the party?
24:56I got rhythm, but I didn't know any of the words.
24:59So you can do the hustle?
25:00Yeah, I can do the hustle.
25:02I don't know Ashley yet, but I'm excited to see what kind of vibe we have together.
25:07So when we were speaking on the phone, I remember you said you're part native.
25:11I'm Indian Cherokee, so.
25:13How many siblings you got?
25:14I have a big brother, a big sister, me, and then three little brothers.
25:17So I'm like the black sheep, you know?
25:19I'm the middle child, too.
25:20Then you're like pretty kind of different from everyone?
25:22My sister did med school.
25:24She did her master's.
25:25My mom did accounting.
25:26Did they want you to like go a certain way and you kind of.
25:29Oh, I was supposed to go into law.
25:30But I've always been like into entrepreneurship, selling stuff.
25:34You kind of wanted to just do what you wanted to do.
25:36Yes, absolutely.
25:39Bello, he literally follows his own dreams.
25:42And that's kind of like what I did.
25:43I didn't listen to my mom or dad about being a doctor.
25:47I wanted to be a personal trainer.
25:49Well, that looks great.
25:50All right.
25:50And I just like that he's confident in what he wants to do.
25:54So what made you feel that you're ready to get married?
25:59I feel like I did the work.
26:01I went to therapy for three years.
26:02I'm still in therapy now.
26:03I'm actually going on Wednesday to go talk to her.
26:05She helped me grow so much and see so many things about myself that I didn't know.
26:10What did you learn about yourself?
26:13I learned that I am a very, very strong person.
26:17But sometimes I feel like I'm not.
26:20Sometimes I feel like I am so defeated.
26:22I am so weak right now.
26:23Like I'm tearing up because it's real.
26:27Wow.
26:28I'm so sorry.
26:28Give me a hand.
26:29I want to be Ashley, funny, happy.
26:40I want to just be me.
26:42But I literally went through the darkest things, seeing somebody look like they was possessed.
26:46Mental illness, schizophrenic, bipolar.
26:50When you see that stuff firsthand with somebody you love, you're going to look at life totally different.
26:58It was like a real dark time.
27:01Every time I talk about it, I get emotional still to this day because that's something that I hold dear to my heart.
27:06And bellow support meant so much to me in that moment that was really touching.
27:10So that's just...
27:13I'm sorry.
27:13I did not mean to cry.
27:14I got you.
27:15I got you.
27:15I got you.
27:16A lot of people will just try and tough it out.
27:20And for you to seek that out, that's brave and it's strong.
27:23You know what I mean?
27:24This is amazing because I feel like what takes six months, we just did it in like a couple minutes.
27:36With Ashley, she allowed herself to be vulnerable and I feel like she was authentic.
27:41I feel like she has a lot of layers and I want to uncover more of those layers.
27:45I was with Bellow today and we just basically impact everything.
27:56Let's go.
27:57I cried.
27:58We talked about mental illness.
27:59It was just a wonderful day and I love that he was so attentive and understood where I was coming from.
28:04It was just wonderful.
28:06And Bellow, you did it with that one.
28:07Like, definitely husband material.
28:30Hey, Donna.
28:32Hey, girl.
28:32Hey.
28:33So it's time to go back into Tommy's Lounge.
28:35We're about halfway through the process and deliberations are getting more intense.
28:41I'm going to pour a little extra today.
28:42The tea will be hot.
28:43I'm ready now.
28:44Motions are high and the stakes are higher.
28:47So this will be interesting, to say the least.
28:49Hey, hey.
28:50Hey, Tina.
28:51How y'all doing?
28:52Good.
28:53How are you?
28:53All right.
28:54May I have a seat?
28:55Absolutely.
28:57Okay.
28:58Did y'all like Motown Tommy or this time?
29:00Which one?
29:00Which one?
29:01A little different?
29:02Bow.
29:02Bow.
29:02Bow.
29:03Bow.
29:03The hair was doing his thing.
29:05That was crazy.
