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Ready to Love - Season 11 Episode 4 -
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00:00I'm manifesting that I came to the right place to meet my man.
00:05Cheers to that.
00:06Cheers to some alone time.
00:08Cheers to the alone time.
00:10This ain't long enough.
00:13I classified you as Jyar.
00:15But you didn't get to know him.
00:16A lot of women feel this way about you.
00:19That's ludicrous.
00:20Do you let your children just watch what they want without finding out what they're watching first?
00:23You can't control everything that they watch.
00:25You can't control everything that they see.
00:26Yeah, you gotta monitor some things, though.
00:28It was an awkward conversation with Emily.
00:31The fellas have some things to say.
00:32You have a barrier.
00:34They feel that you are not ready to love.
00:38No, it took me some time to get to the place that you wanted me to be.
00:45But now I'm ready.
00:48I'm ready to love.
00:54I'm feeling it.
00:55I'm going to start this show.
00:58Come on, you're going for no one.
01:00You can't tell me that.
01:02And I'll lie.
01:04Oh, I'll lie.
01:04Oh, I'll lie.
01:06Hi, Tommy.
01:07Miss Donna, how you doing?
01:09I'm doing well.
01:10Ashley.
01:10Miss Ashley.
01:11How are you?
01:12Walking into Tommy's lounge, I was stunned.
01:15I was like, ooh, this is classy.
01:16It looked like a small winery where you just come in, relax, chill, and just have girl talk.
01:22I'm Monique.
01:23Tommy.
01:23How you doing?
01:24I'm amazing.
01:25I'm like, this is Tommy all day.
01:27But this is Detroit, too.
01:28So I'm ready.
01:29All right, ladies.
01:30Welcome to your first Tommy lounge.
01:32Hey.
01:32Hey.
01:33This is my speakeasy while I'm in Detroit.
01:35Is it classy enough for you?
01:36Yes.
01:37Classy.
01:37I love it here.
01:38Great.
01:38This is the safe haven to talk about the connections that you're making and the ones you're not making.
01:45And do not forget the golden rule.
01:49What happens in the lounge stays in the lounge.
01:53We got it?
01:54Yes.
01:55Now, let's get to this week's assignment.
01:57Where you live and where you spend your time says a lot about who you are.
02:01So this week, you are taking your men to the Detroit spots that mean the most to you.
02:07Can you picture them fitting into your world long term?
02:12At the end of the week, we're going to meet back here.
02:14And you guys are going to decide who is and who isn't.
02:18Ready to love.
02:19Sound good?
02:20Yes.
02:20Yes.
02:21I think a lot of people know me to be a pageant girl.
02:24But I know how to get down and dirty.
02:27I know how to have a good time.
02:28So I'm excited for these guys to know I'm not just this.
02:31I can be a different type of person as well.
02:33All right.
02:34Now, listen.
02:35Clean these houses before they come over there.
02:37Take care of me.
02:41All right.
02:41Guaranteed.
02:42Y'all be good.
02:55The women are in power this week.
02:57And Tommy's assignment for us is to bring them into our personal space.
03:01So I invited Tavon, Kristina, Chris, and Bello into my home.
03:07Hey!
03:10Girl.
03:11Oh, you look gorgeous.
03:12You too.
03:13I love this.
03:14All of it.
03:14You look great.
03:15Well, thank you.
03:16Long day.
03:18I'm ready.
03:18I'm ready.
03:19Hello.
03:19I'm ready.
03:19I'm ready.
03:20Hello.
03:20All right.
03:21Oh, man.
03:23Oh, man.
03:23Oh, man.
03:24Don't you smell good?
03:25It always smells good.
03:26Mm.
03:27Get it on the flow.
03:29Get it.
03:29Get it on the flow.
03:30Dominique just invited me for a double date at her house.
03:34And she said she can make some oxtail, and I'm an oxtail connoisseur.
03:39So I'm excited to see what she whipped up, how it tastes, and give her a little critique.
03:45Woo!
03:47How you doing?
03:51Hi.
03:53Hi.
03:54Hi.
03:56I've wanted to kiss Bello since the first date we had, so it was natural to me.
04:00It felt real.
04:01I dreamed about that and he didn't disappoint.
04:04We're going to do a shot together?
04:05Maybe I'll lick it off you.
04:10My connection with Dominique is undeniable.
04:12There's like an electricity between the two of us.
04:14But Christina is somebody that I also have a connection with.
04:17So I felt like it was going to be awkward.
04:18The party is final now.
04:20There you go.
04:21Yes, sir.
04:22He took his title already, guys.
04:23Oh, we did.
04:24Nice.
04:25I'm like, why they got me doing a double date with my two people?
04:28I'm like, damn, I'm getting exposed here.
04:31We're going to try to finish this bottle.
04:33Let's go.
04:34But I'm going to feed you first so we can be responsible.
04:36All right.
04:37Absolutely.
04:38Whose favorite food is Jamaican?
04:39I would assume it's you.
04:40My favorite food is Jamaican.
04:41OK.
04:42I'm looking for the oxtail, so you guys can do whatever you want.
04:46I feel like Dominique catering the meal to Bello, I can definitely tell she is into him.
04:52It seems like we may like the same men.
04:55So it just let me know.
04:57Bring your A-game.
04:58And I'm going to give the best.
05:01I'm so hungry right now.
05:02Serious.
05:03What?
05:04How's it tasting?
05:05How's it tasting?
05:06Mm.
05:07You ate it cold, so it's good.
05:08It got to be.
05:09He ate it cold.
