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00:00:00 Yes, yes, good evening. Good evening. You know what we haven't done for a while

00:00:04 Let me just let me know if the audio is good. I'm tapping the mic. Yeah

00:00:09 All right

00:00:12 Here's here's your song challenge. Are you ready? Are you ready for your song?

00:00:17 challenge

00:00:20 Or or baby

00:00:23 Yeah

00:00:27 Oh, yeah

00:00:30 Listen to this

00:00:32 Spy on me baby you

00:00:35 satellite

00:00:38 Infrared to see me move through the night

00:00:41 Aim gonna fire

00:00:44 Shoot me, right

00:00:46 You're gonna like the way you fight

00:00:49 Anybody come on, baby

00:00:54 Anybody

00:00:57 You got you guys got to know this one. You gotta know it. I insist that you know it

00:01:03 Now you found the secret code I used to wash away my lonely blues

00:01:12 So I can't deny a lie because you are the something something

00:01:20 So close

00:01:25 Sex bomb sex bomb. You're my sex bomb. Yeah, it's a good song

00:01:31 You can give it to me when I need to come along

00:01:35 Anyway, it's a good song Tom Jones. He did a great cover of kiss. Although he's been accused of some rather

00:01:45 Nasty things by groupies. Well, it was the 60s and 70s. I pretty much assume

00:01:51 everything was

00:01:53 Nasty. Yeah, it's a great song. He did a song of covers with bare-naked ladies and bunch of other people

00:01:59 It's actually pretty good. It's pretty good

00:02:02 But yeah his version of kiss

00:02:05 Was really really good

00:02:08 Really you don't have to be beautiful to turn me on

00:02:13 Yeah, he's a good Welsh singer right good Welsh wobbler and quite the performer back in a day back in the day

00:02:21 He was quite the performer. So questions comments issues challenges problems. Whatever you like my friends. I am here for you my gosh

00:02:29 It's only two shopping days till Christmas Eve

00:02:31 just in case you wish to

00:02:34 Support and help out your friendly neighborhood

00:02:38 Philosopher

00:02:42 There's distortion something with sound yeah every single time it's like

00:02:50 Every single time I switch

00:02:53 my

00:02:55 audio

00:02:57 We can sounds good there. Okay, maybe it's something to do with you

00:03:00 This distortion. Well, it could just meet be doing Tom me doing Tom Jones could be could in any number of things

00:03:06 So yeah, if you want to kick anything off with a donation, I'd be thrilled and

00:03:09 The hearing sounds like peaking maybe I hear it a bit with the singing

00:03:15 Bob Bob Bob Bob Bob Bob Bob Bob Bob Bob Bob Bob Bob Bob Bob Bob Bob Bob Bob Bob yeah, Corey Hart

00:03:20 I wear my

00:03:23 Sunglasses at night. Do I like Corey Hart? I think I only know two of his songs that one and

00:03:28 Just a little more time is all we're asking for

00:03:34 Yeah

00:03:36 Never surrender. I don't know what else he's ever done. But those two songs

00:03:40 Were were pretty good. I

00:03:43 Remember a friend of mine was in an elevator with two teen girls

00:03:47 What this is when we were teenagers stuff if we were in this elevator with two teen girls and they were talking about

00:03:52 Corey Hart and my friend was like you ever notice that he just he looks a little bit like a chipmunk and they just turned

00:03:58 At him and scream. We're better than you and then rang off

00:04:00 so a

00:04:03 Little distortion you say but it's only some people right only some

00:04:08 people somewhere in summertime

00:04:12 Eurasian eyes, I don't think I know that one

00:04:14 Don't know why sunglasses at night was so popular never surrendered was better

00:04:18 Medically

00:04:22 My dick Lee my dick Lee my dick. My dick is an ally. I hope yours is too

00:04:26 It's always important to make an ally out of your dick. Otherwise, it's just an access which means tripod which means discomfort

00:04:33 It's so funny when it comes to music music is a fantastic example of

00:04:42 the joys of Austrian economics

00:04:44 It's a very very interesting

00:04:48 Notes here, please. I just can mention this to our friends no signal on

00:04:56 This comp. All right. So, um

00:05:00 Do you know why it's very interesting?

00:05:03 with

00:05:06 Music and Austrian economics

00:05:08 music and Austrian economics because

00:05:12 People say

00:05:14 This song is criminally underrated right people say this is underrated movie. This song is better than that song

00:05:21 I don't understand it and so on now, how does Austrian economics?

00:05:25 Deal with this question this problem this issue. How does

00:05:29 Austrian economics deal with this issue with this song is criminally underrated

00:05:36 Everyone loves their greatest hits but the real gems are blah blah blah blah blah. How does Austrian economics deal with this?

00:05:42 This issue this this challenge

00:05:46 Subjective price theory

00:05:50 Liberty Garden that is so exciting for me. You can feel

00:05:54 The vines of my fingers growing up your legs in a most East German and ticklish manner. Yeah value subjective

00:06:00 It's criminally underrated the really great songs of this

00:06:03 now

00:06:06 Give me a range range my friends. I just I need to know how far back in time

00:06:09 We need to go give me your 20 your late teens 20s 30s 40s

00:06:14 50s and beyond what how I was trying to explain this to my daughter the other day

00:06:20 Let's let's go on a little musical journey. Shall we but without me singing for once let's go on a little musical journey

00:06:26 39 also a great song by Queen ding-ding-ding-ding

00:06:36 Ding ding ding ding ding. All right. So did you ever did you ever buy?

00:06:40 My American audience gonna get confused by this

00:06:45 This is not a weapon. Did you ever buy a 45?

00:06:49 Did you ever buy a 40?

00:06:52 I still remember the very first I didn't buy it. I was gifted it. It was a song called things we do for love by 10cc

00:06:59 the band better known for not in love and

00:07:04 Dreadlock holiday a couple other songs the things we do for love the things we do for love. It's good song. It's good song

00:07:11 Oh, they got a great song called try you don't know how to ease my pain

00:07:16 You don't know and they just go like straight up. Yeah, so 45 nothing before 2000

00:07:21 So 45 man, this is where you first learn economics when you're a kid, so you learn economics in this way

00:07:27 You hear a great song on the radio now

00:07:30 not that I would ever do something no nefarious and dastardly but

00:07:33 my friends

00:07:35 Would it this was your ultimate reflexes?

00:07:38 It wasn't can you cratchy a catch a grasshopper from my hand and escape the Buddhist garden of martial arts instruction?

00:07:43 But can you get to the tape recorder when the song comes on the radio and record it in time?

00:07:50 Can you do that?

00:07:52 I literally saw people they they glitched they blurred they despawned and spawned with that finger

00:07:58 In fact, since occasionally when I was doing temp work in an office

00:08:01 I just sit there with that they do the countdown top hundred songs and I just sit there with

00:08:05 With the song and I still have songs in my head with the DJ's voice from like 30 years ago

00:08:11 It's still stuck in my brain because you know, they'd always talk over the intro of the song

00:08:14 Maybe they kind of had to do that

00:08:15 they definitely did that in England when I was growing up because I used to wake up to the radio and people would just be

00:08:19 talking and talking and talking and

00:08:21 Save all your kisses for me and

00:08:24 I still mix 99.9. I remember working late one night in an office

00:08:29 I had some big presentation that I was helping out on and

00:08:31 oh boy, this was yeah, this was way back in the day and

00:08:35 Mix 99.9 with Rob

00:08:39 But wasn't Rob Thomas. That's a singer for 3 a.m. But

00:08:44 Anyway, they just played an Allen Parsons songs

00:08:47 they played some other song just three songs in a row that I just loved and I listened to them a lot and

00:08:51 I remember they used to have this bit where they'd say a

00:08:54 Four out of five dentists recommend 99.9 and then you hear the screaming in the background

00:08:59 I say we're still working on the fifth the fifth one, which I thought was actually pretty funny

00:09:04 But yeah, just you get those get those

00:09:07 Get those songs get those songs. So what would happen is you'd hear a song on the radio

00:09:11 You'd really like it and you'd say okay fine

00:09:14 I'll cough up the two dollars and cents two dollars or whatever it was for a 45, but you'd know you'd know man

00:09:21 that

00:09:23 You maybe you should buy the album, but the album was like 799

00:09:26 It was like two bucks for the single the album was 799. She's just gonna go. Okay dad

00:09:30 Okay, it could be a really because I love music as you know

00:09:33 the one day it'll it'll love me back, but

00:09:36 You'd sit there and you'd have to weigh say, okay

00:09:39 But that's one good song

00:09:40 But it could be one good song because everyone's had that experience

00:09:42 Back of the day where you drop eight bucks. And so this was back. I made two dollars and 45 cents an hour

00:09:49 So, you know eight bucks is you know, three hours to work with tax and all that and a little bit more

00:09:54 So now if you make in 15 bucks an hour, that's like 45 bucks

00:10:00 And so on so expensive expensive stuff

00:10:03 I really couldn't afford that many albums and nobody would lend me any albums because my record player was so bad

00:10:08 It actually was more of a carpet bomber or an Apple peeler

00:10:11 you could put apples in and it would just like

00:10:13 Nobody would lend me albums because I'd play them and it was just it was a little slow, too

00:10:17 So the needle was so bad. I had to put clumps of plasticine on top of the needle and then it just slowed everything down

00:10:23 A little bit. So it's like it's fun to stay at the Y

00:10:26 MCA

00:10:30 Is it really is it fun? You want quaaludes?

00:10:33 in the Navy

00:10:35 Yes, you can lend yourself a hand

00:10:39 Everything turned into this trickly slow-motion quaalude ballad. Oh my god. It was horrendous. It was just

00:10:46 Horrendous, so you would you would you'd be like, oh it could be but everyone who's bought one of those $50 albums

00:10:52 You put the album on and it sucks like John Anderson has an album called City of Angels, which has a fantastic song

00:10:59 hurry home and the rest of it just

00:11:02 It just sucks like a vacuum. It just blows like big generator from yes after 90210

00:11:09 I think they put an album out big generator. It's just terrible. It was just awful just

00:11:13 Now some people were reliable sting you could usually rely on to give you some fairly decent albums

00:11:18 Although he's always got one country song one foreign language song. It's always just the way it goes

00:11:22 He did one with James Taylor. I think it was

00:11:24 So you would you would buy?

00:11:27 You'd hear the song and you'd be like, I'm just gonna buy the album you buy the album

00:11:30 it'd be one song maybe two okay songs and the rest of it would just blow and

00:11:33 So you'd be crying right because you spent eight bucks to get two good songs

00:11:39 Which if you just paid the two singles plus you get the other side the flip side, which is not bad

00:11:44 Sometimes I remember we had amazing grace from Joan Baez and on the back on the other side was the Marxist propaganda

00:11:50 I pity the poor immigrant anyway

00:11:52 You buy the album the album turns out to blow you weep copious tears of regret and then you try and sell your album and

00:11:58 Then the album that you bought for eight bucks. Maybe you can sell for 75 cents Oh brutal

00:12:04 Brutal, I remember selling two railway carriages from one of my train sets for four dollars and then I saw them for eight dollars each

00:12:11 I'm like, well, I guess he's got the store. But boy, you know, maybe you could give the kids just a smidge more scratch

00:12:16 So you you'd wait on the radio you'd wait on the radio and they would release one single and you'd be like

00:12:21 that's a great song and

00:12:23 Then they wouldn't release another single from the same album for a couple of months because they want that for so you just have to wait

00:12:28 To sing singles are they're both good. You know, is this gonna be a

00:12:32 good album

00:12:35 or is this gonna be an

00:12:37 Album with a couple of gems and a load of crap. Oh

00:12:41 You never know every now and then you just get these albums like

00:12:44 Atlantis Timor would just just fantastic regatta to bonk just almost every song on there is a gem with the exception of

00:12:51 Would you be my girl? Anyway, so you just accumulate enough value, but the singles near fine

00:12:58 I'll buy the I'll buy the album and sometimes that would just be it would be great

00:13:01 You'd be like, ah, I love this album. Like, you know when I bought wish you were here loved it

00:13:06 I am of course I had to tape it right away because otherwise my record player would destroy the album

00:13:10 So yeah, it was really it was really rough man. It was rough stuff. You cheated by buying built Beatles albums

00:13:16 Yeah, so if you buy the old ones, that's okay and ELO's

00:13:20 What bad out of hell was a good album

00:13:24 although

00:13:26 the

00:13:27 The moaning and panting in paradise by the dashboard light. I didn't exactly help you concentrate on your homework

00:13:32 so

00:13:34 Yeah, it was something else. Let's see. I'm sorry. Let me just get a blue rodeo. I saw them in concert actually pretty good

00:13:39 Pretty good

00:13:40 Pretty good. I

00:13:42 Had a friend of mine

00:13:44 Got married got married

00:13:46 To the blue rodeo song. Well if we're lost then we are lost together and it's just like oh, I don't know man

00:13:53 I don't know. I mean that's not the most romantic song and I don't think the marriage lasted

00:13:57 I didn't really stay in touch with

00:13:59 All right. Let me just get your comments here. I have we were going way back

00:14:03 You know, I feel like I basically teaching an anthropology

00:14:05 Yeah, your try is a great song. It's a great song

00:14:09 Don't you know you've got to try try try

00:14:16 Try

00:14:21 Yes CDs when they came out, you know, I had a friend who's like, you know, what's amazing about CDs

00:14:25 You pause them and they pick up right again where you left off like this like the tenth of a second you lost with

00:14:29 the cassette tape was just

00:14:30 the worst thing in the world

00:14:33 You would wait for a song to play on the radio to record it. Yeah. Yeah

00:14:35 And they did these songs like there are tons of songs I only know because they advertise them

00:14:42 On late-night TV, right?

