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‘Tumpah Teh with Sarimah’ — 8 episod bersama 8 TETAMU ISTIMEWA yang penuh tawa, emosi, inspirasi & pendedahan, bermula 13 November 2025
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‘Tumpah Teh with Sarimah’ — 8 episod bersama 8 TETAMU ISTIMEWA yang penuh tawa, emosi, inspirasi & pendedahan, bermula 13 November 2025
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00:00I call my karaoke.
00:02So it's like it, I'm best now.
00:05I'm gonna have a day out with the one and only
00:10Diddy and friend.
00:14He wants to meet us, but he doesn't want to meet each other.
00:17So seeing as she's a singer, first and foremost actually,
00:20walaupun she's known as a singer,
00:22I said let's do this.
00:24Something different lah, today.
00:30Diddy! Oh my god!
00:33Hi, oh my god you look so beautiful.
00:36I only look as good as my guest.
00:39Oh, you're so good. How are you?
00:42Cantiknya dia.
00:43Thank you, I'm wearing a happy colour untuk you juga.
00:46You are. Let's sit down, what are you having?
00:48Um, always dengan kopi.
00:50I pun sama lagi.
00:52I pun suka kopi.
00:53This is our strange day out with nobody else around.
00:57How have you been? You good?
00:59I just can't stop looking at your dress.
01:01Last I saw you was at KL Fashion Week.
01:03Yes!
01:04Yes!
01:05And I noticed you're always in bright colours now.
01:07Yes.
01:08That's something I've noticed about you.
01:10Yeah, you're usually dressed in like pastel colours,
01:12except for in the video for Raja Dusta.
01:15I think I'd have found my tone, you know, my colour palette.
01:19So I really like the softer colours.
01:22That shows something, doesn't it?
01:25Hello!
01:26Skills me!
01:27So, I'm so happy that you agreed to join us.
01:32But it's not a show-show yang macam,
01:35we're not interested in creating macam controversies.
01:38Of course, I don't expect anything less from you.
01:40Sebab tu orang boleh tahan lama sebenarnya dalam industri ni.
01:44Ya, dia kejujuran sebenarnya.
01:46Terima kasih.
01:47Ideal.
01:48Okay, so have you had enough?
01:50This is really good and strong.
01:52And strong.
01:53Kalau ais lemon tea ada yang?
01:54Boleh, ais lemon tea satu.
01:56Kurang gula di?
01:57Nak ais water boleh tak?
01:59Kita pun nak ais water juga.
02:01Tapi Didi ada satu aura sekarang ni.
02:05Memang jelas, I kena cakap benda ni.
02:08I pernah kerja dengan Didi dulu,
02:11in a show.
02:12But the main time I worked with you was 2014,
02:16in 2014, kalau tak silakan.
02:18Ya.
02:19Tapi masa tu yang saya ingat lah,
02:21Didi dalam fasa yang baru,
02:24you were just a mom at the time.
02:26Ya.
02:27And then sangat busy dengan syuting semua.
02:30I remember it.
02:31Masa tu, I tried to get to know you.
02:34But you were so into your work, kan?
02:36I macam dari jauh je.
02:38Oh, I see.
02:39Ya.
02:40I think I was more intimidated
02:41because I was hosting with you.
02:43So, I think that's the shield
02:45that you were getting because I was like,
02:47I takut saya salah cakap.
02:48I takut I'm taking too many takes.
02:51So, I think it was more
02:52Sebenari lah.
02:53Feeling just very, like lesser than.
02:55Isn't that weird?
02:56Ya.
02:57Isn't that weird?
02:58See, that's the thing.
02:59So now, we're talking 10 years forward.
03:01Didi dah berapa banyak anugerah.
03:03Congratulations on Raja Dusta, by the way.
03:11No, but it's cool.
03:12I know.
03:13It's very like.
03:14I'm so happy.
03:15There'll be more loud songs coming here.
03:17I'm sure.
03:18Dia macam giving.
03:19Okay, Anita Sarawak tu memang confirm.
03:21But, dia lebih kepada giving like early 90s like,
03:24Selamat tinggal, give me a good time.
03:27Yeah.
03:28Tapi, what I want to say was,
03:30fast forward 10, 12 years later,
03:33yang kita duduk sini hari ni,
03:34dengan semua yang Didi pula mencapai.
03:37Dia dah melalui segala-galanya.
03:39Dia dah mencapai segala-galanya.
03:41So, bila you interview dia nanti,
03:43adakah dia akan jadi Didi yang sebenar
03:45atau Didi yang superstar?
03:46I honestly don't feel like I achieve anything pun sebenarnya.
03:50Like...
03:51Nak kena ketuk.
03:52Yeah, I know.
03:53I had, that's my problem kot.
03:54That's like my personal issue.
03:56What are you, you today?
03:59Have you found yourself now?
04:02That's a good question.
04:03I think it's definitely, I'm not there yet.
04:07Because I've always been,
04:09I was under my mom,
04:11bawah jagaan my mom.
04:13Yeah.
04:14And then I terus berkahwin.
04:15So, ini adalah betul-betul fasa
04:17where I'm standing alone
04:18and trying to find my identity.
04:20Right.
04:21Rasa takut tak?
04:22No, because anak-anak dah besar.
04:24So, I have the luxury of actually
04:26not being like a full-time mom.
