Why I Came Back For You...

Stefan Molyneux

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00:00:00 Now this is a real spontaneous live stream, it's noon on...

00:00:04 some... some damn day... 8th... 8th of September.

00:00:08 Oh, how many days till my birthday?

00:00:11 How many days until I turn 57 years old?

00:00:15 How many days till my birthday?

00:00:18 There's your question.

00:00:20 And if you don't know, you can't call yourself a Stefan!

00:00:23 Alright. So, yes.

00:00:25 We're gonna do a little ranty rant here.

00:00:28 23 minus 8. Oh, so close!

00:00:32 So close!

00:00:34 Ah, no. It's not that.

00:00:36 I can't believe you're missing!

00:00:38 Ah, my... my... the joke in my family is I don't have a birthday.

00:00:41 I have a birthday month, wherein everyone has to obey me.

00:00:44 It really doesn't go very far, but, you know, the sentiment is nice.

00:00:48 Alright. Let's, um...

00:00:52 Ah, do you want an intro?

00:00:54 Or do you want... it's the 24th. September 24th.

00:00:58 6pm. I was born on a Saturday night.

00:01:01 Full of grace, bile and truth.

00:01:04 Grace, bile and truth. That's the name of my punk band.

00:01:07 Alright. Should we go straight to rant?

00:01:10 Or do you want an intro, a little foreplay?

00:01:13 Or should we just raw dog it straight from the front?

00:01:15 Or from the back, or from the side, or whatever.

00:01:17 So, intro, foreplay? You want some intro?

00:01:20 Alright, we can answer some questions before going into the rant.

00:01:23 Preamble? Haradaladaladal.

00:01:26 Alright, so here we go.

00:01:27 Red flag. Somebody, red flag to quickly tell when your counterpart is not willing

00:01:30 or able to actually engage in a substantive argument.

00:01:33 They will contend with you until the cows come home,

00:01:35 but there will be no actual argument, just emotional crap from counterparts.

00:01:38 Ah, yeah. So, the first time that they deny a fact, I'm done.

00:01:46 And the other one, of course, is per capita.

00:01:48 If they deny per capita... I mean, the real IQ test is

00:01:51 do they bring up an exception to a general rule

00:01:54 and think that they're contributing anything other than

00:01:57 wool to your sandwich, so to speak.

00:01:59 Do they... oh, Asians are generally shorter...

00:02:03 I know what you're talking about.

00:02:04 Then that's just like they can't process concretes,

00:02:07 they can't process abstractions.

00:02:10 It may not be an IQ thing, they might just be really good at concretes,

00:02:14 but not abstractions.

00:02:16 But, yeah, that would be my particular warning.

00:02:20 So, let's see here.

00:02:23 Here's a study.

00:02:26 People increasingly view those with opposing political beliefs

00:02:28 as less moral than those with shared political beliefs.

00:02:31 Across two experiments, a US undergraduate sample

00:02:34 of a thousand people and a US resident online sample,

00:02:38 ultimatum game to investigate whether acts of fairness or even kindness

00:02:41 by persons without party political beliefs would mitigate

00:02:44 moral derogation towards them.

00:02:46 If you're nice, do people judge you better

00:02:48 if you're opposing them politically or morally?

00:02:51 Neither acts of fairness nor kindness impacted the differential

00:02:54 moral derogation... means negative views or insults

00:02:58 between out-party and in-party members.

00:03:00 Participants in both experiments morally derogated individuals

00:03:02 with opposing political beliefs irrespective of their actions.

00:03:05 That's why I don't apologize...

00:03:07 Moreover, extreme partisans engaged in even greater moral derogation

00:03:11 of out-party individuals.

00:03:13 However, even if self-identified moderate partisans...

00:03:16 Sorry, however, even self-identified moderate partisans

00:03:19 morally derogated out-partisans.

00:03:22 When our political opponents are judged to be immoral

00:03:24 by virtue of their political identity rather than their actual behavior,

00:03:27 obstacles to political cooperation and political compromise

00:03:29 may be difficult to overcome.

00:03:31 Well, no shit, Sherlock.

00:03:33 But the idea that political identities are different from actual behaviors,

00:03:37 that's... I mean, you're advocating for legal enforcement of your beliefs.

00:03:41 So the idea that this wouldn't have something to do with that

00:03:44 is really something.

00:03:46 All right, so... And there was another study.

00:03:49 How acceptable is it to shout down a speaker

00:03:52 to prevent them from speaking on campus?

00:03:54 The most tolerant and open-minded and free-speech group were Christians.

00:03:59 Does anybody know, if you didn't see this already,

00:04:02 does anybody know what was the most intolerant,

00:04:05 aggressive and violent group against free speech?

00:04:10 That's right.

00:04:12 Atheists.

00:04:14 Atheists.

00:04:16 Yeah, atheists are the least tolerant and most aggressive.

00:04:19 So only 25% of Christians thought it was acceptable to shout down a speaker

00:04:23 to prevent them from speaking on campus,

00:04:26 but 44% of atheists believed that.

00:04:31 That it was always or sometimes.

00:04:34 So, almost twice.

00:04:36 Almost twice. Isn't that wild?

00:04:39 There was another study that I found really, really fascinating,

00:04:44 which we'll get to in a second.

00:04:46 So, Satanist wasn't on that list.

00:04:49 Did you see my tip and quick question?

00:04:53 Is this the person who sent me $4?

00:04:56 Is this the person who sent me $4?

00:04:59 I saw a video from 2022, you had a hardcover copy of Almost.

00:05:02 Is it possible to get hard copies of any of your novels these days?

00:05:05 No, not really.