00:14:45 they would advertise these these bands on late-night TV the two I remember but John Denver and

00:14:51 Creedence Clearwater revival and of course because they play like

00:14:57 Three seconds from each song. I know that there's a song by John Denver called Galveston Galveston. I don't know how it goes

00:15:04 I have no idea. I

00:15:06 just made up the rest of the song in my head and

00:15:08 I know that CCR was born on the by I believe it's by you not by yehaha or Bauhaus

00:15:16 born on the burr I

00:15:18 Thought it was

00:15:20 That's born on the by you so I know very very small amounts now. Here's the other thing

00:15:25 Oh stupid album albums of the 90s. It cost like 22 bucks. Oh

00:15:29 Yeah, oh, yeah

00:15:32 John Anderson is a great musician. You turned me on to beautiful music. Oh, yeah, absolutely and very talented

00:15:37 You know, he only taught himself to play his own instruments when he was in his mid to late 20s

00:15:40 He basically just he wanted to do his own album

00:15:43 he locked himself in his garage with a whole bunch of instruments and taught himself how to play them and six months later had an

00:15:48 album just

00:15:50 amazing

00:15:51 so then

00:15:53 The last thing the last thing that happened was just brutal

00:15:57 Let me just see here

00:15:59 Grace hits and our greatest helped grace hits is really problematic. Oh

00:16:04 Oh

00:16:07 My god worse now someone who has so many hits any one of the billboard charts now to find he was on Epstein's Island

00:16:13 Destroyed my childhood memories was Phil Collins. I don't think the Epstein thing has been released

00:16:19 Galveston it's smellier than Houston

00:16:21 That's not good because Houston's fairly Creedence was awesome. Yeah, I did one of those in a song quiz a while ago

00:16:29 So I don't think the Epson I think the Epstein thing is coming out next month

00:16:33 But I don't think anything definitive is out at the moment

00:16:36 They're redacting some people and everyone's nervous about that, which I understand but I think it's incidental people

00:16:40 So here's here's the problem. So

00:16:43 Even if you weren't around in the 70s and the 80s buying music, here's the problem

00:16:49 What's the problem? So if you buy greatest hits, you're pretty good, right?

00:16:53 You're pretty good, man. You've got greatest hits. Oh

00:16:57 Yeah, yeah, that's a great song

00:17:00 You better learn it fast and you better learn it young because someday

00:17:04 Never comes. Yes, very heartbreaking song

00:17:07 Like the living years by Mike and the mechanics who I always thought was sung by Mike

00:17:12 but it's some other guy who Phil Collins said could basically sing the phone book, but

00:17:16 So hit what's the problem with buying let's say oh, I like this Queen song

00:17:20 What's the problem with buying so the plus side of buying greatest hits?

00:17:24 Where the flight logs released

00:17:28 Okay, I'm half and half about that. I don't know for sure. I'm sure you're right. So

00:17:33 What's the problem with buying greatest hits, you know, you're gonna just get a bunch of quality, right?

00:17:38 By Queens greatest hits you're gonna get a bunch of quality, right? What's the problem with that?

00:17:46 What's the big problem with buying the greatest hits I

00:17:49 Was just a skinny lad never knew no good from bad

00:17:57 But I knew life before I left my nursery

00:18:01 No, it's not that they always leave out some great songs. No, you're toast man

00:18:07 You buy greatest hits and you wear that out, right?

00:18:09 So you spend a year listening to greatest hits and you're like wow, you know, it's a great band

00:18:13 I'm gonna buy some of their albums, but you're already sick and tired of the greatest hits

00:18:17 so you're buying a bunch of albums, but you don't want to play through because you're sick and tired of the greatest hits and

00:18:22 Let's say there are two or three greatest hits right? You think of the Queen's album the game right you've got

00:18:28 Well, you got the two the two biggies we will rock you and we are the champions right the two big ones and there's but

00:18:37 There are any other hits off that album

00:18:40 The game was also had some some great songs

00:18:43 It's late was not really much of a hit get down make love was much not much of a hit

00:18:48 So you've got two two songs here and then you get the rest of it, but you're sick and tired

00:18:53 Yeah, you listen to the best of the best already or whatever it is, right?

00:18:55 So, yeah now I was trying to explain those all this to my daughter right who can just call up anything she wants

00:19:07 But now that the greatest hits is a is a real mixed bag because you you get the greatest hits and

00:19:11 Then you got to go for the rest of it

00:19:13 Then of course what happens is like with with bands when you really get into them because of their greatest hits you end up

00:19:18 What do you end up doing you end up liking everything but?

00:19:21 The greatest hits right you end up liking every song, but the greatest hits which you're entirely completely and totally sick off

00:19:27 So, all right, let me ask you let me ask you this and y'all feel free to tip

00:19:32 There's nothing I know that we're not doing super philosophy here. I don't know simple man by Skinner

00:19:37 It spirit in the sky. I was a Jewish guy who wrote that it's actually kind of interesting green bomb

00:19:41 He ended up as a pastry chef or something like that. It was kind of neat so

00:19:45 Now let me ask you this what's the song what's the song

00:19:52 That enrages you what's a song where it's played and you just that was news of the world. Yeah

00:19:58 News of the world. Sorry. Yeah. Yeah

00:20:00 So what's the song that you just you leap up and you are right the clash had some great besides

00:20:07 Boy, if there was ever what the guitarist was Joe Strummer, right?

00:20:11 But if there were ever a guy who you'd never think would be a singer but ripped it but pulled it off pretty well

00:20:15 My sweet lord George Harrison, yeah, he's kind of trickly right?

00:20:22 Yeah, he's kind of trickly and he himself. He said he had no range, right?

00:20:26 Because I'm happy come along. Yep. You feel only the good die young

00:20:32 Yeah, pretty anti-catholic song interesting

00:20:35 Interesting dark horse Katy Perry imagine. Yeah, imagine got pretty sickening. Hey, Jude has gotten so old for me

00:20:41 Plus it's also like when does this song ever end and if you ever do it in karaoke, it's fun for the first while

00:20:47 Then it's really not

00:20:50 Leap up good or bad. I don't know on that crazy bitch by Buckcherry. I hate that song. Yeah

00:20:54 Yeah, there's some songs call me maybe yeah, yeah

00:21:01 Paint the town red by Doha cat. It's a hedonistic mess. Yeah

00:21:05 Most of kiss was annoying. I was born for loving you, baby. Yeah, comedy is dystopia

00:21:13 Do you know that there's a movie that was made by?

00:21:16 Yoko Ono that was 42 minutes of her husband's semi-erect penis

00:21:21 Why cuz 60s I guess but yeah, they were freaks and a half

00:21:26 Anything Billy Eilish by Billy Eilish pulls you towards suicide. No, don't be unfair

00:21:31 It doesn't just pull you towards suicide murders in there as well like Nirvana. Yeah

00:21:34 Slates here it here it us. Merry Christmas drives me nuts

00:21:39 Lakeside Park even Geddy Lee hates it. Yeah, he's got a whole book out my effing life. He's got a whole new book out

00:21:46 I guess a lot of musicians who couldn't to during the pandemic wrote autobiographies instead love shark

00:21:51 They made my daughter loved that song when she was little I like a little like a toddler toddler

00:21:57 Mmm, we built this city

00:21:59 Yes, I kissed a girl and I liked it

00:22:03 Yes

00:22:05 Love shack is a it's a pretty funny song

00:22:07 I've got me as Chrysler. It's a big as a whale and it's about to set sail the guys got quite the adenoidal

00:22:15 nasal voice, it's interesting, right

00:22:18 Of course, we grew with the b-52s. We grew up dancing to rock lobster

00:22:24 Nirvana was terrible saw them at college Kurt Cobain was such a joke to the audience on campus. Oh, yeah

00:22:30 Yeah, he was a pretty pretty rough

00:22:32 The wrong music the wrong music can really ruin you emotionally. Yeah, I think that's kind of true

00:22:37 You got to watch out for for the lyrics. They are sort of programming right all reggae is the same song

00:22:41 Right

00:22:46 Yoko Ono was a skilled hypnotist. I've heard people say that Lennon displayed signs of being brainwashed

00:22:52 Interesting, I don't hypnotism and brainwashing and not the same thing. I don't think

00:22:57 I'm no expert

00:23:02 No, I know expert, all right

00:23:05 questions comments kid rock is pretty trashy God only knows is a good song though and

00:23:11 the one he did with show or fro is also

00:23:16 Pretty good. It's a pretty good song. I mean country music has some absolutely great

00:23:21 Greats great lyrics and great storytelling great storytelling

00:23:25 I ain't seen the Sun in three damn days. Yes. Yeah, you know people who live the country blue songs

00:23:34 Yeah kid rock is I actually saw him he opened for sting many years ago and I saw him

00:23:42 The man the man pours heart and soul into a performance. I'll give him that for sure. But yeah, of course, I mean he's

00:23:47 He's rock groupie trashy for sure, right?

00:23:50 I'd like to shake your hands, but I don't want to get a hand venereal disease

00:23:54 What does philosophy have to say about postpartum depression non-integrated trauma re-experienced

00:24:00 Well, yeah, I mean postpartum depression

00:24:03 there could

00:24:07 Very well be I assume physical stuff like hormonal stuff and all of that, but I do think

00:24:14 That

00:24:18 When I was a child Bjork gave me literal migraines I cry and cry when she was on

00:24:21 Yeah, that that girl seems damaged Fiona Apple -

00:24:25 I've been a bad bad girl

00:24:28 Yeah, she's I broke the heart of a delicate man and it's a sad sad world

00:24:36 When a girl will break a boy just because she can yeah, he she said she was I think she was brutally raped or something

00:24:42 She's really really just terrible terrible stuff happened to her and and you can see that kind of stuff

00:24:48 Flooding and flying along. Oh, man, it's rough

00:24:51 Now so this apparently the flight logs were released

00:24:55 Thank you for the update the Epstein flight logs were released the logs contain flight records of Jeffrey Epstein's private jets including the names of passengers

00:25:03 and flight details

00:25:04 There's a CSV

00:25:06 comma separated

00:25:08 How what the VS come I separated

00:25:12 Log that has been circulating for a week or so claiming to be the logs. It's incomplete and hard to tell if it's

00:25:17 Genuine, okay

00:25:20 Okay. Thanks. Appreciate that. That's good to know

00:25:22 Yeah, what do you get if you play country music backwards you get the wife back the kids back the house

00:25:28 That's right

00:25:31 So and I remember when I was working up north the guys I was working with there was only one radio station

00:25:37 They could get through some weird trick of the troposphere

00:25:40 It was a radio station that was only country and Western songs and I remember very very clearly commerce

00:25:47 I remember now comma separated values. Yes, that's it. My memory in the form of Jared has returned to me

00:25:53 Oh, yes, I got it right before you did James right before you did anyway

00:25:57 So I just remember one one weekend. It was like we're counting down to top 800 country and Western songs of all time

00:26:04 And they were pretty funny. Actually, some of them were pretty funny

00:26:08 Get your tongue out of my mouth. I'm kissing you. Goodbye

00:26:12 She got the gold mine and I got the shaft

00:26:16 About a divorce. Oh, it's really good. It was really good

00:26:22 Oh lord, it's so hard to be humble when you're perfect in every way. Yeah, it's pretty funny

00:26:29 I like the sense of humor the good old boy sense of humor is is is quite quite a lot of fun

00:26:34 It's quite appealing in my humble opinion

00:26:37 Humble massively humble opinion. All right. So yeah, so as far as postpartum depression goes

00:26:43 yeah, I think that there's obviously some hormonal stuff and all of that, but I

00:26:49 Don't think the body forgets much if anything, I don't think the body forgets much if anything

00:26:54 And

00:26:57 We know this from circumcision like I was just reading this study that I don't know if it's new or old because I remember referencing

00:27:03 It some years ago. I don't know if it's been replicated or updated but they did a

00:27:07 baseline stress hormone responses of babies who've been circumcised and babies who were non circumcised and they did this over

00:27:14 six months and after six months

00:27:18 The stress response the fear response the terror response had not returned to baseline. I'm not sure that it ever does

00:27:25 I'm not sure that it ever does

00:27:27 Dumb de lumba lumba lumba la da dum de lumba lumba la da da dum. That's a good song big and rich

00:27:37 Save a horse ride a cowboy the videos a little gross, but the song I think is pretty good

00:27:46 We

00:27:48 We what's that Blues Brothers, well, we we play both kinds of music here country and Western

00:27:53 It's hard to argue

00:27:56 Mary Robbins has a lot of great songs. Yeah

00:27:58 Johnny Cash good artist man, I got into him too much. I shot a man in Reno just to watch him die

00:28:08 Yeah, I never got into I'm a big one for singers and he doesn't for me doesn't have much of a voice so

00:28:15 It's why I couldn't get into Sheryl Crow that much although she's got some good songs although pro-communist, right?

00:28:19 My friend the communist holds meetings in his RV I

00:28:25 Can't afford the gas. So I'm stuck here watching TV. I mean he's she's talking about her friend. Who's a communist, right?

00:28:33 Can she imagine if she was singing my friend the Nazi, right?