04:28You know,
04:29diorang pun dah ada kehidupan diorang sendiri.
04:31They're 10 and 12.
04:3210 and 12 dah.
04:33Yeah.
04:34So, kalau diorang masih muda,
04:36then I might have,
04:37kecik lagi,
04:38then I might have to
04:40macam,
04:41pour myself,
04:42you know, more.
04:43Into them lah.
04:44Yeah.
04:45Tapi sekarang diorang pun nak,
04:46you know, autonomy.
04:47They want independence.
04:48Yeah, betul.
04:49Dia macam,
04:50Mummy, leave me alone.
04:51Cool.
04:58I've got something for you.
04:59It's not for you.
05:00I thought about you
05:02when I wanted to do this lah.
05:03How many years now
05:04have you been in the industry
05:05in total?
05:0633 years?
05:0733?
05:08So, 33, yes.
05:09Okay,
05:10kalau minus,
05:11since I was a baby,
05:13my first film was like nine.
05:15Nine, yes.
05:1634 tolak 9,
05:18berapa?
05:1925.
05:20Yeah.
05:22Okay, so,
05:23we're gonna look back
05:25at some times in your life.
05:27so I'll just show you a photo.
05:30And then from the photo D,
05:32just give me your first thought.
05:35Okay.
05:36And memory yang berkaitan dengan
05:37that time,
05:38that place,
05:39or that person.
05:40This is an interesting one.
05:41I'm quite curious.
05:42Wow.
05:45Great memories.
05:46It's not,
05:47it's not about whatever
05:48that we're holding.
05:49It's the friendship
05:50that we built
05:51together.
05:52It's a friendship.
05:53I love Yue.
05:54He's such an odd character.
05:56Yeah.
05:57I love people
05:58who are just authentically
06:00them.
06:01Them.
06:02You know,
06:03just unapologetically
06:04who they are.
06:05So Yue,
06:06memang,
06:07he plays,
06:08he played a big role
06:10in my career.
06:11And me as a person
06:13moving forward
06:14after knowing him.
06:15Yeah.
06:16It's like,
06:17oh, you can actually be
06:18kind of a neurodivergent
06:19and be fine with it.
06:21Okay.
06:22One down.
06:23One down.
06:24Good things.
06:25Ni siapa dan
06:27kenangan ya?
06:28Okay.
06:29I'm so nervous.
06:30Body
06:32response,
06:33physiological response.
06:37Cepat lah.
06:40Oh my,
06:41she's so cute.
06:44I took the same picture
06:45of my daughter.
06:46Just like that.
06:47She looks exactly like
06:49mummy.
06:50Dekat rumah
06:53my auntie
06:54in Bukit Merah.
06:55Okay.
06:56Dia ada
06:57the steps.
06:58So what I would do
06:59is I would run up the steps
07:01and jump down
07:02because it's like up the steps
07:03and jump down.
07:04So I do that like
07:052,000 times a day.
07:06How old are you here?
07:07I was like five.
07:08What's that face?
07:09What's that face?
07:10Oh,
07:11she
07:12is a
07:13troublemaker.
07:14Really?
07:15Oh yeah.
07:16Is she a troublemaker?
07:17Look at her.
07:18She's got like that.
07:19She's always up to no good.
07:20You know,
07:21could never stay still.
07:22Kid with ADHD
07:23and too many ideas
07:24and you know.
07:25Manju.
07:26She's just so busy.
07:31Why is she so busy?
07:32Her head is always so full.
07:34So I remember like
07:36as a child
07:37I never stopped.
07:38I was always
07:39in my imagination.
07:41Always in it.
07:42Because you were
07:43an only child?
07:44Yeah.
07:45But I had a lot of cousins
07:46but you know,
07:47being a half-feet
07:48there's a part of you
07:49that they don't see
07:50they don't understand
07:51and a part of you
07:52that they fully understand.
07:53Betul.
07:54So,
07:55you know.
07:56Nak exist kat pertengahan
07:57garisan tu
07:58antara dua
07:59different worlds.
08:00But,
08:01me,
08:02really built my
08:03my
08:04Malay side
08:05because I would
08:06I grew up with
08:07my
08:08you know,
08:09my
08:10kampong.
08:11Yeah, because you were born
08:12in Houston
08:13after duk kampong.
08:14Ha?
08:15Duk kampong.
08:16Duk kampong.
08:17Makan kat lantai.
08:19Kena suat dengan nenek.
08:20Kena kejar dengan ayam.
08:21Macam best?
08:22Ha, ha.
08:23Mandi
08:24mandi
08:25parit.
08:26Kena, apa tu?
08:27Kena parit.
08:28Mandi parit ni lah.
08:29Muka nak nak pergi mandi parit kan.
08:30Muka mandi parit.
08:31Jatuh motor.
08:32Semua.
08:33Tapi budak muka macam ni
08:34kat kampong rare, okay.
08:35So, mesti semua macam
08:36eh, eh, budak Mak Salih mana
08:38tu kan.
08:39Ya.
08:40I was interested.
08:41Love her?
08:42So much to tell her.
08:44You know, I could
08:45have a one-on-one with her.
08:46Go and tell her something.
08:47Girl!
08:48We did it!
08:49She's looking at you now.
08:51She, you know,
08:52you always wanted to be,
08:54you know, on TV
08:55and doing all these big,
08:56big films,
08:57and she did it.