00:05:07 There's technical and tax reasons for that kind of stuff,

00:05:09 but now we're working on it.

00:05:11 So now there's no hard copies.

00:05:13 At the moment you can get a hard copy of my regular books though,

00:05:17 through Amazon.

00:05:20 Let me see, I've got to scroll down a little bit.

00:05:24 Ah yes, here we go.

00:05:29 In this experiment, people were asked to sit quietly for 15 minutes

00:05:34 in a room with nothing but their own thoughts.

00:05:38 They also had the option to hit a button and give themselves an electric shock.

00:05:45 Getting physically shocked is unpleasant,

00:05:47 but many people preferred it to the emotional discomfort of boredom.

00:05:53 Out of 42 participants, nearly half opted to press the button at least once,

00:05:57 even though they had experienced the shock earlier in the study

00:06:00 and reported they would pay money to avoid experiencing it again.

00:06:04 One male outlier opted to shock himself 190 times.

00:06:12 67% of men voluntarily chose to experience shocks during the thinking period,

00:06:17 compared to 25% of women.

00:06:22 Oh boy, oh boy.

00:06:24 So you think philosophy is a challenge?

00:06:26 People would rather electrocute themselves than sit with their own thoughts.

00:06:29 Don't worry, I'm sure that philosophy is just about to round the corner and win.

00:06:36 15 minutes with your own thoughts.

00:06:38 No, I would prefer electrocuting myself to being alone with my own thoughts,

00:06:44 and this is particularly true for men.

00:06:46 Women are more comfortable with their own thoughts,

00:06:48 or maybe not as disturbed by their own thoughts,

00:06:52 or maybe they don't find their own thoughts particularly intrusive or present.

00:06:56 No, that's unfair.

00:06:57 But yes, I thought that was quite interesting, quite challenging.

00:07:04 So yes, was napping an option in the study?

00:07:09 You could do whatever you want.

00:07:11 There was nothing to do, and just people were like,

00:07:13 "Hey, cool, I'll electrocute myself rather than be alone with myself."

00:07:20 Krasimon.

00:07:22 In a free and stateless society, would businesses be able to merge

00:07:27 and grow into massive corporate behemoths we have today?

00:07:30 How would the free market prevent a black rock from happening?

00:07:36 Right.

00:07:39 You see, a free market is free, right?

00:07:48 So if people like a company, they can buy from it.

00:07:51 If they don't like a company, they won't buy from it.

00:07:54 You see, you're so used to the government enforcing its will upon you

00:07:57 that you don't understand what an organic society looks like,

00:08:00 and I get that.

00:08:01 I mean, I have a tough time picturing it myself.

00:08:04 But you're used to the accumulation of power through centralized,

00:08:07 coercive oligarchies to the point where you just,

00:08:10 well, power's just going to accumulate like planets gather together

00:08:13 from rings of dust through gravity.

00:08:16 It's like, no, it doesn't just happen.

00:08:19 Like, okay, think of all the companies you didn't buy from today.

00:08:23 Maybe you bought from 10 companies.

00:08:25 Maybe you count if you're a landlord or whatever.

00:08:28 Just think of--there are literally millions and millions and millions

00:08:34 of companies you didn't buy from.

00:08:38 So to combat political power, people have to go crazy these days, right?

00:08:45 To combat increasing or growing political power means risking being ostracized,

00:08:49 deplatformed, debanked, arrested.

00:08:52 So you don't understand how powerful it is to do nothing in a free society.

00:08:57 You actually have to go out and voluntarily give people money.

00:09:00 So if some company's doing what people don't like,

00:09:03 they'll just stop buying from it.

00:09:08 How is a company going to force you to buy from them in a free society?

00:09:11 I mean, it's a genuine question.

00:09:12 How on earth is a company going to force you to buy from them?

00:09:17 Ah, quoting Rush Lyrics, that's some deep philosophy.

00:09:21 So yeah, how are they going to force you?

00:09:24 Does Bud Light versus Anheuser-Busch--

00:09:31 do they have an army to force people to buy?

00:09:33 Can they tax people? No.

00:09:35 People don't want to buy Bud Light.

00:09:37 They don't buy Bud Light.

00:09:38 They can't--trapping you with free samples of delicious products like drug dealers.

00:09:45 No, they can't.

00:09:46 I mean, look, okay, let me ask you this, right?

00:09:48 You've been in the grocery store, and for me, if I'm a little peckish, what do I do?

00:09:54 I look around for people giving out free samples, right?

00:09:56 Because you don't buy groceries when you're hungry,

00:09:58 because you just made bad choices, at least I do.

00:10:01 And how many times after you try those free samples do you buy the product?

00:10:09 So your truth about the Wild West really helped me envision what a free society could look like.

00:10:14 Oh, thank you.

00:10:16 I appreciate that.

00:10:19 Retirement accounts.

00:10:22 Why do you need a retirement account?

00:10:29 Like, why do retirement accounts exist?

00:10:32 Why do you need a retirement account?

00:10:38 Why do you need a retirement account?

00:10:41 Why do you have a retirement account?

00:10:45 Why is there so much saved up in retirement accounts

00:10:49 that the managers of those retirement accounts can affect large corporations?

00:10:58 To grow money, you might not be able to work forever.

00:11:00 Well, no, you won't be able to work forever, for sure.

00:11:02 No kids to take care of you when you're old.

00:11:04 Well, no, you have a retirement account because your money is taxed.

00:11:10 If you don't, right? I mean, the 401(k)s in America, there's RSPs in Canada,

00:11:14 lots of places have, that if you put your money into a retirement account,

00:11:18 that money is not taxed.

00:11:20 It's taxed when you take it out, when your income will be much lower.

