00:00The reality is that if you keep trying to please people who don't give you the recognition you deserve,
00:05you might end up disheartened.
00:08Reversing this situation can be quite challenging.
00:12It's undoubtedly an unpleasant feeling,
00:15and it becomes even worse when it involves someone close to you,
00:19such as family, friends, or a partner.
00:22According to Stoic philosophy,
00:24we shouldn't expect recognition from others,
00:27because it's beyond our control.
00:30Such recognition may not happen,
00:32and therefore, waiting for it is a recipe for frustration.
00:37Instead, the Stoics teach us to focus on what we can control,
00:41our actions, thoughts, and responses.
00:45They remind us that our worth is not defined by external validation,
00:49but by our own integrity and self-awareness.
00:52But what if I told you there are practical methods to become a priority in someone's life,
00:57and to be more recognized?
01:00Indeed, if you understand and apply the strategies we're about to discuss,
01:04you can significantly improve how others perceive and prioritize you.
01:09By following these nine steps,
01:11you can ensure that the people you care about
01:14feel that you are always a priority in their lives.
01:18Now that you understand the problem,
01:20it's time to revolutionize your approach by learning the solution.
01:24Let's dive into each step in detail.
01:27Step 1. Create the fear of losing you.
01:31This is one of the most powerful psychological techniques
01:34you can use to make someone consider you a priority.
01:38People are often more motivated by the fear of losing something
01:41than by the prospect of gaining it.
01:44If you want someone to see you as a priority,
01:46you need to make them fear losing you.
01:50Start by emotionally distancing yourself.
01:53Stop sharing your feelings and confidences with them.
01:57Begin to balance your time with other people as well.
02:00This will make them feel like they're not as important to you as they used to be.
02:04It's a very powerful technique, but it must be used with caution.
02:09If you distance yourself too much,
02:11they may give up on trying to win you back.
02:13Therefore, you must use this technique wisely and in balance.
02:18Think of it as creating a bit of mystery around you.
02:21Let them wonder about you and miss your presence.
02:25By doing this, you're not being manipulative.
02:28Rather, you're showing them that your life is full and fulfilling on its own,
02:33and their place in it is earned, not taken for granted.
02:38Step 2. Avoid being always available.
02:42The term quality over quantity is often applied to various areas of life,
02:48and it also applies to relationships.
02:51If you aspire to be a priority in someone's life,
02:54you may need to become less available.
02:57The more available you are,
02:59the higher the likelihood of being taken for granted.
03:02This doesn't mean you should only be available when it suits you.
03:05But if you consistently adapt and accommodate others,
03:08it's time to prioritize yourself.
03:12Sending the message that you have a life beyond them
03:15and that you're not just waiting for them
03:17will make them value your presence more.
03:20It's about creating a healthy balance
03:22and ensuring that you're not neglecting your own needs and interests in the process.
03:27This will not only make you more attractive,
03:29but will also instill a sense of respect and admiration from others.
03:34For instance, if you're always the one to answer calls immediately,
03:37try letting them go to voicemail sometimes.
03:40If you're always available for last-minute plans,
03:43start scheduling your own activities and sticking to them.
03:47This doesn't mean playing games,
03:48but rather showing that your time is valuable
03:51and that you're not always at someone else's beck and call.
03:56Step 3. Maintain some mystery.
04:01People are generally attracted to the enigmatic and mysterious.
04:05Fascination with the unknown can be captivating
04:08and often makes people feel more connected.
04:12In the realm of relationships,
04:14being a little mysterious can work to your advantage.
04:18If you want to be seen as a priority,
04:21avoid revealing everything about yourself immediately.
04:24Give hints about your hobbies and interests
04:26without disclosing excessive information.
04:30Answer questions vaguely and avoid delving too deeply into your past.
04:35The goal is to keep the other person intrigued
04:37and eager to learn more about you over time.
04:40This approach creates a sense of curiosity and engagement,
04:44making them more interested in you.
04:47It's important to strike a balance here.
04:49You don't want to come off as secretive or dishonest,
04:51but rather as someone with layers and depth that are worth exploring.
04:56For example, instead of detailing every aspect of your weekend plans,
05:01you might simply mention that you had an interesting adventure
05:03and leave it at that.
05:05Let them ask questions and show genuine interest in your life.
05:09This not only keeps the conversation dynamic,
05:12but also places you in a position where they are seeking to know more about you.
05:18Step 4. Allow them to invest in you.
05:23This is a delicate step that you must manage wisely and sparingly
05:27because you don't want to push people away,
05:30but rather the opposite.
05:33Consider the following.
05:35Who is more inclined to see you as a priority?
05:39Someone who has invested a lot in you or someone who hasn't?
05:43The answer is obvious.
05:45If you want someone to see you as a priority,
05:48you need to allow them to invest in you.
05:51This can be done in various ways.
05:53For example, let them invest their time in you
05:57by turning down plans you know you won't be able to fulfill.
06:01Also, show that your time is valuable.
06:04Don't always be available and make them wait for you.
06:09This attitude will send the message that you're not just anyone
06:12and they need to make more effort to win your time.
06:15This will make them see you as a challenge and start to prioritize you.
06:20Remember to use this technique moderately for it to work.
06:24Don't go overboard,
06:26or the result may end up being the opposite of what you desire.
06:30Allowing someone to invest in you
06:32means giving them the space to contribute to your life
06:35and show their commitment,
06:36whether it's through time, effort, or emotional support.
06:42Step 5. Prioritize your needs.
06:46This doesn't mean being selfish.
06:49Prioritizing your needs simply means not putting yourself in a position
06:53where you're not a priority.