05:10He was in here by himself, just like, what else?
05:13As he should.
05:14I feel like I got to see how grounded Dominique really is.
05:18She cooked all that food.
05:20She put all the time and energy into making sure that her home was welcoming to us.
05:24That was dope.
05:25But I wish she had asked to cook my favorite meal.
05:28You can learn to make sushi.
05:29You could have done that for me.
05:30So sorry.
05:32Do you mind if I steal it for two seconds?
05:34Oh, don't steal, man.
05:35You know what I'm saying?
05:36You mind if I come on?
05:37Go for it.
05:38Go for it.
05:39OK.
05:40I'm like, I'm still there.
05:41It's safe to say that Christina is probably my strongest connection.
05:45Her and I have, like, a really good chemistry.
05:47So I think it's just very easy going with me and her.
05:50Well, you are stunning.
05:51Aw, thank you.
05:53You know what's so funny?
05:54I grew up from a place where I thought I was fat and ugly, you know?
05:56Really?
05:57Being called pig and pudgy.
05:58And I felt bad for that little girl.
06:00Even though we've grown past those moments, those moments still, like, are there.
06:04I want to say I got teased a lot, but there was teasing.
06:09I had a big gap before I had braces.
06:12I had hair issues.
06:14So what it did for me is I had to develop other skills to be able to compete with the
06:18guy that played football.
06:19Yeah.
06:20I think that to be able to...
06:21It was needed.
06:22Yeah.
06:23Because you had to grow.
06:24I would say I'm grateful that I was able to go through that hardship because it humbled
06:27me.
06:28Chris and I have such a great connection when it comes to our upbringings and being able
06:33to relate to one another.
06:34He definitely made me feel like he was into me, even though there was another really
06:39beautiful woman around.
06:41I'm happy to be here.
06:42I'm happy to have you.
06:44Why are you looking at me like that?
06:46Because I want you.
06:47What?
06:48What?
06:49What about me do you want?
06:52All of you.
06:53Everything.
06:54At this point, my connection with Bello is pretty intense, but I want to pull back
06:59some layers with Devon.
07:01Thank you for letting me meet your mom, too.
07:03I'm FaceTiming us today.
07:04Yeah, yeah, yeah.
07:05If you FaceTime me, you're liable to meet anybody in my family, because I'm always with
07:08my family.
07:09My kids.
07:10Mm-hmm.
07:11My mom, my daddy, my brothers.
07:12That's my tribe.
07:13I think about having a family like that.
07:15Like, that's one of the main reasons I want to have kids.
07:17So, if I don't have kids, is that a deal breaker for you?
07:20No.
07:21Who's that brother?
07:22Again.
07:23Mm-hmm.
07:24You just say you wanted many kids.
07:26Well, if I had kids.
07:27That's probably not going to happen for me.
07:29Would you ever consider adopting?
07:31Absolutely.
07:32Yeah?
07:33Yeah.
07:34I think that I am a dope enough person to do that, because what was taken from me, it
07:38was, you know, pretty painful.
07:40Yeah.
07:41So, if I could experience loving somebody who needs that love, I would do that.
07:45I think it's a beautiful thing.
07:47So, you open to that?
07:48Yeah.
07:49Experiencing two miscarriages, the pain that that put me through, I don't think I could
07:53go through that again.
07:54So, the fact that Devon is open to adoption, I love that.
07:58You learn something every day, right?
07:59Mm-hmm.
08:00How you doing, Cece?
08:01I'm doing good.
08:02I'm doing good.
08:03I had this first time seeing you tonight.
08:04It's been a minute since I've seen you.
08:06Yeah, I know.
08:07We had some phone conversations, though.
08:09Yeah, this is true.
08:10The long ones.
08:11Yes.
08:12Yes.
08:13Like, I'm like, dang, we on the phone for, like, damn near two hours.
08:15I don't know.
08:16I feel like I should have had a two-hour conversation with someone else.
08:19Watching Bello and Dominique interact, it's very clear that he is into her.
08:23But even if that is the case, he can still make me feel special.
08:27So, we definitely have to discuss the elephant in the room.
08:30Why?
08:31You know, I'm a sharpshooter, baby.
08:32I'm gonna tell you how I feel.
08:34So, you don't feel like I show you love?
08:36Mm.
08:37You have to be on the phone, like, two hours.
08:40In one of those conversations I told you, men care about their money.
08:42Mm-hmm.
08:43Right?
08:44And in order for a man to show he really cares, he has to spend some money.
08:48Mm-hmm.
08:49Three different men.
08:50I asked three different men.
08:51My body's so sore, I feel like I need a massage.
08:53One answer was, dang, I would love to, but I'm not in the position right now.
08:57I understand that.
08:58Oh, my God, you're used to a $300 massage?
09:01Let me send you $150.
09:02Matter of fact, here's $180, because that's what I have to offer.
09:05That's a real-ass answer.
09:06I'm not gonna call your answer weeks, but you didn't get one.
09:09Hmm.
09:10No, I did give an answer.
09:11Nope.
09:12You responded with, oh, you know, I didn't even see this.
09:15You said that you felt like you wanted a massage in the morning.
09:18I didn't get the message till 3 p.m.
09:19Do you think that I couldn't get a massage in the evening?
09:21If a man wants to come and take care of me, you gotta understand what that entails, right?
09:25This situation made Christina drop on my list just because she just seems like she wants
09:31my money.
09:32And if that is the narrative of the relationship, you gotta recalibrate.