00:28:35 His cover of hurt yeah, Bobby Darren was great. Yeah

00:28:43 Raw hide is an excellent scene. Yeah

00:28:45 raw hide

00:28:47 Yeah, that's a that's a funny movie. That's a funny movie. I remember

00:28:51 Matt guitar Murphy's arms was was my envy in my early teens

00:28:55 Man's got some guns

00:28:58 It's got some guns and that rather greasy looking skeevy saxophone player

00:29:03 We especially would like to welcome all the members of Illinois law enforcement who've chosen to be with us this evening

00:29:09 Yes, I really like I bought the soundtrack that when I was happy to do

00:29:13 The album I really enjoyed that

00:29:16 What do you think about the cranberries

00:29:22 Oh

00:29:24 my

00:29:26 Way in every possible way a zombie I didn't like particularly but dreams pretty good. I really liked the

00:29:37 That sort of warbling that she does at the end very innovative and creative singer

00:29:40 But I assume that she also was very badly abused and and didn't make it of course much past middle-age

00:29:45 The movie about Johnny Cash is worth the time to watch he was a tormented soul

00:29:53 Yeah, the only romantic songs I know are sure day

00:30:02 You

00:30:04 There's nothing like you and I baby

00:30:10 The artisan Blues Brothers are awesome. Ah, I really woke up to Aretha Franklin

00:30:16 She actually wrote think and rewrote the lyrics for the Blues Brothers, which is a great song

00:30:21 I who I really woke up to in that movie was well cab Calloway. Hey folks

00:30:26 Here's a story about the minute the moocher. She was a lowdown

00:30:31 huge couture

00:30:34 that's a great song and

00:30:36 Also, well, you heard about the fella you've been dancing with all over the neighborhood

00:30:41 That was just amazing Ray Charles doing that

00:30:44 What's that song gosh I should know this

00:30:48 Do the boobaloo?

00:30:51 That's a fantastic song. That's a fantastic song

00:30:54 Lullaby by the cure is about abuse very tragic. Yeah, the cure those guys are kind of like Robert Smith is kind of mental for sure

00:31:01 Janice Joplin. Yeah, also heavily traumatized and

00:31:04 Massively promiscuous and then of course died of a drug overdose the 27 Club, right?

00:31:10 The cure is amazing. But man, can it get set? Yes, Charlotte sometimes

00:31:14 I remember going to see the cure that didn't even play love cats like the only song there that I really liked

00:31:19 so

00:31:23 Mess around. I'm sorry. I'm I married unless you're referring to a song in which case I married

00:31:29 Yeah, the artisan Bruce brothers were fantastic for sure

00:31:35 Although I didn't particularly like James Brown's version stuff that went on in there

00:31:39 Not not huge. I

00:31:42 Don't think there's anything wrong with the action on this piano. That's right and the toast thing. I don't know

00:31:47 I was just it's just very funny

00:31:49 I mean the Blues Brothers is funny because they're just so improbable like there's a very serious-looking guy who does this funky leg dance and

00:31:56 Then the guy who's really tubby who does all these flips and all of that

00:31:59 Simply read holding back the years. Yeah for sure

00:32:01 I appreciate these do the mess around. Yeah. Thank you

00:32:07 You know, then you graduate into Ray Charles doing Georgia Georgia is actually about a woman believe it or not

00:32:14 Georgia it's not about the state. It's about a woman

00:32:17 So, thank you, I appreciate their song

00:32:21 Simply read I think the guy was pretty vain

00:32:23 Was simply read, you know, it's just like there's a picture of me looking dreamy on the album cover on the back

00:32:30 There's another picture of me looking dreamy now when you open it up

00:32:34 There's two pictures of me looking dreamy and then on the album sleeve. There's another picture of me looking dreamy. It's like dude

00:32:39 You're not a model. You're a singer just sing shut up and sing

00:32:45 Thank you playing God by Polyphia, I will check it out extremely technical guitar

00:32:50 Yeah

00:32:51 So everyone listens to particular things in songs and it usually has something to do with your own area of expertise Stevie Ray Vaughan. Oh, oh

00:32:57 Once was a sweet thing, baby

00:33:00 Yeah, that's a

00:33:04 I love Stevie Ray Stevie Ray is he's got the kind of guitar that just

00:33:08 Gives your toes boners like it's just amazing

00:33:12 it's just incredible change it is a great song from his and

00:33:17 Yeah, just fantastic

00:33:21 Thanks for the how to have hope call and I'm so thankful for the conversation my twins are born

00:33:32 I'm exponentially more enthusiastic after I talk Merry Christmas for my new family to yours. Mm-hmm

00:33:37 Congratulations. Fantastic. Fantastic. So yeah with her. Sorry, just be mr. Jump on all over the place, but with regards to

00:33:44 Postpartum depression you have to deal with your shit before you have kids

00:33:48 You have to deal with your shit before

00:33:52 Yeah, little wing it's a great song and sting did a good pretty good cover of that

00:33:58 So, yeah you to deal with your shit before you have kids

00:34:03 I

00:34:05 think that all the things that

00:34:07 All the things that you didn't get as a baby and a toddler come back to you

00:34:13 When you become a mother and I think that's really tough

00:34:16 All right, that's life Frank Sinatra, yeah, I prefer some of his I prefer some of Frank's softer songs

00:34:26 The soundtrack to leaving Las Vegas has some great songs by sting that are kind of covers or of that sort of era and

00:34:34 like I

00:34:36 Just really really good and really good stuff

00:34:38 Angel eyes that old devil scent

00:34:41 Burns uncomfortably clear

00:34:46 Got to know if my life's misspent and why my angel eyes

00:34:53 ain't here

00:34:56 painted black and sympathy for the devil by Rolling Stones is pretty dark and a bit hypnotic and

00:35:00 Sympathy for the devil has great lyrics great lyrics

00:35:03 A

00:35:05 Very hypnotic. Yeah, very hypnotic

00:35:07 Steph you might be happy to hear that. I asked out my hairstylist tonight. I'm mixed. I'm mixed. Obviously. I'm very very happy that

00:35:17 You asked out your hairstylist

00:35:20 But I'm very enraged that you still need a hairstylist because I don't I

00:35:24 Credit you with helping me step out of my comfort zone and work up the courage to go for broke no matter

00:35:29 The answer she accepted and we set a date to go out for dinner. I love your brother tip incoming. Thank you so much

00:35:33 I really appreciate that

00:35:35 Dave Matthews bands everything is automatic

00:35:41 I

00:35:46 Think too many women don't love their kids which makes giving birth and breastfeeding extremely difficult. Well, okay

00:35:51 so if a woman if a woman is

00:35:55 Placing as her primary value her sexual market value. She's gonna resent the baby

00:36:00 She's gonna resent the baby why you don't know why why is she gonna resent the baby if she has placed her supreme value on

00:36:09 sexual market value

00:36:11 Why what is the problem

00:36:17 Because the baby marks the end of her sexual market value and she knows that deep down

00:36:23 So if you don't have something to offer other than being hot pretty attractive

00:36:28 Then you will resent the baby because the baby takes away all of that, right?

00:36:32 you have

00:36:35 Fired your booster to get to orbit right? Yeah, baby. Well the baby kills her figure sure. I mean, but

00:36:40 Listening to my new favorite I never knew anything about until two years ago Finnish soprano Taria

00:36:52 Turunen

00:36:53 T-a-r-j-a-t-u-r-u-n-e-n. Thank you. I appreciate that

00:36:57 It takes away weight skin shape energy, yeah boobs and and you're just tired right it's time to feel sexy when you're tired

00:37:06 Those combos are so needed for the masses. Yes, it is true

00:37:11 It's true

00:37:14 James should we

00:37:18 Should we give these people a little bonus these glorious gorgeous beautiful. Thank you. Thank you so much for your support people

00:37:24 if you could give me the link to

00:37:27 The premium show the one I did with the guy who was

00:37:32 Being rather unkind to his wife. I just put it out last couple of days

00:37:36 Let's give it let's give it out here because this this is a wild show

00:37:39 Heidi Klum was once roasted for kids yet. Your body looks like you haven't paid attention to any of them

00:37:46 well, some women bounce back and all of that and

00:37:48 Of course if you had have kids younger than right

00:37:53 If you have kids younger, it's not so bad

00:37:56 my wife did not have our daughter young and

00:37:59 But she bounced back. She's always been very conscious of her figure and thank heavens. So

00:38:06 Thanks. Thanks James. Appreciate it. Yeah, we'll give you this one. This is a guy

00:38:13 I

00:38:15 Was actually concerned. He was gonna do some serious damage in his romantic relationship. I'm not emotional damage either and

00:38:20 Confronting somebody who's got that level of rage

00:38:23 Was quite something it was quite something, you know, sometimes I've really earned my keep

00:38:29 Sometimes I really really earned my keep and that was one

00:38:34 I don't think it's gonna go out to the general population because it was just it's too savage

00:38:37 It's too savage

00:38:43 All right, here we go I will I will give this

00:38:46 Oh help me with my rage or something like that is what it's called I'll give you the link here

00:38:59 Yeah lack of breastfeeding and so on

00:39:03 It's it's tough it's tough I'm actually glad that I didn't have more musical talent

00:39:11 You

00:39:13 You mentioned a call-in show where the wife was managing her in-laws did that ever get released I can't find it

00:39:19 Oh Lord, I wish I mean, come on, man

00:39:21 I've got hundreds of call-in shows that I never released. I can't possibly tell you that I

00:39:27 Can't

00:39:31 Know this isn't published yet. This isn't published

00:39:33 I'm just gonna give it to you guys for showing up tonight and showing the love and the support for the show

00:39:39 You

00:39:41 So I'll give you the link in here

00:39:46 Alright, here's another question. What are your thoughts on the idea of closure?

00:39:50 This is in relation to your advice during a call-in show a few years back

00:39:55 To not try to figure out people in order to manage your anxiety

00:39:59 I agree with this principle but find that trying to figure people out is also done in order to understand where relationships

00:40:05 Went wrong and find closure. What is the dividing line between figuring people out to find closure versus managing?

00:40:11 anxiety

00:40:14 All right, I'm gonna ask you if you don't mind just don't share this one this is a

00:40:20 Wild like beyond wild call-in show. This is the kind of call-in show that if I'd known in advance what I was dealing with

00:40:27 I probably wouldn't have taken it. But once we were already in

00:40:30 That's right there

00:40:32 once we were already in I'm like

00:40:34 Okay. Well, I can't stop now plus there were two kids two little kids involved and a lot of violence in the household a

00:40:41 Lot of violence in the household and

00:40:44 anyway

00:40:47 Sent a $10 donation at FDR don't make it donating at the end of the month as well. Thank you. Thank you so much

00:40:52 I really really do appreciate that. There's a wonderfully kind and

00:40:55 Thank you. I really really do appreciate that. It's very much needed and

00:40:59 Yeah

00:41:01 Don't share it's already trending on Twitter

00:41:04 Yeah, it's funny it's funny I see every down then I see myself floating up in Twitter

00:41:10 So getting good views and it's funny because it was a debate I had but the Jewish fellow from many years ago

00:41:15 And it was like shot in on a potato cam and it was just like and it's like all the effort

00:41:20 I put into high quality audio and video and it's like boom. I just did this old potato cam debates show up. That's kind of funny

00:41:25 Here's the tip. I think it works right? I got the tip. Thank you so much

00:41:29 All right, so I'm gonna make sure I understand your question here

00:41:33 The idea of closure, okay the core advice during a call-in show try not to figure people out in order to manage your anxiety I

00:41:40 Agree with this principle

00:41:43 But find that trying to figure people out is also done in order to understand where relationships went wrong and find closure

00:41:48 Where relationships went wrong

00:41:59 The Twitter post about daycare is terrible so many people working so the kid spends time with strangers

00:42:03 Yeah

00:42:05 Yeah, I'm still looking to see evidence of this sort of built-in parental

00:42:09 Bonding stuff. It seemed to be much of a thing

00:42:12 Mr. Voice staff. Thank you

00:42:15 Appreciate it. Happy to have you typing. I I love your font baby your font does things to me that

00:42:21 Should be illegal in at least half the states in the southern u.s

00:42:26 You

00:42:28 What went wrong in relationships

00:42:35 What went wrong in relationships I

00:42:41 Just did a show today. I haven't released it yet where I was answering questions

00:42:50 Yeah, ask me to remember out of thousand like out of 7,000 shows and not not really gonna happen but I'll tell you this

00:42:57 Would you like to know the one thing and

00:43:03 It's not an emotion. It's a state of mind. So it's an intellectual process. Would you like to know the one thing?

00:43:09 That guarantees the failure of a relationship the one thing that if you don't get it, right and

00:43:18 When I say this you will absolutely completely and totally get this

00:43:21 What is the one thing that if you don't get it, right?

00:43:24 Everything is gonna go wrong

00:43:27 Just while you're typing that I tip five bucks. Thank you

00:43:36 Have you ever seen Bo Burnham do a skit called country song making fun of the formula and fake cowboys on private jets?

00:43:41 You know, I gotta tell you I I find that making fun of country songs is kind of boring

00:43:46 you know make make fun of rap and you know, that's

00:43:49 Make fun of rap and you've got me right? Okay. Yeah, you want to know?

00:43:54 No, yeah. All right. What do you got?