00:11:23 So your money is held hostage, right?

00:11:27 Yeah, your money is held hostage.

00:11:29 So you are accumulating.

00:11:31 And why do you need a retirement account?

00:11:35 Because Social Security retirement plans probably won't be there, right?

00:11:39 I mean, the unfunded liabilities are north of $170, $180 trillion,

00:11:45 like more than 10 times, about 10 times the economy,

00:11:47 so that's not going to be there.

00:11:50 And you have to plan for your retirement

00:11:53 because you have to plan for your money to be worth 90% less

00:11:58 by the time you retire, right?

00:12:03 So, I mean, it's all defensive measures against dilution and coercion,

00:12:08 which are two sides of the same coin.

00:12:10 What's wrong with printed money?

00:12:12 Oh, there's nothing wrong with it.

00:12:13 Just, you know, you can go to a store and try and buy stuff with monopoly money

00:12:15 and see what happens, right?

00:12:18 All right, your wife has stopped taking care of yourself?

00:12:23 Yes.

00:12:25 So let me just see here.

00:12:29 I sent an email a few days ago about a call-in entitled

00:12:32 "Wife has stopped taking care of herself.

00:12:34 Betrayal, trauma, stillbirth, divorce.

00:12:37 My wife and I were hoping to talk to you.

00:12:39 Did that email get lost?"

00:12:41 Let me see here.

00:12:43 Usually things aren't going into spam.

00:12:50 Let's see here.

00:12:55 "Did the email start 'My wife is slowly giving up,

00:12:57 taking care of herself and trying to be beautiful for me?'

00:13:00 Is that the one?"

00:13:02 Just hit me with a "Y" if that's the case.

00:13:05 That's the one?

00:13:07 And do you have kids?

00:13:13 I just want to check.

00:13:14 Do you have kids?

00:13:17 No kids yet.

00:13:18 And did she have a stillbirth?

00:13:20 I don't remember that.

00:13:21 I apologize for that.

00:13:28 I'm sorry, I'm just looking at this.

00:13:38 My apologies.

00:13:40 It would be nice if it actually showed me where something was.

00:13:48 Yeah, I'm sorry about that.

00:13:49 That's very tough.

00:13:51 That's very tough.

00:13:55 "What happened in your life earlier that you're only starting to try

00:14:00 and have kids when you're pushing 40?

00:14:05 Or did you try before?"

00:14:10 "So you've been married for nearly five years.

00:14:13 So you were married when you were 33.

00:14:15 I assume you dated for a while before that."

00:14:19 Where did my camera go?

00:14:21 So I guess my basic curiosity is why did you wait from 33 to 38,

00:14:31 if that was the case, to start having kids?

00:14:41 I just had to wait for that answer.

00:14:45 Oh, you were trying for a while?

00:14:48 I'm sorry to hear that.

00:14:51 How long were you trying for?

00:14:53 You had some fertility issues?

00:14:55 Yeah, that can happen in your 30s for sure.

00:15:03 Oh, you've been trying for three years?

00:15:06 Okay, yeah, just give me a shout.

00:15:08 We'll talk about it.

00:15:09 Just email me your Skype ID.

00:15:11 "What's your opinion on men's increased suicide rate in the West?

00:15:14 Why are men falling behind women?

00:15:16 And can this be fixed?

00:15:17 You lost twins last year."

00:15:19 Oh, I'm so sorry.

00:15:21 I'm so sorry.

00:15:22 I've been having a number of couples' conversations about infertility these days,

00:15:27 and of course it is a rising issue.

00:15:29 I'm very sorry for that.

00:15:30 That's very, very tough.

00:15:35 "Men's increased suicide rate in the West?"

00:15:45 Well, do you think that men or women are better at seeing over the horizon

00:15:52 towards coming trends?

00:15:56 Do you think that men or women are better--and it could be slightly--

00:16:00 better at seeing over the horizon to coming trends?

00:16:08 Yeah, I mean, this is part of my novel, "The Future,"

00:16:13 which is--sorry, "The Present," my novel, "The Present,"

00:16:16 which is that, yeah, there's a man, particularly the Christian men.

00:16:19 Yeah, men are more adapted for looking out on long-term, broad issues.

00:16:22 Of course, yeah, yeah.

00:16:25 I mean, women do it in terms of child safety,

00:16:27 and men do it in terms of resources.

00:16:29 So what percentage is our current trajectory as a society?

00:16:35 What percentage is it sustainable?

00:16:38 Like 100%, it's perfectly sustainable; 0%, not at all sustainable.

00:16:42 What percentage sustainable is our current social trajectory?

00:17:00 Very low, maybe 10%. 0%, 1% past 100 years.

00:17:05 Women have issues of neurosis if you bring up too many serious future projections

00:17:08 and need security, safety, or something.

00:17:11 Yeah, mathematically it can't continue, right?

00:17:13 No, no, I mean, look, mathematically, whatever--

00:17:16 I hope, obviously, what displaces the current predatory system

00:17:19 is something peaceful and reasonable and voluntary and all kinds of good stuff.

00:17:23 But yeah, the current system is not sustainable in most places in the West.

00:17:31 In some places, maybe a little bit for another generation or two,

00:17:34 but current trends continue.

00:17:36 It's not sustainable in its current form, for sure.

00:17:40 I mean, that's math, right?

00:17:42 Now, how long, blah, blah, blah, right?

00:17:44 So we'll sort of see about that, but it will be a surprise.

00:17:49 It's going to come as a surprise to vast numbers of people

00:17:52 when bills can't be paid, right?

00:17:54 And this happens, right?

00:17:56 So I think men--

00:17:59 so what do men do when they perceive themselves to be on an unsustainable path?