09:35And I'm just giving you where my perspective is, so that you can either align with what
09:40you really want or gracefully bow out, because I don't play games.
09:44I feel like if you are unable to make me feel special, like I stand out from the bunch, then
09:49I don't know if I'm yours.
09:51So it's not a competition, baby.
09:53And if you ain't him, I understand, because I'm her in my world.
10:08The assignment this week is to invite guys into our personal spaces.
10:12So I invited Yvonne to the batting club today, and I am super excited because today we're
10:16gonna do something fun.
10:17We're playing cricket.
10:18Hey!
10:19Hey!
10:20How are you?
10:21I'm good.
10:22How are you doing?
10:23Ever since skating, me and him have been talking on the phone every single night.
10:27So I'm really looking forward to seeing if that chemistry can translate in person.
10:31So we are going to play some cricket.
10:34Okay.
10:35Have you ever played?
10:36Never.
10:37Do you know what it is?
10:38It's kind of like tennis, right?
10:39Tennis, baseball, Greek life.
10:42I mean, something all of the above.
10:45Dominique is my boo.
10:47Every time me and Dominique are around each other, we got this flirtatious energy.
10:51But I like Nicole.
10:53She is very easy to talk to, down to earth, smart.
10:56We had a strong connection right from the very first mixer.
11:00And now it's time to see where we can take that.
11:06All right, here we go.
11:07Okay.
11:09Wow.
11:10Strike one.
11:11Okay.
11:19My cricket skills, for this being the first time I've ever played it,
11:23it's pretty nice.
11:24I was knocking them out the park.
11:25All right, they coming fast.
11:26Be ready.
11:27Ah!
11:29Sometimes.
11:30You ready?
11:31Yes.
11:34That's one.
11:35Oh, okay.
11:36This is hard.
11:38I love competition.
11:39I'm in it to win it.
11:40But it was so hard.
11:41I was just freaking out.
11:42It's heavy.
11:43You need some strength to do this.
11:44Okay, now I feel bad that I talked smack because that was way harder than it looked.
11:49It was very hard, right?
11:50Yes.
11:52You did a great job.
11:54Now, I do want to ask you, what's an ideal woman for you?
11:58I need someone who's smart.
11:59Okay.
12:00I need someone who's kind and thinks about the world.
12:03Okay.
12:04Beyond themselves.
12:05I would say something very similar.
12:06I feel a strong sense of responsibility in a lot of areas.
12:11And I tend to step up in, like, leadership roles when I feel like change needs to happen in different spaces.
12:17I want to make a change.
12:18Me too.
12:19Yes.
12:20I think if I find the right partner, someone who supports me, encourages me, like, I think that, you know, we can do this thing together.
12:26That's core to who I am.
12:29I do think that we have a lot in common.
12:31Yeah.
12:32We share a lot of similarities.
12:33If nothing else, I know we can have a good time together.
12:36I'm excited to see, like, where this goes and, you know, what happens in this journey.
12:41I think the date went really, really well.
12:43We surprisingly had a lot in common.
12:45And I feel like I am starting to see who he is as a person.
12:48So I think that we can blossom into something more.
12:51What a great first date.
12:52I know.
12:53I'm so excited.
12:54This week, we're supposed to be inviting the men into our personal spaces.
13:07And I invite Ed, Donna, Xavier, and Darius to my humble abode.
13:12Hey, what's going on here?
13:13How you doing?
13:14How you doing?
13:15What I've asked them to do is bring something meaningful to them or something that they feel comfortable sharing with the group.
13:22So I know that everyone brought their personal item.
13:26And I think that we should all share them.
13:29I'll go first.
13:30Hold on.
13:31Hold on.
13:32Hold on.
13:33Hold on.
13:34I have a joyful feeling every time I see Shannon.
13:35So to spend time with her and getting to know her, I mean, it makes me happy.
13:39This is a dilation wheel.
13:42Um, and it's used to help students or just any practitioner who is doing cervical checks for when people are in labor.
13:53Yeah, basically, if you, what are you doing?
13:57I'm just making sure you dilated.
14:00The best part of this triple date was the show and share.
14:05Do it like me.
14:06Can't do it like me.
14:07No, no.
14:08The personal idol I'm bringing is a rose that my grandmother gave me at her home going service.
14:14Uh, I appreciate her every bit that she gave to me and I miss her dearly, even as a grown ass man.
14:21I spent 10 years coaching dance.
14:24When I retired, I passed it off to some of the young ladies who I had coached originally.
14:28And this was just one of the things that we got for ourselves and for the girls.
14:33Like, just to have around our house and kind of memory of the teams.
14:38This was sent to me from my cousin slash brother.
14:42A couple weeks later, he was sent on a tour and he was killed in active duty.
14:47Everybody dug deep, sharing things that were very personal to them.
14:51And I think it helped bring us all closer together.
14:55So this is an outfit, actually, when I had my firstborn, that my mother, you know, she decided to sew and give it to my daughter as a gift.
15:03Wow.
15:04So she's 20 now, so I still have this outfit.
15:06My mother used to actually sew my clothes for me.
15:10She ended up passing away in, uh, 2012.
15:14So I got my passion for fashion for my mother.
15:17Oh, man.
15:18Yeah.
15:19She lives on.
15:20Oh, man.
15:21Hold on.
15:22Give me a second.
15:23Seeing Darius be vulnerable about his mother, it actually just confirms to me the type of man that he is.
15:30He's very caring and he does things, like, with a purpose.
15:34So I appreciate it.
15:35I didn't want to bring the mood down.