08:58You did it, girl.
08:59Okay.
09:00Oh!
09:01The banks!
09:02Eh!
09:03These banks mahal tau.
09:04Tu banks real kan,
09:05bukan fake kan.
09:06Yeah.
09:07Yeah.
09:08Not the best time in my life.
09:09Not the best time.
09:10Not the best time in my life.
09:11But check out the smile.
09:12Yeah.
09:13She's alright.
09:14She's alright.
09:15I was working and I was
09:30not the best time in my life.
09:31So I was very tired.
09:33This is the time when you're like
09:35really into it,
09:36trying to catch your dreams
09:38and you know,
09:39and being in places
09:40where you would rather be home
09:42and just playing with your friends.
09:44But you know what I mean?
09:45You know what I mean?
09:46Can I catch you?
09:47Um,
09:4916?
09:5016?
09:51Yeah.
09:52Okay.
09:56How many films you've done?
09:5726?
09:5827?
09:5928?
10:0029?
10:01And it doesn't matter.
10:02I don't really,
10:03I don't count like that.
10:05To you it doesn't matter.
10:06I don't.
10:07But there's people out there
10:08who watch your films
10:09who maybe
10:10it had an impact on their lives.
10:12I think of films sometimes
10:14like,
10:15I watch the Joker
10:16and I like mobile the entire life.
10:17The Joker was amazing.
10:18One and...
10:19No.
10:20The Joker with Heath
10:22and The Joker with Joaquin.
10:24Same.
10:25What about you?
10:26What's the one film
10:27that like...
10:28This is gonna be disturbing
10:30but Natural Born Killers
10:31was my thing.
10:32I know.
10:33It's a psychopathic choice.
10:36Okay.
10:37Bill?
10:39It's very nice to know you.
10:41Natural Born Killers.
10:42I don't feel like hurting anyone today.
10:43Thank God.
10:44Alhamdulillah.
10:45Natural Born Killers
10:46because the theme being
10:48what was it about it?
10:49It was like a
10:50Bonnie and Clyde theme.
10:52Yeah.
10:53Right.
10:54But...
10:55But...
10:56I wasn't...
10:57I was too young
10:58to care about that aspect.
10:59It was a movie
11:00about serial killers
11:02going around the US
11:03Yes.
11:04and killing everybody.
11:05But...
11:06They did it,
11:07the soundtrack was really good.
11:08Yes.
11:09They also had
11:10kind of like a
11:11odd...
11:12out of...
11:13body experience.
11:14That I really like.
11:16Till today.
11:17Yeah, yeah, yeah.
11:18I can watch it again and again
11:19and again and again and again.
11:20That's true.
11:23Hmm.
11:24It's great.
11:25It's great.
11:26It's great.
11:27It's great.
11:28It's great.
11:29But it's not...
11:30I think that's not
11:31the reason why I'm here today.
11:34You know.
11:35Okay.
11:36So...
11:37I'm very happy for the project.
11:39It's great.
11:40But...
11:41I'm not really...
11:43interested in that part.
11:45Interesting.
11:46It kind of...
11:47It turns me off a bit.
11:48I get it.
11:49Is it because you have so much of it?
11:51Because it's like,
11:52why do we need validation from people
11:54to tell you that you're doing a good job?
11:57Because the validation actually comes
11:59from the people watching the movies.
12:01The audience.
12:03Yeah.
12:04So I get love from the audience
12:05and I get, you know,
12:07people coming to me and saying,
12:09thank you so much for doing this and that.
12:11Yeah.
12:12And hugging you and crying.
12:14I've enjoyed this and that.
12:15To me, that's the connection that I like.
12:18Yeah.
12:19Not the red carpets and the photos.
12:21Yeah.
12:22But I understand how that actually does mean something
12:25on a certain level, right?
12:26Yeah.
12:27But it's not why I'm here.
12:29I've not...
12:30That's not been the reason why.
12:33The only reason why has been about the money.
12:36Yeah.
12:37Yeah, I get that.
12:38But everyone has a job.
12:39Whether you're a school teacher
12:40or you're a person.
12:41It's nice.
12:42But I don't really like to look at it.
12:45Yeah.
12:46Do you watch your films?
12:47No.
12:48I can't.
12:49I can't.
12:50Okay.
12:51You know what?
12:52I think we've sat here long enough.
12:53I don't like things to be manufactured.
12:55And then I feel like,
12:56why don't we just go and have a bit of fun?
12:58But I'm not afraid of seeing the eyes of Didi.
13:00Just a moment ago,
13:01she asked me to sing a song.
13:03I'm going to be in trouble.
13:04Let's go.
13:05Let's go.
13:06Where are we going?
13:07We're going to go karaoke.
13:10Oh, my.
13:11This is our room.
13:12Wow.
13:13This is where we're going to party.
13:14We have a pool table.
13:15By ourselves with the crew.
13:16Woohoo.
13:17Okay.
13:18I'm so good.
13:19My mom and I used to play pool.
13:20So it sounds like mine.
13:21I have no idea.
13:22I will actually pot the black first.
13:24That's what I have.
13:25Oh, no.
13:26I'm so good.
13:27My mom and I used to play pool.
13:28They're so good.
13:29So it sounds like mine.
13:30I have no idea.
13:31I will actually pot the black first.
13:33That's what I have.
13:34Oh, no.