29:06All right.
29:07Welcome back to our lounge.
29:09Now, this week's assignment was to do a little grave digging.
29:12Discuss any skeletons you or your partner have been keeping behind those closet doors.
29:18So, let's talk about the fellas that you are connecting with.
29:22We're going to start with Dominique.
29:24From the second mixer, me and Cardi had, like, a little connection.
29:30So, I took him on a trivia date.
29:32We called it Cardam.
29:33Oh, I like that.
29:34That was her name.
29:35Ooh.
29:35And we lost.
29:37You don't know what?
29:38But did you at least see a different side of him?
29:40Oh, yeah.
29:41He opened up.
29:42Like, we had a good time.
29:43It was a good day.
29:43All right.
29:44Miss Nicole.
29:45I love Vince.
29:46I just think he's such a great person.
29:48We did the hot yoga date.
29:49We were holding hands.
29:51And that kind of made me, like, snap out of the it cloud.
29:55All right.
29:56Yeah.
29:56I was on the date, the yoga date, as well.
29:59Vince is still my top connection.
30:01And then Steve and I connected.
30:03And that's when he shared that his mother has passed already.
30:05And that he really leans on the other women in his life.
30:09I like it.
30:10Devon is a wonderful person.
30:12He's funny.
30:14He's kind.
30:15He and I can talk for a long, long time.
30:17Like, I hopped in the shower and kept talking.
30:19And I went to earbud, though.
30:21Yeah.
30:21You're going to get electrocuted.
30:25Lauren, let me hear it.
30:27Fellow, we had a date.
30:28Little tiki boat.
30:29And he just found out he had a child.
30:31Oh, wow.
30:32I was kind of shocked.
30:33So I wanted clarification on how he's going to navigate that and his response.
30:39He was very open about everything.
30:41He's not scared of a challenge.
30:43I think his heart is in the right place.
30:46I like Bello, and I ain't judging him for having a kid.
30:48I have a child.
30:49It's just his situation is a bit rocky right now.
30:53So it'll be interesting to see how his story plays out.
30:55I actually had a date with Bello.
30:57He really went deep about his family.
31:00He was very intentional.
31:01And I also got emotional on the date.
31:02I cried because we were talking about mental illness and things.
31:05That's really important to me.
31:06What made you cry?
31:08Um, I don't want to cry now, but...
31:12That's okay.
31:14When you see somebody go through mental illness or bipolar, schizophrenic, it's hard to see
31:21somebody you love go through that, and you can't do anything.
31:23So I just appreciate him listening to me.
31:26I understand.
31:30Ashley starts to get emotional, and I'm feeling her.
31:33I can relate with what she's going through, and I sympathize with her 100%.
31:37I appreciate you being open.
31:39If you're here to find love, these are the parts of our lives that you share with people.
31:44And you start touching on those things that really, really mean something to you.
31:48Mm-hmm.
31:50All right.
31:50We're going to keep it moving.
31:52Now, who is missing the mark and may not be ready to love?
31:57Oh, my goodness.
31:58Chris, it's not a connection, and it won't be.
32:01He will overpower a conversation.
32:04Nothing has changed with that.
32:05He just seems a bit insecure about the journey.
32:08The guys are just...
32:09The women are just...
32:10It's just too sobby for me.
32:12Like, man up a little bit.
32:14You know?
32:14Chris, either you're going to rise to the occasion, or you're going to fade away.
32:19Mm-hmm.
32:20All right.
32:21Anybody else?
32:22Darius, I literally feel like I just called my pastor.
32:24Yeah.
32:25I can't imagine sleeping with the pastor.
32:27Amen.
32:30Vince, we're going to be butting heads about financials.
32:34Well, you're going to be working, though.
32:35You're okay.
32:36All the way up to nine months pregnant, you're going to be working.
32:39Yes, T-verse.
32:40T-verse.
32:40Who else?
32:43Ed, he's just not attentive.
32:46You are interested, right?
32:48I like for the dialogue to be, like, both ways.
