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Ready to Love Season 11 Episode 7
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00:00Previously on Ready to Live.
00:02You guys are body painting today.
00:05I'm nervous.
00:06What are you drawing?
00:07Is it a name?
00:08Mm-hmm.
00:14As a man that's trying to grow with someone,
00:16I'm still team Tay.
00:17Like, I see me and her together.
00:19What do not know that everybody else know?
00:21I spent some time in a group home.
00:23That was from the age of 13 to college.
00:26That was a long time.
00:27It made me want to love on this man.
00:29You cool with, like, all your exes, right?
00:31Yeah.
00:32Like, I can see where that would go.
00:34Is that really an issue for you?
00:35Oh, my God.
00:36It would be an issue.
00:37Eddie and I, it wouldn't be a connection for me.
00:40Who are you no longer connecting with?
00:42I'm going to have to go with Fritz.
00:44The whole polygamy thing, you know, the girls got together.
00:48Hold on, hold on.
00:49The ladies were like...
00:51I know it took me some time to get to the place that you wanted me to be.
01:00Oh, but now I'm ready.
01:04I'm ready for your love.
01:08You told me we was good, but I don't really know if that's the truth.
01:16Oh, we good.
01:17You're telling me...
01:18Sarah.
01:19...that you said nothing bad about me in your deliberation.
01:21I did you wrong in that capacity.
01:23The ladies brought up, you're drinking.
01:26When I'm out socializing for the most part, I like a drink.
01:29But I haven't been drunk on this show yet.
01:32Had you been holding yourself accountable from the beginning,
01:36we wouldn't be having this conversation.
01:38And what conversation are we having?
01:40The conversation where the ladies feel like they're not ready to love.
01:46The shoe drops.
01:47The cookie crumbled.
01:49Even though Sahara clearly not my cup of tea,
01:52and Tommy's fault.
01:54I shouldn't have gotten to the way I did.
01:56I thought we was good.
01:57I put it there when you first came in, but you know.
01:59I should have just quietly put her in my bottom,
02:02but not make a mockery of it.
02:04That was my downfall.
02:11We don't feel at this moment that you're ready to love.
02:18I got respect there.
02:19Yeah.
02:20Honestly, I didn't expect to go home so soon.
02:22Your boy's supposed to be at the end.
02:23You know what I mean?
02:24But things happen.
02:25You know, women, they made their decision.
02:27You know, I got to live with it.
02:29I appreciate you dropping that news on me.
02:31I'm going to take it in.
02:32I appreciate you taking it so well.
02:34Like, everybody won't take this well.
02:35I learned that I can be a closed book.
02:37You got to open up.
02:38I'm definitely going to find a level.
02:39I'm ready to build this legacy.
02:40Yeah, it's putty Jones in this city.
02:41You know what I mean?
02:42Keep fishing.
02:44I was going to find a level.
02:45I'm ready to build this legacy.
02:46Yeah, it's putty Jones in this city.
02:47You know what I mean?
02:48Keep fishing.
02:49We are down to six men, man, and this is crazy.
03:15I can't believe it, but I can't worry about that too much.
03:18I'll put it in my rear view and go forward on my journey.
03:21Jay.
03:22How are you?
03:23Good to see you, man.
03:24Hey, Jay.
03:25What's going on, bro?
03:25Welcome back, fellas.
03:26How y'all feeling?
03:27Feeling good.
03:29A little tight today.
03:30Taking a quick look around, man.
03:32Look like our number's getting smaller and smaller.
03:34It's getting tight.
03:35That's exactly how it works.
03:37So over the past few weeks, we talked a lot about the future.
03:40But this week, this is about looking at the past.
03:44I want you to meet their exes.
03:48Ooh.
03:48This is new territory for me.
03:53I usually wouldn't do this, but it's always good to get a perspective of somebody that
03:56was in a relationship with them.
03:58I should learn a lot this week.
04:00Meeting these women's exes gives you instant comparison of the woman she was before and
04:05the woman that she is now.
04:07Those men, they what?
04:08They exes.
04:09And they exes for a reason.
04:11Ooh.
04:12All right.
04:12You got your assignment?
04:14I'm going to catch y'all back here at the end of the week.
04:16Got it.
04:16All right, man.
04:16Be careful.
04:17Some of them exes will whoop your ass.
04:19They still mad about a lot of things.
04:20Oh, man.
04:21Oh, man.
04:22I think the only thing that really has me nervous, hearing something I don't want to hear.
04:26You know?
04:26But at the same time, I'm here to hear it.
04:29Yeah, let's do this.
04:30Get out of here.
04:30Don't get in no fights with the exes, y'all.
04:32I see who you are, baby.
04:37Don't get in no fights with the exes.
04:40Today, I'm meeting Angie's ex.
04:42Angie became a connection for me at the block party.
04:44Me and her connection is definitely growing, and I'm just hoping after this meet the ex that it just continues to do that.
04:49Hey, guys.
04:50Hey, guys.
04:50How y'all doing?
04:51Hey, boo.
04:51What's up?
04:52What's up, man?
04:52How you doing?
04:53Nice to meet you.
04:53Nice to meet you.
04:55Hussain is meeting my son's father, Jamal, and I am just a tad bit nervous because it will actually be the first time that we've ever done something like that.
05:06Y'all get to see each other often?
05:07No, only when it's time to pick up and drop off.
05:10Yeah.
05:11Oh, your son.
05:13Your son?
05:13Uh-huh.
05:14Oh, so let's reshape that.
05:16Hussain, what's up, man?
05:18Oh, yeah, this is definitely a first.
05:20Yeah.
05:21Oh, let me get that sweat off.
05:22All right.