13:35I do that too sometimes.
13:36No, I haven't got you.
13:37You can teach me.
13:38Wow.
13:39The best is the place.
13:40The place is the best.
13:41And then apparently,
13:42might be the best, babe.
13:43Oh, really?
13:44Hello, hello.
13:45Alamak.
13:46Assalamual.
13:47Wow.
13:48It's like hosting.
13:49We're hosting.
13:50Yeah.
13:51Yeah.
13:52We're hosting.
13:53Yeah.
13:54Tuan-tuan, perempuan.
13:55Sekejap.
13:56Didi.
13:57Restnya,
13:58kita tak pernah,
13:59kita nak lepak pun tak biasa.
14:00Ni terus kena menyanyi.
14:01I'm okay with that.
14:03You are okay with everything tau nowadays.
14:06Sebenarnya.
14:07Okay.
14:08Didi.
14:09I would love you to pick songs to sing.
14:13So, jom kita pergi pilih.
14:14Mana dia punya ni?
14:15Ni kan?
14:16Jom.
14:17Let's go.
14:18Let's see.
14:19Let me check the mic first too.
14:20Do you have a favorite song?
14:21Hi.
14:22Hi.
14:23I've chosen some songs.
14:24Okay, I've chosen some songs.
14:26So,
14:27Ah, kau jangan.
14:28So, okay.
14:29So, Dee, what?
14:30What do you think?
14:31Any particular ones that you rasa?
14:33Yeah.
14:34Okay, Dee dah.
14:35Oh my goodness.
14:36Nak pilih itukah?
14:37I call a karaoke.
14:39Yeah.
14:40I'm in the language.
14:41I'm in the language.
14:42I'm in the language.
14:43It's so slow.
14:44Here I.
14:46Okay, I'll sing this a bit for you first.
14:48Okay.
14:49Okay.
14:50I love this song.
14:51I love Ryan Adams.
14:52I love Ryan Adams.
14:53I love Ryan Adams.
14:54Oh my god.
14:55But we're like 10 years difference in each.
14:58Okay, you start.
14:59Go.
15:00Oh, thinking about all our younger years.
15:05Yes.
15:06There was only you and me.
15:09We were young and wild and free.
15:13Yes.
15:14Now nothing can take you away from me.
15:18Never.
15:19We've been down that road before.
15:23But that's over now.
15:26You keep me coming back for more.
15:30Yes.
15:37Good day.
15:38Oh my god.
15:39Wow.
15:40Oh my god, you tried.
15:41Wow.
15:42Oh my god.
15:43Whoa.
15:44Oh my god.
15:45Oh my god.
15:46Oh my god.
15:47What's your name?
15:48Oh my god.
15:49You actually asked me to join you in this year.
15:50Oh my god.
15:51Oh my god.
15:52He actually asked me to join him this year.
15:55I don't know, babe. Why is this stamina?
15:57You didn't talk to me. Why did I talk to my wife?
16:04Don't you feel that that's the weird thing about trying to be like a performer?
16:10Performer, a mother.
16:13Dulu, a wife.
16:15Performer, a mother and a woman.
16:18Antara tiga ni, kan?
16:20Tapi, sementara kita break, kita menunggu air kita,
16:24kita akan buat rapid fire questions!
16:29Okay, tapi Diddy dah biasa dah dengan rapid fire kan?
16:32Tahu lah. I mean, sometimes they catch you off guard, sometimes they don't.
16:37Diddy kena tengok kamera je, tapi tengok kamera dan jangan gerak mata.
16:41Abang, abang handsome tu.
16:43So, Diddy tengok, okay, mata, kita psikologi, kita belajar psikologi tau,
16:46kita tahu kalau menipu. Soalan pertama,
16:48Pernah ditikam belakang oleh kawan dari industri?
16:51Of course.
16:52Alamak, of course. Siapakah itu?
16:59Kawan tak hari ni?
17:00Ya.
17:00Alamak.
17:01I'm cool with that.
17:03Do what you want, girl.
17:05I love it.
17:05Kifara is real, eh?
17:07Kifara is real, it's coming to you now.
17:09Siapa dia aku nak pergi tampak?
17:11No, it's fine. I think
17:12When you're in the industry with competition, it happened.
17:15Menyesal tak kahwin muda?
17:17Tak.
17:18Kenapa?
17:19Because you kahwin dengan orang yang you sayang.
17:24Antara cinta dan kejaya, mana satu buat you hilang arah?
17:32Cinta!
17:34Selalukah? Dari dulu lagi?
17:35Ya, I'm such a sucker for love.
17:37You're romantic?
17:38Ya.
17:39Who's more romantic?
17:40You are your partners.
17:42Always my partners.
17:43Girl,
17:44the man's gotta love you more.
17:45You gotta be a queen.
17:47You are a queen.
17:48Okay, last one.
17:49Apa satu rahsia besar yang Didi,
17:52satu rahsia
17:54pasal life ataupun apa-apa
17:56yang Didi
17:57tak pernah cerita pada orang tapi cerita pada ideal dengan Aiz sekarang ni.
18:00Ideal yang tengah potong scene kita
18:03yang tengah kat depan kamera kita tapi tak pedik.
18:06Thank you, Adil.
18:07Terima kasih.
18:08Maybe a different rapid-fire question.
18:09Cuba say hi.
18:11Faham?