32:52It seemed like he would not speak worse affirmation until his woman.
32:55I agree.
32:56Ed, he is a charmer.
32:58Like, he's emotionally unavailable.
33:00I'm so sad, yo.
33:02Tell me what's wrong.
33:03I finally had a date with Ed.
33:05I like him.
33:05Everybody know I like him.
33:07Does he like you?
33:08Maybe.
33:09She is crushing on this man since 15 years, and you still ain't seen it?
33:13Do you agree what Ashanti just said, that he's emotionally unavailable?
33:17Because you notice you don't have Ed as your top.
33:20Right.
33:20Exactly.
33:21I'm not ready to let him go, and it will crush me.
33:25So let me say this.
33:26Yeah.
33:26Over this 15-plus years, I think you've painted this picture, and that picture might not really
33:34exist the way you think.
33:36Does that make sense?
33:37It does.
33:38I do understand where the women are coming from.
33:40I could be a little fairytale with my hopes, and there's still a lot I need to get to know
33:44about Ed, so I am just stuck in my own head to try to figure it out.
33:48All right.
33:49Sound like some of y'all couldn't pick the lock on that closet door with them skeletons
33:52inside.
33:53So I want you to take these guys out on a date and let them know if they are just not ready
33:58to love.
33:59Thanks.
34:00All right, ladies.
34:01I'm going to let y'all talk about this, and call my wine.
34:08She talking to me in the shower with her earbud on.
34:11You know what I'm saying?
34:12Yeah.
34:14Sunshine out, but it's raining inside.
34:19Made it to the next day, I hope I survive.
34:21Can't run from it, there's nowhere to hide.
34:25Hello, Chris.
34:27What's up?
34:27How are you?
34:28The lovely Ashante, who is someone that I've been wanting to go out on a date with for
34:33a while now, invited me out.
34:34So I was excited.
34:36Finally getting my one-on-one date.
34:37Okay, bye-bye.
34:38You too?
34:38Bye-bye.
34:39Nice.
34:39However, it is elimination week, so I was kind of like, all right, well, we're going
34:43to see how this rolls.
34:45How's your day been going?
34:46My day's been good.
34:47You know, I spent just, you know, usual grind, trying to not lose my job.
34:50So...
34:51Right.
34:52Please don't do that.
34:59Today, I have the task of taking Ed out to let him know how the women are feeling about
35:06him.
35:07I am a super emotional girl, and I have trouble keeping it together.
35:10So, I don't want to have this conversation, but I know that it is something that I have
35:15to do.
35:18Nick.
35:21What's the matter?
35:22Well, I get a call from Nicole.
35:24We got a second date.
35:26But as soon as I see Nicole, I'm puzzled.
35:28I'm like, what's going on?
35:32Hi.
35:33Hey.
35:34So, do you feel like you've been connecting with a lot of the ladies?
35:37Have you been reaching out?
35:39I'm going to give you my top five.
35:41Top five is crazy.
35:43You're in the name of six people, six, seven.
35:45Currently, right now, you're at my top.
35:47Dominique's still in there.
35:48It's a toss-off between Nicole and Shannon.
35:50So, you do feel like you're building romantic connections?
35:53Because with the ladies' lounge with Tommy, a lot of women did not feel that romantic
35:59connection being made.
36:02So, we had a ladies' lounge today.
36:05We think you're a great guy.
36:07We think you're a fun guy.
36:08But we wanted you to open up a little bit more, and we wanted to know a little bit more
36:13about who you are as a person.
36:14I mean, this is me being open with limited access.
36:18We just felt like we needed more from you.
36:20I came on this journey looking for love.
36:22But, like, are you ready for a girlfriend, ready for a wife?
36:25That was, like, the question mark that a lot of the girls had.
36:30Everybody thinks you're extremely smart.
36:31But some of the women still feel like you're not listening enough.
36:36They're just a bit detached.
36:38I don't really know what that means exactly.
36:41They don't necessarily want to put in more effort unless they feel more effort coming from you.