06:55For instance, if you know that someone won't treat you the way you deserve,
06:59why would you want to be close to that person?
07:02By surrounding yourself with people who see you as a priority,
07:06you increase your chances of being seen as a priority.
07:09It's essential to remember
07:11that you can't control another person's feelings toward you.
07:14You can only control how you feel about yourself.
07:18If you want to be a priority in someone's life,
07:20make sure you're a priority in your own life.
07:24This involves setting boundaries,
07:25knowing your worth, and not compromising on your values and needs
07:29just to fit into someone else's life.
07:32Practicing self-care, pursuing your passions,
07:35and maintaining a healthy self-image
07:37are all parts of prioritizing your needs.
07:40When you value yourself, others are more likely to value you too.
07:45Show that you respect yourself enough
07:47to not settle for anything less than what you deserve.
07:53Step 6. Don't make them the center of your life.
07:58Did you know that people are often attracted to things they can't have?
08:02It's true.
08:04The more someone feels they need to work for something,
08:07the more they desire it.
08:09You've probably heard the expression,
08:11the grass is always greener on the other side.
08:15This phrase symbolizes people's tendency
08:17to be more captivated by what they don't possess.
08:20Keep this wisdom in mind when dealing with other people.
08:24Maintain a certain distance
08:26so that people become more attracted to your presence.
08:29This will convey the message that you're not desperate for their attention
08:32and, over time, they will value you more.
08:36It's essential to have your own goals, interests, and social circles.
08:41This not only enriches your life,
08:43but also shows that you are a well-rounded individual.
08:47When someone sees that you have a full and engaging life
08:50outside of your relationship with them,
08:52it increases their respect and admiration for you.
08:56They will understand that being part of your life is a privilege,
09:00not a given.
09:04Step 7. Stop initiating communication all the time.
09:10If you often find yourself initiating communication
09:12with someone important in your life,
09:14it may be time to take a step back.
09:17This may seem counterproductive
09:19because if you want to become a priority in someone's life,
09:23shouldn't you be the one to initiate communication?
09:26The answer is no.
09:28When you are always the one initiating communication,
09:31the other person starts taking you for granted.
09:34They get used to your efforts and begin to see you as less important.
09:38So what's the alternative?
09:40Simply stop initiating communication and see the result.
09:46If the other person truly cares about you,
09:49they will make an effort to get in touch.
09:52This doesn't mean you should never initiate contact,
09:55but rather that you should strike a balance.
09:58Allow the other person to miss you
10:00and realize your importance in their life.
10:03This will help them understand that your presence
10:05is not something to be taken for granted.
10:09Step 8. Create your own happiness.
10:13If you want to become a priority in someone's life,
10:16it's important to create your own happiness
10:18and not depend on them to be happy.
10:21While it would be great to have someone to rely on
10:24who makes us feel good,
10:25depending on them for our happiness can lead to disappointment.
10:30Furthermore, when we depend on others to be happy,
10:33we're not truly living our lives.
10:36We're living according to their agenda and priorities,
10:39which can lead to resentment.
10:41If you want to be a priority in someone's life,
10:44it's important to create your own happiness.
10:47This will not only make you happier in the long run,
10:50but also make you more attractive to others
10:52because you'll appear more balanced and self-assured.
10:57Engage in activities that bring you joy,
11:00nurture your passions,
11:02and cultivate a sense of fulfillment
11:03that is independent of anyone else.
11:06When you are happy on your own,
11:08you exude confidence and positivity,
11:11which naturally draws others to you.
11:14Moreover, it shows that you are not reliant on someone else
11:17for your well-being,
11:19which is a highly attractive quality.
11:23Step 9. Be willing to walk away.
11:27The idea of walking away from someone we care about
11:30can be frightening,
11:32but it's an important step.
11:33By showing that you're not afraid to walk away,
11:36you're sending the message
11:37that you won't accept anything less than you deserve.
11:41The right person will naturally see you as a priority
11:45and make an effort to keep you in their life.
11:47Always remember that your part is to do the right thing,
11:50which is within your control.
11:52Therefore, you should have the awareness
11:55that your actions are right in the eyes of others,
11:58and by doing this, you should feel good.
12:01Don't expect that you will always be credited or recognized
12:04and that people will always give you the value you deserve.
12:08Give it time,
12:09and people will naturally start to notice you the way you deserve.
12:14Walking away doesn't mean giving up.
12:16It means recognizing your worth
12:18and not settling for anything less.
12:21It's about having the courage to say no
12:23to situations and relationships that don't serve you
12:26and being open to new opportunities
12:28that align with your values and needs.
12:32Conclusion.
12:34To wrap up the reasoning behind these nine steps
12:37on becoming a priority in other people's lives,
12:40it's essential to absorb this wisdom fully.
12:43We've all experienced moments
12:44where we felt neglected or not prioritized.
12:47However, it's important to remember
12:49that our journey in life is unique
12:51and other people's priorities may not reflect our true worth.
12:55Instead of allowing these situations
12:57to affect our self-esteem,
12:59we can use these moments as opportunities for personal growth.
13:04The key is to prioritize ourselves,
13:06taking care of our happiness and well-being.
13:09Eventually, others will begin to notice
13:12and give you the value you deserve.
13:15Remember that even when others don't place you
13:18at the top of their list,
13:19you can and should give yourself the priority you deserve.
13:25This isn't selfishness.
13:26It's self-compassion and self-determination.
13:30By doing so, we can build healthier relationships,
13:34make decisions more aligned with our goals
13:36and live a more fulfilling and meaningful life.
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