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00:00That ain't time or nothing.
00:02I'm manifesting that I came to the right place to meet my man.
00:05Cheers to that.
00:06Cheers to some alone time.
00:08Cheers to the alone time.
00:10This ain't long enough.
00:13I classified you as Jaar.
00:15But you didn't get to know him.
00:16A lot of women feel this way about you.
00:18That's ludicrous.
00:20Do you let your children just watch what they want
00:21without finding out what they're watching first?
00:23You can't control everything that they watch.
00:25You can't control everything that they see.
00:26Yeah, you gotta monitor some things, though.
00:28It was an awkward conversation with Emily.
00:31The fellas have some things to say.
00:32You have a barrier.
00:34They feel that you are not ready to love.
00:38No, it took me some time
00:40to get to the place that you wanted me to be.
00:45But now I'm ready.
00:48I'm ready to love.
00:54I'm feeling it.
00:56I'm going to stop this show.
00:58I'm going to wait for no.
01:00When you can't tell me enough.
01:02And na, na, na.
01:04Oh, na, na, na.
01:06Hi, Tommy.
01:07Miss Donna, how you doing?
01:08I'm doing well.
01:09Hi.
01:10Ashley, Miss Ashley.
01:11How are you?
01:12Walking into Tommy's Lounge, I was stunned.
01:14I was like, ooh, this is classy.
01:16It looked like a small winery where you just come in,
01:19relax, chill, and just have girl talk.
01:21I'm Monique.
01:22Tommy.
01:23How you doing?
01:24I'm amazing.
01:25I'm like, this is Tommy all day.
01:26But this is Detroit, too.
01:27So I'm ready.
01:29All right, ladies.
01:30Welcome to your first Tommy Lounge.
01:31Hey.
01:32Hey.
01:33This is my speakeasy while I'm in Detroit.
01:35Is it classy enough for you?
01:36Yes.
01:37Classful.
01:38I love it here.
01:39Great.
01:40It's a safe haven to talk about the connections that you're making
01:43and the ones you're not making.
01:45And do not forget the golden rule.
01:49What happens in the lounge stays in the lounge.
01:53We got it?
01:54Yes.
01:55Now let's get to this week's assignment.
01:57Where you live and where you spend your time says a lot about who you are.
02:01So this week, you are taking your men to the Detroit spots that mean the most to you.
02:08Can you picture them fitting into your world long term?
02:11At the end of the week, we're going to meet back here.
02:14And you guys are going to decide who is and who isn't.
02:17Ready to love.
02:19Sound good?
02:20Yes.
02:21I think a lot of people know me to be a pageant girl.
02:24But I know how to get down and dirty.
02:27I know how to have a good time.
02:28So I'm excited for these guys to know I'm not just this.
02:31I can be a different type of person as well.
02:33All right.
02:34Now listen.
02:35Clean these houses before they come over there.
02:37All right.
02:38Take care of your day.
02:39All right.
02:40Y'all be good.
02:42The women are in power this week and Tommy's assignment for us is to bring them into our personal space.
03:01So I invited Devon, Christina, Chris, and Bello into my home.
03:06Hey!
03:07Girl.
03:08Oh, you look gorgeous.
03:09You too.
03:10I love this.
03:11All of it.
03:12You look great.
03:13Well, thank you.
03:14Long day.
03:15I'm ready.
03:16I'm ready.
03:17I'm ready.
03:18I'm ready.
03:19Hello.
03:20I'm ready.
03:21Hello.
03:22All right.
03:23Oh, man.
03:24Oh.
03:25It always smells good.
03:26It always smells good.
03:28Get it on the flow.
03:29Get it.
03:30Get it on the flow.
03:31Dominique just invited me for a double date at her house.
03:35And she said she can make some oxtail.
03:37And I'm an oxtail connoisseur.
03:40So I'm excited to see what she whipped up, how it tastes, and give her a little critique.
03:45How you doing?
03:48How you doing?
03:49Hi.
03:51Hi.
03:52Hi.
03:53Hi.
03:54I've wanted to kiss Bello since the first date we had.
03:59So it was natural to me.
04:00It felt real.
04:01I dreamed about that and he didn't disappoint.
04:04We're going to do a shot together?
04:06Maybe I'll lick it off you.
04:10My connection with Dominique is undeniable.
04:12There's like an electricity between the two of us.
04:14But Christina is somebody that I also have a connection with.
04:17So I felt like it was going to be awkward.
04:19The party is final now.
04:20There we go.
04:21Yes, sir.
04:22He took his title already, guys.
04:23Oh, we did.
04:24Nice.
04:25I'm like, why they got me doing a double date with my two people?
04:28I'm like, damn, I'm getting exposed here.
04:31We're going to try to finish this bottle.
04:33But I'm going to feed you first so we can be responsible.
04:36All right.
04:37Super.
04:38Absolutely.
04:39Whose favorite food is Jamaican?
04:40I would assume it's you.
04:41My favorite food is Jamaican.
04:42OK.
04:43I'm looking for the oxtail so you guys can do whatever you want.
04:46I feel like Dominique catering the meal to Bello.
04:50I can definitely tell she is into him.
04:52It seems like we may like the same men.
04:55So it just let me know.
04:57Bring your A-game.
04:58And I'm going to give the best.
