00:00What is self-confidence?
00:07Many people fail in their lives despite having all the elements of success.
00:11Many people are not able to make decisions in their lives despite knowing what is right.
00:15Many people are not able to get out of toxic relationships despite knowing that these relationships hurt them.
00:20All of this is because of a lack of self-confidence.
00:23So, what is self-confidence?
00:25Self-confidence is knowing when you are.
00:27Self-confidence is not waiting for someone to tell you what you are.
00:30Self-confidence is knowing your strengths and weaknesses.
00:32Because some people understand that self-confidence is knowing only your strengths.
00:36No, you know everything about yourself.
00:38You know your strengths and how to use them.
00:40You know your weaknesses and how to get rid of them.
00:42Or at least you don't hurt anyone with your weaknesses.
00:44You know what you like and what you hate.
00:47You know everything about yourself.
00:49Some people understand that self-confidence is arrogance.
00:53There is a big difference between being confident and being arrogant.
00:56Self-confidence is knowing that you are good, but knowing that there is something better than you.
01:00Arrogance is understanding that you are the only good person in this world.
01:04This is wrong and not what you are supposed to do.
01:06So, what makes you not be confident?
01:08First of all, comparison.
01:10You make a comparison between other people's strengths and your weaknesses.
01:13This is very unfair to yourself.
01:15If other people have strengths, you also have strengths.
01:17If you have weaknesses, others also have weaknesses.
01:20If others are successful in one field, you can be successful in another.
01:23Don't judge yourself.
01:25Let your self-evaluation come from yourself.
01:28This comparison will always be like this.
01:30Your circumstances are different from other people's circumstances.
01:32Your life is different from other people's lives.
01:34This is one thing.
01:35The second thing is that you respond to negative comments.
01:38What you say to yourself and what you hear from others about you.
01:41Anyone who says something to you is his opinion.
01:43These are his thoughts and convictions.
01:45This is not you.
01:46You are the best creature.
01:48You are the God who loves you.
01:50You are not the opinion of the person who is talking about you.
01:53Negative comments destroy you.
01:55What do you do to change this?
01:57First, separate your personality from your behavior.
02:00This means that you have misbehaved.
02:02Talk about this behavior and how to improve it.
02:05But not you at all.
02:07Learn how to set boundaries for others.
02:10Don't let them cross your boundaries.
02:12Keep your psychological boundaries.
02:14It is the right of others to comment on your behavior, but with good manners.
02:18But it is not their right to evaluate you.
02:20You are the one who gives others a chance to destroy you.
02:22Try once, twice, and three times.
02:24Trust yourself.
02:26Suppose you don't know certain skills.
02:28It is normal to learn them and gain skills.
02:30Try once, twice, and three times.
02:32Your self-confidence will decrease.
02:34This is one thing.
02:35The second thing is that you have very high expectations.
02:37For example, you expect that if you do anything, you will achieve the highest levels of success.
02:42This will not happen.
02:44You start success step by step.
02:46Even if you succeed with a small percentage,
02:48with time and training, this percentage will increase.
02:50So, increase your self-confidence.
02:52Taha Hussein was blind.
02:54He lost his sight when he was four years old.
02:56I think this way, he should say,
02:58No, I am not confident in myself.
03:00I don't have any resistance to success.
03:02But no, Taha Hussein worked on himself
03:04until he became an Arabic literature teacher.
03:07Taha Hussein wrote a lot of works.
03:09He challenged himself and his responsibilities.
03:11Why are you not confident in yourself?
03:13Find the reason and increase your self-confidence.
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