15:37You're not.
15:38You brought the mood up, brother.
15:39Yeah.
15:40Yeah.
15:41You brought the mood up.
15:42My first impression of Darius was not the best, but he was extremely vulnerable.
15:47He told his story from his heart, and I was surprised.
15:52The story helped me create some more understanding around who he is.
15:57So maybe we might finally get a chance to talk tonight.
16:00I know.
16:01Because you know every time we're about to have a conversation, you're interrupted.
16:04I've said that, like, three times.
16:07It's a thing at this point.
16:08Getting a chance to sit down and have a conversation with Donna is a long time coming.
16:14I definitely have some interest, so I hope we have a great conversation that would allow for a deeper connection.
16:21So do you feel like you've made a connection?
16:23With a couple people, I have interests, but I can't really call it a connection.
16:28Okay.
16:29Because I think it would be, I'm really slow to move.
16:31Oh, okay.
16:32So.
16:33Have you tried to contact any of the ladies outside of, like, seeing them in these more organized spaces?
16:40I've talked to one person, and that wasn't the vibe.
16:43And that's no jab at anybody, but that's just a nod to how I prefer to live.
16:49So has this experience made you reconsider not how fast, necessarily, you need to move, but how you approach dating?
17:01Not at all.
17:02So this was the most I've spoken to Xavier.
17:05I did appreciate the conversation because I got at least a little bit more insight, but he didn't really seem into the process.
17:14This is, like, the first date?
17:16Well, I've been on a one date, a group date.
17:19So, yeah.
17:20So you haven't had any one-on-ones?
17:21I haven't.
17:22Yeah.
17:23I'm trying to make this a one-on-one right now.
17:26We definitely can make this a one-on-one.
17:28When I see Shannon, she has, like, an upper echelon, very polished vibe, sort of like Michelle Obama, first lady of the city type of thing.
17:38So there's definitely attraction.
17:40So it's a school over here.
17:43I was over here recently because I had one.
17:45The mathematics and science one?
17:46Yeah.
17:47Yeah.
17:48So I had a speaking engagement there.
17:50I speak to the kids about my path of life, of having an opportunity.
17:54So, you know, kids are like, why did you start boxing?
17:58And then you get the, um, have you ever been knocked out?
18:01You know?
18:02Wait, have you been knocked out?
18:03Never.
18:04Okay.
18:05But, you know, these hands aren't just made for her, you know, protection as well.
18:09Okay.
18:10You know, I enjoy cooking, too.
18:11I like that.
18:12You know, so nourishment.
18:13Yeah.
18:14The physicality between me and Ed is just superb.
18:18It's comforting.
18:20It makes me feel protected, and I just love that.
18:27And, you know, these hands give some of the best massages.
18:31Okay.
18:32I like that.
18:33This is north of the Mason-Dixon.
18:34Do you like that?
18:35I like that a lot.
18:46So, Tommy's assignment this week is allowing the guys to come into our personal space.
18:51So, I decided to put together a nice little cooking class for a few of us.
18:56Show up what you got.
18:57Show up what you got.
18:58Show up what you got.
18:59Why not?
19:00Show it up for the cat.
19:01Oh.
19:03Oh, cute.
19:04Hi.
19:05How are you?
19:06I'm good.
19:07I'm so excited for today.
19:09Obviously, I am a private chef, and I wanted to give everybody a little taste of what I do all the time.
19:16Hi.
19:17Welcome, family.
19:18How are you?
19:19Hello.
19:20Good to see you.
19:21Hi, cutie.
19:22Thanks.
19:23I am super excited that Ashante invited myself, Cardi, and Vince out today.
19:28Hey, Vince.
19:29Hello.
19:30What up, dog?
19:31Hi.
19:32How are we?
19:33I'm looking forward to chatting it up with Vince because he seems like a good guy.
19:37So, I'm excited to see what the chemistry is like in a more intimate setting with him.
19:41Take your stations.
19:42Let me tell you what we're going to do first.
19:44In the kitchen, when you pick up a knife, we all say sharp.
19:46So, I pick up a knife and say what?
19:47Sharp.
19:48Nice job.
19:49So, for you guys, the first thing you guys are doing, we're chopping.
19:52That's what you're doing.
19:53When you're done, we're going to put it inside of the pan.
19:54Love it.
19:55So, y'all, step over here.
19:56Get to chopping.
19:57Okay, yeah, yeah.
19:58Okay.
19:59You know how to hold a knife?
20:00No, wait a second.
20:01How are you going?
20:02You're like you're going to cut yourself.
20:03No.
20:04Okay.
20:05Don't put that on me.
20:06Like this.
20:07Okay, yeah.
20:08Okay.
20:09You got more control.
20:10And then, yeah.
20:11Hold it like.
20:12Yeah.
20:13Yeah.
20:14Okay.
20:15For your mushrooms.
20:16The easiest way for you to cut mushrooms is if you cut it in half.
20:21I can literally.
20:22Oh my goodness.
20:23Ooh.
20:24Boom.
20:25Got it.
20:26Look at that.
20:27Your turn.
20:29Get in there.
20:30Get on that mushroom.
20:31Get in there.
20:32Sharp.
20:34Okay.
20:35Stop.
20:36Try something.
20:37Give me the first five.
20:38Sharp.
20:39He screamed shark one more time with that knife.
20:42I'm going to run up out of here.
20:44Sharp.
20:46It's giving, yeah.
20:47Sharp.
20:48It's driving me crazy.
20:50Sharp.
20:57Y'all did a good job.