00:43:57 empathy nope

00:44:00 Conflict resolution. Nope, not believing them. They tell you bad stuff. Nope. Your kids lying. Nope. No

00:44:05 IQ nope

00:44:09 Physical attraction. No anniversary. Forget the anniversary. Yeah, maybe

00:44:15 All right

00:44:17 Being able to give and take feedback no

00:44:20 Value no

00:44:25 What do you think about moms who run their own daycare and have their kids in it fine be better if they were just having

00:44:30 Their own kids though. All right, I will tell you

00:44:33 All right for the men for the sausage holders for the men here

00:44:42 What is it that defines love for you in a practical sense, how do you know if you loved what does your woman do?

00:44:47 Or your man for that matter. Let's just go traditional. What do your women do that makes you feel loved?

00:44:53 What is it that you and for the women?

00:44:56 M if you're a man M, what do you what does she do W for women? What does he do that make you feel left?

00:45:01 Where you say wow, I really feel loved right? I don't care how rude you get. I really don't care how rude you get

00:45:08 You

00:45:10 Appreciation okay, but oh that's like yeah

00:45:18 What is it that the ability to correct? I think you mean connect

00:45:25 M sex question mark dude. How on earth can I work with that?

00:45:30 I'm asking you to tell me what has you feel love and you have a question mark. Is it a sexy question mark?

00:45:36 It's a question mark big boobs. Is that the graphic you're trying to show me?

00:45:40 guys, I asked you for M versus

00:45:43 W M versus W

00:45:46 Please try and listen I'm trying to help the show

00:45:51 If you're a man M if you're a woman W

00:45:56 It's really not that complicated

00:46:00 That's the one thing one thing I asked for I asked for one thing and donations, right? Okay, we'll survive we'll survive

00:46:06 It's just kind of funny

00:46:07 Hey, man, you can't tell me what to do

00:46:09 I'm a libertarian

00:46:12 All right

00:46:15 Show gratitude compliment me and defer to my judgment loyalty active listening yummy food physical affection and valuing my feedback

00:46:22 Blow jobs and then cook food. Hopefully not at the same time

00:46:27 Hmm, let me taste this steak meat is bloody

00:46:30 M sexual favors. All right

00:46:33 Doing something thoughtful for me being a healthy person around me

00:46:38 That's a woman

00:46:40 Yeah, the fact that you give me M later does not help me because then I gotta go back up and correlate it with your previous

00:46:45 type

00:46:47 How about I feel loved if you listen to my instructions and make my job slightly easier

00:46:54 M sexual favors woman safety and security and listening and so everyone's saying M excellent

00:47:00 Doing something thoughtful me being a healthy person around me. All right

00:47:03 Male house organized surprise physical affection support of my ideas, right?

00:47:10 So

00:47:16 Let me ask you this have you ever had it where

00:47:22 the woman

00:47:23 Says I need to feel close

00:47:26 I need to feel emotionally connected in order to have sex and the man says I need to have sex in order to feel

00:47:33 emotionally connected or the woman says I want to tell you my problems

00:47:37 Without you solving my issues

00:47:40 Because solving seems kind of patriarchal and paternal and kind of condescending

00:47:45 I just need you to listen and support me

00:47:47 Whereas the man says if I love you, I solve your problems

00:47:51 I you know

00:47:51 If you're driving and there's a log in the road

00:47:53 I'll get out and move the log out of the way for me to love you is to solve your problems

00:47:57 whereas for the woman to be loved is

00:47:59 To just be listened to if that makes sense, right?

00:48:02 The ability to be vulnerable about that person physical affection M

00:48:10 Oh Danny, I asked for M and then it but you gave me an M you gave me an M

00:48:14 So that's that's something I appreciate that

00:48:17 See a woman's security male excited when I'm there male and being grateful and appreciated for doing what is needed to provide a home

00:48:24 Male, she's silly around me. Okay. Okay, so we've heard of these

00:48:28 these kinds of things, right I

00:48:31 Had the opposite problem if I am NOT heard sex drives me away from the relationship

00:48:36 Sex drives me away from the region. What does that mean? It means you have sex but

00:48:42 In a car driving away

00:48:45 How well hung are you right?

00:48:47 What breaks up a relationship is a lack of agreement on definitions

00:49:01 Steph how much did you let a woman talk on her first date?

00:49:05 What are you going in with a plunger and some duct tape? Don't do that. What do you mean? Let a woman talk?

00:49:12 You let her be herself and see if you like her if she talks all the time and never asks you about anything then

00:49:16 You can make your decisions. I don't know what you mean. Let a woman talk. What are you gonna tackle her?

00:49:20 Just keep feeding her here have some more fries

00:49:24 Sorry, I don't know what that means

00:49:28 Definitions do you both agree what it means to be loved?

00:49:35 Do you both agree what it means to be loved

00:49:42 Now

00:49:44 You all had some practical shit here man

00:49:47 Appreciation sex food security my gosh, are you all you're just you're all just

00:49:56 Not a thing about virtue being appreciated for my virtues

00:50:04 what is it makes you feel loved being appreciated for my virtues like

00:50:09 not one person says to the moral philosopher who defines

00:50:12 Love is our involuntary response to virtue if we're virtuous not one person says anything about virtue

00:50:18 I'm coming over there and I am taking away your Christmas presents. Oh, that is very funny. Oh

00:50:27 We still have so much work to do

00:50:30 I

00:50:34 Mean not anyone not not one person threw me a frickin bone throw me a frickin bone here

00:50:39 I know one person threw me a bone

00:50:41 It's like blowjobs anything to do with virtue. No blowjob hummers blowjobs. Sometimes hummers may be a handjob six-pack sandwich silence

00:50:50 Staff happy Friday. I'm changing my oil while listening to the greatest show in the world

00:51:04 Right, so if you don't have the same definitions

00:51:07 So for instance if a man says to a woman I don't like you dressing this way like a man says to his girlfriend

00:51:13 I don't like you this dressing is this dress is too revealing. Is he trying to protect her or is he trying to control her?

00:51:19 right

00:51:22 I'm sure it's frustrating but that made me laugh hookers and blow. Oh, yeah, that's him back in the day

00:51:27 We listen to the show because we haven't got it yet, right?

00:51:29 So is is it controlling right? You know the old thing that for a woman to have standards is healthy for a man to have

00:51:34 Standards means he's a controlling patriarch

00:51:36 Do you have

00:51:39 The same definition of sacrifice. Do you have the same definition of love?

00:51:44 Do you have the same definition of support now? It doesn't have to be the same for both of you, right?

00:51:49 So for a man support might be solving my problems for a woman support might be listening

00:51:53 But do you both have the same definitions that you agree on of the words that are the foundation of the relationship?

00:52:00 so for instance

00:52:03 people cheat in relationships because

00:52:05 They don't have the same definition of monogamy. So for one person monogamy is no cheating

00:52:11 The other person is well monogamy can include cheating

00:52:22 So shared values but values rely on definitions

00:52:26 Definitions and relationships are the same thing. If you can't meet in definitions, you can't overlap in

00:52:33 relationships

00:52:36 I fully understand everything. Well teach me

00:52:44 Teach me do you have the same definitions?

00:52:49 Do you have the same definitions of what it is to be a good partner?

00:52:52 Do you have the same definitions of what it is to be a good parent? Do you have the same definitions of abuse?

00:52:56 Right. He's so controlling and abusive

00:52:59 Why because he told me not to go into a bad section of town wearing a miniskirt

00:53:03 It's like no he's trying to help you. He's trying to protect you

00:53:05 Like what happened to that destiny guy in his Swedish wife, oh god

00:53:13 I'm supposed to have a debate with him many moons ago. I can't even remember why it didn't happen now, but

00:53:18 Yeah, so he he ended up in an open relationship, right?

00:53:21 Which is not a relationship it's a

00:53:25 You see there's a drive-thru it's it it's a train through it's a driving train through so

00:53:33 And she ended up going off with some other skinny guy and right

00:53:38 In my view in my view in this could of course just my particular view

00:53:47 But I would say

00:53:49 That yeah, do you have the same definitions of success in a marriage he took her

00:53:55 Oh, he so destiny took his ex-wife from another guy and then she went off with some other guy. I

00:54:00 Don't know. I just open relationship stuff. I maybe I'm just an old fart and old-fashioned, but this

00:54:06 It's completely insane to me. I

00:54:09 Can't imagine how anyone thinks this is any kind of Oh, what does situationship mean? Is this just a come and go?

00:54:17 We don't know if we're in or we're out like Carrie Bradshaw and mr. Big kind of thing

00:54:20 But for a woman to

00:54:27 for a woman to

00:54:30 Have a man in her life who says I'm totally happy to open you up to other men

00:54:36 That's the ultimate non protecting non pair bonding thing, right?

00:54:41 You tried it. It was disastrous. Yeah, it's just horrible. It's absolutely horrible

00:54:46 And that's treating marriage as a convenience for your own hedonism rather than something that is designed to protect children, right?

00:54:53 The whole purpose of marriage is to protect children and you can't do that. I mean it just can't work

00:54:58 So if you have an open relationship if you're a guy

00:55:01 You have an open relationship

00:55:03 Either your wife doesn't like the other guys as much as she likes you in which case she might as well be with you or

00:55:08 She likes them more than you in which case she's gonna leave you

00:55:14 Situationship equals good enough for now not likely the last. Oh, it means fuck buddies. Yeah, all right

00:55:18 Some people have kids in an open relationship

00:55:22 Yeah, some people have kids in an open relationship and don't even know who the father is, right?

00:55:25 I was asked to be friends with benefits by an ex

00:55:30 I told her to have more respect for herself and then realized it was a bad idea to stay friends with her

00:55:33 Now, do you know why your ex offered you friends with benefits? Do you know why do you have an idea?

00:55:39 Why she did that? I know why why did you why did you why does an ex offer friends with benefits?

00:55:45 why

00:55:47 does an

00:55:48 Ex offer friends with benefits

00:55:50 Thank you very much for your tip I appreciate that Merry Christmas back to you guys as well

00:56:02 Open relationships for man is dumb unless you're a total Chad, but it's terrible

00:56:10 If you're a total Chad, you should get the highest quality woman and become a father

00:56:15 The idea that masculinity is sex not fatherhood is a completely bizarre

00:56:21 invention of

00:56:23 the modern world

00:56:25 Masculinity is fatherhood protection provision mentoring. It's not

00:56:29 Shooting and squirting. It's not the the prey spray and pray, right?

00:56:34 Why

00:56:37 Why? No, I mean it could be it could be that she you know, baby jail or whatever it is that no

00:56:44 No, no, she offers you sex with benefits. She offers you friendship with benefits

00:56:48 So that you're crippled and sabotaged so you can't be around and pair bond with a new girl

00:56:55 So you can't get into a new relationship. No, that's she just all she's doing is sabotaging

00:57:00 Just sabotaging you

00:57:03 She knows that

00:57:07 No woman of any quality is gonna want to have anything to do with you if you're banging your ex

00:57:12 Yeah, if your ex is sniffing around if you so you're either gonna lie or you're gonna tell the truth. Are you seeing anyone?

00:57:18 Yes, I'm having empty meaningless stupid sex with my ex. Oh

00:57:22 Bye

00:57:25 Right

00:57:27 Or so you either lie

00:57:34 and you are hiding her in which case you not emotionally available to have her you're dating or or

00:57:39 You tell some of the truth and no, it's just sabotage

00:57:44 It's just sabotage

00:57:51 Somebody says I was adopted

00:57:57 My mother was not sure who our father was and aunt says it was probably one guy

00:58:01 Now that we are over 40 she can see him in us terrible not knowing things. Yeah, it is. I'm sorry about that

00:58:05 I'm really sorry about that

00:58:07 That also makes sense like a mom but worse because she'll be around your whole life

00:58:12 Yeah, it's um, that's terrible

00:58:18 So when you say

00:58:28 Where the relationship go wrong if you think about your relationships your relationships went wrong because you couldn't agree on definitions and you fought over

00:58:35 Those definitions so for instance the woman I was going to marry

00:58:39 For a variety of reasons it failed one of the main reasons it failed is that we didn't have the same definitions of contribution

00:58:48 Right, the word contribution was used in very different

00:58:54 Ways so for me contribution was paying the bills for her

00:58:59 Contribution was forget about the bills. You have to do half the housework

00:59:03 And I was like, well, no, I

00:59:06 Mean, it's two of us pretty small place. Only one doesn't we just had the ground floor of her little house. So

00:59:12 It's like two hours of housework a day I'm working 10 to 12 hours a day

00:59:18 So I'm doing six times more work than you and if I then also do another hour of homework

00:59:24 Then I'm doing

00:59:26 13 hours a day you're doing one. I'm being 13 times more than you 13 times is not an equal contribution

00:59:31 So a relationship starts with a dictionary. No

00:59:34 No, because it's personal

00:59:37 We didn't have the same definition of contribution

00:59:43 This is it's big right if you if you don't have the same definitions you can't have a relationship

00:59:51 I mean you can stagger along and this is a conflict all the conflicts are about what I'm defining

00:59:57 Being there for somebody else like so for some women

01:00:03 Being there for me means validating my feelings whereas for men being there means telling me the objective truth and people get into

01:00:11 Problems about this all the time

01:00:13 All the time

01:00:20 For a man support means take care of the place

01:00:24 Give me honest feedback

01:00:28 Be enthusiastic about what I'm doing, but if I'm screwing up, let me know right?

01:00:34 That's what support means for a man for many men for women often support means

01:00:38 Tell me I'm fine. Tell me I'm looking great. Even if I gained weight

01:00:43 Tell me that I'm just as pretty as the day we met even though it's 20 years later, right lie to me

01:00:49 Lie to me. I promise I'll believe

01:00:52 Lie to me, but please don't leave right so

01:00:56 For a man support is tell me the truth be enthusiastic. Tell me the truth for a woman for some women

01:01:03 Not all obviously but for women support means tell me everything's gonna be okay, right?