05:01Yeah?
05:02I'm so hungry right now.
05:03Serious.
05:04What?
05:05How's it taste?
05:06Mm.
05:07You ate it cold, so it's good.
05:08It got to be.
05:09He ate it cold.
05:10He was in here by himself, just like .
05:12As he should.
05:14I feel like I got to see how grounded Dominique really is.
05:18She cooked all that food.
05:20She put all the time and energy into making sure
05:22that her home was welcoming to us.
05:24That was dope.
05:25But I wish she had asked to cook my favorite meal.
05:27You can learn to make sushi.
05:29You could have done that for me.
05:31So sorry.
05:32You mind if I still have the two seconds?
05:34Oh, don't stay on that.
05:35You know what I'm saying?
05:36You mind if I come on?
05:37Go for it.
05:38Go for it.
05:39Yay!
05:40I'm like, I'm still there.
05:41It's safe to say that Christina is probably my strongest
05:44connection.
05:45Her and I have like a really good chemistry.
05:47So I think it's just very easy going with me and her.
05:50Well, you are stunning.
05:52Oh, thank you.
05:53You know what's so funny?
05:54I grew up from a place where I thought I was fat and ugly.
05:56You know?
05:57Really?
05:58Being called pig and pudgy.
05:59And I felt bad for that little girl.
06:00Even though we've grown past those moments,
06:02those moments still like are there.
06:04I want to say this, I got teased a lot.
06:06But there was, there was teasing.
06:09I had a big gap before I had braces.
06:12I had hair issues.
06:13So what it did for me is I had to develop other skills
06:16to be able to compete with the guy that played football.
06:19I think that to be able to...
06:20It was needed.
06:21Yeah.
06:22Because you had to grow.
06:23I would say I'm grateful that I was able to go through
06:25that hardship because it humbled me.
06:27Chris and I have such a great connection when it comes
06:30to our upbringings and being able to relate to one another.
06:34He definitely made me feel like he was into me,
06:37even though there was another really beautiful woman around.
06:40I'm happy to be here.
06:42I'm happy to have you.
06:43Why are you looking at me like that?
06:45Because I want you.
06:46What?
06:47What?
06:48Mm-hmm.
06:49That's all.
06:50What about me do you want?
06:52All of you. Everything.
06:53Hmm.
06:54At this point, my connection with Bello is pretty intense,
06:57but I want to pull back some layers with Devon.
07:00Thank you for letting me meet your mom, too.
07:03I'm FaceTiming us today.
07:04Yeah, yeah, yeah.
07:05If you FaceTime me, you're liable to meet anybody in my family
07:07because I'm always with my family.
07:09My kids.
07:10Mm-hmm.
07:11My mama, my daddy, my brothers.
07:12That's my tribe.
07:13I think about having a family like that.
07:15Yes.
07:16Like, that's one of the main reasons I want to have kids.
07:17So if I don't have kids, is that a deal breaker for you?
07:20No.
07:21Who's that brother?
07:22Again?
07:23Mm-hmm.
07:24You just say you wanted many kids.
07:26Well, if I had kids.
07:27That's probably not going to happen for me.
07:29Would you ever consider adapting?
07:31Absolutely.
07:32Yeah?
07:33Yeah.
07:34I think that I am a dope enough person to do that
07:36because what was taken from me, it was, you know, pretty painful.
07:40Yeah.
07:41So if I could experience loving somebody who needs that love,
07:45I would do that.
07:46I think it's a beautiful thing.
07:47So you open to that?
07:48Yeah.
07:49Experiencing two miscarriages, the pain that that put me through,
07:53I don't think I could go through that again.
07:55So the fact that Devon is open to adoption, I love that.
07:58You learn something every day, right?
07:59Mm-hmm.
08:00How you doing, Cece?
08:01I'm doing good.
08:02I'm doing good.
08:03I had this first time seeing you tonight.
08:05It's been a minute since I've seen you.
08:06Yeah, I know.
08:07We had some phone conversations, though.
08:09Yeah, this is true.
08:10The long ones.
08:11Yes.
08:12Yes.
08:13Like, I'm like, dang, we on the phone for, like,
08:14damn near two hours.
08:15I don't know.
08:16I feel like I should have had a two-hour conversation
08:18with someone else.
08:19Watching Bella and Dominique interact, it's very clear
08:22that he is into her.
08:24But even if that is the case, he can still make me feel special.
08:27So we definitely have to discuss the elephant in the room.
08:31Wow.
08:32You know, I'm a sharpshooter, baby.
08:33I'm going to tell you how I feel.
08:34So you don't feel like I'll show you love?
08:36Mm.
08:38You have to be on the phone, like, two hours.
08:40In one of those conversations I told you,
08:42men care about their money.
08:43Mm-hmm.
08:44And in order for a man to show he really cares,
08:47he has to spend some money.
08:48Mm-hmm.
08:49So for me, I asked three different men.
08:51My body's so sore, I feel like I need a massage.
08:53One answer was, dang, I would love to,
08:55but I'm not in the position right now.
08:57I understand that.
08:59Oh, my God, you're used to a $300 massage?
09:01Let me send you $150.
09:03Matter of fact, here's $180,
09:04because that's what I have to offer.
09:05That's a real-ass answer.
09:07Not going to call your answer weeks,
09:08but you didn't get one.
