00:00Orange the World, the UN campaign to end violence against women and girls, is now underway.
00:05Every year, the women taking part call out to men to stand with them so that they can
00:08live without fear.
00:10Every year, journalists report that, but in tracking the problem of gender-based violence,
00:14we see it just getting worse.
00:16The question is, why should the conversation remain with the women?
00:20Why are so few men involved in the campaign to end violence against women and girls?
00:25Because of the toxic masculinity.
00:27And maybe the issue of awareness.
00:30Maybe these things have not happened near them and they feel that the internet is just
00:34exaggerating things and these things are not happening in real life.
00:37I really do not understand why they do not stand up against these crimes.
00:42Welcome to The Flipside.
00:44Violence against women is a men's issue because the majority of perpetrators, according to
00:48what we have statistics from the police, from the health centers, men are engaged as perpetrators,
00:54which is very sad.
00:56Violence against women is at epidemic levels.
00:58The WHO estimates that about one in three women worldwide have been subjected to sexual
01:03violence in their lifetime.
01:05Most violence against women is committed by current or former intimate partners.
01:09Perpetrators typically have a history of violent behavior, grew up in violent homes, and often
01:14abuse alcohol and drugs.
01:15Especially in the rural areas, most men drink a lot, smoke a lot.
01:21As you know, this alters the way they think and the way they make their decisions.
01:26Most perpetrators are men.
01:27But are men also talking about gender-based violence?
01:30They are uncomfortable with it because they feel that they are being attacked as perpetrators.
01:35So it's not something they want to talk about.
01:37Well, I think the narrative that men are perpetrators is a push-off.
01:44Of course, it's not just a mere narrative.
01:46There is some truism in it.
01:48And so the messaging really doesn't connect with men.
01:53Not every man is committing violence against women.
01:55But it harms both women and men.
01:58Gender-based violence damages mental health and relationships, undermines trust, and perpetuates
02:03harmful behavior across generations.
02:06So the question for the men is...
02:08How do we break that silence?
02:09And how do we let people know the consequences of their actions?
02:12That there is a law to protect those who are violated, but also those who intend to violate
02:16that there's a law that will hold them accountable.
02:18Because I think that's the conversation as men we are failing to tell other men.
02:22But should that stop men from having the conversation?
02:25We do need the men champions.
02:27We have to court the men champions, maybe, you know, so that they would step forward
02:32once again, make it a men and a women's issue.
02:35In fact, an issue that concerns everybody, a boys and girls issue, so that they will
02:39begin to speak up again.
02:40It will make a difference.
02:42You need to step up and protect women and protect yourselves.
02:48It is not either or, it is not them and us.
02:52We are in this together.
02:53It is important to remember that not all men are perpetrators, but all men can be allies
02:59in the fight against violence against women.
03:01They have the power to change the narrative.
03:04And that is the flip side.
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