00:18:06 What do men do, right?

00:18:07 So let's say that you're a man, you're gathering together your resources

00:18:10 for the winter, and you have a pretty strong sense

00:18:14 that you don't have enough resources for your family to make it through the winter.

00:18:18 What do you do?

00:18:21 Hedge, buy chickens, survivor mode?

00:18:24 Yeah, you find solutions with your usual set of--

00:18:28 yeah, you will try and find some way to solve the problem, right?

00:18:32 That's what we as men do, right?

00:18:35 Now, men, why do men get depressed?

00:18:39 When men clearly see coming dangers,

00:18:43 and they're prevented from acting to mitigate them, right?

00:18:47 So when men--like, why do we see coming dangers?

00:18:50 So we can act.

00:18:52 But if we're prevented from acting on dangers, then we become depressed.

00:18:59 And it's a way of--it sort of feminizes men, right?

00:19:04 I think it's one of the reasons why sperm counts drop again, so on, right?

00:19:10 So, I mean, you know, everybody knows that the currency is--

00:19:14 like, the money printing and all of that is nuts.

00:19:17 And what incredible insight, Steph.

00:19:20 Well, I'm glad this is helpful.

00:19:22 So, I mean, let's take that example, right?

00:19:25 Everybody knows that monetary policy is crazy, right?

00:19:30 And what can we do about it?

00:19:33 What can we do about it?

00:19:36 I mean, monetary policy, not necessarily ourself, right?

00:19:39 Like, there's a predator called inflation and money printing

00:19:42 and debt and unfunded liabilities.

00:19:44 There's a predator loose in society.

00:19:46 Now, as men, what do we want to do?

00:19:48 When there's a wolf in the camp, what do we do?

00:19:50 We drive the wolf out, right?

00:19:52 We deal with the wolf. That's what we do.

00:19:54 We leap into action, we deal with the wolf, and then we--it's exciting.

00:19:59 I remember many--oh, gosh, when I was a teenager,

00:20:03 I called a friend of mine's place,

00:20:05 and a strange voice answered gruffly,

00:20:09 and then that person hung up, whoever it was.

00:20:13 I didn't recognize the person, and he was a single-mom household,

00:20:16 so there shouldn't have been a man there.

00:20:18 And then I called back, and nobody answered.

00:20:20 So my friends and I were, like, not obviously super certain,

00:20:25 but our spider sense was tingling,

00:20:27 and we were concerned that there was an intruder in his house, right?

00:20:33 Because there shouldn't be a man there,

00:20:35 and then if you call, somebody gruffly answers and then hangs up

00:20:38 and then doesn't answer when you call back right away.

00:20:41 We were concerned that there was an intruder at his house,

00:20:44 and so we literally jumped on our bikes, and legs burning, cranking,

00:20:47 we raced over as quickly as possible at the ripe old age of, I don't know,

00:20:51 14 or so, to deal with this intruder, because that's what men do.

00:20:56 They leap into action.

00:20:57 I remember as a kid playing soccer and saying--

00:20:59 it was kind of cringy looking back at it, you know,

00:21:01 and muttering to myself, "Forward for St. George!"

00:21:06 You know, like, it's a battle, and I'm practicing,

00:21:09 and all that kind of stuff, right?

00:21:10 I was very much into war games when I was a kid,

00:21:12 and I write about this in my novel almost.

00:21:17 So, what can we do?

00:21:22 What can we do?

00:21:26 As men--I mean, women, right?

00:21:28 Now, because when society is facing unsustainability,

00:21:34 men's genetics are very different from women's genetics

00:21:37 in terms of what happens when there's social chaos and centralized authority.

00:21:42 What happens to men, right?

00:21:44 What happens to men if there's general danger and centralized authority?

00:21:56 We get drafted, and we die.

00:21:58 That's sort of the way--

00:22:00 when the tribal leaders are threatened, we get drafted, and we die.

00:22:04 And if we resist the draft, we still die,

00:22:07 because a lot of women are conditioned throughout--

00:22:10 were conditioned in history to not mate with men they perceived to be cowards,

00:22:13 and courage was defined as serving the rulers and dying, right?

00:22:18 So we've talked about this before,

00:22:20 that one of the things that got probably millions of men killed

00:22:24 was a white feather, right?

00:22:25 So if there was a young man of military age wandering around London,

00:22:28 say, in 1915 during the First World War,

00:22:31 a woman would hand him a white feather, which was a symbol of cowardice,

00:22:35 and women would not mate with a man who had not gone to war.

00:22:40 There was even a song, "I Love a Man in Uniform,"

00:22:43 and women's attraction to military men, of course, is well-known and all that.

00:22:50 So if you go to war, let's say that there's a 75% chance

00:22:54 that you won't breed if you don't go to war,

00:22:56 but if you go to war, there's only a 50% chance you'll die.

00:23:00 Then your genetics are 25% better off going to war than staying home.

00:23:05 We follow this, right? That make sense?

00:23:09 Based upon women's refusal to mate with who the leaders refer to as a coward, right?

00:23:17 Right, so--

00:23:19 And you can see this happening at the moment.

00:23:21 So there are lots of men on strike, right?

00:23:24 Lots of men on strike at the moment.

00:23:26 Lots of men on strike.

00:23:30 Who's on strike, to one degree or another?

00:23:33 Could be soft quitting, just not putting much in at work.

00:23:37 It could be working the bare minimum.

00:23:41 It could be deferring starting your life.

00:23:44 Who's on strike?

00:23:47 Deferred life until last year, yeah?

00:24:03 Because a man who doesn't serve the rulers is castigated often by the women.

00:24:08 I was up until three years ago.

