00:00 I find those parents very irresponsible who make their presence mandatory in matters where
00:19 they actually have no say, no reason to be present.
00:28 The man is there, the woman is there, and both are adults and they will decide on their
00:32 own matters.
00:34 What is anybody else doing in this scheme of things?
00:40 Now obviously, if you want advice, you can respectfully seek advice.
00:48 That is one thing.
00:49 But it is another thing to be obliged to have a mediator or a governor or a decider.
01:08 Are you getting it?
01:10 And once you accept that kind of mediation or outsourcing, I do not think you have the
01:26 right to complain.
01:30 There are so many men in the world of so many types, a lot of them would naturally be lustful
01:41 given the kind of people we are.
01:44 How are you obliged to bear the gaze of the lustful ones?
02:01 If you come across a lustful one, what do you do?
02:05 You walk away.
02:08 Now you stand in front of that person and he is ogling and staring and measuring your
02:13 body with his eyesight and you still keep standing there right in front of him and then
02:20 you complain, why are men like this, why are men like this?
02:22 Men will be men and women will be women.
02:24 Why don't you simply walk away?
02:32 We can start a program of social reformation, obviously.
02:36 We can start a program to civilize the menfolk, obviously.
02:44 But when you are encountering a man who is measuring you mostly by the shape and size
02:53 and attractiveness of your body, then that's not the point to keep engaging with that man.
03:05 Disengage, look elsewhere, start walking.
03:12 There is no point in complaining.
03:18 There are so many of them.
03:22 We can choose commodities, potatoes.
03:28 What do you do when you come upon a rotten one?
03:33 You just toss it away.
03:35 You pick another one, right?
03:37 You do not go to the Ministry of Agriculture and start proposing a way to have better potatoes.
03:47 All that can happen in due course.
03:52 But first of all, you pick up a rotten potato or a fruit or whatever it is.
04:00 Then you embrace it for life and you keep cooking.
04:10 There is no point.
04:12 One thing that all wisdom is founded on is your right to choose.
04:27 You have the right to choose.
04:30 Why then must you act as if you are under compulsion?
04:48 Nobody can force your hand.
04:57 Remember your right to choose.
05:01 Always take the onus of your life on yourself.
05:08 The responsibility is all yours.
05:18 I could have gone into and launched myself into a long lecture on what kind of stupidity
05:27 this horoscope matching thing is and it is absolutely nonsensical to think of Manglik
05:33 and what not, but I will not talk of that.
05:35 Why must I talk of that?
05:45 If there is something you do not condone, if there is something that you do not accept
05:58 or like, reject it.
06:01 Simple.
06:02 There is no need to even justify it to others.
06:13 There is no need to even first of all try to correct that thing.
06:16 Let the society believe in horoscopes.
06:19 If you know all that is stupidity, just silently walk past that thing.
06:36 An educated woman acting helpless and choiceless is not a pretty sight to behold.
06:48 You are a human being.
06:49 You are a consciousness with choice and you have been empowered internally with education
06:56 and externally with laws.
07:02 This country works on rule of law and the laws are very very favourable to women.
07:09 In fact men complain that the laws are actually too favourable to women.
07:15 So you are educated, you have the support of laws.
07:18 Why are you acting so dull and helpless now?
07:25 Please exercise your choice and live a free life.
07:42 And external freedom, even if it is guaranteed by law, will not be of much use if you are
07:52 internally still enslaved, enslaved by custom, tradition, emotions, ignorance.
08:03 That's what happens with a lot of educated women as well.
08:07 Highly educated yet internally uneducated.
08:11 So they do not know their own emotions.
08:14 PhDs from the top most universities of the world, Indian women and yet internally they
08:27 live in an emotional darkness.
08:31 A darkness they have never bothered to penetrate with the light of wisdom.
08:38 What is the result?
08:40 Suboptimal decisions in life, influenced decisions in life, destroyed careers, bad
08:50 kind of relationships, irreversible bondages, not entirely irreversible but difficult to
09:02 tackle.
09:05 Why?
09:07 Because there was education in terms of a degree, there is economic opportunity, there
09:19 is legal support, yet internally she was still what women have always been since centuries.
09:29 That internal freedom can come only from self-knowledge.
09:35 That's adhyatma, that's wisdom, that's vedanta.
09:43 I am fond of saying spirituality is the best friend of a girl.
09:53 That alone can empower her and give her wings.
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