05:23I do have more than one connection, and I feel like at this point, Hussain and I have grown very strong, so that's why I chose him for this.
05:31As far as you guys' relationship, what was the factor that drove y'all to a split?
05:38I know what it is.
05:39I think it was, I'm going to say communication.
05:41He told me, like, listen, like, you make me feel not wanted, like, because you always think you can do it yourself all the time, all the time, when at the end of the day, what?
05:52Yeah.
05:54Because I got a story off of that.
05:56When she was in labor, she drove herself to the hospital.
05:59I'm like, I got it.
06:01She's like, no, I got it.
06:02She drove herself to the hospital.
06:04Oh, I did?
06:06It ain't had nothing to do with you.
06:08I feel in the passenger seat while she's in labor driving herself to the hospital.
06:11Yeah, no, I get that definitely on, you know, the male side.
06:15That's something that's, you know, probably going to resonate and sit with you.
06:18I think I just wanted her to let me lead a little more.
06:22I'm sorry.
06:23It's just as good for men, just in general.
06:25Let a man lead.
06:26Like, you don't have to be strong all the time.
06:29I get it sometimes, but allow a man to be a man, you know, just allow that.
06:33One of the things I walked away from this date, you know, knowing about Angie, is that she might ask her man to do something, but she's definitely going to jump right to it and do it herself.
06:40I'm used to being in control.
06:41That was definitely a red flag.
06:43I'll talk to you later, all right?
06:44All right, call me.
06:45I'm around.
06:46All right, nice meeting you, man.
06:47Nice to meet you.
06:48And I definitely got some information to go back to the vault with.
06:55Like a ball of fire.
06:56I am about to meet up with Jay to introduce him to my ex, Jules, and I am scared.
07:06Hello.
07:07Hey.
07:08How you doing?
07:09I'm good.
07:10We did try to date one time.
07:12It didn't work out, so I decided that we would be best as friends, and that's kind of where we are.
07:19So, you've known me my whole life.
07:21Your whole life?
07:23Yes, you have.
07:24Okay.
07:24I feel like you have my best interest at heart.
07:26Only always.
07:28Okay.
07:29Um, I would like you to meet the person that I feel like I'm connected with on this journey.
07:35You sure?
07:36I'm sure.
07:39So, today I'm being Kiera X.
07:41My strategy is just to go in there, hear the guy out, and really dissect the information I get.
07:46Hey, hey, hey.
07:47How you doing?
07:48Going on.
07:48How you, bro?
07:49Jay.
07:49Make sure it aligns with what she's telling me, and is it suitable for me?
07:53I want to go forward with.
07:54Hey, how you doing?
07:55I'm interested to see what type of guys Kiera's into.
07:58He could be a clown.
07:59He could be a goofy, you know what I mean?
08:00Or he could be, like me, a thoroughbred.
08:02Babe was more excited to see me.
08:04I know that for sure.
08:05So, uh, yeah, bro.
08:06So, what happened between y'all two?
08:08All right.
08:08So, long story longer.
08:10When we were younger, she had a little crush on me, right?
08:13Mm-hmm.
08:14Now, of course, she was a couple years younger than my younger sister, so there's no moves to be made at that time.
08:20Right.
08:21So, I always kept my eye on her, you know what I'm saying?
08:23Like, when the opportunity presented itself, once she became of age, I hopped on that joint.
08:29She had a crush on you when she was little, but y'all nine years apart, so when she was nine, you was 18.
08:35So, the math wasn't math for me.
08:37So, tell me about yourself, man.
08:38Like, what you think the connection is between you and Kee-y'all, you smiling.
08:44I'm going to tell you a little bit, but I want to hear from you for sure, because you're giving me the insight that I never knew.
08:48As you've seen it, though, she a beautiful person, as you know it.
08:51She got the swag.
08:52I love the bougie.
08:54That bougie stuff is what it is.
08:56What makes you rub me the wrong way about the bougie thing?
08:59Because I feel like being bougie is a mindset.
09:01You're talking about somebody that knew her before she even knew that word.
09:03She was a humble little servant.
09:04I was never given humble.
09:07Yeah, yeah, you're right.
09:08You're right.
09:08She was a humble, she was a humble person.
09:11I was a humble servant.
09:12Serving of a church.
09:15Serving of a church.
09:15I was definitely into church.
09:17Yeah, church.
09:17That makes sense.
09:18Okay.
09:18You had these values, and then it was a time where it just kind of, like, faded away.
09:24What are you trying to get at?
09:25Oh, she used to be this sweet old girl.
09:27Now she's this cocky girl with money.
09:29Like, come on, bro.
09:30Now she left you behind.
09:32That's what's going on.
09:33Ultimately, at the end of the day, I just want to see her happy.
09:36And if seeing her happy is not being with me, although that's a mad dagger dog.
09:40That's a dagger.
09:41That's a mad pill to swallow.
09:42That's big, Jones.
09:43That's a big old horse pill, man.
09:44So you feel like you've been holding on for that many years?
09:46When you like somebody and you have a crush on them, it never go away.
09:51Jules is failing me.
09:53All I asked was make sure Jay's good for me.
09:56Not try to prove how much you love me and how materialistic I am.
10:01That's not what I asked for at all.
10:03I'm not going to lie, like, and say, like, I don't have feelings for her anymore.
10:06You know what I mean?
10:07Like, I definitely got feelings for the girl.
10:09Like, duh, I'm here.
10:16I'm not going to lie, like, and say, like, I don't have feelings for her anymore.
10:20You know what I mean?
10:20Like, I definitely got feelings for the girl.
10:22Like, duh, I'm here.
10:24Just so we clear.