00:24:12 Now looking to start my own company. Good for you.

00:24:16 And after all the young healthy men of military age are dead,

00:24:21 you get the tragedy in Ukraine.

00:24:23 As of October 1st, after drafting the mentally ill, physically ill, old and young,

00:24:26 they will now draft women.

00:24:28 Right.

00:24:31 Right.

00:24:33 Now in general, what happens to women when the foreign tribe takes over?

00:24:38 I mean, we all know this, right?

00:24:48 What happens to women when the foreign tribe takes over?

00:24:54 Oh, they usually get raped, right?

00:24:59 Ugly and vicious and evil that that is.

00:25:02 Their genes fare better than the men.

00:25:05 The men get killed, the women get raped.

00:25:07 And both are murderous and horrible and terrible,

00:25:10 but as far as genetics go, right, the women do better.

00:25:14 After my divorce, I'm on soft strike.

00:25:17 The more you have, the bigger the target on your back.

00:25:20 So, I'm not sure if this is considered being on strike,

00:25:27 but a lot of my male friends want to leave it behind

00:25:29 and start a new life alone in the woods,

00:25:31 some sort of escapism and not dealing with reality.

00:25:33 Now, see, you're shaming and attacking men who are on strike.

00:25:39 Right?

00:25:43 Escapism and not dealing with reality.

00:25:45 How do you know?

00:25:47 Start a new life alone in the woods.

00:25:50 Well, they may not want a new life totally alone.

00:25:53 I mean, if there's a woman who's going to join them in the woods,

00:25:55 I'm sure that they would listen to that possibility, right?

00:25:58 See, the moment that men don't want to work,

00:26:01 what does society do?

00:26:04 They're losers, they're quitters, they're incels,

00:26:11 they're ragers, they're pathetic, they're not real men,

00:26:15 they're, like, you just shame men.

00:26:18 It's the cattle prod of testicular attack.

00:26:23 [silence]

00:26:25 So, yeah, it's not at all ideal.

00:26:34 Hi, Steph, I'm a dentist in private practice.

00:26:41 And my teeth.

00:26:43 Honestly, it has been tough to keep my head above water.

00:26:45 It seems to me that a lot of other dentists use sales and pressure tactics

00:26:48 to generate production and are very aggressive with treatment.

00:26:51 Perhaps that makes them more profitable.

00:26:53 I want to do the right thing for my patients, but it's difficult.

00:26:55 Any suggestions?

00:26:57 Yeah, that's interesting.

00:27:00 There was an old practice in China, of obviously pre-communism,

00:27:03 where you paid your doctor every month until you got sick,

00:27:06 and then your doctor had to treat you for free.

00:27:08 So your doctor, of course, had a great incentive to...

00:27:12 to keep you healthy.

00:27:17 Now, I mean, I don't know what the laws are, the regulations.

00:27:19 I mean, sensible ideas are often blocked by regulations.

00:27:21 But what I would say is that in an ideal society,

00:27:26 you would be better paid if your patients had fewer dental issues.

00:27:31 You'd be better paid if your patients had fewer dental issues.

00:27:38 In other words, you would be paid by the insurance company good money

00:27:42 as long as your patients stayed healthy.

00:27:44 So I don't know what you can work out or what you can offer

00:27:46 or anything like that, but that would be...

00:27:49 Yeah, because, I mean, socialized medicine as a whole

00:27:53 or government-regulated medicine as a whole,

00:27:56 it all comes about because generally people haven't taken care of their health.

00:27:59 70 to 90% of health issues are the direct result of choices that people make,

00:28:04 overeating, not exercising, and so on.

00:28:06 So 70 to 90%, I've sort of heard it both ways, and stuff in between.

00:28:10 70 to 90%.

00:28:13 So people don't take care of their health, they panic, they run to the government

00:28:16 because they can't afford their medical bills.

00:28:18 And so the government steps in and says,

00:28:21 "I will pay for these people who didn't take care of their health

00:28:25 "and didn't save enough money to pay for their medical bills

00:28:28 "and didn't have insurance or whatever, or their insurance lapsed

00:28:31 "because it got too expensive because they weren't taking care of their health.

00:28:33 "So I will rush in and save these people who haven't taken care of their health."

00:28:36 And then all you do is subsidize people not taking care of their health.

00:28:39 You just pay people, you literally are paying people to let themselves get sick.

00:28:43 So, yeah, it's very bad.

00:28:46 "I pay my dentist $600 a year on autopilot for two cleanings per year and one x-ray."

00:28:55 So if you can find a way to monetize your patient's health,

00:29:02 that would be very, very interesting, right?

00:29:07 If I were a dentist, I would say, "Hey, you come in for your two cleanings

00:29:10 "and you come in for x-rays, then I will...

00:29:16 "And you floss, right? You floss, you sign a pledge or whatever.

00:29:21 "Then if I have to pull a tooth, it's free."

00:29:24 You could offer, like, if you follow, right?

00:29:28 If you do the right thing, then any emergencies are free.

00:29:35 Now, I mean, I had an ankylose tooth,

00:29:37 a tooth that was kind of welded to the bone and that was a big mess.

00:29:40 And that was just... it should have been dealt with when I was a kid,

00:29:43 but I was in the British system, which is dental care is socialized,

00:29:47 so obviously it wasn't taken care of, so I had to deal with that as an adult,

00:29:50 which was... this is why this side of my mouth droops a little,

00:29:53 because I had to drill up here and it cuts some of the nerves.

00:29:56 So, all right.

00:30:00 Sorry, let me just get to your comments.

00:30:03 Any value in what I'm saying, if you could tip,

00:30:06 I would be massively and deeply and hugely appreciative

00:30:09 if this sort of helps out.