18:13Okay, bye.
18:14Okay, bukan rahsia.
18:16Something pasal Didi yang orang tak tahu.
18:19I don't really know what to share at this point.
18:21I feel like I've been sharing too much.
18:24I don't think so.
18:25Something that you want to do then.
18:29It's not interesting enough.
18:31Yeah, I'm coming up with an album
18:34that will be released next year.
18:36So that's finally all the songs that I've written before.
18:39Like I told you.
18:40This is the actual album.
18:42This is the actual album that I'm self-funding.
18:45Album coming, incoming.
18:46You're self-funding it.
18:48Yeah.
18:49Well, not all of it because I'm with the label.
18:51But I'm trying to at least own some of my songs.
18:57Because singers got to be smart.
19:06Okay, so I've got a few more photos for you.
19:10Love it.
19:11I love it.
19:11I'm trying not to see it.
19:13Okay, bila you tengok gambar ni?
19:15Okay.
19:19Oh my goodness, my baby.
19:21How old is her age?
19:22She's probably two.
19:24And mommy's feeling?
19:27Alone.
19:27I was fine with it.
19:33I was already fine with, you know, the situation at home.
19:36But I was so happy to be with my kids every day.
19:41Gorgeous.
19:42It's the umur yang paling best.
19:46Look at her.
19:47Like, she has the same up to no good face.
19:52My daughter, she's so cheeky.
19:54Sama sebenarnya.
19:55Yeah, betul.
19:56Betul.
19:57Sama dengan muka mak dia yang kat sini.
20:02Yeah.
20:03Mata, mata, mata, mata.
20:05The eyes, it's just...
20:07She's very sassy.
20:09I love that about her.
20:10Because I think that character that...
20:13Like her speaking her mind out.
20:16Telling me exactly how she wants to be treated.
20:19You know, the things that she likes.
20:20She's like, mommy, I love surprises.
20:22I want you to buy me something sometimes.
20:24Because I want you to surprise me.
20:25Where did she get that from?
20:27She's been given that space to build herself.
20:30And not feel scared to voice out.
20:32Okay, I'm just...
20:33I've got to ask you this.
20:34Because it's just the muscle of my brain.
20:36And I rasa kalau I tak tanya you,
20:37I rasa macam I'm faking it.
20:39Yeah.
20:39You said that Aurora can say what she needs from you.
20:43Okay?
20:44Anak I pun macam tu juga.
20:45Okay?
20:46Tapi I tak ajar dia benda tu.
20:47Yeah, no.
20:47Because masa I kecil, I tak dibenarkan.
20:49Yes!
20:50No way, man.
20:51No.
20:52Kau nak tanya apa?
20:53Mere sini, kan?
20:53Yeah, yeah.
20:54Kau nangis, let me give you a reason to cry.
20:56Sama tak?
20:57My mom, dia akan bagi I nangis sampai tidur.
20:59It's their generation lah.
21:05Is it true they only knew what...
21:08I was going to say that.
21:09I was going to say that.
21:10Go say it.
21:11They only knew how much they know at that time.
21:17Or however you say it.
21:18We all only know what we know at that time.
21:20Yeah, and you can only do as much as you know.
21:22You know.
21:23Yeah.
21:23So that's why I tak blame anybody.
21:26I pun tak blame.
21:26You know, because you're like, that's where you are.
21:29And that's fine.
21:30But there was a phase, of course, yang kita membesar, kita...
21:33Bukan nak kata jiwa memberontak.
21:34Sebab kita rasa macam, salah dia.
21:36Salah dia.
21:37Yeah, yeah, yeah.
21:37Salah dia.
21:38Sebab kan, mak buat macam ni ke, ayah buat macam ni ke.
21:40Somebody did this to me.
21:41You broke my heart.
21:42So I kena, you know.
21:43I think because as teenagers, we need space to have our own time to become our own person.
21:55But the generation that they don't allow you because it's the wrong thing to do.
22:01Now, the reason why I want to ask you that is because ada orang yang cakap.
22:04Like for me, I mean, we hear all the time.
22:06Oh, kalau datang dari keluarga yang dah berpisah.
22:09Kalau keluarga itu tak perfect, kan?
22:10So anak-anak akan jadi macam repressed.
22:13And then they cannot say.
22:14Tapi ni sebaliknya pula.
22:16So how do you explain the fact that your children feel safe enough untuk bersuara?
22:21I think it depends on the family.
22:23Kita tak boleh nak just, you know, give it a blanket term or a blanket, orang kata, situation for all.
22:31Generalize it.
22:34Bagi I, I've seen my friends who, you know, parents are still together.
22:41But they have far worse problems that they have to overcome within themselves.
22:49Faham.
22:50And then there are friends yang ada, you know, their parents are separated for a long time.
22:54And they're just like, thank God.
22:56You know, at least everyone can just move on with their lives, build better future for themselves.
23:00And we're all just happy.
23:02And they're very happy for their parents.
23:03Are you happy then that you've made the decision that you've made?
23:08It's controversial to say it.
23:10Why?
23:10So I'll just not say it.
23:13Can I put controversial to say what you feel?
23:15Because it's almost as if like it's selfish for a woman to say that was good enough for her.
23:18Why a woman?
23:20I know, right?
23:21Because here in this country, that's what we always have to kind of push back on.
23:25It's the woman having to appease and not say too much.