09:09Hmm.
09:10No, I did give an answer.
09:11Nope.
09:12You responded with,
09:13oh, you know, I didn't even see this.
09:15You said that you felt like you wanted a massage
09:17in the morning.
09:18I didn't get the message till 3 p.m.
09:20Do you think that I couldn't get a massage in the evening?
09:22If a man wants to come and take care of me,
09:24you gotta understand what that entails, right?
09:26This situation made Christina drop on my list
09:28just because she just seems like she wants my money.
09:32And if that is the narrative of the relationship,
09:34you gotta recalibrate.
09:36And I'm just giving you where my perspective is,
09:39so that you can either align with what you really want
09:42or gracefully bow out,
09:43because I don't play games.
09:45I feel like if you are unable to make me feel special,
09:48like I stand out from the bunch,
09:50then I don't know if I'm yours.
09:52So it's not a competition, baby.
09:54And if you ain't him, I understand,
09:56because I'm her in my world.
10:09The assignment this week is to invite guys into our personal spaces.
10:12So I invited Yvonne to the batting club today,
10:15and I am super excited because today we're gonna do something fun.
10:18We're playing cricket.
10:19Hey!
10:20Hey!
10:21How are you?
10:22I'm good. How are you doing?
10:23Ever since skating, me and him have been talking on the phone
10:26every single night.
10:27So I'm really looking forward to seeing if that chemistry
10:30can translate in person.
10:32So we are going to play some cricket.
10:34Okay.
10:35Have you ever played?
10:36Never.
10:37Do you know what it is?
10:38It's kind of like tennis, right?
10:39Tennis, baseball, Greek life.
10:42I mean, some all of the above.
10:45Dominique is my boo.
10:47Every time me and Dominique are around each other,
10:49we got this flirtatious energy.
10:51But I like Nicole.
10:53She is very easy to talk to, down to earth, smart.
10:57We had a strong connection right from the very first mixer.
11:01And now it's time to see where we can take that.
11:06All right, here we go.
11:08Okay.
11:09Wow, strike one.
11:11Okay.
11:19My cricket skills, for this being the first time I've ever played it,
11:23it's pretty nice.
11:24I was knocking them out the park.
11:26All right, they coming fast.
11:27Be ready.
11:28Sometimes.
11:30You ready?
11:31Yes.
11:34That's one.
11:35Oh, okay.
11:36This is hard.
11:38I love competition.
11:39I'm in it to win it, but it was so hard.
11:41I was just freaking out.
11:42This is heavy.
11:43You need some strength to do this.
11:46Okay, now I feel bad that I talked smack,
11:48because that was way harder than it looked.
11:49It's very hard, right?
11:50Yes.
11:51You did a great job.
11:52Now I do want to ask you, what's an ideal woman for you?
11:58I need someone who's smart.
12:00Okay.
12:01I need someone who's kind and thinks about the world.
12:03Okay.
12:04Beyond themselves.
12:05I would say something very similar.
12:06I feel a strong sense of responsibility in a lot of areas, and I tend to step up in like leadership roles when I feel like change needs to happen in different spaces.
12:18I want to make a change.
12:19Me too.
12:20Yes.
12:21I think if I find the right partner, someone who supports me, encourages me, like I think that, you know, we can do this thing together.
12:27That's core to who I am.
12:30I do think that we have a lot in common.
12:32We share a lot of similarities.
12:33If nothing else, I know we can have a good time together.
12:37I'm excited to see like where this goes and, you know, what happens in this journey.
12:41I think the date went really, really well.
12:43We surprisingly had a lot in common, and I feel like I am starting to see who he is as a person.
12:48So I think that we can blossom into something more.
12:51What a great first date.
12:52I know.
12:53I'm so excited.
13:03This week, we're supposed to be inviting the men into our personal spaces.
13:07And I invite Ed, Donna, Xavier, and Darius to my humble abode.
13:12Hey, what's going on here?
13:13How you doing?
13:14How you doing?
13:15What I've asked them to do is bring something meaningful to them or something that they feel
13:19comfortable sharing with the group.
13:22So I know that everyone brought their personal item, and I think that we should all share them.
13:29I'll go first.
13:30Hold on.
13:31Hold on.
13:32Hold on.
13:33I have a joyful feeling every time I see Shannon.
13:35So to spend time with her and getting to know her, I mean, it makes me happy.
13:39This is a dilation wheel, and it's used to help students or just any practitioner who is doing cervical checks for when people are in labor.
13:53Yeah, basically, if you...
13:56What are you doing?
13:57I'm just making sure you dilated.
14:00The best part of this triple date was the show and share.
14:05Do it like me, can't do it like me, no, no.
14:08The personal idol I'm bringing is a rose that my grandmother gave me at her home-going service.
14:15I appreciate her every bit that she gave to me, and I miss her dearly, even as a grown-ass man.
14:22I spent 10 years coaching dance.
14:25When I retired, I passed it off to some of the young ladies who I had coached originally.
14:29And this was just one of the things that we got for ourselves and for the girls, like, just to have around our house in kind of memory of the times.
14:39This was sent to me from my cousin slash brother.
14:43A couple weeks later, he was sent on a tour, and he was killed in active duty.
14:48Everybody dug deep, sharing things that were very personal to them, and I think it helped bring us all closer together.