00:30:11 Here's a quick question, just while you're thinking of tipping this show.

00:30:14 "Am I Steph, am I on strike?"

00:30:17 "Am I Steph on strike?"

00:30:20 No, not on strike. No.

00:30:30 No.

00:30:32 You think not?

00:30:40 In a sense, could make more...

00:30:44 I don't know what that means. Taxable income.

00:30:47 If my eyes do not deceive me, then no.

00:30:50 Thank you for streaming. I appreciate that.

00:30:52 Thank you, Sam, for the tip. I appreciate that.

00:30:55 I missed the previous discussion, so I could be missing something.

00:30:58 Everyone comes in late and asks me to revisit.

00:31:01 No, see, being on strike doesn't mean not working.

00:31:06 Being on strike doesn't mean not working.

00:31:11 Let me ask you this. Let's be honest.

00:31:13 Man to man, man to woman. Let's be honest.

00:31:16 Have you ever been annoyed at your partner,

00:31:18 gone out with them anyway, but not been very positive?

00:31:21 Have you ever been annoyed at your partner,

00:31:23 gone out with them anyway, but just not been very positive?

00:31:26 You're there, but you're just not going to be your usual charming self.

00:31:30 You ever done that sort of... You're there.

00:31:32 Yeah, of course you have, right?

00:31:34 Fine, we have this social engagement we have to go to.

00:31:38 We're not getting along.

00:31:40 I'll go. I'll be pretty quiet in the car.

00:31:44 Maybe I'll play some angry music, right?

00:31:47 More than I'd like to admit. Yeah.

00:31:49 There's passive aggression, right?

00:31:51 Thank you. I watch Locals. I appreciate that.

00:31:56 Did that for years? Yeah.

00:31:59 So your wife's parents are coming over,

00:32:02 you're having a fight with your wife,

00:32:04 you put it all aside, but you're kind of there,

00:32:06 but you're not there, right?

00:32:08 So you're there,

00:32:10 but you're not bringing all of yourself there, right?

00:32:14 Have you ever had this, where you have a co-worker

00:32:21 who you help, and they continue to screw things up,

00:32:24 so you just stop helping them?

00:32:27 Yeah.

00:32:33 Of course, right?

00:32:34 So you're kind of on strike with regards to that.

00:32:36 It's wherever you withdraw resources

00:32:39 that otherwise you would normally provide, right?

00:32:41 Oh my God, yes, but still tried.

00:32:43 They still tried, right?

00:32:46 If you're a woman, if you're a fine lady here,

00:32:53 have you ever withheld sex,

00:32:56 even when you wanted to have sex,

00:32:58 in order to punish the man in your life?

00:33:01 To withhold sex from him,

00:33:03 even when you want to have sex?

00:33:05 Have you withheld sex because you're upset

00:33:09 and want to teach him a lesson?

00:33:11 No, never.

00:33:15 That's impressive.

00:33:17 I did that to my girlfriend, and she got pretty mad.

00:33:21 Guilty?

00:33:23 It happens.

00:33:25 It happens.

00:33:27 A little tougher for men to do, but men do it.

00:33:29 What men do, so women will withhold sex,

00:33:31 what do men withhold in a relationship

00:33:33 to punish the woman, right?

00:33:35 Used to be money, right?

00:33:36 But what do men withhold in a relationship

00:33:38 to punish the woman?

00:33:40 Yeah.

00:33:44 Attention, emotional availability, emotions, attention,

00:33:47 empathy, sympathy, and warmth.

00:33:51 Women withhold sex, and men withhold warmth, right?

00:33:54 And then you get into this vicious cycle,

00:33:56 where because the man is cold,

00:33:58 the woman doesn't want to have sex with him,

00:34:00 and because the woman doesn't want to have sex with him,

00:34:02 the man gets colder, and you--

00:34:04 I mean, this is the beginning of the water spout

00:34:06 that leads to the breakup, right?

00:34:08 The divorce, the end, right?

00:34:09 Somebody's got to break that cycle, right?

00:34:11 Because you're training each other,

00:34:13 like you would train a puppy,

00:34:14 like you would train a dog, right?

00:34:16 They're trying to, anyway,

00:34:17 and you're treating somebody as a means to an end

00:34:20 rather than as an end in themselves, right?

00:34:23 A vicious circle, yeah, yeah.

00:34:25 That was my relationship for years,

00:34:31 but we fixed it with your help.

00:34:33 Beautiful, thank you very much.

00:34:34 Now, I will tell you, I am absolutely on strike.

00:34:37 I am absolutely on strike,

00:34:39 and I even announced that I was going on strike.

00:34:41 Does anybody remember?

00:34:42 If you've been around for a couple of years,

00:34:43 you probably remember this.

00:34:45 Am I on strike?

00:34:47 Let's see your free domain memory.

00:35:00 Oh, lots of typing.

00:35:06 Me too, in various ways.

00:35:10 Yeah, I'm on strike.

00:35:14 So, I guess it was, I don't know,

00:35:16 three or four years ago, something like that,

00:35:18 I said, "I'm off politics.

00:35:20 "I don't do politics anymore.

00:35:21 "When was the last time you saw me

00:35:22 "do a current political event?"

00:35:24 I'm off politics.

00:35:28 I've been off politics for years and years now.

00:35:30 I don't do politics, so I'm on strike.

00:35:33 Am I on strike on Twitter?

00:35:39 Am I refusing to participate in Twitter?

00:35:43 Yeah, I mean, they gave me my account back,

00:35:45 hundreds of thousands of followers,

00:35:47 and I'm not, so I'm on strike on Twitter.

