Battling body shaming ft. Kusha Kapila and her mom

Brut India

"The world doesn't let you live in any way." Kusha Kapila's mother, Rita Kapila, expressed her guilt for commenting on her daughter's appearance as a child.  📹: Yuvaa

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00:00Everyone keeps saying that Kusha is fat, Saru is fat.

00:05I used to get worried.

00:07It has had a huge impact on my life.

00:09My father is so thin, my daughters are so fat, my mother is also thin.

00:14All the time I used to think that I shouldn't keep telling my son that he is fat.

00:20Kusha, as you grew up, you were fat, you, your sister, Saru.

00:31People used to keep saying this, but did you ever feel that I have ever body shamed you?

00:37What do you think?

00:39I used to say it.

00:41Yes, you have said it.

00:44I used to say it because people used to say it.

00:46I think a parent gets concerned.

00:48I used to hear it from my parents.

00:50But now I feel very guilty that I said it.

00:54I think it has always been a topic in our family.

00:58Because in our family, how much do we talk about weight?

01:02You have lost weight and I have also lost weight with you.

01:06In the last one year, both of us.

01:08I have seen that people's criteria change.

01:10How do people look at you when you are overweight?

01:14When you lose weight, the world does not let you live.

01:18But when Saru and I were growing up, there was a time when we both gained a lot of weight.

01:26I would say genes.

01:28Because we have such Punjabi genes.

01:30And I think that was the time when you also gained a lot of weight in your 30s.

01:38I was also very thin before.

01:40But with time, I also gained weight.

01:42Now the children have also gained weight.

01:44This was going on.

01:46Whatever you see, this is what you keep saying.

01:48Kusha is also fat. Saru is also fat.

01:50So I used to get worried at some point.

01:54I used to say that you are fat.

01:56Now what to do with the children?

01:58But I don't know about that.

02:00I understand you.

02:02I don't think I have any complaints about you now.

02:08Because I feel that you were doing what you thought was right at that time.

02:16You also became a mother for the first time in your life.

02:20You are doing everything for the first time.

02:22So it was your first time too.

02:24So even though your intent was very good,

02:28I think that society also pressurized you so much.

02:34When I come to this age, I think that all these things are useless.

02:38Fat and thin don't mean anything.

02:40I know.

02:42It has had a lot of impact on my life.

02:44I still talk about it in my content.

02:48Because for a long time, this was the focus of our life.

02:52But I have seen that as a parent,

02:54I will tell everyone that

02:56your child should not be told again and again that you are fat.

03:00It gets into the child's mind.

03:02Like it got into Saru and Kusha's mind that we are fat.

03:08Yes.

03:10And their worth cannot be attached to this.

03:14I believe that.

03:16Because there was a lot of pressure.

03:20There was a lot of pressure.

03:22And I feel more pressure on Saru than me.

03:24My father is so thin.

03:26My daughters are so fat.

03:28My mother is also thin.

03:30As I am growing older,

03:32I understand where you come from.

03:36So there is no anger in my mind.

03:40I have heard in therapy that

03:44a bad experience needs 5 good experiences to be completely replaced.

03:50So I feel that you have replaced a lot of our experiences in my life.

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