20:58This is, it's giving what it's supposed to give.
21:00Awesome.
21:01I'm going to let y'all sit it on down so you can enjoy your drink.
21:04So, uh, how have you been?
21:06I, I...
21:07I've been good.
21:08I've been good.
21:09I've been enjoying texting you.
21:10It's been insightful conversation.
21:11Yes.
21:12I think Lauren is beautiful.
21:13We have chemistry there.
21:14So, I'm really excited to talk more one-on-one and have good conversations.
21:18Your kids are really, I think, important to you, I can say.
21:19Sure.
21:20You know?
21:21Do you have any other passions that you aren't doing now?
21:24Oh, yeah.
21:25That I am not?
21:26No, that you aren't doing.
21:27That you want to do?
21:28No, I'm doing everything.
21:29That you want to do?
21:30Yeah.
21:31People have kids and they get lost in having a kid.
21:32They do.
21:33They do.
21:34And that's never been me.
21:35If you're not fulfilled as a mom, your kids know it.
21:37I'm able to show up for them because I'm able to show up for myself.
21:40So...
21:41There you go.
21:42Yeah.
21:43Exactly.
21:44Me, I would say the only thing that I'm not doing right now that I want to...
21:46I want to get my things on my pilot license.
21:48Oh, my gosh.
21:49Are you serious?
21:50I'm dead serious.
21:51Yeah.
21:52That's cool.
21:53I've got about like 60 hours now, which is not a lot.
21:55But, you know, sometimes when you have kids, you got to do other things to take a step back.
21:58So it's like that's what I really want to like focus up and then do.
22:02I appreciate Cardi because he's funny.
22:06He's sweet and confident.
22:08So I'm looking forward to growing our bond together.
22:11You are definitely a different vibe than anything that I...
22:16You do.
22:18So...
22:19So...
22:20We haven't spoke much to each other.
22:22If you could categorize some things that you may say that Vince has to work on,
22:27Remember we asked you the question about like, oh, how do you want your woman to contribute to the household?
22:32And you was like, well, if she's not satisfied with what I'm contributing to the household,
22:36then maybe she needs to contribute to the household.
22:38How do you feel about 50-50?
22:40Would you be paying 100%?
22:42It depends on the lifestyle that whoever I'm with wants to live.
22:46And we make 150.
22:48If that's fine with you, then that's fine.
22:50But if you saying, I think that we need to be up to 250, then you go get you 100, you know what I'm saying?
22:56It's whatever you're comfortable with.
22:58No, let me say what was said, because I don't want you to like miss...
23:02What you meant?
23:03No, I'll tell you what I actually said.
23:05Okay.
23:06What did you say?
23:07If I have, you know, a $150,000 job, and I'm providing a lifestyle, if she's okay with that, she don't got to work at all.
23:18Right.
23:19But if she's like, well, unless I want to do this, or I want to do something different, then either she would say I'm going to do this to contribute, or she would help me and my business to grow for more than what we have.
23:34Does that make sense or does it not make sense?
23:35It makes a lot of sense.
23:36Okay.
23:37I'm talking to Vince, and the energy just seems a little bit combative.
23:41What I just said right now, did you hear that?
23:43Right this second?
23:44Yeah.
23:45Yeah.
23:46I'm sorry, but did you hear that then?
23:47No.
23:48Okay, so that's what I'm saying.
23:49I don't have it in me to go back and forth with a man, so I'm realizing that I'm not connecting with Vince.
23:57That's why I'm saying you didn't hear me, because if you did, then this is what you would have heard.
24:02I tried.
24:04I tried.
24:05I tried.
24:06I tried.
24:07I tried.
24:08I tried.
24:09I tried.
24:10I tried.
24:11I tried.
24:12I tried.
24:13I tried.
24:14I tried.
24:15I tried.
24:16I tried.
24:17I tried.
24:18I tried.
24:19I tried.
24:20I tried.
24:21I tried.
24:22I tried.
24:23I tried.
24:24I tried.
24:25I tried.
24:26I tried.
24:27I tried.
24:28I tried.
24:29Hi!
24:30Hey!
24:31How are you?
24:32Good.
24:33How are you?
24:34Who's this?
24:35This is Dutchess.
24:36Say hi, Dad.
24:37Dutch.
24:38What's up?
24:39Going into this date, I'm excited.
24:40I'm liking the vibes that Ashley's giving out.
24:43I'm liking our interaction, so I want to get a little deeper.
24:46I was like, I haven't really got a chance to talk to Ed.
24:49I know he's my type, but is he my type personality-wise, too?
24:53Like, are we even compatible?
24:54So what's your personality type?
24:56Honestly, I just like for somebody to just be there.
24:59Themselves?
25:00No, I know what you mean.
25:01Yeah, so that's what I like.
25:02A person that just knows themselves, you know?
25:04I think I know myself pretty well.
25:06I can tell.
25:15This is cute.
25:16The women are in power this week, but I haven't had a lot of time to spend with Ashante,
25:22so I invited her out for a very fun date.
25:25We're going to tie-dye some stuff in downtown Detroit.
25:29Hey, how you doing?
25:31All right.
25:32Good.
25:33How are you?
25:34Good.
25:35Going into this date, Steven and I are cool, but I still feel like I don't really know him
25:40that well, so hopefully today I can figure out if we could be a vibe or not.
25:45Push down and twist.
25:46Yeah.
25:47Just keep going.
25:48Is this right?
25:49Yeah.
25:50Yeah, that's great.
25:51Oh.
25:52I like to make art, music.