14:56So this is an outfit, actually, when I had my firstborn, that my mother, you know, she decided to sew and give it to my daughter as a gift.
15:04Wow.
15:05So she's 20 now, so I still have this outfit.
15:07My mother used to actually sew my clothes for me.
15:11She ended up passing away in 2012.
15:15So I got my passion for fashion from my mother.
15:19Oh, man.
15:20Yeah.
15:21She lives on.
15:22Oh, man. Hold on. Give me a second.
15:25Seeing Darius be vulnerable about his mother, it actually just confirms to me the type of man that he is.
15:31He's very caring, and he does things, like, with a purpose.
15:35So I appreciate it.
15:36I didn't want to bring the mood down.
15:37You're not.
15:38Hey, you brought the mood up, brother.
15:40Yeah.
15:41Yeah.
15:42My first impression of Darius was not the best.
15:45But he was extremely vulnerable.
15:48He told his story from his heart.
15:50And I was surprised.
15:52The story helped me create some more understanding around who he is.
15:57So maybe we might finally get a chance to talk tonight.
16:00I know.
16:01Because you know every time we're about to have a conversation, we're getting interrupted.
16:04I've said that, like, three times.
16:06Oh.
16:07It's a thing at this point.
16:09Getting a chance to sit down and have a conversation with Donna is a long time coming.
16:14I definitely have some interest, so I hope we have a great conversation that would allow for a deeper connection.
16:22So do you feel like you've made a connection?
16:24With a couple people, I have interest, but I can't really call it a connection.
16:28Okay.
16:29Because I think it would be, I'm really slow to move.
16:31Oh, okay.
16:32So.
16:33Have you tried to contact any of the ladies outside of, like, seeing them in these more organized spaces?
16:40I've talked to one person, and that wasn't the vibe.
16:44And that's no jab at anybody, but that's just a nod to how I prefer to live.
16:49So has this experience made you reconsider not how fast, necessarily, you need to move, but how you approach dating?
17:01Not at all.
17:02So this was the most I've spoken to Xavier.
17:05I did appreciate the conversation because I got at least a little bit more insight, but he didn't really seem into the process.
17:14This is, like, the first date.
17:16The first date?
17:17Well, I've been on a one date, a group date.
17:19So, yeah.
17:20So you haven't had any one-on-ones?
17:22I haven't.
17:23Yeah.
17:24I'm trying to make this a one-on-one right now.
17:27Well, we definitely can make this a one-on-one.
17:30When I see Shannon, she has, like, an upper echelon, very polished vibe, sort of like Michelle Obama, first lady of the city type of thing.
17:38So there's definitely attraction.
17:41So it's a school over here.
17:43I was over here recently because I had one of the...
17:46The mathematics and science one?
17:47Yeah.
17:48Yeah.
17:49So I had a speaking engagement there.
17:51I speak to the kids about my path of life, of having an opportunity.
17:55So, you know, kids are like, why did you start boxing?
17:59And then you get the, um, have you ever been knocked out?
18:02You know?
18:03Wait, have you been knocked out?
18:04Never.
18:05Oh, okay.
18:06But, you know, these hands aren't just made for her, you know, protection as well.
18:09Okay.
18:10I like that.
18:11You know, I enjoy cooking, too.
18:12You know, so nourishment.
18:13Yeah.
18:14The physicality between me and Ed is just superb.
18:18It's comforting.
18:20It makes me feel protected, and I just love that.
18:27And, you know, these hands give some of the best massages.
18:31Okay.
18:32You know?
18:33I like that.
18:34This is north of the Mason-Dixon.
18:35Do you like that?
18:36I like that a lot.
18:43So, Tommy's assignment this week is allowing the guys to come into our personal space.
18:51So, I decided to put together a nice little cooking class for a few of us.
18:56Show up what you got.
18:57Show up what you got.
18:58Why not?
18:59Show it off for the catwalk.
19:02Oh, cute.
19:04Hi.
19:05How are you?
19:06I'm good.
19:07I'm so excited for today.
19:10Obviously, I am a private chef, and I wanted to give everybody a little taste of what I do all the time.
19:15Hi.
19:16Hey.
19:17Welcome, family.
19:18How are you?
19:19How are you?
19:20Good to see you.
19:21Hi, Judy.
19:22Thanks.
19:23I am super excited that Ashante invited myself, Cardi, and Vince out today.
19:28Hey, Vince.
19:29Hey, Vince.
19:30Hello.
19:31What up, y'all?
19:32Hi.
19:33How are we?
19:34I'm looking forward to chatting it up with Vince because he seems like a good guy.
19:37So I'm excited to see what the chemistry is like in a more intimate setting with him.
19:41Take your stations.
19:42Let me tell you what we're going to do first.
19:44In the kitchen, when you pick up a knife, we all say sharp.
19:46So I pick up a knife, you say what?
19:47Sharp.
19:48Sharp.
19:49Nice job.
19:50So for you guys, the first thing you guys are doing, we're chopping.
19:52That's what you're doing.
19:53When you're done, we're going to put it inside of the pan.
19:54Love it.
19:55So y'all, step over here.
19:56Get to chopping.
19:57OK.
19:58OK.
19:59You know how to hold a knife?
20:00No.