23:31Or we're not taught to own.
23:37But do you teach Aurora to own herself?
23:39Of course.
23:40Say it louder.
23:41Say it louder.
23:43So but when I ask you, are you happy with the decision you've made now at this point?
23:47I think obviously memang jelas didi bahagia.
23:50Yeah.
23:51Sebab kalau tak jiwa kita menderita.
23:54It's like you're living in torture and denial.
23:56Yeah.
23:57Kan?
23:58Okay, first thought.
24:02Oh wow.
24:03Oh wow.
24:04This lady here.
24:05My mommy.
24:07What do you call her?
24:08Mama.
24:09Mama.
24:10How old was she here?
24:11She was probably 30, 20, no, 30.
24:1630, 31.
24:18She had me when she was 29.
24:21I was probably two, yeah.
24:23Was she alone at this point?
24:25Not yet, I think.
24:27She wasn't alone yet.
24:29Okay.
24:30So she was still with my dad.
24:32And this was in the US?
24:34Still?
24:34Because you came back when you were three?
24:36No.
24:36Or on holiday?
24:37No, we came back when I was pretty young.
24:39Like, bawah dua tahun.
24:41So I was already two at this time.
24:42Kita sama tau, Bec.
24:44Gambar-gambar kanak-kanak kita cuma terbalik.
24:46My dad yang Melayu, my mom yang Mak Saleh.
24:48Oh, I see.
24:50So bijik.
24:51But I pun ada gambar asa ni.
24:52Kan?
24:52Yeah.
24:53I suka gambar-gambar lama.
24:54It's so real.
24:55Tapi dia makin lama makin pudar.
24:57Sebab kita tak ada cara nak save dia, kan?
24:59Do you know what I mean?
25:00Yeah.
25:00Dia jadi macam...
25:01Betul.
25:02Kat sini, you still had two parents in your life.
25:05Yes.
25:05So I don't know, but I hope you're okay with me asking.
25:10And I know people might know, they might not know.
25:12But I don't know who your dad is.
25:15Well, they're just very different people.
25:17My dad...
25:18Where is he from?
25:18...kut jay de kat sini.
25:19He's from the US.
25:20He's American.
25:21So di kut jay de kat sini, oil and gas.
25:23Did your mom approach that split with your father the same way you've approached yours?
25:31I don't know how they split.
25:33Did you ever ask her?
25:34No.
25:35No, because dia memang...
25:37My mom was very vulnerable about certain questions, dia.
25:40Till now?
25:40Until now.
25:41That's the love of her life.
25:44But they were just not great for each other.
25:47What I learned is that people always talk about how much they love someone in the beginning of a relationship.
25:55But actually, like, a marriage is way beyond love.
26:03It's sacrifice.
26:05It's showing up again and again.
26:08Doing things that you tak nak buat.
26:09Setiap hari.
26:10Tapi senang, you kena buat setiap hari.
26:12And love is a verb, right?
26:14So you kena macam tunjukkan kasih sayang you every day.
26:17And then, you know, walaupun you tak nak confront your fears and the uncomfortable situations, you have to sit and communicate.
26:27That's why I think in the Quran, dia ada sebut tentang tanggungjawab.
26:31Where you have to realise that if you tak show up for each other, and all you do is kumpul dosa je.
26:38And like, you know what I mean?
26:39It's not in that sense where you kumpul dosa sahaja.
26:42But all you do is just break each other apart.
26:45Break each other.
26:46Faham?
26:47You know, and you showing up, tu sebenarnya pun mencetus binasa instead of cinta.
26:55You know what I mean?
26:56Cinta as a stress.
26:57Yeah.
26:57So bagi I, when you start realising that the love tu dah jadi satu yang menghancurkan kita.
27:04You know, I said at one podcast or whatever.
27:07I said I felt that if I were to still be married to him, I macam jadi racun untuk dia.
27:12He will not be able to grow and I won't be able to grow.
27:15You jadi racun untuk dia?
27:16Because it's, we are not compatible.
27:19Sometimes one partner will try to not think about it.
27:23Kenapa?
27:23I don't know.
27:25Because it probably suits them better.
27:28I rasa there's a point where certain bila pasangan tu ada seorang yang lagi bekerja keras, lagi seorang tu akan take for granted.
27:37Sebenarnya kita kena try to reciprocate benda tu.
27:40Bukannya kita macam just menerima sahaja.
27:43So we try to find, okay, kalau dia dah buat benda ni, apa yang I boleh buat untuk complement apa yang dia buat.
27:48Faham.
27:49You know?
27:49So always giving as well, jangan taking sahaja.
27:52This is the only photo yang saya dapat like with your parents and you.
28:08Yeah, look at that.
28:10Tahun berapa ni?
28:11I was about 4 or 5.
28:13We were at Club Med.
28:14Club Med sini?
28:15Yeah.
28:15Cerating?
28:16Cerating.
28:17Your mum sangat macam sporty style.
28:20Yeah, she was like a state runner, a hockey player, like she was doing a lot.
28:25Was she?
28:26Yeah, and she's also very brainy as well, so.
28:29I'm not surprised.
28:31Can see.
28:32And your dad?
28:33And my dad, don't know much, but then, you know, he obviously made a good, you know, living for himself and stuff.
28:40But he was always very, like, jolly and cheeky.
28:44That's what you remember?