00:35:49 I'm leaving years of labor and a built-up audience

00:35:55 and not going to it.

00:35:57 They literally are giving me a lottery ticket,

00:36:02 and I'm not cashing it in,

00:36:03 because if I went on Twitter,

00:36:04 I would make a lot of money

00:36:05 and get a lot of influence and so on,

00:36:06 and I could still stay off politics

00:36:08 with lots of people who are doing it.

00:36:10 So, yeah, I'm on strike.

00:36:12 People follow me on Twitter.

00:36:13 It's funny.

00:36:14 That's funny.

00:36:15 So, yeah, I'm on strike,

00:36:19 all that kind of stuff.

00:36:21 "Twitter isn't much different.

00:36:29 "Elon hasn't really followed through with promises."

00:36:32 You cut the guy some slack.

00:36:34 I mean, really, cut the guy some slack.

00:36:37 He is facing an uphill battle and a blowback,

00:36:41 the likes of which you and I

00:36:43 probably can't even imagine,

00:36:44 because we don't know more than 10% of it.

00:36:47 It's really easy to put yourself

00:36:55 in somebody else's position and say,

00:36:59 "It'd be easy for me.

00:37:01 "Oh, I could do it so much better.

00:37:03 "I'd do so much easier."

00:37:05 Right?

00:37:10 That's dangerous thinking.

00:37:12 It's vainglorious,

00:37:14 and, you know,

00:37:17 he is one of the smartest people on the planet.

00:37:20 He's started like a half a dozen

00:37:21 crazy successful companies,

00:37:24 and he came from a situation

00:37:27 of extreme child abuse,

00:37:29 and he has retained his positivity and enthusiasm.

00:37:34 He's fought some pretty hard battles,

00:37:36 some of which I agree with,

00:37:37 some of which I don't.

00:37:39 He seems to have helped divert escalation

00:37:42 recently with his Starlink thing.

00:37:44 I mean, there's--

00:37:46 Please, please, I'm begging you,

00:37:48 don't say this guy

00:37:51 who's arguably

00:37:54 the greatest entrepreneur in history,

00:37:56 and not just the greatest entrepreneur in history,

00:37:59 but he is also heavily dedicated

00:38:03 to making the world a better place.

00:38:06 He's like the philanthropist capitalist,

00:38:09 so to speak, right?

00:38:10 I mean, he didn't have to buy Twitter,

00:38:11 and he knew the blowback he was going to get,

00:38:13 but he did, and he has certainly

00:38:14 improved free speech on Twitter.

00:38:15 Let's at least give him that.

00:38:16 He's massively improved free speech on Twitter.

00:38:18 Let's give him that.

00:38:20 So if you say,

00:38:21 "Well, I'd do way better

00:38:23 "than one of the smartest people on the planet,"

00:38:26 pffft, I mean, my gosh,

00:38:30 that's Dunning-Kruger right there.

00:38:32 I'm sorry to be blunt, right?

00:38:33 And it doesn't mean that he couldn't do better,

00:38:35 I mean, but without knowing

00:38:37 all the factors that are at play,

00:38:38 and a lot of people who get a lot of pressure

00:38:41 don't say anything about it, right?

00:38:44 So, you know, I mean,

00:38:49 can you imagine me saying,

00:38:50 "Oh, I'd be a much better businessman than Elon Musk."

00:38:52 It's like, that's crazy.

00:38:54 That's crazy.

00:38:56 I wouldn't even,

00:38:57 do I have 44 billion lying around to buy a company?

00:39:00 I do not, right?

00:39:01 So how does he manage time?

00:39:02 It's unreal.

00:39:03 Well, he sleeps at the office.

00:39:04 He works like crazy.

00:39:05 He's not the best dad on the planet,

00:39:07 and one of his kids turned super woke,

00:39:09 and all of that, so, yeah,

00:39:12 he's a crazy hard worker,

00:39:13 and, you know, he cares about the future.

00:39:16 He's really interested in the depopulation stuff.

00:39:18 He's really interested in birth rates.

00:39:19 He's really fascinated by free speech,

00:39:21 and really, right, so, I mean, Mike,

00:39:24 and just think of the tens or hundreds of thousands

00:39:28 of jobs he's created,

00:39:30 and people can have families,

00:39:32 and raise kids, and all of that, right?

00:39:33 So I, you know, what was it,

00:39:38 like Scott Adams the other day was saying,

00:39:40 like, "Well, I think Shakespeare is just a con.

00:39:42 "He's not a great writer.

00:39:43 "It's just people think he's great

00:39:44 "because smart people tell them, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

00:39:46 "I'm going through Hamlet with my daughter at the moment."

00:39:49 I'm like, "Damn.

00:39:52 "Damn.

00:39:53 "The writing is just staggeringly great.

00:39:57 "Staggeringly great."

00:40:00 And so, you know, it's like poetry is garbage, man.

00:40:04 It's like, no, no, no.

00:40:05 Poetry is distilled human essence perfection.

00:40:09 It is slivers of the soul cast on your plate

00:40:11 for you to enjoy,

00:40:12 and it's the essence of our emotions and ideals made real.

00:40:17 It's bringing people back to life from thoughts long dead.

00:40:20 I mean, it's incredible, right?

00:40:21 So, yeah, the best engineers on the planet

00:40:24 want to work with him.

00:40:27 I didn't think my thoughts through.

00:40:28 No, but here's the thing, right?

00:40:29 Here's the thing.

00:40:33 I tried to find the Mel Gibson Hamlet.

00:40:35 I could not find it.

00:40:36 I know I watched it some years ago.

00:40:38 Maybe I've got it in a DVD somewhere.

00:40:40 But, yeah, Mel Gibson's is the best Hamlet.