20:01Wait a second.
20:02Go.
20:03You're like you're going to cut yourself.
20:04No.
20:05OK.
20:06Hold it like this.
20:07OK.
20:08Yeah.
20:09OK.
20:10You got more control.
20:11And then, yeah.
20:12Hold it like.
20:13Yeah.
20:14Yeah.
20:15OK.
20:16For your mushrooms.
20:17The easiest way for you to cut mushrooms is if you cut it in half.
20:22I can literally.
20:23Oh my goodness.
20:24Ooh.
20:25Boom.
20:26Got it.
20:27Look at that.
20:28Your turn.
20:30Get in there.
20:31Get on that mushroom.
20:32Get in there.
20:33Shark!
20:34OK.
20:35Stop.
20:36You want to try something?
20:37Give me the first five of them.
20:39Shark.
20:40He screamed shark one more time with that knife.
20:42I'm going to run up out of here.
20:44Shark.
20:47It's skipping, yeah.
20:48Shark.
20:49It's driving me crazy.
20:50Shark!
20:51Shark!
20:57Y'all did a good job.
20:58This is, it's giving what it's supposed to give.
21:00Awesome.
21:01Thank you, kid.
21:02I'm going to let y'all sit it on down so you can enjoy your drink.
21:04So, uh, how have you been?
21:06I, I...
21:07I've been good.
21:08I've been good.
21:09I've been enjoying texting you.
21:10It's been insightful conversations.
21:11Yeah.
21:12I think Lauren is beautiful.
21:13We have chemistry there.
21:14So, I'm really excited to talk more one-on-one and have good conversations.
21:19Your kids are really, I think, important to you, I can tell.
21:21Sure.
21:22You know?
21:23Do you have any other passions that you aren't doing now?
21:25That I am not?
21:26No, that you aren't doing.
21:27That you want to do?
21:28No, I'm doing everything.
21:29That you want to do?
21:30Yeah.
21:31OK.
21:32A lot of times people have kids and they get lost in having kids.
21:33They do.
21:34They do.
21:35And that's never been me.
21:36If you're not fulfilled as a mom, your kids know it.
21:38I'm able to show up for them because I'm able to show up for myself.
21:41So.
21:42There you go.
21:43Yeah.
21:44Exactly.
21:45Me, I would say the only thing that I'm not doing right now that I want to, I want
21:47to get my fingers on my pilot license.
21:49Oh my gosh.
21:50Are you serious?
21:51I'm dead serious, yeah.
21:52That's cool.
21:53I've got about like 60 hours now, which is not a lot.
21:55But, you know, sometimes when you have kids, you got to do other things to take a
21:58step back.
21:59So, it's like, that's what I really want to like focus up and then do.
22:03I appreciate Cardi because he's funny, he's sweet, and confident.
22:08So, I'm looking forward to growing our bond together.
22:12You are definitely a different vibe than anything that I...
22:16You do.
22:18So.
22:19So.
22:20We haven't spoke much to each other.
22:22If you could categorize some things that you may say that Vince has to work on.
22:29Remember we asked you a question about like, oh, how do you want your woman to contribute
22:32to the household?
22:33And you was like, well, if she's not satisfied with what I'm contributing to the household,
22:37then maybe she needs to contribute to the household.
22:39How do you feel about 50-50?
22:40Would you be paying 100%?
22:42It depends on the lifestyle that whoever I'm with wants to live.
22:47And we make 150.
22:48If that's fine with you, then that's fine.
22:50But if you saying, I think that we need to be up to 250, then you go get you 100, you
22:56know what I'm saying?
22:57It's whatever you're comfortable with.
22:58You know, let me say what was said, because I don't want you to like miss...
23:02What you meant?
23:03No, I'll tell you what I actually said.
23:06Okay.
23:07What did you say?
23:08If I have, you know, a $150,000 job and I'm providing a lifestyle, if she's okay with
23:17that, she don't got to work at all.
23:19Right.
23:20But if she's like, well, unless I want to do this or I want to do something different,
23:24then either she would say I'm going to do this to contribute or she would help me and
23:31my business to grow for more than what we have.
23:34Does that make sense or does it not make sense?
23:36It makes a lot of sense.
23:37I'm talking to Vince and the energy just seems a little bit combative.
23:42What I just said right now, did you hear that?
23:44Right this second?
23:45Yeah.
23:46I'm sorry, but did you hear that then?
23:48No.
23:49Okay, so that's what I'm saying.
23:50I don't have it in me to go back and forth with a man.
23:54So I'm realizing that I'm not connecting with Vince.
23:58That's why I'm saying you didn't hear me.
24:00Because if you did, then this is what you would hurt.
24:03I tried.
24:17Tommy's assignment was to bring the guys into my personal space.
24:20So I invited Ed out to a date at Barkside.
24:23I love my dog, Dutchess.
24:24She's 10 years old.
24:25And I just wanted him to get to know Dutchess because who's ever in my life have to be in Dutchess life.
24:30Hi.
24:31Hey.
24:32How are you?
24:33Good.
24:34How are you?
24:35Who's this?
24:36This is Dutchess.
24:37Say hi, Dad.
24:38Dutch.
24:39What's up?
24:40Going into this date, I'm excited.
24:41I'm liking the vibes that Ashley's giving out.