28:45Yeah, and he used to bring me out, you know, with going under the sun.
28:52He's such a white dad.
28:53So he baling air dalam pool, so I was able to swim by the age of like one, two, you know what I mean?
29:00Like, I was always campak aje.
29:03Kau hidup lah kat situ, kan?
29:05Yeah, so we were always like by the beach, by the pool.
29:08That's why I boleh campak you mana-mana you boleh hidup.
29:11He got him to thank for that at least, kan?
29:13Yeah, probably.
29:13It's like, you will learn how to survive.
29:15You will learn how to survive.
29:16You will float, you will not sink macam tu.
29:18Thanks for that skill, dad.
29:20Kan?
29:20Yeah.
29:21But he just was gone.
29:23He was gone.
29:25And it took me a while to really come to terms with it, but when I had my children and I faham, like, kehidupan sebagai orang besar, diwasa,
29:36you kind of understand.
29:38You don't agree.
29:39You don't agree.
29:40Nothing boleh justify benda tu.
29:42But you kind of understand.
29:44You're like, ah, okay, it's not as, uh, it happens a lot.
29:49It happens in life.
29:50Tapi, Diana rasa macam, at the end of the day, Diana, like, do you, do you feel like the, like, like you said earlier lah, macam, the decision is so painful.
30:00Tapi, if he had stayed, perhaps it would have been worse.
30:03Of course, it was only downhill from there, to be honest.
30:08And you're okay with that?
30:21I think you can only meet the people you're supposed to meet.
30:27I think, um, you can only meet the people you're supposed to meet.
30:33I don't want to letakkan bebanan orang tu kena fill the gap for me.
30:53Faham?
30:55Tapi, itu kita dibesahkan with the fairy tales, kan?
30:58Cari pasangan hidup untuk menyempurnakan, like, find your other half.
31:04How does that sit with you now?
31:07I think the concept, to me, is a little bit off.
31:09It's not about being half, or quarter, or, you know.
31:14For me, it's, I try to, when I enter a relationship, can I be a good partner to that person?
31:20As much as that, I expect that person to be a good partner to me.
31:23Faham.
31:24So, if I'm not ready to receive love, I can't expect them to also give me love.
31:30You know?
31:31Are you ready?
31:31I'm trying.
31:35Where are you, like, percentage-wise?
31:37I mean, if you had to.
31:38You have to put yourself out there.
31:40You have to meet people, you have to...
31:42How's that going?
31:43Great.
31:43Really?
31:44My God.
31:45What does that mean?
31:47I'm getting to know, you know, an individual.
31:52Oh, my goodness.
31:54Yeah.
31:54And is this individual aware of what you do?
31:57At first.
31:59At first, did you know?
32:00Didn't know.
32:01Tak kenal, tak pernah tahu.
32:02Tak pernah tahu, I wujud pun dalam.
32:04So, did you test her, tak?
32:05Macam test her, macam like, see who the person is first.
32:09They're in the circle, juga, of my friends.
32:11It's just that, they're...
32:13Shelted, gila.
32:14Shelted.
32:14Nah, sheltered.
32:15Siapa dia ni?
32:17Shelted, gila, mamat ni, kalau dia tak kenal Diana, Daniel.
32:21Aku nak tahu, juga.
32:21Tak, so, does that mean getting to know, macam okey tak ada setakat ni?
32:27It's too soon.
32:29Mana dia too soon?
32:30There's no such thing.
32:32Potential, of course.
32:33Yes!
32:33Of course.
32:34Dia jumpu Muhammad dengan Rora tak?
32:36Oh, no, not yet.
32:37Okay, takpe.
32:38Yang tu, it's okay.
32:39That's understandable.
32:40Aku tu lebih excited sekarang ni.
32:42Is he good looking?
32:44To me.
32:45That's all that matters.
32:47Dah berapa lama dah?
32:47So, ni, korang boleh balik?
32:50A couple of months.
32:51A couple of months?
32:52Yeah.
32:53Alhamdulillah.
32:54Okay, but before that, before we end everything,
32:57because it's really not fully my business.
33:00Bila kita masuk relationship after being through so much,
33:04kita akan guarded.
33:05We're like, okay, that's it.
33:06Aku akan bagi setakat ni je.
33:08Yang selebihnya, kau kena bagi ke aku.
33:11No.
33:11Do you have that fear?
33:13No, because I'm very honest with where I am.
33:16So, okay, I'm feeling this way, that way, this way, that way.
33:20And like, you know, can you meet me where I'm at?
33:22And I'll meet you where you're at.
33:24And then we try to figure out how to like go about this.
33:28So, it's not expecting them to fully try to like save you
33:33from your own traumas or like your past experience.
33:35Did you have that before?
33:37Were you expecting your previous partners to save you?
33:44No, I was just expecting to survive.
33:46No, I was just expecting them to be able to take care of you.
33:48You have to edit a little bit, but I don't understand.
33:52But you put yourself in that situation and as did I and as did all of us,
33:56betul tak?
33:57Yeah, yeah, yeah.
33:58So, we're not blaming.
33:59No, no, no.
34:00But we're here now.
34:01Okay, kita dah nak dekat pengakhirannya.
34:23So, we have something for you.
34:28I do believe, kan?
34:30Kita nak ke situ.
34:31Tak adalah.
34:32Malas lah nak.
34:34It's just a little something.