10:25Okay.
10:25I heard it.
10:26All right.
10:26So your job here is to be vetting him for me to make sure that he's the right match for me.
10:35So Jules is definitely someone that I always have to remind that they are in the friend zone.
10:41We are friends.
10:42You are my homie, my dog.
10:44We gang gang.
10:46That's it.
10:47That's all.
10:48One of my philosophies that I live with is that as long as you're living, you always have opportunity.
10:52So take advantage of whatever opportunity that life gives you.
10:56So you willing to wait until 80 if it take the chance?
10:58Like, you don't just got one crush.
11:01You got more than one crush.
11:02Like, I'm not an idiot.
11:03You know what I'm saying?
11:03That's your top crush.
11:05Yeah, that man still got feelings.
11:06Jules still has feelings for Kier and he tripping.
11:08He told me he's going to wait until he 80.
11:10It must be a drought for that man.
11:11He must not got nothing in the tub.
11:13No more numbers on his phone.
11:15It's just like, it's just Kier since she was nine, bro.
11:18Like, bro, come on.
11:19What are you doing?
11:20Analysis, bro.
11:22Hopefully, brother, man.
11:23I just want you to know the new her and not the old her.
11:27Period.
11:27Yeah.
11:28I don't think you can accept the new her just yet.
11:30You trying to wrap your head around it, but it's like the humble servant.
11:33You're still at the top of your brain.
11:34No, no, no, no.
11:36You might be getting this version of her.
11:37I experienced my version of her.
11:39It may make me fall in love with her even that much more when I got to spend some quality
11:43time with her.
11:44I basically wish you the best.
11:46My takeaway from the date, it just made me look at her as far as, this your friend?
11:51This your guy?
11:52This your ex?
11:53Just look at that man by the wayside.
11:55If you a pest and a nuisance and you ain't trying to swat that fly, then I'm going to move on.
12:00I'm going to go ahead and handle my business elsewhere.
12:02He's not about to be an issue for me.
12:10So this week, the men, we hold the power and we've been assigned with me and our Connections X.
12:16What's up, brother?
12:16How you doing, man?
12:17How you doing?
12:18This is Cisco.
12:19Shanice has definitely caught my eye from the beginning.
12:22Um, and then also after body painting, Shanice is definitely moving up.
12:27We've been working out and you know, it's all right, though.
12:30Francisco is meeting my ex, Augie.
12:32He's the only person I felt like would actually participate in a healthy way.
12:37I don't think anybody else would even do it without probably punching Cisco in the face.
12:41Oh, here we go.
12:43It's definitely important to know a woman's past.
12:52You want to know where a woman comes from and she has a history of doing anything a little
12:57bit crazy or whatnot.
12:58Better smile, boy.
13:00But when I walk into the date, I only see Sahara sitting there and I'm just like, what's going
13:05on?
13:06Okay, so.
13:08What's up?
13:09As you can see, there's nobody there.
13:12Okay.
13:12I don't have exes.
13:14Um, one of my exes passed away.
13:16Okay.
13:17He was like my ex, but he was kind of like my best friend, too.
13:19Yeah, no, I get that.
13:20So, it was rough.
13:22So, when Sahara explains to me why there was no ex on the date, I don't know.
13:26I kind of felt bad for her because who shows up for her?
13:30But I'm here today to answer anything that you will be answering.
13:33Oh, you better.
13:34I'm asking all the questions now, okay?
13:35All right, go on then.
13:36Let's go.
13:36All right.
13:38Just to get this started, there's a lot of testosterone at this table.
13:40We dated back when I was in college.
13:45Where did it go wrong?
13:46Like, what was the main issue that caused a split between you two?
13:49Niece had ambition and she was traveling.
13:52So, I wasn't really traveling back then.
13:55I wasn't ready.
13:56And I admit that time is everything.
13:57You know what I mean?
13:58And it's, you know, my time is over, right?
14:00And we just say friend.
14:02I mean, good friend.
14:03I mean, I see the chemistry.
14:05I mean, should I be worried?
14:07No.
14:09What things did you learn from your past relationships that you're going to bring into your new relationships?
14:14I learned that I love unconditional.
14:18There's not much that you can do that'll make me leave, right?
14:23And that might not be the best thing.
14:27But it shows that you were like a ride or die.
14:29Like, that you're willing to work through problems to be with your person.
14:33Yeah.
14:34I'm tired of riding and dying.
14:37I don't want to ride and die.
14:39I want to ride and live.
14:42I feel like my ex, he used to just handle me so rough because he felt like I could take it.
14:48And I can, but it's like, bro, like, do you or not?
14:52What's wrong with you?
14:54No, like, he just felt like I was unbreakable.
14:57Like, nothing hurt my feelings.
14:58Like, she's just so strong.
14:59She's so tough.
15:00You're still a lid and you still got to be treated.
15:02That's what I'm saying.
15:02Like, I can handle her this way.
15:04I think people take advantage of that.
15:06I think this is, like, the first time that she really opened up to me about her feelings.
15:10As far as her past and as far as, like, the struggles that she went through.
15:14I feel honored to, like, get that out of her because she doesn't break down for everybody.
15:21I'm going to start being weak.
15:22I'm going to be at the other one distressed.
15:23I'm going to have to.
15:25So y'all can start treating me a little bit softer.
15:27Or just find somebody that's going to shoot you soft no matter what.
15:31This is such an authentic person.
15:33That was one of the best qualities I saw as well, but also her spiritual side.
15:37Just how she would notice when I'd be kind of down and she'll come over and just be like,
15:40are you okay?
15:41You want to talk?
15:42You know, matter of fact, let me just pray for you real quick.
