00:00in love must you gratify the other or must you elevate the other and there is a tremendous
00:09difference between these two you know don't you which of these two is easier more attractive
00:17self-gratification right if you are with someone just gratify the person and most people when they
00:25are gratified they reciprocate if you make them happy they'll do something to make you happy but
00:31is that love and then there is self-elevation which is never an easy thing when you make someone happy
00:39he feels obliged to return the happiness whereas when you want to elevate someone it causes some
00:49pain some stretch some distress chances are that the fellow will not only be not grateful to you
00:56he might even become actively passively hostile to you
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