00:00Shadhi, Sanskar, Sanyam,
00:04aq waadha, jho jeevan bhar nibhaya jata hai,
00:07ya shayad, aq waadha, jho keval aq ko bhugatna ho ta hai,
00:12jishe samaj nye pavitr kaha,
00:14woh ab eek manu vajjyanik jal ban chuka hai,
00:17aq aisa jal, jismei har saal,
00:19laakhon purush apni aajadhi,
00:21mansik shanthi,
00:23aur atm samman kho djetetey hai,
00:25aur isse pyar ka naam dhe djetetey hai,
00:27lekin sawal yeh hai,
00:30kya yeh vaakai pyar hai,
00:32ya koi samajik dhokha,
00:35jho purushon ko maansik,
00:37bhavnaatmak,
00:38aur arathik rup se,
00:40khun chusnay wali vyaasthah mein bhangh djeta hai,
00:43tumhye bajpan se sikhaaya gaya,
00:45ki eek dhin eek lardki aeegi,
00:47tumhye pura kareegi,
00:49tum uski raksha karoge,
00:50uska dhyan rakhoge,
00:52aur badle me,
00:53woh tumhye aapnayegi,
00:55par kisiy nye nahi bataaya,
00:56ki eek dhin,
00:58woh tumse oop jayegi,
01:00tumhari mardangi ko toxic kheegi,
01:03aur phir,
01:04tumhari aadhe sapnu,
01:05aadhi sampatti,
01:07aur puri aatme vishwaas ko lhe kar chalye jayegi,
01:10eek mard ke liye,
01:11shadhi me sabse pahla nukasan hota hai,
01:14bhavnaatmak,
01:16tumse umeed ki jati hai,
01:17ki tum stable rahu,
01:18jab woh gusse me ho,
01:21tum shantra ho,
01:22jab woh dukhi ho,
01:24tum sahara do,
01:25jab woh uljhan me ho,
01:27tum raastah banao,
01:29pard jab tum tuta mehsus kertte ho,
01:31koi nahi buchta,
01:33tumhye bas chup rahna hota hai,
01:35kyunki agar tumhne apni kamzori dikha dhi,
01:38to woh tumhye mard nahi maanegi,
01:41woh kahegi,
01:42tumhne mujhe surakshit mehsus nahi garaaya,
01:45aur isi liye,
01:46shadhi eek aeisi jaghe ben jati hai,
01:49jahaan eek purush ki bhaavnayen dfn ho jati hai,
01:53tum roh nahi sakti,
01:54tum thak nahi sakti,
01:56tum ruk nahi sakti,
01:58tumhye sirf dhena hota hai,
02:00aur jab tumhahare anndar kuch bachta hi nahi,
02:02tab bhi tumse maang jari rheti hai,
02:06shadhi,
02:07ab sangehedaari nahi rahi,
02:09abh yeh eek asthai contract hai,
02:12jis mei asthaiitv ka dikhawa hai,
02:15tum dhin rath is dhr mei jithe ho,
02:17ki kab eek baat galat nikal jaye,
02:20aur woh khehde,
02:21mai khush nahi hun,
02:23yeh woh vaqya hai,
02:25jisnei karođo purušo ki zindhki bharbaad ki hai,
02:28mai khush nahi hun,
02:30na wajah batani hai,
02:31na samadhan chahiye,
02:33bas eek emotion,
02:35aur puri shadhi khatm,
02:37tumhahari zindhgi is dhr mei badal jati hai,
02:41kya meinne kuchh غalat keha dhiya,
02:43kya áaj woh kod lag rhe hi hai,
02:46kya woh ab mujhe dhekhti bhi hai viese,
02:49yeh dhr,
02:49tumhahare vya bahar ko badal djeta hai,
02:52tum aapne asli rup ko chhupaanne lagtay ho,
02:54taa ki woh naaraz na ho,
02:57taa ki woh ruki rhe hai,
02:58tum eek bezuban abhineta ban jate ho,
03:02joh eek aeisi script pard raha hai,
03:04jis mei uska khud ka character hi mar chuka hai,
03:08ab baat kertte hai,
03:09us chiz ki,
03:10jisse samaaj kabhi nahi dhikhata,
03:13woh hai,
03:14paesa,
03:15shadhi eek aeisa contract hai,
03:18jisse woh jab chahe tor sakti hai,
03:20lekin sazda tumhye milti hai,
03:23talaq woh leeti hai,
03:25tum djeti ho,
03:26woh aaghe badhti hai,
03:28tum adaltoon me phanstay ho,
03:30woh khehti hai,
03:32mein ab tumse pyaar nahi kerti,
03:34aur tum aapne bank balance,