15:44Like, I've never really experienced something like that.
15:47So that side is another side of her that I have.
15:51Oh, you're going to make me cry.
15:53You never know if someone's noticing about you around here.
15:55Yeah.
15:55So it's a few potentials that have caught my eye.
15:59She's definitely one.
16:00He said a few.
16:02Who are those people?
16:03Listen, I struggled with that in the beginning because when I lock in,
16:07I lock in with who I like and everybody else is non-existent.
16:10It's no secret that, you know, I kind of locked in with Tay.
16:15What did Tay look like?
16:17Tay's cute.
16:18Okay.
16:18No, she's beautiful.
16:19Okay.
16:21Cisco emphasizing Tay and the comment about her beauty to me, that's just rude.
16:25I'm definitely never letting anybody talk to me about another woman like that.
16:29But, um, no, um, what did I say last?
16:33Tay's name was brought up during this date.
16:35I didn't like it.
16:36And to say that she's cute, nah, man, we all know she's beautiful.
16:40So I just had to let her be known, like, you know, don't, don't come for Tay like that.
16:44She can say, oh, who's Tay?
16:45But I can say, who's Fritz?
16:46Right?
16:47That was her number one.
16:48Right?
16:48So, you know, you just have to respect the process and, um, not, not take anything personal.
16:53All of you, he had nothing but great things to say about Sean East, but the connection me and Tay got, you know, strong as well.
16:58I got some hard decisions to make.
17:02Even though I didn't get a chance to meet your ex, I appreciate you for inviting me out.
17:06Yeah.
17:07You always have a good time.
17:08I try.
17:09Always, always.
17:10You know, I ride with you indefinitely.
17:11So, how is the open book?
17:13All you got to do is ask her, and she's going to tell you.
17:15So, even though the ex wasn't there, I probably learned more about her now than any other time.
17:21Give me a hug, girl.
17:23Why don't you grab the cheek real quick?
17:24I ain't grabbing it.
17:37I'm Kaylee, this is Hussain.
17:39What's up, Kaylee?
17:39Nice to meet you.
17:40Rose is definitely one of my top picks.
17:42After that last date, I feel like we had a real good conversation.
17:45The eyes were definitely locked.
17:47I'm going to get some new information today, but hopefully it's all a plus and we can continue
17:50on this road that we're on.
17:52Look at you.
17:52Check you out in the lime green.
17:53You know, I said, let me shine, baby.
17:56Let me let my light shine.
17:57Let me see you today.
17:58Kaylee is not the father of my child.
18:01Kaylee came way after.
18:03We started out as friends.
18:04We've known each other for almost 13 years.
18:06Even though we didn't work, we're still, like, so cool.
18:10I wouldn't have anybody else here other than him.
18:13So did y'all kiss yet?
18:15No, we haven't got to that yet.
18:17I had to ask.
18:18Believe it or not, Hussain and I are actually, like, being good.
18:22We're taking this process very serious.
18:24Kim!
18:25What's up, Risha?
18:26Kim.
18:26So I walk into the date and I see Rose, her ex, and then Hussain sitting at the table.
18:31I thought it was going to be just me and Rose and her ex, but, you know, we're going to see how it go.
18:35What's up?
18:35Kaylee, this is Kim.
18:36Nice to meet you.
18:36Rose, she's definitely one of my connections, so I'm excited to see how she is in relationships.
18:41She seems like she can do no wrongs.
18:43I want to dig up some dirt on her a little bit.
18:45So prior to us dating, we were friends for, like, what, 13 years?
18:48And then we just started dating October last year.
18:51So tell us about y'all relationships.
18:53So what would you say was, like, some of the challenges?
18:55What made it difficult for me is my timing.
18:58I got three kids.
18:59I couldn't reciprocate everything that she needs.
19:03And that's the ultimate reason why y'all didn't work out, because you couldn't give me full attention to each other.
19:09So knowing that her and Kaylee were cool before and after they dated, it's really not an issue with me, because I'm a strong believer in friendship, as long as they just keep it at that, a friendship.
19:26It's a little weird.
19:27I mean, it's definitely awkward to meet somebody's ex.
19:30Oh, my boy.
19:31That's good.
19:32Good to see you, too.
19:34So when I arrive, I see Tay sitting there.
19:36I see Francisco sitting there, but I don't see an ex, so I'm confused.
19:42Well, I'm so happy that both of y'all made it.
19:45Appreciate that.
19:46When Kaylee shows up to the date, I was taken back a bit, but listen, if she is developing more of a connection with Kaylee, he's a formidable opponent.
19:54Well, today, y'all was supposed to meet my ex, but unfortunately, he couldn't make it.
19:58I really did try.
19:59I reached out to a few of my exes, and they're currently in relationships, which I have to respect.
20:03Yeah, sure.
20:04Okay.
20:04But today, I'm going to be extremely open and honest with you, so anything that you would have asked him, please be welcome to ask me.
20:13Oh, perfect.
20:14Back.
20:14Right.
20:16The first thing I want to know is what you don't like.
20:20With snoring.
20:20Oh, snoring?
20:21Yeah.
20:21Oh, that's a deal breaker?
20:24I mean...
20:25What's wrong with snoring?
20:26I snore.
20:27How loud?
20:30See, see, we going to have problems.
20:32What was that one thing that just nagged you, bro?
20:35I want to know that, too.
20:36I can't say too many bad things about her, but sometimes, like, say if I was sick or something, she's so caring and so loving.
20:45You know times when you be like, I'm good.
20:47She's like, you know what you need?
20:48You need something?
20:49I'm good.
20:50I moved to the left.
20:51You all right?
20:52Trust me.
