How to tell if you match with your date. A key test of Suitability

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Test your compatibility with your date/partner. How well do you match?  Music: Emotional Love Theme by Biz Baz Studio  #relationships #love #people #wellbeing #viralvideo

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00:00A simple dating test of compatibility.

00:05Some people might wonder why, no matter what they do, their relationships do not work.

00:12It could have much to do with the perception of love between the couple and the expectations

00:16of it.

00:17Some people are simply in love with their idea of love, the heart stopping, bell ringing,

00:23physical part, but shy away from the responsibility of love, the mundane.

00:28Routine demonstrations required.

00:32The two aspects are not the same.

00:34The love ideal is just that, a perfect ideal which attraction at its core.

00:39Nothing else seems to matter except being physically close with that person.

00:43That will feel fantastic for a short while but.

00:47If the responsibility of love is missing.

00:50What many men shy away from.

00:52That relationship is doomed from the start.

00:54The responsibility of love contains four elements on which to test your

00:59compatibility together by assessing the extent to which the other person values them.

01:05You could find that you are diametrically opposite in expectations.

01:091.

01:10Affection.

01:11This contains all the physical element like being tactile,

01:15sexual,

01:16passionate and close.

01:17Very few relationships can survive without it.

01:21However,

01:22some people might wish for commitment first and do not care too much about the physicality

01:27because they value companionship more.

01:29Setting up home with someone who puts affection first would thus be near torture for them.

01:342.

01:35Caring.

01:36This element contains valuing the partner highly,

01:40automatic respect,

01:41and genuine concern for their welfare and health.

01:44It also includes looking after that person's interest and encouraging them in their endeavors.

01:50This part represents the emotional connection between the couple.

01:54A necessary element if the physical part is to work.

01:58People low in esteem and confidence tend to lack this element as the main focus is always on them.

02:04And what they lack or might need.

02:063.

02:07Sharing.

02:08This includes a desire to share everything in the relationship as much as possible,

02:12like leisure.

02:13A desire to be completely unselfish and inclusive with your partner.

02:254.

02:26Commitment.

02:27When we love,

02:28we commit immediately to progressing the relationship and building on it.

02:33If we fear commitment,

02:34there is no genuine love.

02:36And that's a short relationship for both parties.

02:39Ideally,

02:39commitment comes last in the love quartet because if you have genuine affection,

02:45caring and sharing,

02:47the commitment will certainly follow.

02:49Instead of expecting commitment first.

02:52When the other elements are not fully in place,

02:55these four elements should be placed in your priority order.

02:59Important for matching couples who might seek a different order of values in their expectations.

03:03For example,

03:06if sharing matters to you most,

03:08that should come first.

03:10You will then be able to see if your date values something else as their priority.

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