01:01:08 So when you go to a man in an uncertain situation and you say hey man, everything's gonna be okay. What a men say

01:01:14 What

01:01:19 Do men say if you're in an embed an ambiguous situation and

01:01:24 Somebody says hey man, everything's gonna be okay

01:01:35 Men say

01:01:41 You can't you can't promise me that we don't know that I don't know that I don't know that

01:01:48 like when I was gold panning in the middle of nowhere and

01:01:52 It seemed like there was a big

01:01:55 creature sniffing around

01:01:57 Our tent we didn't sit there and say oh, it's a moose. It's a it's a caribou. It's a

01:02:02 Fox

01:02:04 It's fine. Everything's fine

01:02:06 No, I grabbed the shotgun and we got a flashlight and we saw a bear

01:02:15 Right, so for men, hey man, it's an ambiguous unknown situation

01:02:20 But everything's gonna be fine men say what you talking about

01:02:25 You don't know that like who are you who are you to say that you don't know that what are you talking about?

01:02:30 You can't possibly know that

01:02:33 Now

01:02:37 For

01:02:41 Women who are in ambiguous situations a lot of women not all a lot of women

01:02:46 Genuinely take comfort in someone saying it's all gonna work out. Everything's gonna be fine

01:02:52 Am I wrong ladies if I'm wrong, I'm not saying you're this way but a lot a lot of women

01:02:59 Hey, just tell me everything's gonna be fine

01:03:01 Just tell me everything's gonna be fine

01:03:04 and then the big choice for men is like

01:03:07 Am I gonna comfort her with bullshit? Am I gonna pretend to know something? I just don't know

01:03:12 I don't really know that I guess honey. Absolutely. Everything's gonna be fine. Don't you worry about a thing? It's all gonna work out

01:03:21 I'm just gonna gaslight you I'm gonna lie and pretend I have knowledge that I don't have right does that make sense?

01:03:26 again, lots of exceptions, but that seems to be

01:03:30 You

01:03:32 So we have different definitions of what is meant by support

01:03:42 For a woman in the tent big creature sniffing around just tell me everything's gonna be fine that's called supportive

01:03:51 For a man, it's like hand me the shotgun and make sure it's loaded. That's what it means to be supported

01:03:58 I

01:04:00 Don't agree with that just me. Yeah, and of course, yeah, but but another thing

01:04:06 I'm sorry. I don't mean to laugh but it is kind of funny. Another thing is that

01:04:13 When a man hears a general principle, he compares it to the truth. He compares it to statistics

01:04:20 He compares it to a wide sample. What does a woman do most times when she hears a generalization?

01:04:26 what does a

01:04:28 Woman do when she hears a generalization versus what a man does

01:04:32 Oh, we know this one, right

01:04:44 We know this one, right

01:04:53 Yeah, they take it personally right so a woman will

01:04:56 Compare a generalized statement to herself and the truth of the generalized statement is dependent upon whether it fits her personality or not

01:05:05 Like y'all know the I come if I've talked about this before

01:05:08 So a man hears a general statement and he compares it to a wide experience

01:05:13 He compares it to things that he's heard things that he's known and to other people too, right?

01:05:17 He's comparing it to the world as a whole when a woman hears a generalized statement

01:05:21 She says hmm. Yeah, that doesn't apply to me

01:05:23 I mean for women

01:05:29 Generalized statements are per capita of one often again is exceptions. No, it's not just feelings and and this is not

01:05:36 Yeah, well, not all yeah

01:05:38 Says who I've never heard of that. So do you all know the Lego experiment boys and girls?

01:05:43 Hit me with a why if you've heard me

01:05:47 Talk about the Lego experiment. It's really fascinating and none of this is negative towards women. None of this

01:05:51 Is negative towards women women are wonderful

01:05:56 It's the combined choices and picks of women that has given us the most incredible brains in the universe

01:06:01 So none of this is negative towards women just just to be clear, right, but it's important to know the differences, right?

01:06:06 Okay

01:06:09 so

01:06:16 No, so one of the differences that men hunt

01:06:19 So men have to deal with probabilities

01:06:22 Right men hunt so men have to deal with probabilities in generalized statements, right?

01:06:27 What is the odds?

01:06:28 How close can I get before I throw the spear to get I said we have to deal with probabilities and weight calculations and

01:06:32 so on and we also have to

01:06:34 Compare people success rate over time

01:06:36 So we give the person who's most accurate with the spear we give him the spear so that he gets the food

01:06:41 Whereas women don't compare to generals and average and and they just they taste the buried. Is it good? Is it bad?

01:06:47 Does it help me doesn't know so it's about personal experience. Nothing wrong with that, right? Okay, so

01:06:51 Back in the day, I don't know exactly when there was a fairly large experiment and they gave a Batman Lego set

01:07:01 to a large group of boys and they gave a Batman Lego set to a

01:07:11 large group of girls

01:07:13 Right now the boys

01:07:16 played as Batman

01:07:19 right

01:07:20 so the boys were like Batman jumps up to the top and then he he jumps down and his car races off and he runs

01:07:24 Over the criminal and then he grabs them and he grapples and right so they played they got into Batman's world and they played as

01:07:31 Batman in Batman's world doing Batman things, right?

01:07:36 Now

01:07:40 That's not what the girls did

01:07:42 Again I know this sounds negative. It's not at all negative. It's just these are the facts

01:07:46 So what the girls did was instead of going into Batman's world and playing Batman doing Batman things

01:07:53 What the girls did was they turned Batman into them?

01:07:59 They had Batman go

01:08:01 Grocery shopping and have a tea party and they had Batman do

01:08:07 They had Batman do each other's hair right they turned Batman into themselves

01:08:12 Somebody's giving me the link here. Let me just double-check. I got this right

01:08:18 But

01:08:24 Oh this post is from a suspended account

01:08:27 Excellent I'll be right back onto it or let me just go and activate my account again

01:08:35 So the boys entered into

01:08:38 Batman's universe and the girls drew Batman into their universe. I think they castrated him. Oh Dave

01:08:46 Gosh, stop judging and be curious. It is hilarious. So that's so funny, right?

01:08:50 So Dave is like, oh they castrated him. They emasculated poor Batman and the woman is like that's hilarious and it is

01:08:57 It is hilarious. I think it's beautiful. I

01:09:01 Mean criticizing women is criticizing yourself, man

01:09:04 We are all you and I all the dudes here all the sausage fest party members here

01:09:08 We're all the result of female choices you criticize women

01:09:10 You're just criticizing yourself because we are shadow we are shadows cast by the preferences of females, right?

01:09:16 So it is hilarious, isn't it?

01:09:18 I mean is hilarious the Batman tea party the Batman Beauty Salon doing Batman doing Robin's nails. I

01:09:25 Think that's fantastic

01:09:30 I really really think oh, it was a joke. Okay. Yeah, so that is

01:09:35 That's a difference. It's a it's an important difference. It's a sort of vivid and and powerful difference

01:09:42 but a woman will draw you into her world a man will go out and try to

01:09:48 Enter and work with the world, right

01:09:51 It's it's why you love listen

01:09:56 Do you know how culture gets reproduced culture gets reproduced by women

01:10:01 absorbing the males and spitting them out in their own image and

01:10:05 the females to

01:10:07 Batman's body

01:10:09 That is the sound as eyelashes

01:10:15 Very good

01:10:19 That's very cute. No, so

01:10:22 Why do we have language why do we have all of this great civilization? I mean have you ever seen how bachelors live? Oh, man

01:10:30 So there's this battle, right? So, you know, there's some this is cliche about how bachelors live, which is a

01:10:36 Woman posts like a man can literally be happy with this and it's a giant TV and a couch in a big house

01:10:44 Everything's empty. There's a giant TV

01:10:46 There's a couch and even the boxes are off to one side right man gets a he plays some Xbox or whatever

01:10:53 it watches some video and he's eaten his ramen noodles or takeout or whatever and

01:10:58 So men will literally be happy

01:11:00 With this right? What was that Babylon B article?

01:11:05 treacherous husband foolishly

01:11:07 Puts the throw pillows on the bed in the wrong position

01:11:13 So and and so when I think it was a woman who posted this men will literally be happy just living like this

01:11:19 bedroom couch big TV and

01:11:22 The men underneath were posting like it enrages women how little it takes to make us happy, right? It's true

01:11:28 Bachelor here office man cave and bedroom fits into any by 12 space

01:11:37 Gee I'm such a bro. Like I'm such a dude. I woke up once with a pigeon on my chest

01:11:44 I don't know if you can't hear the story if it matters, but I'm I'm so I was so brought out and such a bachelor

01:11:55 Yeah guys really live in apartments like this and don't see any issue. Yep

01:11:59 lazy boy

01:12:02 TV that's it. Nothing on the walls. You don't paint. There's no decoration and

01:12:08 What do you have for plates you have whatever you don't know how you got right that that's dudes with plates

01:12:16 I have no idea why I have this nothing matches some of it has chips and cracks, but they've mostly worn away

01:12:21 They don't cut me anymore. And if you ask you ask my wife where these shoes came from. She'll have a whole

01:12:27 like

01:12:29 History she'll have a lineage. She'll have charts. She'll have a whole family tree

01:12:34 When I was a bachelor I had no idea why I had most of what I had

01:12:40 I don't know if it was given to me. It could have been there when I moved in

01:12:44 I might have just accumulated it over time how why I never bought anything. I just had shit

01:12:48 Maybe my mom gave me something. I have no idea. Like why do I have this? I don't know

01:12:55 Huh, I have a set of plates I never used to add to my date ability nice

01:12:59 My my daughter my daughter now, I mean she went through you know

01:13:06 Tom boy face and all of that, but my daughter is now you know what she wants for Christmas

01:13:10 Do you know what she wants for Christmas you'll never you'll never guess in a million years. Oh my gosh. Oh my gosh

01:13:18 Oh my gosh

01:13:26 Uh, yeah, maybe I'll work on debunking that study so my daughter for Christmas wants a

01:13:32 Bulldozer shoes no

01:13:36 She wants bowls no way past the dragon face she wants bowls. She really really likes bowls

01:13:50 And I said, well, why don't I just get you some, you know sensible shoes and socks

01:13:55 Cuz you know

01:13:57 Can you imagine you're a bachelor or you're a dude and someone gives you a bowl or a couple of bowls for I?

01:14:03 Already have a bowl. This is a bachelor mindset. Why would I need another one? I already have one

01:14:08 No, just bowls just bowls and I said that's the most depressing thing I've ever heard of bowls

01:14:20 Like decorated ramen bowls, I don't know man, we're gonna go and get him but just do you want bowls?

01:14:26 It's a it's a mystery. But you know women are delightfully incomprehensible and I I love him to death and

01:14:32 Have you heard bolts at first?

01:14:35 Bolts of cloth or crossbow bolts like handcrafted pottery. I don't know Jared. I don't know. I

01:14:41 Don't know what she wants

01:14:44 but his bowls

01:14:46 I'm just traumatized by bowls because I had the terrible most terrible food when I was growing up

01:14:50 But I would get them in bowls and you'd have to eat till you could see the picture at the bottom and I just hated

01:14:54 the food

01:14:55 That I grew up. So

01:14:57 Fancy Japanese bowls or the plastic ones. I don't know

01:15:00 Thank you. Did you I really appreciate that. Merry Christmas back to you and your family as well. Thank you so much

01:15:06 The issue is I need them to match my original so a different set of bowls. I'd give to roommates

01:15:13 Matching okay, so I lived in an apartment young and Eglinton and I was on the 18th floor and

01:15:19 I

01:15:21 I don't think it had air conditioning or the air conditioning didn't work very well

01:15:25 So I'd leave my balcony door open and sometimes I'd snack in my bedroom

01:15:29 Before but this is long before I was married now and ever since the moment I met my wife

01:15:35 I never eat anything in the bedroom in any way shape or form. The only thing I do is I eat

01:15:41 stuff that doesn't crumble

01:15:43 Over the sink with the carburetor running and the water running and then I shower right afterwards

01:15:48 Or stand outside in the rain just in case there are any residual crumbs

01:15:52 Because if I if my wife ever had to choose between having a husband or a crumb free house

01:15:59 I don't know man. It would really depend on how funny I'd been that day

01:16:06 But it would be touch-and-go like it would be it would be touch-and-go

01:16:11 But back then I would snack and

01:16:13 So and of course I would snack and I I had I think I had a vacuum cleaner

01:16:20 Did I have a vacuum cleaner? Probably not maybe

01:16:24 Anyway, so I left my balcony door open

01:16:29 there was food that led a pigeon into my bedroom and

01:16:34 I woke up, you know, you you feel those bird claws on your chest, you know as you do and you wake up

01:16:41 And of course when I told this story to my daughter, she was like cool greatest day ever, right? And I said, yeah

01:16:47 So then I had breakfast

01:16:49 Yes

01:16:51 The pigeon on the chest story. Yes, it got tangled in my chest here. I mean, I don't have a lot of chest here

01:16:57 but I got a little bit there so

01:17:00 Yeah

01:17:03 I also had and that this is when I realized I was just too bacheloring you can't over bachelor

01:17:10 right, you can you can absolutely over bachelor and

01:17:13 I realized when I was over bacheloring the light in my kitchen went out and

01:17:18 So for a while I used like, you know as when the light in your kitchen goes out. It's a rental

01:17:24 You're a bachelor. You don't replace it. What do you do?

