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00:00 Fear is something that is stopping somebody who is in a relationship for 10 years to take that step to get married.
00:06 Where does this fear come from?
00:07 My identity is linked to my husband's identity.
00:10 Now the husband has two legs and the husband has a mind, a brain of his own.
00:15 If your identity comes from your husband's name, as happens in India at least,
00:19 you'd always be afraid as a wife.
00:21 The husband can change his mind any day.
00:23 You'd always be having one eye on his secretary and the other eye on his email and mobile phone.
00:29 What's he getting into? Who's texting him?
00:31 Your very existence depends on the husband.
00:34 That's fear.
00:35 In that fear, there can never be love.
00:37 Never be love.
00:38 If you are afraid of losing something, you'll be very violent towards it.
00:41 When something starts becoming very meaningful to you, you lock it up.
00:45 You don't want it to have freedom and that's violence.
00:47 So love and fear just cannot go together.
00:50 If you are dependent on something or somebody, you'd be afraid.
00:54 And that dependence cannot be called as love.