20:52I'm good.
20:53So me and Hussain kept trying to ask Katelyn, what does Rosie need to work on?
20:57What's her bad?
20:58And he was just saying, like, oh, she's caring too much sometimes.
21:02I'm like, bro, nobody's that perfect.
21:04Oh, she's too caring.
21:05Like, come on, bro.
21:06It's a good woman right here.
21:08How do you typically deal with, like, conflict in a relationship?
21:11I can be, like, defensive.
21:12Like, in the beginning, I'd be like, why are you...
21:13I feel like I'm being a 10.
21:15Like, you don't got to yell at me, like...
21:17What is something that will probably make you pull away from a relationship?
21:22Like, if I'm saying something to someone and I feel as though I'm not being hurt.
21:25Okay.
21:26If you're acting weird to me, like, and very distant to me,
21:29and I'm trying to talk to you, and I'm trying to communicate with you,
21:31so I'm going to match your energy.
21:32So that's going to definitely make me pull away.
21:35So I want to actually dig deeper into, like, and y'all a little bit.
21:38Because as far as, like, the whole church and spirituality thing,
21:41is that something that you need from a partner?
21:44Yes, that is actually something that I need from a partner.
21:47Okay.
21:48So would you go to church?
21:50Would I go to church?
21:51Uh, it's...
21:53I don't know.
21:55Like, I'm not, like, oh, I'm not opposed to it.
21:57Like, I would never step.
21:58So you could donate a Sunday, though?
22:00Like, you could.
22:00Like, you're like, that's, you know what?
22:01Just compromise.
22:02Yeah, that's it.
22:03Like, it's about compromise.
22:04He can attest.
22:05I am the most understanding, down-to-earth woman you will ever meet in your life.
22:10Yeah.
22:10Yeah.
22:11Okay.
22:11She kind of, like, downplayed it and said, oh, she's open-minded.
22:14She doesn't need me to do that.
22:15But hearing that from a friend, I have to question if she's being 100% truthful to me.
22:20I got to start figuring out, you know, if we really fit.
22:24I got an event to get to, so I'm going to handle that.
22:26Yo, that's nice meeting you, bro.
22:28I appreciate it.
22:28So after the meet-the-ex date, I felt like he sold us a great brand-new car.
22:33Everything was just too good to be true.
22:35That just told me that I just needed to do a little more exploring with her.
22:38I got a question for you.
22:41On a slow week, how often y'all was having sex?
22:44Oh, in the beginning?
22:47In the beginning, you know, it was on the popping.
22:49Yeah, yeah.
22:50You know what I'm saying?
22:52You know, I...
22:53That was a good question.
22:56She starts speaking her own language out here.
22:58She made up my own...
22:59I'm definitely still in the Tay.
23:04We haven't really got to a sexual connection yet, but it's definitely something there.
23:07I'm definitely attracted to her.
23:09I would like to get to that point eventually, hopefully.
23:11I was a third wheel in this joint, like...
23:14No, you wasn't.
23:15By the end of the date, man, I'm still Team Tay, but I'd be lying if I say I'm not concerned.
23:21I was noticing the body positioning for her, and I was just like,
23:23like, focus on Khalil the whole time.
23:26I just have to remain true to the process and know deep down inside that the connection
23:29me and Tay got is strong and can withstand this.
23:32Let's blow this hot dog's dead.
23:34Until next time, the bill on you.
23:38So this week, I have set up a date with Angie to meet her ex.
23:51My girl.
23:53Hi, Luke.
23:54I'm definitely excited to learn more about how she is in past relationships and things
23:59that she needs to work on.
24:01So I want to see if we can use something that's good for each other.
24:04Well, it's good to see you.
24:05I know, finally.
24:06I know.
24:07You've been hired from me.
24:08Oh, man.
24:08I'm hot.
24:09You're hot.
24:10Oh, okay.
24:11You like what you see, though.
24:12I love it.
24:13Love it.
24:13I am.
24:14Strong word.
24:16You're going to be saying that to anyone.
24:18I'm sorry.
24:18I like the confidence, though.
24:21I like it, though.
24:22So going into this date, Cam and I just started this connection at the block party.
24:26You should have used it.
24:26You should have.
24:27You should have been in my face real quick.
24:28The chemistry is electrifying, but we just started it.
24:34I got to meet somebody, right?
24:36Yes.
24:37Yeah.
24:37Who am I meeting?
24:38Um, we not.
24:41Cam is not meeting my son's dad because I have not been able to dive in and pull back layers
24:48with Cam yet.
24:48Wow.
24:49Hussein and I have grown very, very strong.
24:52Um, I'm not saying that it's not going to happen.
24:54Never.
24:55Just give me some scum.
24:56Let me work it out.
24:57I was mad, like, that I wasn't going to meet her ex.
25:00I mean, that's the assignment, first off.
25:02And it makes me feel like that you're trying to hide something.
25:05But there's green meat and grease.
25:14What's up, babe?
25:15You look gorgeous.
25:17Deanna has grown on me since the date at the nutrition bar.
25:21Every time I've seen her, from the block party to the first mixer, everything was just,
25:25like, a step of enhancement.
25:26We vibe every time we're around each other.
25:29Let me fan you.
25:30Yeah, I look hot.
25:31Yeah, I could go grab, like, three leaves and just stand next to me.
25:33What's up, bro?
25:35Hey, oh, hey, guy.
25:36So today I'm going to meet Deanna's ex.
25:38Deanna is dope.
25:40I lay my eyes on her, and my eyes just keep laying.
25:44Woo!
25:44Cheeks out, see, man?
25:46Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.
25:47Grandma, I'm sorry.
25:48I didn't see that.
