How Long Should A First Date Be? (Less Than You Think)

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In this video, I'm going to show you all the nuances involved in how long a first date should be.  WHAT YOU WILL SEE:  00:32 How long a first date should last? 03:29 Is a 2 hour date too long? 03:41 How long should each date be?  WATCH NOW: How to Meet Girls for Relationships, Dating, & Sex (Exact Steps!) https://youtu.be/DcbLq0e9HLc  IF YOU ARE INTERESTED IN THIS KIND OF CONTENT, YOU SHOULD READ THIS ARTICLE: https://www.conquerandwin.com/why-women-go-cold-on-text-messages-and-how-to-write-messages-that-work/  WHO AM I:  Hi, I’m Eddy Baller, author & founder of Conquer & Win.  I’ve been a dating and relationship coach since 2011, and since then I have helped men across the globe to build their social confidence and get the dates and relationships they deserve.    FOR COACHING, GO TO: https://www.conquerandwin.com/vancouver-dating-coach/   GET IN TOUCH:  If you’d like to talk, I’d love to hear from you. Emailing me at eddy@conquerandwin.com directly will be the quickest way to get a response. I try my best to reply to things but there sadly aren’t enough hours in the day to respond to everyone though I’d get there as soon as I can.    ▼ see below for links & more ▼ ✉️  Sign up to my weekly email newsletter - https://www.conquerandwin.com/contact/ 🌍  My website / blog - https://www.conquerandwin.com 📸  Instagram - https://instagram.com/conquerandwin

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00:00How long should a first date be? And this is a relatively simple question, but there is some

00:03nuance to it because I've seen a lot of guys screw this up over the last 11 plus years since

00:08I've been coaching. And the length of your date may determine whether you get a second date or

00:12more. So to get the right answer to this question, we have to understand what is the purpose of your

00:16first date? Why are you meeting this girl? Are you trying to get laid or are you just trying to get

00:20to know her? Either way, your goal or your mission on your first date is going to dictate how long

00:25the date should be. So let's jump into it. If you're meeting this girl on your first date just

00:34to get to know her, you want to get to know her personality or goals and ambitions and all those

00:37good things, and maybe tell her a little bit about yourself, then keep it short. How short? Shorter

00:42than your dick. Now depending on your dick, that might be too short. But hear me out here. The

00:46longer you're on this date, the more likely you're going to leave tired. And she's going to leave

00:50tired too. Not physically tired unless you're arm wrestling, but you're going to leave mentally

00:54tired. And worst of all, she's going to leave mentally tired because everybody's trying to

00:57put a show and put on appearances on their first date. And it can be a little bit of a

01:01stress. Now, if you're having a really good first date and the chemistry is just there,

01:04hey, you have a little bit more time to work with. But generally speaking, you want to leave

01:08her fresh mentally. So when you leave, she actually remembers feeling good when she left. She doesn't

01:12feel tired. She doesn't have one of those pressure headaches from thinking so hard of what I'm

01:17going to say next. But even if it's going well, leaving early on a first date shows that you have

01:22other things to do. Hell, you might have another date after. And overall, that's going to give

01:25the impression that you're not needy. And this is really important. Girls and actually guys too,

01:30for that matter, don't want somebody who's needy, right? Who wants a needy partner who just clings

01:34onto them as soon as they meet? People are more interesting when they have things going on in

01:38their lives. And that means they don't have all the time in the world for you. And you shouldn't have

01:41all the time in the world for them either. So to get to the point, when you invite her on that second

01:45date, you want her to remember that feeling. That feeling that she felt good when she left. There's some

01:49mystery about you because you didn't tell her your whole life story. And there's lots to talk

01:53about still. And you're a guy who has other things going on in his life, not just a date. But when

01:57you invite her on that second date and that feeling she remembers is fatigued, she was kind of tired,

02:02the conversation went forever, then, you know, good luck. So keep it short to keep your odds better

02:06of getting a second date. Now, the second scenario is, hey, you want to get laid right away. And who

02:11doesn't? And if you want to take her home on the first date, the time limit goes right out the window

02:14as soon as you get home. That's because the dynamic changes as soon as you're in a more intimate

02:18environment and possibly getting more intimate. And that's when all the chemistry changes because,

02:22hey, you got to try before you buy, right? So after about an hour, and this goes for the first date,

02:27if you're just trying to get to know her too, after about an hour, just, hey, let's go back to my

02:30place. And she turns down your invite. She says she's busy or two other things or just a straight

02:34up note. That's fine. It doesn't mean you're not going to get a second date. But another benefit is

02:37that you're showing some assertiveness, drawing a line or saying, hey, this is a romantic thing.

02:41This is not platonic. We're not friends. And she'll know what they expect on the second date. And even if she

02:45does say yes, that does not mean you're going to get laid. You can go home with her. You might

02:48end up kissing or not. And or doesn't go anywhere or she's not ready to go all the way. And that's

02:52fine. But now that you're home, you can just chill, take your time, chat more, get to know her more

02:56and have a good date. So to summarize, here's how long the first date should last. Number one,

03:00if you're just getting to know her, then keep her date to under an hour and say, hey, I got to get

03:04going, but let's chat another time. You'll come across less needy. You look like you're a guy who has

03:07things going on. And hopefully you do. Plus, you're respecting your own time because, hey, time is

03:11precious and you should be getting on to other things if you're not going to be advancing that date forward.

03:15Number two, if you want to get laid, then invite her home. After about an hour, invite her home

03:19and see how things go. If she says yes, don't worry about the time. Just take your time while you're

03:23home and enjoy yourself. Now here's some common questions guys ask about how long a first date

03:27should last. Is a two-hour date too long? Generally speaking, a two-hour date is a little bit too long.

03:31It's not too crazy, but it's at that point where both of you are going to probably start getting tired

03:35thinking about things to say. On the other hand, if you're hiking or doing something active, it may not be

03:40that long. How long should each date be? Each date should last about an hour depending on what you're

03:43doing. If you're going for coffee or having a drink, keep it to about an hour. If you're doing

03:47something active, then you can go for longer. Or if you go home together, then obviously that's

03:51going to last much longer. If you want to learn more about how to have great first dates, then check

03:54with the link in the description or the comment section below. And until next time, conquer and win.

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