34:35Hi, boo.
34:36It's me the best friend of the world, obviously.
34:38Like, bro.
34:41Do you have a better son?
34:42I'm asking to all moms out there or dads out there.
34:47Exactly.
34:47I love you because I love you, but not because of something, not just because I love you.
35:00Because she's my mom.
35:01That she's kind, sweet, her personality is funny.
35:08A special memory, one wish.
35:10Hugging her.
35:11At Tiarasa, we were climbing rocks and I really enjoyed it.
35:22A wish that you wanted to be on the group, but you never thought to have the time.
35:27Like, last time I went to Japan, I couldn't go to, like, the city of the only group.
35:30Like, at the hotel.
35:33I want to go swimming and maybe painting.
35:40Yeah.
35:41Thank you, Ibu, for being the best mom.
35:44And thank you for myself for being the best son.
35:48And Anora for being a sister.
35:53Thank you for being the best mom in the world, right?
35:57Mm-hmm.
35:58I love you.
35:58I love you so much.
36:03Bye.
36:05Bye.
36:05Bye.
36:06Bye.
36:06Bye.
36:06Bye.
36:07Bye.
36:07Bye.
36:07Bye.
36:09They're the funniest people ever.
36:13Oh my God.
36:13They're beautiful children, you know.
36:16Beautiful children.
36:17Thank you so much.
36:19And you can tell,
36:20seorang tu de laki, seorang tu perempan,
36:22by just how they answer.
36:24Is that her favourite teddy or something that she's holding?
36:26Okay, the teddy,
36:27dia buat sendiri.
36:28It's like the Builder Bear.
36:30Are you serious?
36:31And actually, there's my voice in it.
36:33So when you're not around.
36:34Aurora, I love you so much.
36:35And so, like, her holding it.
36:38It's just so cute.
36:38Oh my God.
36:40I'm so happy.
36:43You're really lucky.
36:44Oh yeah.
36:44We're really lucky.
36:45We are so lucky.
36:47Where we are in our life, yeah?
36:48Yeah.
36:49Yeah.
36:50What would you say to your kids,
36:51like, if,
36:52let's say in times and years to come,
36:54what would you say to them
36:56that do you want to hold on to?
36:59Because they call me ibu and mommy,
37:04individually.
37:06Lain, they're very different.
37:08Kalau ibu boleh bagi nasihat
37:10or I can tell them something,
37:14it would be to be fearless
37:16about owning your life.
37:21It's what I try to do every day.
37:26I may have expectations
37:28their dad may have expectations.
37:31The world may have expectations of them.
37:34Tapi, for me,
37:35it's what is right for you
37:37is the correct thing for you to do.
37:42And that's basically it.
37:44Apa yang rasanya betul bagi diorang,
37:47that's the path that they should follow.
37:50Don't be afraid of being fearless.
37:52Yeah.
37:52And owning it, you know.
37:55And just because, you know,
37:57maybe success or whatever
37:59that you want to compare yourself
38:01to other people too,
38:02semua takkan pernah sama.
38:04So,
38:05you have to curate your life
38:07exactly how you want it to be.
38:09Instead of trying to be
38:11enough for everybody.
38:13Yeah.
38:15Thank you for joining us
38:17on Tumpah Teh.
38:21Tumpah Teh.
38:23Berkongsi.
38:24Menyanyi.
38:25Yeah.
38:26Kita nak berakhir dengan lagu tak?
38:28Saja je lah.
38:30Tapi jangan lagu aku, tolong lah.
38:32Lagu yang gembira.
38:33Okay.
38:35Something fun that we can do together
38:37before you go to your loved one.
38:39I pun nak pergi stalk you
38:42kejap lagi tau.
38:43So, thank you for joining us
38:44on Tumpah Teh.
38:48Seperti biasa,
38:48kita dapat
38:49mengenali
38:51mereka-mereka
38:52yang dah ada nama.
38:54Tapi kita
38:55lebih mengenali mereka ya,
38:57kali ni.
38:58Dan kita jumpa sekali lagi.
39:00InsyaAllah.
39:02Thanks, Dee.
39:03Thanks for being
39:03with me.
39:05That was fun.
39:07In a situation
39:08where
39:10we try to be real
39:12in a
39:13perhaps manufactured situation.
39:15Yeah.
39:15But you try to be
39:16unmanufactured
39:17in a manufactured situation.
39:19But sebenarnya
39:20itu adalah life.
39:21Yeah.
39:22Yeah, yeah.
39:22You're right.
39:23You get on a train.
39:24You go anywhere.
39:25Yeah.
39:25You still can behave
39:26in a certain way.
39:27Yeah.
39:27So, what we tell ourselves
39:28is not manufactured
39:29is also in some way manufactured.
39:31Still in many layers.
39:33Yeah.
39:34Right.
39:34Jom kita pilih lagu.
39:36Sebelum kita
39:37keluar, kita berakhir.
39:40Ah, sudah.
39:41Ha, jom.
39:43I love it.
39:44Okay, ini best.
39:45Dia je tahu
39:45macam mana nak berkata.
39:46Ah, sudah.
39:48Tak ada kena-mengena.
39:52Muatilah.
39:54Ah, dah, dah, dah.
39:55Okay.
39:56This is something.
39:58Something yang kita pernah
39:59melalui.
40:02Yeah.
40:03Silakan, introduce it.
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