00:00Well, I've felt like in the past, I've tried to change myself.
00:02Yes.
00:03Like I've tried to change the way I act or, you know, the way I show affection or to try and match someone's, you know, people talk about match their energy, match their energy.
00:13Oh, I don't believe in that.
00:14I actually don't believe in that because what you're trying to do in doing that, you're giving all the power to the person.
00:20See, you tried to change in order to manipulate them into thinking or feeling something.
00:28Yeah.
00:28This is a very different approach.
00:30So for anybody that's like a people pleaser, you desperately want to be in a relationship.
00:34I used to be like this when I was dating.
00:36I would literally change my music tastes from punk to Scott to the Grateful Dead to country, depending upon who the person was that I was interested in.
00:45Anything to kind of be near them.
00:47Find a common ground.
00:48Yeah, find a common ground.
00:49Do not do that because now you're giving the power to somebody else.
00:53You have to let people be who they are, and then you've got to come back to yourself and say, well, what do I really like?
00:59Because let's get real here.
01:00You're the one that's creating your life.
01:03The person that you pick isn't making it better.
01:07They get to share it.
01:08Correct.
01:08Correct.
01:09Correct.
01:10Correct.
01:30Correct.
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