01:17:26 well you

01:17:29 You use the fridge light you open the door you get what you need while the doors open door closes and hopefully you've got what you

01:17:35 need

01:17:37 Then the fridge light went out and so then you use the oven light and

01:17:42 You see I use the oven light for a while and then the oven light went out and then it was just darkness and I

01:17:46 remember

01:17:47 I

01:17:49 wanted some bread and peanut butter and

01:17:51 It was too dark to find it and this is before

01:17:55 Cellphones and flashlights and all that like not before flashlights before the cell phones with the flashes. So I had no light. I had no light and

01:18:03 I

01:18:05 couldn't do the whole light because

01:18:07 That didn't come in and just occluded things more. So I've realized what I needed to do was I used one of those electric coil stoves

01:18:14 I rolled up some newspaper and I was in my underpants boxers, I think and I put the rolled up newspaper on

01:18:20 The heater on the stove and it lit it up and I was squatting down and

01:18:28 groping around in the cupboards for the peanut butter and the bread and I

01:18:36 Didn't refer to it as a knife because that would indicate more than one my knife my knife me and good old can if he my

01:18:42 best friend

01:18:44 anyway

01:18:46 Fortunately, I had an out-of-body experience and I saw myself like a freaking subhuman caveman

01:18:51 groping around in a cave

01:18:54 With oak flesh fire. Oh, it has fire. Oh, I want peanut butter and bread carb head and I was like, dude

01:19:04 You may have over bachelored at this particular moment

01:19:07 You have over bachelor. It's like my roommate who would travel around dirt cheap

01:19:13 And at one point he was in the middle of the Mojave Desert

01:19:15 pounding on a tin of beans with a rock and he's like, yeah, I've I've over bachelors and it's

01:19:21 It's pretty rough. That's pretty rough

01:19:24 As house-deaf slay slim as a bachelor I understand that's awful south of the equator of you

01:19:34 Want peanut butter or need fire? Oh cannot find pigeon to no on did women react poorly to your bachelor pad

01:19:41 well, I think that the kindest word that I could possibly use with regards to how the women viewed my bachelor pad was

01:19:49 Potential that it had potential because I didn't say it was good

01:19:55 I just said it was me now when a man says it's not good. It's just me the woman keys into that as he has

01:20:02 potential he has

01:20:04 potential

01:20:07 Molly news cave. Yes, they do and I had to knees both agree. You've rea you've I basically I leveled up to ultimate bachelor

01:20:15 I'm in fact was going to do a I was gonna do a documentary many years ago

01:20:20 My friends and I joked about it many years ago and the documentary was raised by bachelors

01:20:25 And it was gonna be like we were gonna get kids like with terrible stories about I was raised by bachelors, you know

01:20:32 It was gonna be like, yeah, well, he didn't do the laundry

01:20:35 But he would give me these dryer sheets to rub under my armpits, you know, just things like that

01:20:39 We didn't have pets we did have pass-through livestock like pigeons like just yeah

01:20:46 I mean we could we could hunt for things and sometimes oh

01:20:50 Yeah

01:20:53 Scrape the fur, you know if there was stuff and we were hungry. He'd just say scrape the fur

01:20:58 And it was just gonna be these these kids raised by bachelors. It was really

01:21:02 Somewhere I've got a script for it and and we never got around to doing it. But of course, but it was

01:21:08 Raised by bachelors would have been very very funny. I think maybe somebody will do it at some point

01:21:13 But that was that was something else. All right

01:21:16 Anybody who wants to tip me for this

01:21:20 Historical comedy routine, please sir. And I remember

01:21:24 so I I was

01:21:27 The reason I ended up in this apartment was to be rented it for the company

01:21:30 so I was off-site and anyway to do research and development and

01:21:33 remember one of my employees a woman came over and she kept vanishing a couple of times over the course of the day I didn't

01:21:40 know where she went and

01:21:42 She went down. She went downstairs to

01:21:45 To the local fairly grimy coffee shop to go to the bathroom

01:21:50 Rather than risk using my bathroom now listen, I knew people were coming over so I cleaned up and all that kind of stuff

01:21:57 but

01:21:59 She's like now I'll take my chances with the hobos

01:22:01 Let's take my chances with the hobos. So

01:22:04 other than risk

01:22:07 bachelor hobo bathrooms are better than bachelor bathrooms, you know, because if you

01:22:10 may have to step over a

01:22:14 heroin addict in order to get to

01:22:16 The washroom, but at least it's not a bachelor bathroom

01:22:26 All right, let's see here

01:22:28 I've had one item in my cabinet for most of this year the large Morton salt shaker

01:22:36 When she says as long as you're happy that's bad news

01:22:40 Yes, because what you know what as long as you're happy as well if you're happy when I'm not happy

01:22:45 I'm gonna note that and make you pay forever

01:22:47 Steph with regards to having shared definitions

01:22:51 How do you determine which definition is more valid than the other once you find a disagreement?

01:22:56 well, I think you want your I

01:22:59 Mean it's a challenge. So men and women have to celebrate masculinity and femininity without losing either I celebrate femininity

01:23:07 I keep it at a fairly incomprehensible distance and

01:23:10 I live like I call it. I've mentioned this before but I live I live in paradise like now compared to this

01:23:17 platonic dead-eyed hovel of a

01:23:22 Fiery torch and pigeon-filled cave of nothingness as a bachelor. I live in paradise. I live I call it girly world

01:23:28 Girly world is absolutely beautiful in girly world like the sheets

01:23:32 Move you can get them apart in in girly world

01:23:37 towels bend

01:23:40 It's incredible in girly world. Everything smells not just okay

01:23:45 It smells great. I don't know how it smells so great. I don't see any evidence of patchouli or

01:23:52 Incense, but everything just smells great. Everything is clean

01:23:55 everything is beautiful and

01:23:58 I don't get skin rashes like girly world is

01:24:01 Beautiful man. I live in paradise. I don't understand how it happens. My wife doesn't seem that busy

01:24:07 I assume mommy used to joke about marriage elves. I didn't just marry her. I married a bunch of marriage elves

01:24:12 I open drawers and there's stuff in there

01:24:17 It's incredible, I mean every time I walk into a room it's like did architectural digest just finish a shoot here

01:24:24 Like why does this look so good?

01:24:26 There's nothing on the floor, but the carpet

01:24:28 I mean when I was a bachelor I

01:24:33 Tripped while eating a bowl of spaghetti and sauce and I can't even tell you because I can't even remember how long that sauce

01:24:40 stayed on the wall, it was like

01:24:42 My friends you referred to it as

01:24:45 CSI blood spatters, you know from the spatter mark. You can see that the padding happened here. The arc goes this way

01:24:52 It's like eventually is like well, I suppose if I invite a woman over

01:24:56 Probably blood spatters above the couch are probably not what she first wants to see unless she does in which case I'm in trouble

01:25:04 So yeah, like everything is beautiful

01:25:07 Everything the only parts that aren't beautiful and I won't show you at the moment is the studio and the studio is man cave

01:25:13 She doesn't come in here. She's like that's your planet. That's your world. It ain't girly world in here

01:25:17 It's man world and man world is cables and man world is rough carpets and man world is

01:25:23 Stuff that you can't even remember why you have it in the box over there in the corner

01:25:27 man world

01:25:29 Stuff within reach nothing cleared off. I

01:25:32 Know where everything is nothing moves

01:25:35 What's in here chair

01:25:39 Microphone other microphone curse backup other receiver can't remember why I have it down here. It's not the receiver. I'm using right now

01:25:46 There is a coffee

01:25:48 heater for warm coffee

01:25:50 there is

01:25:52 My my book my book the art of the argument you should get it's great book by the way part of the argument comm I

01:25:58 have

01:26:00 monitors many monitors why

01:26:02 Because it's really cool

01:26:05 Watching the mouse cursor jump space go from one monitor another across empty space

01:26:10 Oh

01:26:16 Yeah, this is man world. I have

01:26:18 Books down here that I used to use to prop up a camera approximately four thousand years ago. Well these books

01:26:25 What why are they here I have

01:26:29 weapons of mass instruction by John Taylor Gatto I have

01:26:34 The highly annotated Churchill Hitler and the unnecessary war by Patrick Buchanan with all of my notes because I did a show on it

01:26:41 Approximately four hundred and fifty thousand years ago. Why is it still here? It's here because this is man world

01:26:47 But I don't eat I don't eat down here

01:26:52 Got chills right there. All right good stuff. That's a great cover. That's a great cover

01:27:01 Good thing you're in Canada. You can get away with a little mess can't really do that if you live where roaches are

01:27:05 Oh, yeah. Yeah, when we used to be like in warmer climates

01:27:08 My wife was like everything must be sealed

01:27:11 Everything must be sealed. Everything must be rinsed

01:27:16 Everything goes in a box if you want cereal, it's like breaking into Fort Knox

01:27:21 You have to sacrifice a kidney and one goat

01:27:23 To the gods of box opening and then you have to put the dead goat in a box as well because bugs

01:27:31 Visiting my bachelor friend made me appreciate girly world on another level. How what?

01:27:35 Where is everything was my reaction to his kitchen?

01:27:38 Yeah, John Taylor got it. I said good. It's good. It's good book. It's a good book

01:27:43 I mean nothing particular changes, but oh, yeah, she's right. Yeah for sure

01:27:47 For sure

01:27:49 What is it Palmetto bugs? What are the giant cockroaches that look like you could?

01:27:53 ride and

01:27:56 Tell everyone that the British are coming

01:27:59 Those things are like really creepy

01:28:01 Really horrifying

01:28:04 No, she is right. She's absolutely right

01:28:06 My skin is better. You know, like a girly world. She doesn't just terraform the the

01:28:12 The environment she terraforms me completely, you know, I'm on good supplements

01:28:18 I I eat better. My skin is clearer. My vision is great and all of that. So

01:28:24 Do you think that the school bells teaches kid that finishing things isn't important?

01:28:28 No, the school bell just teaches children that they're completely under the control

01:28:31 Yeah, Palmetto bugs will send grown men screaming. I don't mind a Palmetto bug if I have a baseball bat

01:28:37 My friend had a Mount Everest of dirty clothes in the living room

01:28:40 So the ultimate example of girly world versus man world is the film close encounters of the third kind with Richard Dreyfuss

01:28:47 Do you remember that that movie like he makes a mountain of he's got a vision. He's got an obsessive vision

01:28:54 So he's like hey, I'm gonna make a mountain in the living room because obsessive, right?

01:28:58 So I can tell who owns the Airbnb before I even enter it. Yeah

01:29:02 Absolutely

01:29:04 Now I'm still waiting for

01:29:06 No, so boy world, you know boy world is like organized thoughts and arguments and hopefully some charisma some good humor

01:29:12 like you enjoy watching the show listening to it and all of that and

01:29:19 So boy world ads and and she would very much appreciate what boy world ads as long as boy world is kept behind a closed door

01:29:25 But yeah girly world. It's beautiful man

01:29:28 It's it's a beautiful place and I would never in a million years habit if I didn't have a wife who is wonderful at

01:29:35 at home making

01:29:37 I mean tell me this if you're a dude if you're a dude

01:29:45 Do you make the bed just answer nobody's looking just answer just tell me do you make the bed?

01:29:52 I I want to know do you make the bed?

01:29:59 Because you know what men say and it's pretty predictable, right

01:30:04 What men say is

01:30:08 Hey, man

01:30:10 It's just gonna get messy again

01:30:12 So you create a tunnel right you create a tunnel 20% of the time. Yeah, you create a tunnel

01:30:17 It's like it's like a sword in a scabbard man. I slide into that tunnel and

01:30:21 That's it right, but it does something to your brain to have a messy room a messy bed

01:30:28 it does something to your brain to have a

01:30:30 Messy room that you pass by my wife makes a bed in the morning

01:30:36 It's got a cover you don't use

01:30:40 Only when I wash Betty

01:30:42 My bed is made but I still sleep on the couch

01:30:45 Just throwing the blanket in the air. So it sort of flattens out cat. So making the bed is a multi-dimensional thing

01:30:51 so first of all, you have to basically iron all the sheets and

01:30:55 Then you you put the covers on and there are layers and then you put something called an eiderdown on now an eiderdown is not

01:31:02 Something you sleep under it's there to look good

01:31:04 It's like makeup for your bed. You don't sleep with it on it just looks good

01:31:08 And then you get more pillows known to mankind you get a little forklift truck

01:31:11 You put all the pillows in just the right way. So they spell out a cry for help from the OCD gods

01:31:16 And it's beautiful man, I go past the bedroom I have to get something from the bedroom

01:31:21 I like will sit there and go man. That's beautiful in here. I

01:31:24 Disturb it

01:31:28 with my man ripples

01:31:30 Like it's it's like you know what?

01:31:32 Like my wife's the beautiful stuff my wife does in the house is like the perfect reflection of a sunset on a lake and I'm

01:31:37 Just this giant rock goes kaboom

01:31:39 And just like shatters the whole thing like yeah

01:31:43 It doesn't it doesn't look as good and doesn't smell as good and it's just not as good after I pass through

01:31:48 It's just a reality. It's a cross that we both bear but really the bedroom bears it more so

01:31:53 Eiderdown is a duck ask Izzy. Yeah, I'm sure she I'm sure she know

01:32:03 Yeah

01:32:05 Yeah, once a week you make the bed right try it honestly try making the bed just see how you feel right

01:32:15 It came after reading something that said if I make the bed mentally it was my first win of the day setting me up for

01:32:22 More wins. Yeah, it could be true, right?