03:36bachyong,
03:37aur maan sikh shanty ko alvida kheatay ho,
03:40aur is system ko lagu karwata hai,
03:42system,
03:44tum eek aeise jurm ki sazda bhogatay ho,
03:47jho tumne kea hi nahi,
03:48tumne sirf shadhi ki,
03:51usse jho kabhi sach mein tumse nahi judi thi,
03:54bulki eek aadarsh ki gulam thi,
03:57jisse samaaj nye
03:58uske dhimag mein inject kiya tha,
04:01nidhya nye kaha tha,
04:03marriage is a long conversation,
04:06interrupted by disputes,
04:08lekin ab woh baat chit bhi nahi bachay,
04:11ab sirf dikhawa bacha hai,
04:14shadhi ka adhunik rup,
04:16na toh loyalty per tikka hai,
04:18na stability per,
04:20nahi preem per,
04:21ab yaha ek instagram yogya jivan sheli ban gai hai,
04:25jahaan tum sirf ek prop ho,
04:28uske fiend me,
04:29Shopenhavar nye chitaya tha,
04:31marrying means to halve your rights,
04:34and double your duties,
04:35aur aaj,
04:36jyye aadhe bhi nahi bachay,
04:38aaj,
04:39aaj,
04:39tumhahar e sarae adhikar,
04:41chhine liye jate hai,
04:42aur,
04:43aur,
04:43zimbedariyan,
04:43anginat,
04:45diddi jati hai,
04:46eek satchi khaanhi,
05:17eek bachke mein rahi raha hai,
05:19har mahi ne,
05:20aapni salary ka,
05:21saathe prtishat dayta hai,
05:22bachyun ko pundrha dhin me,
05:24eek bara dhek sakti hai,
05:26sirf maa ki mرضi se,
05:28rajev nye koi aparad nahi kiya tha,
05:31usne sirf shadhi ki thi,
05:33tum eeb kone raha gaya ho,
05:35mere dost,
05:36shadhi me dhirae dhirae,
05:38tum woh insaan ben jate ho,
05:41jis se tum khud,
05:42nafret karne lagtay ho,
05:44tum wohi nahi raha jate,
05:45jo kabhi thay,
05:47na tumhahari hansi asli hooti hai,
05:49na tumhahari chuppi,
05:50tum eek hus band ben jate ho,
05:53jis ka naam nahi,
05:55chahra nahi,
05:56keval bhoomika hai,
05:57eek bhoomika,
05:58jis se nibhaate nibhaate,
06:00tum aapne self se kat jate ho,
06:03yeh eek adrish yudh hai,
06:05áj ki shadhi me,
06:07adhikar berabar nahi hai,
06:09tum souchtay ho,
06:10ki tum mardh ho,
06:11tumhaharhe paas taqat hai,
06:13पर asli power uske paas hai,
06:15narrative power,
06:17woh keha sakti hai,
06:18emotional abuse,
06:20lack of attention,
06:22ya sirf,
06:23unsafe feeling,
06:24और tum aapradhi ben jate ho,
06:27uske aansu,
06:29tumhahari cheekhon se zyadha sunayi djeti hai,
06:32tumhahari sachai ko daba djeti hai,
06:35woh victim kehlati hai,
06:36chahe chahe,
06:37chahe woh chhor ke hi,
06:38kye kyu na chalhi jaye,
06:39और tum abuser,
06:41kae cari chahe chahe,
06:43chahe chahe,
06:47This is a new language.
06:49It is important for the fact.
06:51The emotional thing is important for the fact.
06:53The human being,
06:55the human being,
06:57you are every time.
06:59You think that the things are going on.
07:01One day,
07:03one day,
07:05one day,
07:07you are going to see what you are doing.
07:09But no,
07:11because the marriage is not enough.
07:13This is the expectation.
07:15The human being,
07:17the human being which you are doing.
07:19The human being,
07:21the human being,
07:23the human being.
07:25And you,
07:27you will also be the ones who are doing.
07:29What will the human being?
07:31When you look at the human being.
07:33Simone de Beauvoir.
07:35The woman is not born,
07:37but rather becomes.
07:39What will the human being?
07:41The human being.