25:53I like to create, and I want somebody who appreciates that stuff.
25:57So to do something like tie-dye, I love it.
26:00You know what I'm saying?
26:01You can't go wrong with the yellow.
26:02That's all I got to say.
26:03I love yellow.
26:04You see me with the yellow on it?
26:05I knew.
26:06You knew something.
26:07I listened.
26:08I knew something.
26:09You remind me 100%.
26:10Uh-oh.
26:11Of like, when I was growing up in Flint, the girls I was around, which I liked.
26:16So I'm saying that's super positive.
26:18I'm like, man, she make me feel like when I was a kid again or whatever.
26:22Like, you got such a good personality.
26:24Thanks.
26:25So how do you, like, how is your dating life?
26:27Like, do you date often?
26:29It's just, like, based upon what's going on.
26:32Time, life, work.
26:33How long would you be in a relationship with somebody before you marry them?
26:37I don't put time on things like that.
26:39Like, I was married briefly, but we got a divorce.
26:42I mean, we were together, though, since, like, 15.
26:44Okay.
26:45So your high school sweetheart.
26:46High school sweethearts, playground sweethearts.
26:48Mm-hmm.
26:49You know, all of that.
26:50Why didn't it work out?
26:51We grew apart.
26:53Ultimately, we got together so young.
26:55Once we became older, kind of views weren't always the same.
26:58It's usually like that, yeah.
27:00But y'all get along?
27:01Yeah.
27:02We cope very well.
27:03That's good.
27:04Like, what do you have in mind when it comes to dating and your future?
27:08Um, I want to have a wife.
27:10Like, I want my wife to do stuff.
27:12Right.
27:13I don't want her to be someone who's just, like, mm, just hurting the kids.
27:16No, like, no, no, no.
27:17I want her to have, like, some sort of a passion.
27:19So, like, I do like that you got passions already on your own.
27:22So I'm somebody that, like, I kind of get off on that.
27:25Like, yo, that's dope.
27:26My girl did that.
27:27That's cool.
27:28That's cool.
27:29I like that.
27:30My vision is having enough freedom to where, like, we could travel everywhere.
27:34Yeah.
27:35Right?
27:36Let the world be the main school for the kids, share new experiences, go new places.
27:41Just, that's kind of how I see it.
27:43Hey, we saw we got a lot in common already.
27:45Yeah.
27:46So, I expressed to you that I was interested, you know, a few times.
27:51But you are interested, though, right?
27:52I am.
27:53Okay.
27:54I like for the dialogue to be, like, both ways.
27:57Even though I know you were busy and you did apologize to say that.
27:59But it's just, I like to feel like the person is interested in me, too.
28:03So what does that look like to you?
28:04Just here and there, like, texting, like, good morning.
28:06Like, just show me you're interested.
28:08Like, communicate.
28:09Ed does have a very soft spirit.
28:12He's very mysterious.
28:13He's very laid back.
28:14He's very chill.
28:15That's why I was attracted to his spirit.
28:18But I do want to peel back more layers and see why he's the way he is.
28:22Because maybe there's a wall up.
28:24Duchess, I'm ready.
28:27You ready to love?
28:28Yeah, I'm ready to love.
28:32Well, since we have one on a date now, it's only right.
28:37It's past it.
28:39I should have been got the phone number.
28:41I'm going to give you a fake one.
28:42I'm going to give you a fake one.
28:43I'm going to give you a fake one.
28:44I'm going to give you a fake one.
28:45I'm going to give you a fake one.
28:46My connection with Steve is definitely way stronger after our date.
28:51I called it.
28:52Oh, good.
28:53Yeah.
28:54Ashanta.
28:55You said it right.
28:56I know how to say your name.
28:57What I like most is the fact that he wants to be a family man.
29:01And he want to do all the cute little corny stuff.
29:03And, like, I'm kind of excited to see if we can get to that point.
29:07But, um, I'm ready for my second date with Steve.
29:10I'm going to get dressed right now.
29:11All I want to do is play with Steve.
29:12All I want to do is play with Steve.
29:13All I want to do is play with Steve.
29:14All I want to do is play with Steve.
29:15Hey, Tommy.
29:16Miss Shannon.
29:17Wine, water, beverages.
29:18Hi.
29:19Hi.
29:20Ashley in the coat.
29:21Christina.
29:22Hello.
29:23Walking into Tommy's lounge, I am extremely interested to start hearing some tea.
29:26Cause, baby.
29:27I would love to see how all these other women are interacting with my connection.
29:29So, I'm excited.
29:30Welcome back, ladies.
29:31I know this is an eventful week.
29:32We probably gonna need some more wine, huh?
29:35Wine, water, beverages.
29:37Hi.
29:38Hi.
29:39Ashley in the coat.
29:41Christina.
29:42Hello.
29:43Walking into Tommy's Lounge, I am extremely interested
29:47to start hearing some tea, because, baby, I would love
29:50to see how all these other women are interacting
29:53with my connection.
29:54So I'm excited.
29:56Welcome back, ladies.
29:58I know there's an eventful week.
30:00We're probably going to need some more wine, huh?
30:02Yes.
30:03Hopefully.
30:04As you all know, your assignment for the week
30:07was to take the men to your favorite spots.
30:09That's got some meaning to you.
30:11So let's get into it.
30:13Who are we connecting with?
30:15Positive vibes on.
30:17Ashanti.
30:18I gotta go first.
30:19What?
30:20Put it up first.
30:22Steven is really well put together, really cool.