01:32:24 Could be true

01:32:28 I'd a down head that terms I did down head that term like grandparents generation silent generation. Sorry

01:32:35 That's the word salad that I can't quite puzzle out or or unpick

01:32:38 So, yeah, no, it's it's it's wonderful the magic drawers the clean clothes the great skin the better health

01:32:47 She's just she's amazing. She's wonderful wonderful that way. I don't comprehend it

01:32:52 I don't know how she does it when she does it does it I don't know how it happens

01:32:57 I don't think I'd ever do it

01:32:59 But I'm truly overjoyed that that it happens

01:33:02 If I make the bed I sleep on the couch. Oh god

01:33:07 How can you sleep on a couch man?

01:33:09 You can doze on a couch, but you can't get a good night's sleep on a couch

01:33:12 Sleeping on a couch is like sleeping on a plane. You're just kind of half dozing and deferring all of your exhaustion till the next day

01:33:19 It just makes you groggy couch sleeping is just groggy because your body's like well, we're getting up soon, right?

01:33:25 I mean, it's just a siesta. It's just a siesta. So we don't really need to do this too. Seriously, do we we're not really sleeping

01:33:31 We're not really sleeping. Are we it's just a dose. It's just a dose

01:33:35 Um

01:33:41 I mean there was a whole Seinfeld was it no it's a friends episode where the girl was just a pig, right?

01:33:46 Hit me with a why

01:33:48 If you've ever gone to somebody's place and it ain't great

01:33:52 And it ain't great

01:33:55 I do remember one girl I was going out with briefly. She criticized my place and I'm like

01:33:59 Your place smells like cat and there's hair everywhere

01:34:03 Manuel says I found a way to make the bed in five seconds

01:34:09 See I found a way to make love in five seconds that's efficient it's like but

01:34:17 It's a whole ritual thing

01:34:19 you know, I remember this when I was in the play Hurley Burley when I was younger and the director was like

01:34:25 No, no, no, it's not you don't like they're alcoholics

01:34:27 You don't just drink at the hole you mix the drinks the whole ritual like it's not just right. It's the whole thing

01:34:31 It's not just get the alcohol into your body as quickly as possible

01:34:34 It's a whole get the right glass and fill it up just right get the right amount of ice add the increase

01:34:38 It's a whole ritual. And so it's such a dude thing to say

01:34:42 Well, I do make the bed, but I do it with maximum robotic efficiency. I bend space and time to my will of either downiness

01:34:50 So I found a way to make the bed in five seconds. I keep only a bed sheet and a wool blanket

01:34:54 when I go to bed, I

01:34:57 Grab another blanket. I wrap myself into in the morning

01:34:59 I throw the top blanket in the closet pull the wool back inside and boom bed is in perfect shape

01:35:02 It's like a friend of mine used to joke about you know, you ever have slow eaters and fast eaters, right?

01:35:07 Slow eaters and fast eaters. So the slow eaters, you know, mmm, I'm just enjoying

01:35:12 I'm enjoying the food man. Oh so nice. I'm just every dad's saver, right?

01:35:17 And another friend of mine is like, all right, so here's what I do see I

01:35:21 Divide the plate into a series of squares. I allot a certain amount of time for each square

01:35:25 Yeah, go through like a combine harvester. You're not lovingly caressing every grain you mo mo mo mo

01:35:32 Get the food in get the fuel in I

01:35:36 Mean, he says you don't go to the gas station and just teacup the gas into the car

01:35:41 Oh

01:35:42 If you could carpet bomb the gas in if you could if you could refuel with a helicopter in your car while you're still driving

01:35:47 So much better

01:35:49 Steph's wife's replicated the Lego experiment with his habitat. Yes. I think you're right. I think you're right

01:35:54 The folding of clothes - I am going to wear this t-shirt to go to yard work. Anyways, lol. Yeah, I can understand that

01:36:01 My my workout where it gets folded

01:36:04 My workout where it gets folded I I I look like a piece of cubist modern art when I exercise

01:36:15 And I think I never smelled myself before I got married

01:36:18 I'm not saying I never smell

01:36:22 But because I'm in girly world like when I've had a hard workout and I'm just stinking up the place. I'm like I

01:36:29 don't remember this from before I got married, but

01:36:32 Now well, of course, you know the fainted people all around me give me some sense of what's going on

01:36:38 but I'm like, I don't remember this but

01:36:40 it's kind of unpleasant and then because

01:36:45 The bathroom is girly world too

01:36:47 Because the bathroom is girly world and really tidy girly world, I mean my wife doesn't leave anything on the counters, right?

01:36:54 because

01:36:56 The bathroom is girly world. I feel I'm soiling the bathroom just by going to bathe

01:37:00 I have to apologize like, you know in in ancient China, they would apologize to a rock for moving it. I'm so sorry

01:37:06 I must move you because I need to plant my rice and I'm like saying to the bathtub like I'm so sorry

01:37:10 I must befoul you but I need to simmer in my own soup to get some semblance of cleanliness

01:37:16 All right

01:37:18 I'm probably over sharing it happens

01:37:20 Can't even type without it jumping on me close this window. I'm typing it. Mmm. Yeah. Yeah

01:37:25 One guy's place I could only sit with the door opened every other space in his room was occupied with mess

01:37:35 now was this a guy who was reformable because

01:37:40 I

01:37:41 Mean nothing excites of women sometimes

01:37:43 Even at a deep sexual level than a guy who can be reformed like, you know, I can I can fix her

01:37:48 You know that kind of thing with guys since like a deeply exciting thing. I think for women

01:37:52 It's like I took him from caveman to Pierce Brosnan through the sheer force of feminine will I think that kind of project is quite exciting

01:37:59 I like to be repairable

01:38:01 Slow eaters got made fun of in my high school. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah guys

01:38:08 Ever ever eat near cops or firemen they're done in seconds. Yeah. Yeah for sure in the midnight hour. She cried meow meow meow

01:38:16 Oh, that's funny

01:38:21 Sorry, let me just get your comments here

01:38:26 We need a home tour now, oh, yeah, maybe

01:38:31 Just a tip for the guys in here to get a tongue scraper

01:38:35 Yeah, I got turned on to a tongue scraper some years ago and now I'm training my gag reflex

01:38:40 But yeah a tongue scraper seems to be like a very good thing to get

01:38:43 Past that people is easy to mistake your smell for sharing philosophy. Well, no, I think they kind of know where I'm coming from here. So

01:38:50 You guys seem so emotional oh you just haven't bathed

01:38:55 It's not tears. It's like onion the onion of your manliness

01:39:04 All right

01:39:06 I had a friend in high school who inhaled his ice cream. I'm not super slow, but it was bizarre

01:39:14 Well, you can do that in high school because you don't have tender teeth, right you get past 50 and it's like hmm

01:39:20 My ice cream is going on a massive pain exploration journey

01:39:24 It's like a bunch of little atomic sadists going through trying to find any weak spots in your teeth and gums. I

01:39:32 Can't even tell you the last time I just let ice cream wander around my mouth was probably when I was 35 now

01:39:38 I'm just too frightened

01:39:39 You know like when you do it the dentist and they're scraping and it's like, oh get a little tender there

01:39:44 I'd really be happy if it stopped getting oh good. It stopped getting tender. So yeah, you don't do you don't do ice cream

01:39:49 Hey, let's just let it travel wherever because it's a sadistic little

01:39:52 treacly troll

01:39:55 Horror show from outer space because it's just gonna find that one spot. Yeah

01:40:00 Now you're crying aren't you? You let your ice cream wander didn't you? You're toast now

01:40:04 And my dad made me a peanut butter and jelly 2.0 when you close it you get nine different flavor combinations. Oh, yeah

01:40:10 Woman says I offered to clean the place room. I started in just throwing out empty soda bottles at around that point

01:40:17 He started crying because me cleaning up distressed him. Yeah, I don't get the hoarding thing. I get the laziness thing. I

01:40:23 Get the laziness thing

01:40:26 because I'm like no no, no, I am traversing the

01:40:30 vast interstellar physics based depths of space and thought and reason and

01:40:35 Organization and I have entire plots of novels in my head and I have entire philosophical structures

01:40:40 Arranged like vast chandeliers of multi-dimensional glory in my brain

01:40:44 But I tripped over the shoes I left by my bed because I forgot they were there

01:40:48 or oh

01:40:50 God forgive me. God forgive me. He probably won't God forgive me. I ever don't put something back in my wallet

01:40:55 You ever had that as a dude?

01:40:57 God help me if I don't put something back in my wallet. It just despawns. I

01:41:00 Literally have to like oh, I took this out to pay for something and I have to say no no

01:41:07 Open your wallet put it back or it's gonna despawn

01:41:11 It's gonna vanish. It's gonna vaporize

01:41:13 It's gonna go into that void between the car seats or it's gonna be in some

01:41:17 Pile of something that's gonna be washed and you don't know

01:41:21 Now, yeah, it's just it's ridiculous absolutely ridiculous

01:41:24 I literally can't separate anything from my wallet or it just goes into another dimension and then I've got to make 4,000 phone calls

01:41:30 All right, hi Steph hello Billy and of course if you're enjoying this rather goofy and enjoyable little chit-chat

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01:41:58 I'm imagining to watch a movie with my future kid now the question if suddenly there is not a child appropriate scene during the movie

01:42:04 Should I block the kids eyes with my hand?

01:42:05 I remember there was a scene in the Titanic film the one in the car which I found disturbing when I watched it as a

01:42:10 child in the cinema

01:42:12 So it's a great question

01:42:16 And even movies that you watched as a kid you may have forgotten how inappropriate they can be

01:42:21 So you can do what I do is I do a search for

01:42:27 Movie title and appropriate and was it common sense media or some places?

01:42:31 They will give you a whole breakdown of everything that happens in the movie that might be inappropriate for children

01:42:36 so

01:42:39 Yes, very much. Do do that search

01:42:42 Before you watch movies unless there's some real g-rated stuff do that search and all of that. So

01:42:48 Truckers eating is so bad. They wrap their arm around that plate like they're guarding it, right?

01:42:54 In high school cafeteria people got their hands stabbed at the fork for stealing fries Wow Wow

01:43:09 My keys have a single place as does my wallet. Oh, yeah, like

01:43:14 I've never I've never really

01:43:18 I've never really

01:43:21 Been great at remembering where things are

01:43:23 But I've just I've just got this routine right you gotta gotta have a little desk right by the house you come in

01:43:28 You just you empty your pockets. You just empty your pockets. You just empty your pockets put stuff put stuff put stuff

01:43:33 My wife

01:43:36 Love her to death. She has a minor habit of hey, where are the car keys?

01:43:39 They're in my purse

01:43:42 well, why didn't you just tell me you threw them in the sewer because

01:43:45 When you have this if you're a married guy and your wife says, oh, it's just in my purse

01:43:49 I just feel this wave of despair like wash over me. I

01:43:53 mean, yes, I I

01:43:56 Sent it to an alternate dimension

01:43:58 You have to climb through a tree with fire to get there battle for Demogorgons and it still won't be there

01:44:04 Because first of all, I have to find

01:44:06 Which purse she's talking about, you know, the the black one

01:44:10 It's like row row row black purse, right?

01:44:12 And then I even if I have to find if I even if I somehow magically find the right purse

01:44:17 Then I have to find the right place in the purse and Lord knows those purses are like bags of holding multi-dimensional

01:44:23 I swear I've seen my wife reach up to her shoulder in a purse. That's only six inches deep

01:44:27 It's just incredible like what goes on down there

01:44:29 There's like bats and caves and Mayan civilizations and I think I saw someone in a prayer position from Pompeii

01:44:36 Down in there

01:44:37 so even if you get to the right purse

01:44:39 Finding which one of these seven million pockets and flaps and this and that the other I'm just like nope. I just

01:44:45 Yeah, I just can't do it. I just I just can't do it

01:44:49 Alright just read a tarl Warwick got divorced I

01:44:58 did

01:45:00 Y'all know my weakness for gossip and it's more more than gossip, of course, right but I did read some something on Twitter

01:45:06 about him like it wasn't exactly fleeing but like massively bailing out of

01:45:12 Wasn't he in the Netherlands he married some woman the Netherlands there's a kid and he got

01:45:20 Volcanically enraged and like threatening to I don't know have people injured or if they messed with him

01:45:26 I I'm paraphrasing so forgive me if I'm got this wrong and don't put anything I'm saying as gospel, but

01:45:32 he really seemed to have something terrible happen and he seemed to almost flee or or

01:45:38 get to to America where he bought a bunch of weapons and he just

01:45:43 I just seemed to go terrible and that's awful because there's a kid involved, right? I

01:45:47 Don't know man

01:45:53 It's it's a shame too because of course if there's anything I could have done to help I mean I like

01:45:57 I like him. We've done some shows together

01:46:00 obviously, I wouldn't have made it a show but I would have just made it a private combo, but

01:46:03 Yeah, it's really really sad

01:46:06 You treat that table like the TSA and your golden

01:46:11 That's very good. That's very good

01:46:15 Yeah, my wife doesn't always appreciate the pat-down usually of course she does

01:46:20 appreciate the pat-down raise your hands, but you know, it's

01:46:23 I'm the protector and the provider and the pat-down is just essential for the security of the household and

01:46:30 you know, I do make the rules, but I claim that I don't and

01:46:35 It's just that's just the price. So the price of safety is the pat-down and sometimes the pat-down can last for quite a while

01:46:40 All right. So yeah, and you know if he ever hears this I'd be happy to

01:46:46 It's Hugh Jackman recently - yeah

01:46:50 You should do a call in I mean if he ever hears this

01:46:53 I'm happy to chat just totally privately and all of that because that's just really really terrible because now you've got a kid with

01:46:59 Parents on opposite sides of the planet give or take right?