25:49I didn't see it.
25:50I didn't see it.
25:50It's a little divvy.
25:51I got the front end.
25:52I didn't walk around.
25:53Pears of the cheeks, man.
25:54Pears of the cheeks.
25:54Pears of the cheeks.
25:55All right.
25:57I brought y'all here today because I wanted to bring an ex.
26:00Where he at?
26:02He not coming?
26:03The ex?
26:03It's just us three, no ex.
26:05We're not on speaking terms.
26:07It was just toxic.
26:08Not even?
26:09Yeah, we can't even be friends.
26:10So it is a little concerning that Deanna's ex will not be showing up.
26:14I really wanted to see what type of men Deanna deals with, so I was bummed.
26:20So since I'm not meeting the ex, tell me about y'all athletes, that's it, and why didn't
26:25it work out?
26:26He would say that I made him feel like he wasn't needed.
26:29Like, I can do everything by myself.
26:32Maybe I did forget him having that role in the sense of being a man and a person who
26:37pulls him to take care of everything.
26:38So I know me, I'm a very, like, strong-willed individual.
26:42Like, I want to leave my household.
26:44I want to be able to leave my family to prosperity, you know?
26:48As men, we want to feel needed.
26:49And I can tell you right now, if you're not appreciative of me, it ain't going to be a
26:53thing.
26:53You know, I don't know how he was.
26:55I need the assertiveness.
26:56Yeah, I don't know how he was.
26:58I'm not...
26:58Yeah, I'm a liar.
27:02If we were supposed to meet the ex right now, what would he say?
27:05I guess he would say that I'm a runner.
27:07Like, every time it's a problem, I want to leave.
27:08I used to nitpick on things that I feel as though I didn't like.
27:13I used to keep it inside.
27:15So I wouldn't tell you right off the bat.
27:17It had to happen, like, two more times.
27:19So if it happened three times, three strikes, you done.
27:22You're done?
27:23Yes.
27:23Damn, before you even communicate one time?
27:25Yeah.
27:25That's tough for somebody not to even know what's going on.
27:27And he felt as though he had to walk on eggshells because I was like that.
27:30Yeah, yeah.
27:31I appreciate her being honest about it, but that was kind of off-putting.
27:34You're a scorekeeper.
27:36D, you got to chill with the scorekeeping right there.
27:39This is dope.
27:40This is a dope brunch.
27:41We still found a way to complete Tommy's assignment to meet the ex.
27:44Even though we didn't meet your ex.
27:45Even though the ex not here.
27:46Shout-outs to him.
27:46I mean, we still got the ex.
27:48We found out a lot about you.
27:49You, either way.
27:50I would say my connection basically stayed the same with D, even though I didn't get to meet the exes.
27:55I thought that Deanna was still honest, so I'm going to leave her in the game.
27:59Well, let's all hug it out, you know?
28:00Okay.
28:01Go get some AC.
28:02He's getting up.
28:02That's a blessing in itself.
28:03After this date, even though the ex didn't show, we had a great time, and we still vibe.
28:08And I got a different side of her, too, as far as character-wise.
28:11She wasn't afraid to just let it all out.
28:13Come on, D.
28:13Let's go.
28:14Let's just go.
28:15Oh, my God.
28:16I'm scared to be back there because she's assertively doing it.
28:21Is there anything negative that your ex would say about you?
28:24I kind of, like, nitpick.
28:26They would say, like, oh, well, Cam has seemed to got a problem with everything.
28:29I'm like, no, I don't got a problem with everything.
28:31I just want to talk about it so it don't become a bigger problem later on.
28:34Okay.
28:35I don't like loud talk and arguing.
28:37But sometimes I like to argue just to, you know, make up.
28:41Yeah.
28:41I would be like, oh, when was the nasty time?
28:45It's kind of concerning that we can't have a conversation without it turning sexual.
28:50And I'm here for a reason.
28:51Like, I've done that in the past.
28:52Like, that's what I've always did.
28:54So I'm trying to change my ways a little bit and see if it's an actual substance there.
29:00Time be good.
29:00You know that.
29:01Why you trying to be good?
29:03Time be good.
29:04What you trying to be good for?
29:06Technically, Angie failed Tommy's assignment.
29:08She didn't allow me the chance to get to meet her ex to learn more about it.
29:12I put it as a little bit of a red flag.
29:14What's Silo?
29:15The Silo.
29:15It's time to get back into deliberation with Tommy in the vault.
29:43This week, we met the women's exes.
29:45Well, I met one ex out of the three.
29:47What's up, Tay Dix?
29:48How you doing?
29:50And now we trying to see who's ready to go home and who's ready to stay.
29:54So we got a job to do.
29:55Oh, I can't unsee it now, though.
29:58Man.
29:59What's that?
30:00Yo, yo.
30:00What's up?
30:01What's up?
30:01Everybody good?
30:02Oh, yeah, we good.
30:03Look at how he come in.
30:05Sit.
30:06Sit.
30:07Sit.
30:07That's how I go.
30:09He came from.
30:09Come on.
30:12All right, gentlemen.
30:13I want to hear it.
30:14I want to hear about these exes, man.
30:16Jay, you met Kiel's exes?
30:17Yeah, yeah, yeah.
30:18They grew up in church together.
30:20Okay.
30:20So they was young.
30:21He's nine years older than them.
30:22He's nine years older than her?
30:23Nine years older than them.
30:24Mm.
30:24It's starting to sound illegal already.
30:26Already.
30:29So he's one of them guys that's been hanging on and hanging on.
30:32Waiting on his shot.
30:33Waiting on his shot.
30:34He was coming with all the disrespect.