07:43एक ऐसा अस्तित्व, जो अपने सारे अधिकार मांगती है, लेकिन जिम्मेदारियां टाल देती है।
07:50Nietzsche ने कहा था, He who has a why to live can bear almost any how, लेकिन शादी पुरुष का why छेन लेती है।
08:00तुम्हें एक मकसद चाहिए, पर जब मकसद ही केवल उसे खुश रखना हो, तो तुम्हारा हाव कभी पूरा नहीं होता।
08:09इस सैब में सबसे बड़ा emotional हत्यार बनते हैं।
08:13बच्चे, वो जिन्हें तुमने प्यार से पाला, जिनके लिए तुमने रातों की नींद कमवाई, वो एक दिन तुमसे छीन लिये जाते हैं।
08:22सिर्फ इसलिए क्योंकि तुम पुरुष हो, कानून उसके पक्ष में है, समाज उसकी कहानी मानता है, और बच्चे, वो उसकी परवरिश में तुमसे दूर हो जाते हैं।
08:37तुम बस एक ATM रह जाते हो, emotionally distant, financially trapped।
08:43एक case study बताता हुन निर्भय नाम के एक प्रतिष्ठित प्रॉफेसर की जो ethics and logic पढ़ाता था।
08:52पर शादी ने उसे वो सिखाया, जो कोई किताब नहीं सिखा सकती थी, double standards।
08:59उसकी पत्नी ने 9 साल की शादी के बाद कहा, मैं खुद को खो चुकी हूँ।
09:04निर्भय ने therapy offer की समय दिया, लेकिन US की wife ने तलाक चुना, आज निर्भय अपने ही चात्रों से चुपता है, बच्चे अब उसे visitor की तरह मिलते हैं, उसे domestic abuse का जूठा आरोब जहिलना पड़ा, बिना किसी सबूत के, सिर्फ इसलिए क्योंकि कोई उसे unsafe महसूस करने लगा,
09:34और समाज केवल तभी सम्मान देता है, जब वे कुछ कर रहे होते हैं, emotion दिखाया, कमजोर, शिकायत की, असुरक्षत, खुद को चुना, स्वार्थी, शादी एक ऐसा संस्थान बन चुका है, जहां पुरुष का मुल्य उसकी utility से जुड़ा है, ना कि उसकी मानवता से, और
10:04मुल्य हीन हो जाता है, तु अब क्या, अब समय है, सवाल पूछने का, क्या तुम इस खेल का हिस्सा बने रहोगे, या इस नकली रोमान्स के खेल से बाहर निकलोगे,
10:16because the game is not meant for your happiness, it's designed for your compliance, विवाह अब प्रेम नहीं है, वह अब एक सामाजिक प्रयोग है, जहां पुरुष प्रयोग शाला का चूहा बन चुका है,
10:38तुम से कहा गया था, अगर तुम शादी नहीं करोगे, तो तुम अकेले मरोगे, पर जो शादी कर लेते हैं, वो तो जीते जी मर जाते हैं,
10:49This is the truth.
10:51The man is a waste when the woman is not able to get a person to get a woman.
10:56The man is a waste when the woman is not able to settle.
11:01This is the key existence in a person.
11:06Nietzsche has said that the human being said that human being is a waste of money.
11:12The body is the herd instinct in the individual.
11:16The Silent Revolution
11:26The Silent Revolution
11:28The Silent Revolution
11:30Why?
11:36Why?
11:37Because it has not said that
11:41I will not say that
11:42I will not say that
11:44I will not say that
11:47I will not say that
11:49I will not say that
11:51I will not say that
11:53I will not say that
11:54I will not say that
11:56This is not a commitment
11:57I will not say that
11:59Commitment Phobic
12:00Narcissist
12:02Immature
12:04Player
12:05Selfish
12:06But if someone is asking
12:08They are really alone
12:10Or
12:11अगर तुम वही जीवन जीते हो, जो सब जी रहे हैं, तो तुम वही दुख भोगोगे, जो सब भोग रहे हैं.
12:30शादी के बिना पुरुष कैसा हो सकता है, वो अपने समय का मालिक है, अपने पैसे का स्वामी है, अपनी उर्जा को जहां चाहे, वहां निवेश करता है, वो सॉलिटूड में डरता नहीं, बल्कि उस एकांत को आत्मा की शान्ती बनाता है, वो महिला के वैलिडेशन का भू�
13:00क्रियेटर बन सकता है, उसे बच्चों की ओनर्शिप नहीं चाहिए, जब वह अगली पीढ़ी को इंफ्लूएंस कर सकता है, किरकेगाड ने कहा था, the crowd is untruth, और शादी सबसे बड़ी crowd approved lie है, जब पूरा समाज एक narrative को push करता है, तो उस narrative को जूट माननी की हिम्मत सिर्फ क�
13:30Loneliness फरक समझो, तुम अकेले हो सकते हो, पर अकेलेपन का अर्थ ये नहीं कि तुम टुटे हुए हो, Loneliness एक दर्द है, Aloneness एक स्थिती, Loneliness में तुम किसी को खोचते हो, Aloneness में तुम खुद को पाते हो, शादी तुम्हें दूसरों में अर्थ ढूनना सिखाती है, Aloneness तुम्
14:00that you will be married or not?
14:03The question is,
14:05is that you are so happy
14:06that you will be able to accept the system?
14:09Is that you are so happy
14:10that you will be able to understand the body?
14:13Is that you are so happy
14:15that you will be able to live without a validation?
14:18And if you are,
14:19then you will be able to get a good
14:21and a good person to get a good person.
14:23You will not be able to get a good person.
14:25No love for the name of the name,
14:28no the people of the name of the name,
14:29He will go alone, but in that alone he will meet himself.
14:41And this is the exit.
14:45It's not a marriage, it's not a marriage.
14:50It's not a marriage.
14:53It's a system, which can be broken.
14:58But if you have questions, if you have questions,
15:05if you have questions,
15:07which you have learned from the past,
15:09then you will not be able to get them.
15:11This is the first time.
15:13We will be able to answer questions.
15:17If you want to run away from the past,
15:19if you don't want to run away from the past,
15:22then you will not be able to kill them,
15:24which will kill you.
15:57If you want to run away from the past,
15:59then you will be able to run away from the past,
16:00then you will be able to run away from the past.
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