01:47:03 Probably eight to ten hours. I went to the Netherlands once to do a show

01:47:07 To do a big speech on Bitcoin. I spoke to like 40,000 people both in person and online

01:47:12 It was really quite something but yeah, that's really really sad

01:47:15 Now he's got a kid with with this and it sounded like something quite explosive happened

01:47:20 And of course, I don't know if anyone knows what it is

01:47:21 But I don't think he's revealed it and of course he doesn't have to it

01:47:25 So you gotta have you gotta have some private life even as a public figure, but yeah, it's really really sad

01:47:30 Yeah, Hugh Jackman, yeah with these celebrities, I mean maybe I'm a little poisoned by the Belinda and Paul Gates thing

01:47:41 but when I hear these celebrities and they're just

01:47:45 Like get divorced II I assume that I don't know are they on the Epstein logs

01:47:50 I mean, I think that had something to do with what happened

01:47:52 With I think that was one of the reasons Melinda Gates left him left Bill Gates was because of his association with Epstein

01:48:00 But yeah, it's just wild

01:48:02 You know my brother when I was looking for stuff my brother but all it's like oh here it isn't

01:48:11 Ah

01:48:13 All the brothers aren't they just treasures of the universe sticks has been over sharing on social media in my opinion

01:48:24 Yeah, I don't know I don't know I

01:48:30 Don't you see I don't I don't really watch his show

01:48:33 So I don't know what kind of relationship he has with his audience

01:48:36 Does he have the kind of relationship with his audience where you talk about really personal stuff? I don't know. I

01:48:40 Don't know. I

01:48:42 Mean one day I may talk about something inappropriate and personal heck. I might even take my shirt off one day

01:48:47 The boundaries may just come

01:48:50 The walls come crumbling down

01:48:53 All right, any last comments questions any last tipsy donations II right close to Christmas don't make me big, you know, I will beg

01:49:02 I will beg I'm shameless about that kind of stuff because I serve the goddess of philosophy and if she needs resources

01:49:07 She needs resources and I will do whatever it takes

01:49:10 to try to encourage you to support us all it is a crew and a

01:49:15 Three musketeers now with the great Jared in the great James

01:49:19 I'm gonna you know, if you have the letter J in your name at the beginning

01:49:23 We will we will consider you too. But yeah, we got a lot of a lot of stuff going on

01:49:28 A lot of great stuff that's coming down the pipe. We're gonna do the truth about sadism

01:49:31 It's funny because I asked Jared to

01:49:37 find the most concise definition of sadism that

01:49:39 he could and he just

01:49:42 Sent me these various clips of me singing. I don't

01:49:44 Know what the hell that's all about but it's it's gone in his file. I'm sending it off to HR

01:49:52 Well, I think he's HR anyway, so because he keeps reporting me some but that's fair

01:50:02 inappropriate

01:50:04 Humorous inappropriate fair enough fair enough. Okay, any last comments questions issues? It was nice to have a go. Yeah

01:50:11 What do you think of James Allen's book as a man thinketh?

01:50:15 You know, it's funny this is just kind of like an empathy thing

01:50:20 Generally ask people if they've read something before you ask what they think of it just generally as a whole I mean people

01:50:30 Will what do you think of this acronym? And what do you think of this that and the other and?

01:50:34 Wait, did he say he's doing sadism? No, I'm doing the truth about sadism

01:50:39 Doing sadism is just the Sun quiz. Merry Christmas Jeff. Thank you very much

01:50:44 Here's a few bucks to buy some bowls and repair the black hole in your wife's purse. It's did you just AI that?

01:50:50 Wow, very nice

01:50:52 You hear that James? I'm HR. No

01:50:54 That's right. Why is Jared approaching me with mistletoe?

01:51:00 Mm-hmm. And why hasn't he done it before?

01:51:02 Good morning pigeon. Yeah, I just woke up that day and somebody was just cooing in my ear. It was beautiful

01:51:12 It's like that time when I was living in a

01:51:16 House with a cat I fell asleep on the couch and it was a kitten and the kitten

01:51:21 I think had been weaned too early and I fell asleep and I had the wildest dream because the cat was sucking on my ear

01:51:26 Look, I guess it just finds anything vaguely nipply and the cat was just suckling on my I will never I would go to my grave

01:51:32 with that dream

01:51:34 But it's a good thing. The cat didn't have HR access access to HR back in the day

01:51:38 Don't mess with HR

01:51:45 I love that meme, you know when you the guy looking kind of nervous and it's like when you tell it when you tell a

01:51:51 Joke at work. That's so funny that HR wants to hear it, too

01:51:54 Oh

01:51:56 Boy it was nice when you didn't have HR wasn't it? Oh

01:51:59 Sorry, um Steph you once said you disagreed with the idea of love languages

01:52:04 Can you expand a little on why since this may or may not be in contradiction with respecting differences between sexes in order to resolve?

01:52:10 conflicts in definitions

01:52:12 So I would have to didn't I didn't I do a whole

01:52:20 Sorry, Jared and James if you remember this or not, didn't I do a whole Q&A on

01:52:23 Love languages, but it was either in a live stream or it might have been somebody who asked

01:52:28 This I think I did a whole I don't want to repeat it the truth about sadism has been brutal a research

01:52:33 Yeah, I don't imagine I imagine it would be I would imagine it would be

01:52:37 You'd be absolutely shocked at the number of famous people who have absolutely evil impulses

01:52:46 It's one of the black pills. I mean, I remember many years ago

01:52:50 I was reading about how the the the guys who ran the weather underground like

01:52:54 very violent

01:52:57 revolutionary group they

01:52:59 They you know half of them ended up

01:53:01 as as university professors and I was just like

01:53:05 the hell

01:53:08 the hell

01:53:10 Yes love languages

01:53:12 I've kept I won't do that now because I think I've done it before if I haven't done it before I will do it

01:53:16 again, but if I have done it before

01:53:18 Jared I'm sure we'll be very kind enough to post it on the free domain dot locals calm forum. So hopefully that will

01:53:25 Will help. All right. Well, listen guys. Thank you so much for a

01:53:30 wonderful chat

01:53:33 Today, I don't think we're gonna do a show Sunday because then Sunday Funday

01:53:38 Funday bloody Funday

01:53:42 Thursday bloody Thursday. Well, it usually was in the ancient world kind of

01:53:47 Bloody Thursday. I really should know this. Come on. Give me the calendar

01:53:53 No Monday

01:53:56 Sunday, let me think about it. I'll check with the old fam

01:53:58 I'm a bit of a kiss my mother's German and a grub German New Year's Eve is the thing in Germany

01:54:04 New Year's Eve Christmas Eve. Hello. Try and stay with me

01:54:08 For me, so I may do a show Sunday morning. I will check about all of this

01:54:14 Do you remember talking to people about nonviolent communication? I certainly do I

01:54:17 certainly do remember that there was a lot of

01:54:22 There was a lot of back-and-forth about nonviolent

01:54:27 Communication this is probably 10 to 12 or maybe even 13 years ago. There was a lot back in the old forum

01:54:34 I did shows about it and there was a lot of

01:54:37 back and forth about

01:54:39 Nonviolent communication Oh

01:54:44 Carlin the truth about Carlin actually my old producer Mike wanted to do the truth about Carlin

01:54:49 I just never never quite got got around to it

01:54:51 Sunday is Christmas Eve Tuesday is boxing day busy busy. Yes

01:54:58 Well, I'm afraid that I Jared and I may only be available for half of Sunday

01:55:06 Every now and then do you ever have this thing like it's a weird thing where

01:55:09 You get this vague idea that the people around you have lives that don't a hundred and fifty percent revolve around you

01:55:18 Do you ever get that?

01:55:19 It's like a weird thing like you catch something out of the corner of your eye or it's like a dream that you half-remember

01:55:23 And every now and then and I obviously consider this massively rude

01:55:27 But I do get this vague sense that people have lives that don't revolve massively around me. I

01:55:33 Mean I know it's a temp. It's just it's paranoid. It sounds completely crazy. It sounds completely crazy, but

01:55:39 Yeah, I

01:55:43 Just have to cure myself of it by making demands at all hours of the day and being a rage when people don't

01:55:47 You know, honestly, I have this thing because well, I'm at the computer

01:55:51 I'm sending messages. The other person must be at the computer just waiting for my message

01:55:54 Of course, right? So I mean, it's obviously just kind of silly but I thought they were AI doing your bidding

01:56:01 I can't even get AI to do my bidding. What's your favorite Shakespeare play? Oh

01:56:05 That's a good question. I

01:56:09 Never played Hamlet, but I do like parts of Hamlet but Hamlet is the most overwritten and could be trimmed like heaven forbid

01:56:16 but I think I

01:56:19 Don't know man

01:56:21 Parts of Hamlet absolutely my favorite, but if I had to choose one overall it would be Macbeth

01:56:24 Can you repeat that? I wasn't listening. Oh, oh

01:56:29 See now that's totally fine. James didn't listen to that

01:56:33 Obviously because he was listening to another podcast trying to find nonviolent communication or love languages

01:56:39 so

01:56:42 Anything else post a aka the black hole of Calcutta. Yeah, no kidding

01:56:49 As a man thinketh was a self-help book from 1903 a lot of what you say. You're literally asking me. I'm sorry

01:56:59 This is part of the main character syndrome. Well, I've read this book. So I'm just gonna ask Jeff what he thinks of this book a

01:57:04 Self-help book from 1903. Yes, you know when with regards to self-help books

01:57:09 I've only gotten up to 1901. I'm not even on 1902

01:57:14 I've read all the self-help books prior to 1902, but I just obviously haven't quite got to 1903. Yeah, I'm sorry

01:57:20 This is kind of funny

01:57:22 You know

01:57:23 I kind of talked about man's fear of women this book and I don't assume anyone's written it read it because it's kind of obscure

01:57:29 just I

01:57:31 Have never read any Shakespeare Shakespeare's assigned to be listened to not so much read

01:57:35 But I will say I mean it's kind of a cliche but Hank sank Henry the fifth with Kenneth Branagh was fantastic. But

01:57:42 For me nothing beats Mel Gibson in in Hamlet that that whole thing the whole of the actors there were just magnificent excellent cope

01:57:49 Oh, so obviously that's something

01:57:52 Some in some other podcasts I say excellent cope and and James is just transcribing that for me. Yeah, it makes sense

01:57:59 Makes sense. All right. Well, listen, I hate to banish you all to non-existence

01:58:02 But I'm I'm stopping the stream now and therefore you all will cease to exist

01:58:05 You can look forward to your resurrection on the next stream, which hopefully will be Sunday, but we shall see

01:58:10 We shall see so I love you guys so much. Thank you for this great honor and opportunity I will

01:58:19 Listen to that show from earlier like listen to that show from earlier

01:58:25 It's really something and I'm not exactly sure what to do with it. But I really appreciate you all being here and

01:58:30 And doing this tonight so that I massively appreciate and I

01:58:36 Wish you if I don't talk to you before Christmas. I hope you guys have a wonderful

01:58:40 Christmas next week is gonna be pretty busy socially for me. Oh such a butterfly

01:58:45 But we got going into the me freezer now. That's right cryogenic freezing. Who's your favorite character from the present?

01:58:53 Oof my favorite character in the present

01:58:56 so the most vivid ones for me are aunt Rachel and I

01:58:59 Really really like Arlo. I really like Arlo

01:59:04 He has this toughness is sensitivity and this vulnerability that I find really fascinating and he's really really well-rounded as character for me

01:59:11 I was actually gonna do a whole sequel with Arlo that he gets absorbed into the security apparatus of the new totalitarian state

01:59:18 So maybe that will happen at some point

01:59:20 But I really like Arlo and I wish I could have found a way to have his story play out in a more vivid way

01:59:26 I just so you know, but I hope that you guys will check out this novel free domain comm slash books

01:59:31 You gotta listen to the present. I'm listening to it again. I'm like, it's been enough time past now

01:59:35 I think I published it like eight or nine months ago the final version and it's been enough time now that I can hear it

01:59:40 Aunt crystal. Yes. Sorry. I'm crystal. I think it is

01:59:46 It's enough time has passed that I can listen to it with new ears and it didn't quite like it as much as some

01:59:51 Of my earlier novels when I had finished it, but now I'm listening to it again. I'm like damn

01:59:55 That's some great detail and some great description and there's not a wasted sentence in that book. So not a wasted sentence. So

02:00:01 Could call it tomorrow

02:00:03 Yeah, maybe maybe yeah free domain calm slash free domain under bar books

02:00:08 I think free domain comm slash books takes us there as well. It's great. Well, thank you. I appreciate that

02:00:12 All right. Take care everyone. Have yourself a glorious and gorgeous

02:00:16 evening and Saturday and

02:00:19 Stay posted at free to man locals comm about what's happening Sunday

02:00:23 If not, we may be able to do it Tuesday morning or something like that, but we'll we'll keep you posted. Take care everyone. Bye

02:00:30 Bye.

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