30:36When she was younger, she was a humble servant.
30:38What'd that mean?
30:38He knew her when she wasn't as living the lavish, like walking around with the Louis bags.
30:43So that's what he brought up.
30:44I'm used to her being, you know, more humble and meek.
30:47You're used to her being nine.
30:53Hey, yo.
30:54I forgot you.
30:55You're right.
30:56What are y'all saying now as a connection?
30:58We still connected.
30:59She still say, my man, my man, my man.
31:00So are you?
31:03Are you her man, her man, her man?
31:05We getting there.
31:07You getting there.
31:09All right.
31:10All right, all right.
31:11I'm saying, who'd you have a date with?
31:13I met Rose X.
31:14Actually, it was me and Ken.
31:16We was giving her all praise.
31:17He was a good salesman.
31:18I'm like, all right, y'all must have rehearsed this, but okay.
31:21I'll tell you.
31:23What about Sahar?
31:24Her ex that she was closest with passed away.
31:27Oh, really?
31:27Yeah.
31:28That's why I don't think she's, like, hiding anything.
31:29Like, I don't think she'll hide anything.
31:32Yeah, she gonna tell you whatever it is, you know?
31:34Baby, I'm gonna be me.
31:38Exactly.
31:39So I don't really fall for her, you know?
31:41And again, she was open about, you know,
31:43what they would have said if they was here.
31:44Yeah.
31:45Cisco, talk to me.
31:46I had one with a tape, and that was a no-show.
31:49So that's another, like...
31:50He ain't show.
31:51He ain't show.
31:52Yeah, me and Cisco.
31:53Yeah, he ain't, yeah, no show.
31:54He don't even want to come around.
31:57Next time we got in a strong girl, what?
31:59Yeah, we've been consistent.
32:00Our connection has been getting stronger.
32:02We learning a lot about each other.
32:03So that's been consistent.
32:05I gotta prove my love.
32:10Hearing that Khalil top connection is Tay,
32:14of course, you know, the man's ego is gonna be like,
32:17man, like, why you like my girl?
32:18But it's just letting me know is that he sees the same things that I see in Tay.
32:22So it's like, Tay's a wonderful woman.
32:24I let the best man win.
32:25All right, Khalil.
32:26Did you have any other date?
32:27Yeah, D, no ex.
32:28No ex again?
32:29Mm-hmm.
32:30All we got is excuses.
32:31Yes.
32:35And I ain't, you were with Khalil?
32:37We got a lot complete without the ex being there.
32:40It was just more and more, you know, connection between me and her.
32:43Cisco.
32:44You had another date, too, right?
32:46The second one, one with, uh, Shawnice.
32:48Like how, uh, Brother Hussain said, it was like nothing but good praises.
32:51You know what I'm saying?
32:52And they dated back in college, like.
32:53We went back to the college ex?
32:56Exactly.
32:56Yeah.
32:57We ain't getting the truth from somebody back in the day of college.
33:00It just makes me think that probably her last relationship was probably a rocky one.
33:04And, um, she's not trying to disclose that information just yet.
33:06But that's the one that's gonna give us the truth.
33:08Right.
33:09I got mixed emotions about Shawnice.
33:11Anytime that I get to interact with her is great.
33:13But at this part of the journey, I only truly had one connection.
33:16And that's two.
33:17Shawnice texted me, good morning, King.
33:19But she copied and pasted and said that to five other people.
33:22Did you respond?
33:23Huh.
33:23I said, thank you.
33:24Same to you.
33:25You sent me out the little throwaways.
33:27I'm gonna send you a throwaway back.
33:29Good morning to you, too, King.
33:30Good morning to you, King.
33:31Hussain, you and Ange, what happened?
33:34I met Angie's ex, which was also her, uh, son's father.
33:37But it's like when I asked him what was something that he didn't like,
33:40she didn't allow him to be the man.
33:42And it was kind of like, oh, red flag.
33:44She felt like it was too early for me to meet anybody in her life.
33:48Okay.
33:48And now hearing that somebody met her kid's father,
33:51it kind of do make me feel some type of way.
33:52Take a sip.
33:53She had a sip of drink.
33:54Don't start sipping when we start talking to her.
33:56Right, right, right.
33:57I just had a lot of questions.
33:59I'm like, what did he do to earn the right to meet your ex?
34:02I was trying to figure out what was her thought process behind it
34:05and why I couldn't meet the ex.
34:07It was just weird.
34:09So it was definitely some questions that I needed to ask.
34:11So you met her child's father.
34:16You can't meet the ex.
34:19Right.
34:20I didn't appreciate that at all.
34:21If you really putting in the work to try to get to know me,
34:24then you should be able to show your most important self to me.
34:27Sounds like y'all got some clarity.
34:29And clarity is a great place to make important decisions.
34:32So gentlemen, y'all know what y'all got to do.
34:34Take these ladies out and let them know where they staying.
34:37Cool?
34:39Cool.
34:40All right, I'm going to let y'all go, man.
34:41Do your thing, baby.
34:42All right.
34:43She's been my baby since she was nine years old.
34:45I have a date with Francisco tonight, and it doesn't feel the same for me.
35:02It doesn't feel like the body painting.
35:03It doesn't feel like the block.
35:04It doesn't feel that way.
35:05How you doing?
35:08Good to see you.
35:08How you doing?
35:09After the assignment this week, I'm feeling like I'm drifting away with Cisco.
35:15I'm here to listen to whatever he has to say, but I don't know where I go from here.
35:20How was your day?
35:20It was good.
35:21You smell delicious.
35:22I do.
35:23It's a new one.
35:24Look at that.
35:25I just got it.
35:26It's called like emoji or something like that.