24:43I'm liking our interactions, so I want to get a little deeper.
24:47I was like, I haven't really got a chance to talk to Ed.
24:50I know he's my type, but is he my type personality-wise, too?
24:53Like, are we even compatible?
24:55So what's your personality type?
24:57Honestly, I just like for somebody to just be themselves.
25:00No, I know what you mean.
25:01Yeah, so that's what I like.
25:02Yeah, for sure.
25:03A person that just knows themselves, you know?
25:05Okay.
25:06I think I know myself pretty well.
25:07I could tell.
25:16This is cute.
25:17The women are in power this week, but I haven't had a lot of time to spend with Ashante,
25:23so I invited her out for a very fun date.
25:26We're going to tie-dye some stuff in downtown Detroit.
25:28Hey, how you doing?
25:31All right.
25:32How are you?
25:33Good.
25:34How are you?
25:35Good.
25:36Going into this date, Steven and I are cool, but I still feel like I don't really know him
25:41that well, so hopefully today I can figure out if we could be a vibe or not.
25:46Push down and twist.
25:47Yeah, just keep going.
25:48Is this right?
25:49Yeah.
25:50Yeah, that's great.
25:51I like to make art, music.
25:54I like to create, and I want somebody who appreciates that stuff.
25:57So to do something like tie-dye, I love it.
26:00You know what I'm saying?
26:01You can't go wrong with a yellow.
26:02That's all I got to say.
26:03I love yellow.
26:04You see me with the yellow on it?
26:05I knew.
26:06You knew something.
26:07I listened.
26:08I knew something.
26:09You remind me 100%.
26:12Uh-oh.
26:13Of like when I was growing up in Flint, the girls I was around, which I like.
26:17So I'm saying that as super positive.
26:19I'm like, man, she make me feel like when I was a kid again or whatever.
26:22Mm-hmm.
26:23Like you got such a good personality.
26:24Thanks.
26:25So how do you like, how is your date in life?
26:28Like do you date often?
26:30It's just like based upon what's going on.
26:32Time, life, work.
26:34How long would you be in a relationship with somebody before you marry them?
26:37I don't put time on things like that.
26:40Like I was married briefly, but we got a divorce.
26:42I mean, we were together though since like 15.
26:45Okay.
26:46So your high school sweetheart.
26:47High school sweethearts, playground sweethearts.
26:48Mm-hmm.
26:49You know, um, all of that.
26:51Why didn't it work out?
26:52We grew apart.
26:53Uh, ultimately we got together so young.
26:56Once we became older, kind of views weren't always the same.
26:59It's usually like that.
27:00Yeah.
27:01But y'all get along.
27:02Yeah.
27:03We cope very well.
27:04That's good.
27:05Like what do you have in mind when it comes to dating and your future?
27:08Um, I want to have a wife.
27:10Like I want my wife to do stuff.
27:12Right.
27:13I don't want her to be someone who's just like, mm, just hurting the kids.
27:16No, no, no, no.
27:17I want her to have like some sort of a passion.
27:20So like I do like that you got passions already on your own.
27:23So I'm somebody that like, I kind of get off on that.
27:25Like, yo, that's dope.
27:26My girl did that.
27:27That's cool.
27:28That's cool.
27:29I like that.
27:30What about you though?
27:31My vision is having enough freedom to where like we could travel everywhere.
27:34Yeah.
27:35Right?
27:36Let the world be the main school for the kids.
27:39Share new experiences.
27:40Go new places.
27:42Just that's kind of how I see it.
27:43Hey, we saw we got a lot in common already.
27:45Yeah.
27:46So I expressed to you that I was interested, you know, a few times.
27:51But you are interested though, right?
27:53I am.
27:54Okay.
27:55I like for the dialogue to be like both ways.
27:57Even though I know you were busy and you did apologize to say that.
28:00But it's just, I like to feel like the person that's interested in me too.
28:03So what does that look like to you?
28:05Just here and there, like texting like a morning.
28:07Like just show me you're interested.
28:08Like communicate.
28:09Ed does have a very soft spirit.
28:13He's very mysterious.
28:14He's very laid back.
28:15He's very chill.
28:16That's why I was attracted to his spirit.
28:18But I do want to peel back more layers and see why he's the way he is.
28:23Because maybe there's a wall up.
28:25Duchess.
28:26I'm ready.
28:27You ready to love?
28:28Yeah, I'm ready to love.
28:33Well, since we have one on a date now.
28:35Mm-hmm.
28:36It's only right.
28:37It's past you.
28:39I should have been got the phone number.
28:41I'm going to give you a fake one.
28:43I'm going to give you a fake one.
28:45I'm going to give you a fake one.
28:46My connection with Steve is definitely way stronger after our date.
28:51I called it.
28:52Oh, good.
28:53Yeah.
28:54I shined out.
28:55You said it right.
28:56I know how to say your name.
28:57What I like most is the fact that he wants to be a family man.
29:01And he want to do all the cute little corny stuff.
29:04And like I'm kind of excited to see if we can get to that point.
29:08But I'm ready for my second date with Steve.
29:11I can get dressed right now.
29:13All I want to do is play with you.
29:16And all I want to do is oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh.
29:20Ooh.
29:21Da, da, da, da, da, da.
29:25When you do it, da, da, da, da, da, da.