36:48It was mentioned that they couldn't tell, like, who you are or what you wanted.
36:55You move at a slower pace.
36:56And that's kind of how I felt about it.
36:59Um, I felt like we had great conversations.
37:03We were getting closer.
37:04It's not like I'm intentionally trying not to talk to people.
37:08I'm genuinely trying to get to know so many people in a short amount of time.
37:12It's giving a friend vibe.
37:15So, with that being said,
37:18the ladies in the lounge today, we had a talk, and
37:20today, in the lounge, we came to the conclusion that
37:25this is really hard for me.
37:30You are not ready to love.
37:34Okay, understood, understood.
37:36I'm not surprised at all.
37:37I think that their feedback was extremely accurate.
37:40I was just spent from, like, the emotional connection with so many women all at the same time.
37:45Moving forward, I'm going to definitely, uh, change up the approach a little bit.
37:48Yeah, bring a little romance.
37:50It's been a once-in-a-lifetime experience that I would never trade for a million dollars.
37:56Like, well, I mean, you gave me a million.
37:57I would trade it for a million dollars.
38:00But, um, it was such a wonderful experience.
38:03I hope you find love.
38:05I hope so, too, child.
38:08Um.
38:11We didn't get to see, like, who you were on the inside and, you know, how you feel.
38:15So, it's really hard for me to say, but, um, the ladies have decided that you are not ready
38:26to love.
38:27It's definitely unexpected.
38:35It's pretty hurtful.
38:36I became open.
38:37I became transparent.
38:39But some of the women feel as if I'm not.
38:43I feel kind of devastated a little bit because of this.
38:49Like, I was so happy that you were here.
38:51Mm-hmm.
38:52Is this what it feels like?
38:55Lost in the gray.
38:56I can't see clear in your eyes.
39:01Well, I mean, the journey, it did what it was supposed to do, right?
39:04It connected us.
39:06It allowed us to have some great conversations.
39:08It allowed us to get to know each other better.
39:11I'm sorry.
39:12Oh, it's okay.
39:12No, no, no, don't ever apologize.
39:14It's okay.
39:15It's a part of the night.
39:19I'm not doing this.
39:26Seeing Nicole become so emotional, it was heartbreaking.
39:30The expectations of spending more time with each other has just been ripped away.
39:35I'm so sorry.
39:37Don't apologize.
39:42It's okay.
39:43I think that my connection to him was the most emotional connection that I had here.
39:49But even in this moment, I have no idea if he is interested in me.
39:55And I don't want to spend another 15 years, like, wondering, like, if something could happen between us.
40:04So what do you want?
40:04I'm sorry.
40:05I got...
40:06I'm sorry.
40:06I'm putting...
40:07I hope this ain't a good new shirt.
40:10This is where my journey ends, and it's devastating.
40:14But I can take this as a learning lesson, continuing looking for love, and see how I move forward from this point.
40:32Next time on Ready to Love.
40:34This week, the women are meeting your exes.
40:37Oh.
40:37Oh, okay.
40:39You all right?
40:40I don't know how this feels for you, but I know how it feels for me.
40:43It's fine.
40:44Oh, at least one of us does.
40:46What attracted you to him?
40:48It feels like we by ourselves all the time.
40:50He feels like he's going to be my favorite person ever.
40:53You heard that?
40:53She said ever.
40:54I know.
40:55Forever, ever.
40:56I feel like I have strong connections, but not as strong as him.
41:01Oh, wow.
41:02I got a kiss.
41:03That was, like, eternal and, like, skyrocket for me.
41:06I hate every single time I see you talking to another girl.
41:08Ooh.
41:09I hate it.
41:10You do know we sitting here.
41:11You want that sexual connection.
41:13Oh, okay.
41:14That is very important to him.
41:16I'm not about to sit up here and talk about my coochie with other people.
41:19You won't have to talk about your coochie, but...
41:21Is that, like, cardio freak or something?
41:22No, no, no, no, no.
41:23How did this happen?