30:25We went to a tie-dye shop.
30:27We made t-shirts.
30:28I feel like we had a good time.
30:29He laughed, we laughed.
30:31A lot of green flags.
30:32And I also like Cardi.
30:34I'm a vegan chef.
30:35So I invited a few of us out to see
30:37Cookin' with Q.
30:38And we had a good time.
30:39When he first sat down with me and looked at me and smiled,
30:44his face is so bright.
30:46And I just couldn't help but to smile.
30:49But that baby couldn't cut a carry.
30:55Nicole.
30:56Devine and I, we had a date.
30:57And we played cricket.
30:58And it was a lot of fun.
30:59Conversations have always been great.
31:01They've been natural.
31:02I think he's an awesome person.
31:03Ed is definitely a manly man.
31:06He, like, holds my hands when he's talking to me.
31:09And, like, physical touch is one of my love languages as well.
31:12So I really, really appreciate it.
31:14He's a nice guy.
31:15I like that he's very chilled and laid back.
31:17The only problem with that is I like people that like me.
31:20And he shows it a bit.
31:22Like, he kind of, like, throw a little sprinkle in there
31:24and then bag away.
31:26And, um, me and Darius literally be on the phone for hours.
31:29He is definitely a masculine provider.
31:32He know his words.
31:33And I love that.
31:34I like that.
31:35Mm-hmm.
31:36Company, you invited some people to your home.
31:38How was it having Bello in your space?
31:40I was like, welcome home, baby.
31:43Hey.
31:44And when he came in, you know, we had a special greeting
31:47that nobody else saw.
31:48I felt that the spirit led me.
31:50Spirit led you to do what?
31:52What happened?
31:53What y'all doing at this door?
31:54A lady never kisses the tail, but I received it.
31:56And it was received back.
31:57So that's all that needs to be known.
31:59All right, all right.
32:01All right.
32:02Now comes the tough part.
32:04Who are you ladies not feeling?
32:06Well, from Jump, I've been telling everybody, like,
32:09I want a kind man.
32:10But Vince and I, we just don't click.
32:13The energy just seems combative.
32:15Why you being so vispy?
32:16Like, you just, ah!
32:18I'd like to add to what you're saying.
32:20He was physically very aggressive.
32:23The comedy, it was intense.
32:26He's very vocal and very in-your-face type of thing.
32:29Even how he refers to some of the women, like...
32:32Mm-hmm.
32:33How does he refer to some of the women?
32:34Now, granted, this is pillow talking.
32:37It's like, oh, he's referring to,
32:39oh, that B thought I would like her because of...
32:41Whoa, so we're already done.
32:42He used the B word?
32:43We're saying the B word?
32:44Yeah, okay.
32:45Like, did anybody actually hear him call somebody a B word?
32:48Because I would like to give him the benefit of the doubt.
32:50I heard he said it.
32:51And it was said about you.
32:52Yeah, it was.
32:53Say what now?
32:54I'm sorry.
32:55He called you.
32:56Man, girl, what's about you?
32:57You was the tall bitch.
32:58And I was the bitch?
32:59You were the B word.
33:00I didn't hear that B word.
33:01Mm.
33:02At all.
33:03And if you hear it, I want to know you heard.
33:05Okay.
33:06All right, Christina.
33:08Anybody else?
33:09Not a connection?
33:10Bello for me, I asked three of my interests.
33:12Yeah, I would love to go to that spot.
33:14It would make me feel so special.
33:15Chris gave me an understanding answer.
33:17I would love to, but I'm not in a position right now.
33:20The second one, he ended up spending money.
33:23Where's your cash at?
33:24Absolutely.
33:25Who did that?
33:26Devon.
33:27Devon?
33:28Yes.
33:29So the thing is, when Bello didn't respond, I felt like you fell into the weak category.
33:33And at that point, you're not interested in me, and that's fine.
33:36I felt like Christina was messy.
33:38To me, it was like very na-na-na-na-na.
33:40He did this for me.
33:41And I thought it was very classless and tacky.
33:45Shayna.
33:46Xavier, he gives me uncle vibes.
33:49Big ump.
33:50Big ump.
33:51Like, he's very wise.
33:53He has-
33:54Ready to love 65.
33:55Very much so, yes.
33:56It's just not a connection, no.
33:59I just feel like he's just old acting.
34:02Like, you can still be fun and spontaneous, and I just feel like he can't keep up with
34:07me.
34:08And I want to have fun with my guy, you know?
34:09We finally got a chance to talk at Shannon's house.
34:12He said, well, I'd like to move slow.
34:14And I said, well, it hasn't worked in the past.
34:17Has this process made you reconsider the way that you are going to approach love, relationships,
34:22women?
34:23And he said no.
34:24Oh.
34:25And so for me, I was like, okay.
34:28All right.
34:29So now comes the hard part.
34:31I want you to take these guys out on a date, and let them know if they are just not ready
34:39to love.
34:40Mm.
34:41Y'all got it?
34:42Yeah.
34:43All right, ladies.
34:44Y'all sit here and chill.
34:45Think about it.
34:46Talk about it.
34:47And I'mma, uh, yeah.
34:48All right.
34:49Bye.
34:50Bye.
34:51Bye.
34:52Woo!
34:55I don't want to send anybody home, because I feel like we all came here with a purpose.
34:59But it is a relief that now I'm getting closer to the person that I need to be with.
35:03Everybody get prepared.
35:04Put your big girl boots on.
35:05I got mine on right now.
35:06All right, y'all.
35:07Let's go do that.