29:27Please do it right.
29:28Da, da, da, da, da.
29:30In my heart, you'll make me go with it.
29:33Hey, Tommy.
29:34It's Shannon.
29:35Wine, water, beverages.
29:37Hi.
29:38Hi.
29:39Hi.
29:40Ashley and Nicole.
29:41Christina.
29:42Hello.
29:43Walking into Tommy's Lounge, I am extremely interested to start hearing some tea.
29:49Because, baby, I would love to see how all these other women are interacting with my connection.
29:55So I'm excited.
29:57Welcome back, ladies.
29:58I know this is an eventful week.
30:00We're probably going to need some more wine, huh?
30:02Yes.
30:03Hopefully.
30:04As y'all know, your assignment for the week was to take the men to your favorite spots.
30:10That's got some meaning to you.
30:12So let's get into it.
30:14Who are we connecting with?
30:16Positive vibes on.
30:18Ashanti.
30:19I gotta go first.
30:20What?
30:21Put it up first.
30:23Steven is really well put together, really cool.
30:26We went to a tie-dye shop.
30:27We made T-shirts.
30:29I feel like we had a good time.
30:30He laughed.
30:31We laughed.
30:32A lot of green flags.
30:33And I also like Cardi.
30:34I'm a vegan chef.
30:35So I invited a few of us out to see Cookin' with Q.
30:39And we had a good time.
30:40When he first sat down with me and looked at me and smiled, his face is so bright.
30:47And I just couldn't help but to smile.
30:50But that baby couldn't cut a carry.
30:55Nicole.
30:56Devine and I, we had a date and we played cricket.
30:59And it was a lot of fun.
31:00Conversations have always been great.
31:02They've been natural.
31:03I think he's an awesome person.
31:04Ed is definitely a manly man.
31:07He, like, holds my hands when he's talking to me.
31:10And, like, physical touch is one of my love languages as well.
31:13So I really, really appreciate it.
31:15He's a nice guy.
31:16I like that he's very chilled and laid back.
31:18The only problem with that is I like people that like me.
31:21And he shows it a bit.
31:23Like, he kind of, like, throw a little sprinkle in there and then bag away.
31:26And, um, me and Darius literally be on the phone for hours.
31:29He is definitely a masculine provider.
31:32He know his words.
31:33And I love that.
31:34I like that.
31:35Mm-hmm.
31:36Company, you invited some people to your home.
31:38How was it having Bello in your space?
31:40I was like, welcome home, baby.
31:44Hey!
31:45And when he came in, you know, we had a special greeting that nobody else saw.
31:49I felt that the spirit led me.
31:51The spirit led you to do what?
31:53What happened?
31:54What y'all doing at this door?
31:55Well, a lady never kisses the tail, but I received it.
31:57And it was received back.
31:58So that's all that needs to be known.
32:00All right, all right.
32:02All right.
32:03Now comes the tough part.
32:04Who are you ladies not feeling?
32:07Well, from jump, I've been telling everybody, like, I want a kind man.
32:11But Vince and I, we just don't click.
32:13The energy just seems combative.
32:15Why are you being so vice-y?
32:17Like, you just...
32:18I'd like to add to what you're saying.
32:21He was physically aggressive.
32:24The comedy, it was intense.
32:26He's very vocal and very in-your-face type of thing.
32:30Even how he refers to some of the women, like...
32:32Mm-hmm.
32:33How does he refer to some of the women?
32:34Now, granted, this is pillow talking.
32:37It's like, oh, he's referring to, oh, that B thought I would like her because of...
32:41Whoa, so we're already done.
32:42He is the B word?
32:43We're saying the B word?
32:44Yeah, okay.
32:45He is the B word.
32:46Like, did anybody actually hear him call somebody a B word?
32:48Because I would like to give him the benefit of the doubt.
32:51I heard he said it.
32:52And it was said about you.
32:53Yeah, it was.
32:54Say what now?
32:55He called you.
32:56Yeah, girl.
32:57What's about you?
32:58You was the tall bitch.
32:59I was the bitch.
33:00You were the B word.
33:01I better not hear that B word.
33:02Mm.
33:03At all.
33:04And if you hear it, I want to know you heard.
33:06Okay.
33:07All right, Christine.
33:08Anybody else?
33:09Not a connection.
33:10Bello, for me, I asked three of my interests.
33:13Yeah, I would love to go to a spa.
33:14It would make me feel so special.
33:16Chris gave me an understanding answer.
33:18I would love to, but I'm not in a position right now.
33:21The second one, he ended up, um, sending money.
33:24Where's your cash at?
33:25Absolutely.
33:26Who did that?
33:27Who was that?
33:28Devon.
33:29Devon?
33:30Yes.
33:31When people didn't respond, I felt like you fell into the weak category.
33:34And at that point, you're not interested in me, and that's fine.
33:36I felt like Christina was messy.
33:39To me, it was, like, very na-na-na-na-na-na.
33:41He did this for me.
33:42And I thought it was very classless and tacky.
33:46Shayna.
33:47Xavier, he gives me uncle vibes.
33:50Big unk.
33:51Big unk.
33:52Like, he's very wise.
33:54He has...
33:55Ready to live 65.
33:56Very much so, yes.
33:57It's just not a connection, no.
