00:00Namaste Acharya ji. My question was regarding a tendency that I have always had all my life.
00:11It was regarding quitting things when they get extremely tough. Like I will give you
00:15a short example. Let's say when I was preparing for my JEE, there were questions
00:20that were kind of easy, like that formula-based. There were questions that were kind of medium
00:25level. And then there were questions which were very tough and they like, you know,
00:29find multiple concepts. So I usually went with the easy questions and I solved them
00:34and when it came to the tougher questions, I quit. How do I like change this tendency?
00:38How do I address this tendency and get better? How do I…
00:41It's about the self-concept that we carry. That self-concept is not innate, but it gets
00:48built over the several years. If your self-concept tells you, you do not deserve to crack the
00:56toughest question, then you will not put everything into cracking the toughest question.
01:02In fact, you will needlessly make any question the toughest one. You have to tell yourself
01:11that you deserve to solve even the toughest problem and then the tough problem is no more
01:18that tough. One has to love himself a bit more and say, yes, it's difficult, but for me it's doable.
01:36If situations, upbringing, media, influences, education, they have all conditioned you into
01:43thinking that you must always stay one level below the best, then something very strange will happen.
01:52Even when the opportunity to be the best will come to you, you will miss out on that opportunity.
02:03It happens a lot of times in sports. Great players belonging to the A-league, you understand the A-league?
02:13Just one level below the topmost level, let's say the international level.
02:18Great players belonging to the A-league performing magnificently, when they finally get a chance
02:27at the highest level, they flop decimally. Why? Why? Something in them is constantly whispering,
02:38you are great but only at the penultimate level. This top level is not for you.
02:50So, batsman who has been performing greatly at the Ranji and the Delhi trophy levels,
02:59he gets his test cap and five consecutive times he gets out to pretty harmless deliveries,
03:12pretty harmless deliveries.
03:14In the domestic circuit, he has been constantly dispatching similar deliveries to boundaries.
03:22In a domestic match, if you give him a similar delivery, he will flick it to the boundary.
03:30But in the international match, a similar delivery and he loses his wicket. Why?
03:36Something in him tells him, I don't belong to the topmost level.
03:44That has to be challenged.
03:47Whosoever it is who told you that you are not good enough has to be rejected.
03:56And we all have influences in our life whose job has been to tell us that we are not good enough.
04:05In matters of love, love itself is the qualification.
04:11No other qualification is needed.
04:14Nobody else is needed to tell you that you are good enough.
04:17If you love something, you are already good enough for it.
04:20Love is the qualification.
04:23If you love mathematics, your love makes you good enough.
04:28You don't require an external agency to come and certify how good you are.
04:33I love it and I will keep having a go at it.
04:38Getting it?
04:43Tell yourself, yes, it's a tough problem.
04:46But I am tougher.
04:49Baap kaun hai?
04:52Tu tough hai?
04:55Am I tougher?
04:58Thank you, sir.
05:04Pranam Acharya ji.
05:06So you said that one should first stop and reflect what he is doing.
05:12Isn't that also a choice?
05:15Everything is a choice.
05:18To be alive is to be responsible for choosing every moment.
05:25You cannot give up that responsibility.
05:28And those who do not take that responsibility, they become slaves.
05:31Slaves don't have choices.
05:34In fact, that's the very definition of slavery.
05:37You will not have choice anymore.
05:40Now you are a slave.
05:43Can it be called love?
05:46Yes, of course.
05:49How else will you choose?
05:52If you choose in compulsion, that is no choice at all.
05:55So the only right basis of choice has to be love.
05:59If you love without understanding, then that's just basic animalistic attraction.
06:05Even animals are attracted.
06:08But human beings love.
06:11And to love is to first of all understand.
06:14So understanding has to be the basis of choice.
06:18And that requires constant attention.
06:21You have to be present.
06:24From that comes choice.
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