35:28It's my first day wearing it.
35:30You smell good.
35:31The guys hit a vault today.
35:37So, of course, going into this date, I had my reservations, but I feel like I connected
35:43with my connections, and I feel pretty confident.
35:47Hey, honey.
35:48How are you?
35:49How you doing?
35:51Hey.
35:51Every time I see Cam, it's just like, oh, like, I don't know if it's a smile or his physique.
36:01Look, man, I'm happy whenever I can look into those eyes, so I'm happy.
36:06Aw.
36:07I could just sit here and stare at you all day, honestly.
36:09Like, this could be the whole date, just me looking at you.
36:11I mean, I'm cool.
36:13I don't know about you, but I'm cool.
36:16Me and the fellas met up with Tommy today.
36:17How did that go?
36:18It went pretty good.
36:20Your name came up in conversation.
36:22Okay.
36:22For me, what I appreciate about you and, like, the most is you helped me tap him more
36:27into my spiritual side.
36:28Okay.
36:29And I love that, because I feel that at times when things get rough, I tend to forget that
36:35God has always been there and will always be there.
36:38Right, for sure.
36:39And with you, you reminded me of that.
36:41I'm glad.
36:43Well, I did enjoy our date.
36:44Yes.
36:45But I was, you know, I was a little disappointed because I wasn't able to meet your ex or at
36:50least somebody important in your life.
36:51So you feel cheated?
36:53Cheated?
36:53Cheated is a strong word.
36:55Slighted, maybe.
36:56I'm not going to lie, because here goes this other side.
36:58Like, I did hear that other people was able to meet somebody important to you.
37:02Okay.
37:05And also, like, your, like, how they said as well, with your caring side, I get that from
37:10a little, like, whoever is going to be in your life, they're going to get a solid woman
37:14that's going to have their best interests at heart.
37:17And that's something that I definitely felt.
37:19Connection was definitely there.
37:21I wish it would have probably been stronger from the beginning.
37:25Yeah.
37:27I'm not a jealous person or, like, I'm not trying to compare journeys.
37:31Right.
37:31You know?
37:32But it's just like, damn, like, he was able to meet somebody important to you.
37:35I just feel like I didn't get that chance that he got.
37:37I'm sorry if I made you put in one.
37:39I'm so sorry.
37:40With all that being said, at this point.
38:00So the fellas have decided that you're still ready to look.
38:05I do appreciate you.
38:11Mm-hmm.
38:12I was a little scared.
38:13I know you was, but I like how you handle things.
38:18Finding out that me and my son's dad meant a lot to Cam, it's really impactful.
38:23This meant so much to him, and I didn't see it that way.
38:26Knowing that it makes me want him to meet my son's dad because I'm sure somebody who wants
38:31to do that, they're going to treat it and handle it with care.
38:33Come here.
38:33Oh, here you go.
38:35I want to touch you.
38:36We...
38:37Is that a bad thing?
38:39That's a red flag.
38:40To want to touch you?
38:41Then I'm just a big walking red flag, huh?
38:43At the end of this date, Cam is coming out the gate.
38:47He's trying to win this race.
38:48Hussein, they are...
38:50They're neck and neck.
38:51It's going to be a tough one.
38:52I want you to get off of me.
38:55But if they go somewhere else...
38:57Oh, so you nasty.
38:58I ain't...
38:59Well, I can be.
39:00Sorry.
39:03The fellas have decided you are not ready to love.
39:10It's okay.
39:12Listen, I'm okay.
39:14I know how you feel about me.
39:15I know you never want to hurt me.
39:17I know you appreciate who I am to you.
39:19And I still want to be that.
39:21So if me coming here was just to remind you that God loves you, that you are a king, that
39:27your mom and you can have a better relationship, those are all the things that maybe I came
39:31here for, just to tell you that.
39:34And I'm okay with that.
39:36He was so uncomfortable because I know he never wanted to hurt my feelings.
39:40So I feel like it was so hard for him to deliver it.
39:43I just love the fact that he has such compassion and empathy and respect for me.
39:48I'm trying to hold back these tears, man.
39:50You okay?
39:51Yeah, I'll be out.
39:52Okay.
39:53It's okay.
39:54I was becoming emotional because it felt like I didn't protect her.
39:58But then I also was under the realization that if today was the day that I would have
40:03to pick between Tay or Sharnice, I would pick Tay.
40:07I'm okay.
40:08Coming out of this process, I am more ready to love than I was when I came in.
40:13Because I'm very introverted, this was definitely outside of my comfort zone.
40:18I just really learned that there's still a lot of love in Philly, and I'm ready to love,
40:22to be honest.
40:28Next time on Ready to Love.
40:30This week, you are going to enter into their world and meet some of their closest friends.
40:36Bring it on.
40:36This is getting real real.
40:38I need someone that's just as stable as I am.
40:41He's grinding at it.
40:43Francisco's stability, there's a little doubt.
40:46Tay, what's up?
40:47So I'm developing my connection with Khalil.
40:50I know what I'm getting myself into with him.
40:51I appreciate it, though.
40:53Hello.
40:54Y'all know each other?
40:55Oh, my God.
40:56Wait a minute.
40:57What's going on here?
40:57I'm Polly.
40:58I'm a professional dominant.
41:01Angie and the polygamous knows each other.
41:03Whoa.
41:05I think me and him clicked, but the whole fact that he has five kids, well, I also want kids.
41:10It's like, well, how does that look?
41:12It becomes a friction.
41:14Oh, my God.
41:15He got options.
41:16How you doing?
41:17It's kind of hard because I just feel like he meshes with all of y'all really well.
41:21He has to decide.
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