33:59I just feel like he's just old acting.
34:02Like, you can still be fun and spontaneous, and I just feel like he can't keep up with
34:07me.
34:08And I want to have fun with my guy, you know?
34:10We finally got a chance to talk at Shannon's house.
34:12He said, well, I'd like to move slow.
34:14And I said, well, it hasn't worked in the past.
34:17Has this process made you reconsider the way that you are going to approach love, relationships,
34:23women?
34:24And he said no.
34:25Oh.
34:26And so for me, I was like, okay.
34:29All right.
34:30So now comes the hard part.
34:32I want you to take these guys out on a date, and let them know if they are just not ready
34:39to love.
34:40Mm.
34:41Y'all got it?
34:42Yeah.
34:43Yeah.
34:44All right, ladies.
34:45Y'all sit here and chill.
34:46Think about it.
34:47Talk about it.
34:48And I'mma, uh...
34:49Yeah.
34:50Bye.
34:51Bye.
34:52Bye.
34:53Woo!
34:54I don't want to send anybody home, because I feel like we all came here with a purpose.
34:59But it is a relief that now I'm getting closer to the person that I need to be with.
35:04Everybody get prepared.
35:05Put your big girl boots on.
35:06I got mine on right now.
35:07Okay, y'all.
35:08Let's go do that.
35:09Yes.
35:10Let's go do it.
35:11Let's rewritten.
35:12Cheers.
35:13We are ready to love.
35:14We are ready to love.
35:15We are ready to love.
35:18Let this show live.
35:20Sorry I don't believe it.
35:21Why you're always like that and say you want to bite everybody on your mind.
35:28So, the women are empowered this week and Donna has invited me out.
35:33out I am a little nervous a little anxious about why I'm invited out but I
35:43am optimistic and I'm ready to hear what you know what Donna has to say I did
35:48order for it so I appreciate that should be coming yeah just you know I'd like to
35:52knock that edge off no reason for you to see that Dominique set up a date with us at the
36:12syndicate and he looks great well you smell good thank you thank you I do know that the ladies met
36:20with Tommy today so that's likely someone's going home but I don't really have any nerves
36:25tonight felt like date night how'd you know look like that's what you like to me and old-fashioned
36:32look a little old-fashioned to me oh we got a pretzel can I have one
36:36so um the ladies met with Tommy today and there was some feedback that um
36:50could be worked through you referred to at least one of the ladies as a bitch
36:55oh so there's a question mark about you using that language obviously we were having a joke
37:02with a joking conversation you and the guys yeah me and the guys and I I did use the word but I
37:08wasn't calling the you know I wasn't calling it the lady of you know well that is a concern
37:14okay okay um is that something that you are willing to to work on I feel like that is something
37:22that I probably need to work on because the first thing I think about is my daughter it's the first
37:27thing I always think about so I wouldn't want her to feel like you know are you dad I wouldn't want
37:34her to feel like that and so I don't want to do that so I had a conversation with the ladies and
37:40they feel some kind of way it feels like you're not taking an initiative to actually make a connection
37:45there's a verse to not cast your pearls amongst one and I've learned to be somewhat guarded in
37:54what I allow people to see in myself so if I'm with the with someone that I don't think can value
38:02certain aspects of me I would try to keep it surfaced
38:05the last point of concern a few ladies mentioned your bluntness and some people took it as these
38:12two opinionated well it's challenging to not always speak my mind I don't want to be a politician I
38:21don't want to leave anybody guessing as far as what I feel and what I think and if somebody can't
38:28understand that they can get gone every lady was like no one stops us in here why never ask me for
38:36my number you can ask nobody so like you are all beautiful women but I did not want to act too
38:44quickly in my opinion up to this point it was still early now we've been here long enough and I am
38:52going to start being more intentional so you do know you late you late to the park I feel like
38:58if I was to be less passionate it's going to hurt other parts of my life so I understand that but a few
39:07ladies felt like it was just too strong for them
39:09um well ultimately the ladies did decide that unfortunately Xavier
39:22you are still ready to love um which I am personally happy about because I still look forward to really
39:31connecting with you well I'm happy about that also it feels really good to hear feedback I don't
39:39know how people take me or how people take what I say and so I can work on some things and I can
39:44correct some things and this is technically our first date technically this is the first time me
39:50and you got one of them it's not that heavy it's not that heavy it's heavy for a first date it's not that heavy
39:56I'm appreciative of the understanding that Donna had I'm appreciative to still be a part of this
40:02experience I didn't think it was that heavy okay if you're okay then I'm okay
40:06you're not ready to love okay the journey don't stop no it doesn't and your person is out there
40:14you just gotta attempt to move forward and do the work I get that I expected to be here longer I wanted
40:21to be here longer but I brought myself and that wasn't enough I came in open-hearted open-minded
40:27and uh this is where it is so no love lost I think the feedback that the ladies gave was very valid
40:34and I accepted for what it is so for that I continue to be a student of life and um I hold my head high
40:42next time on ready to love I am hosting a throwback 70s Motown Dance Park
40:54you ever get overwhelmed by a presence of a person even with this wig on the wig I was receiving that
41:05man I liked him a friend of mine has been called a bitch you using the b-word that's crazy if you
41:13can't take care of me as well as my daddy take care of my mom with 39 years I don't want it
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