35:08Yes, let's go do it.
35:09Let's go do it.
35:10Let's go do it.
35:11Cheers.
35:12Rain in love.
35:13Rain in love.
35:29So the women are in power this week, and Donna has invited me out.
35:33Hey, brother.
35:36How you doing?
35:37I am a little nervous and a little anxious about why I'm invited out.
35:42But I am optimistic, and I'm ready to hear what, you know, what Donna has to say.
35:46I did order for her, so.
35:48I appreciate that.
35:49Something should be coming.
35:50Yeah, just, you know, I'd like to knock that edge off.
35:53I want you to, there's no reason for you to see that today.
35:56Life's short, so we gotta live it up.
35:59I can never give it up.
36:00When you fall, pick it up.
36:01Of course, we can break it down slow.
36:03Tell me how the groove goes.
36:04Show me how you move, though.
36:05Oh, perfect.
36:06Donique.
36:07Hi.
36:08How are you?
36:09I'm good.
36:10Dominique set up a date with us at the Syndicate, and he looks great.
36:15You smell good.
36:18I do know that the ladies met with Tommy today, so that's likely someone's going home.
36:22But I don't really have any nerves.
36:25Tonight felt like date night.
36:27How'd you know?
36:29Looks like that's what you like to me, an old-fashioned.
36:32You look a little old-fashioned to me.
36:33Ah, I mean.
36:34Oh, we got a pretzel.
36:35Can I have one?
36:36A pretzel?
36:37What?
36:39You stepped my hand like my grandma.
36:41I did.
36:42I did.
36:43So, um, the ladies met with Tommy today.
36:46Mm-hmm.
36:47And there was some feedback that, um, could be worked through.
36:51You referred to at least one of the ladies as a bitch.
36:54Oh.
36:55So, there's a question mark about you using that language.
37:00Obviously, we were having a joking conversation.
37:03You and the guys?
37:04Yeah, me and the guys.
37:05And I did use the word, but I wasn't calling the, you know, I wasn't calling the lady,
37:11you know.
37:12Well, that is a concern.
37:14Okay, okay.
37:15Um, is that something that you are willing to work on?
37:19I feel like that is something that I probably need to work on because the first thing I
37:24think about is my daughter.
37:25Mm-hmm.
37:26It's the first thing I always think about.
37:28So, I wouldn't want her to feel like, you know, are you dad?
37:33I wouldn't want her to feel like that.
37:35And so, I don't want to do that.
37:38So, I had a conversation with the ladies, and they felt some kind of way.
37:41It feels like you're not taking an initiative to actually make a connection.
37:45There's a verse to not cast your pearls amongst one.
37:50And I've learned to be somewhat guarded in what I allow people to see in myself.
37:56So, if I'm with someone that I don't think can value certain aspects of me, I would try
38:04to keep it surface.
38:06The last point of concern, a few ladies mentioned your bluntness, and some people took it as
38:12these two opinions they did.
38:13Well, it's challenging to not always speak my mind.
38:18I don't want to be a politician.
38:20I don't want to leave anybody guessing as far as what I feel and what I think.
38:26And if somebody can't understand that, they can get going.
38:32Every lady was like, no one stops us in here.
38:35Why do you never ask me for my number?
38:37You can't ask nobody.
38:38So, like, you are all beautiful women, but I did not want to act too quickly.
38:44In my opinion, up to this point, it was still early.
38:47Now, we've been here long enough.
38:50Yes.
38:51And I am going to start being more intentional.
38:54So, you do know you lay to the hurt.
38:57I feel like if I was to be less passionate, it's going to hurt other parts of my life.
39:04So, I understand that, but a few ladies felt like it was just too strong for them.
39:13The ladies feel like...
39:16Well, ultimately, the ladies did decide that...
39:20Unfortunately, Xavier...
39:23You are still ready to love.
39:25Cool.
39:26Um, which I am personally happy about because I still look forward to really connecting with you.
39:32Well, I'm happy about that also.
39:35It feels really good to hear feedback.
39:38I don't know how people take me or how people take what I say, and so I can work on some things and I can correct some things.
39:45And this is technically our first date.
39:48Technically, this is the first time me and you got one of them.
39:51Is this heavy for a friend's date?
39:52It's not that heavy.
39:53It's heavy for a friend's date.
39:54It's not that heavy.
39:55I'm appreciative of the understanding that Donna had and I'm appreciative to still be a part of this experience.
40:02I didn't think it was that heavy.
40:04Okay.
40:05If you're okay, then I'm okay.
40:08You're not ready to love.
40:09Okay.
40:11The journey don't stop.
40:12No, it doesn't.
40:13It doesn't.
40:14And your person is out there.
40:15You just got to attempt to move forward and do the work.
40:18I get that.
40:19I expected to be here longer.
40:20I wanted to be here longer, but I brought myself and that wasn't enough.
40:25I came in open-hearted, open-minded and this is where it ends.
40:29So, no love lost.
40:31I think the feedback that the ladies gave was very valid and I accepted for what it is.
40:36So, for that, I continue to be a student of life and I hold my head high.
40:41Next time on Ready to Love, I am hosting a throwback 70s Motown Dance Park.
40:58You ever get overwhelmed by a presence of a person?
41:01Even with his wig on?
41:03The wig.
41:04I was receiving that man.
41:05I liked him.
41:07A friend of mine has been called a bitch.
41:10You using a B word?
41:11That's crazy.
41:12If you can't take care of me as well as my daddy take care of my mama for 39 years?
41:16I don't want it.
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