Two Types of People in Conflict (Which One Are You?)

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Conflicts reveal who we really are—problem-causers or problem-solvers. But avoiding doesn’t make you neutral, it only fuels the fire. 🚫  👉 Learn why avoidance is passive escalation and how stepping up creates peace. ✨ Follow for more powerful self-growth lessons.  #SelfGrowth #ConflictResolution #LifeLessons #MindsetShift #PersonalDevelopment  ©️ All rights and credit reserved to the respective owner(s).

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00:00There are two types of people in every conflict, problem causers and problem solvers.

00:05Some people assume that there's a third category, but it's really just two, and I'm going to explain why.

00:10Problem causers are people who escalate, instigate, and infuriate during conflict.

00:15They don't just fuel the fire.

00:17These are the people who pour gasoline on what might have just been a spark, making everything more explosive.

00:23They're driven primarily by emotions, which means they operate out of frustration, fear, and pride,

00:27and it also means that they inherently make bad situations worse.

00:30Now, on the other hand, there's a problem solver, and these are the people who step in,

00:34see the bigger picture, and actively work towards resolution.

00:37They're focused on understanding and de-escalating situations.

00:40They're thinkers, not reactors.

00:42Now, some people believe that there's a third group, what I refer to as problem stallers,

00:47and these are the people who think they're neutral.

00:49They have the responsibility and the ability to speak into a conflict,

00:53but because they didn't start it, they don't want to get involved.

00:56Instead, they just avoid it, and they distance themselves from it.

00:59And here's the issue with doing that.

01:01Problem stallers don't realize that avoidance isn't neutral.

01:04It's actually passive escalation.

01:07Research reveals that 89% of people let conflict escalate before they do anything about it.

01:11And refusal to step in and help solve a problem that you have the power to resolve

01:15only allows conflict to grow.

01:17So when you have that power to address conflict and the responsibility,

01:20but you don't do it, you become a problem staller.

01:23And a problem staller is just a problem causer in disguise.

01:27Okay.

01:28Let's do this.

01:28So keeping the choice, and having to I get to move forward.

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