00:40:42 We're going through the Kenneth Branagh Hamlet,

00:40:45 which I find is a seven out of 10,

00:40:48 except for Derek Jackaby.

00:40:50 Derek Jackaby could read the phone book

00:40:51 and I'd be mesmerized.

00:40:55 So, yeah, here's the problem, though,

00:40:58 is that you have to be very careful about what you say.

00:41:02 And I'm not trying to make anyone paranoid,

00:41:03 but you really have to be careful about what you say.

00:41:05 Because if you say, "Elon Musk sucks.

00:41:08 "He's just not come through on this, that, and the other,"

00:41:12 then you are diminishing the opposition that he's facing.

00:41:18 And that's dangerous for people.

00:41:23 It's very dangerous for people to--

00:41:26 So, let me give you an example.

00:41:28 So, let's say you're out there

00:41:30 and there's some giant grizzly bear

00:41:31 and some guy runs away from the giant grizzly bear.

00:41:34 And you tell all of the young bucks

00:41:37 and the teenage boys and so on,

00:41:39 "Oh, I could totally take down that bear.

00:41:41 "I can't believe that guy's running away.

00:41:43 "I wouldn't hesitate."

00:41:44 Well, what are those kids going to do?

00:41:45 They're going to hesitate.

00:41:46 They're not going to hesitate.

00:41:47 They're going to rush in because you told them

00:41:49 it was easy to take down and it was simple

00:41:50 and you could do it way better.

00:41:52 They're going to rush in to get their heads ripped off.

00:41:55 Do not diminish the dangers that people are facing.

00:41:59 You're going to get people seriously damaged.

00:42:03 Is this clear to everyone?

00:42:04 I'm very passionate about this.

00:42:08 I'm very passionate about this.

00:42:12 Right?

00:42:14 People's lives get destroyed

00:42:16 by you being cocky about the dangers they face.

00:42:22 You need to be more curious

00:42:23 rather than jumping to conclusions.

00:42:28 Well, let me ask you this.

00:42:29 Has Elon Musk earned respect for his intelligence

00:42:32 and his perceptiveness?

00:42:34 Does he know how to balance risk?

00:42:37 You can't be a successful entrepreneur

00:42:38 if you don't know how to balance risk.

00:42:41 You have to take enough risks to succeed

00:42:43 but not so many that you fail.

00:42:44 You have to be really good at balancing risks.

00:42:47 Right?

00:42:55 Because if you incorrectly balance risk,

00:42:57 if you do it really badly,

00:42:58 you get sued for fiduciary misconduct

00:43:01 by your shareholders.

00:43:03 So he's really good at balancing risk.

00:43:05 So we can assume that he is doing the maximum

00:43:09 that is feasible in the situation.

00:43:14 Is that fair to say?

00:43:15 Because if he could do more

00:43:18 without destroying his platform, he would.

00:43:20 Because, like, who wins the race?

00:43:22 The guy who drives as fast as possible without crashing.

00:43:25 If you drive too fast and you crash, you lose the race.

00:43:28 If you don't drive fast enough, you lose the race.

00:43:31 So he's driving as fast as he can

00:43:33 without crashing the car.

00:43:41 I think he's got a proven track record,

00:43:43 certainly way better than you or me

00:43:47 or frankly anyone else listening to this

00:43:49 or anyone else currently in the stream.

00:43:51 Elon Musk has a track record of balancing risk

00:43:56 that is better than anybody else on the planet

00:43:59 that I can think of.

00:44:01 So then saying, "Well, he should be doing more."

00:44:04 You're talking to the number one race car driver in the world

00:44:07 who's won the most races and is the wealthiest

00:44:09 and you're saying, "He's driving badly."

00:44:12 Dude!

00:44:15 Have some humility.

00:44:19 Don't be that armchair guy, you know.

00:44:21 Don't be that guy, "Oh, I could drive way better than that guy."

00:44:25 Well, why the fuck aren't you winning races?

00:44:26 If you're so much better at balancing risk than Elon Musk,

00:44:29 why aren't you richer and more successful

00:44:33 or more prominent or more something than Elon Musk?

00:44:39 I'm better at managing risk than the world's most successful entrepreneur.

00:44:44 Can I see your bank account?

00:44:46 I bet you it ain't got a lot of zeros in it.

00:44:48 I know mine doesn't.

00:44:51 I don't know.

00:44:52 I'm sorry to be the laugh, but it's just amazing to me.

00:44:57 I mean, you're literally like, can you imagine if I work out a little bit, right?

00:45:02 Okay, more than a little bit, but I'm not a natural muscle growing kind of guy, right?

00:45:07 So can you imagine me looking at pictures of Arnold Schwarzenegger in his prime

00:45:10 and saying, "Oh, the guy's working out all wrong."

00:45:13 I mean, look at my muscles.

00:45:14 He's just working out all wrong, man.

00:45:22 Oh my gosh.

00:45:25 Yeah, well, I'm sure he wants to get to Mars to leave most of the world behind.

00:45:28 I mean, can you imagine what it's like being Elon Musk,

00:45:31 being that productive, that brilliant, that entrepreneurial,

00:45:34 and having to deal with people of vastly less ability to get things done?

00:45:38 I mean, imagine the torture of being Elon Musk in the business world.

00:45:42 Imagine the frustration.

00:45:43 You know how much frustration he has to manage just to get things built

00:45:48 because he could do it 100 times better?

00:45:51 But he's got to motivate other people and keep them aligned

00:45:54 when they have much less ability than he does.

00:46:03 So yeah, I just--please, please, I'm begging you,

00:46:07 give the difficulties he's facing their due.

00:46:13 Give the difficulties he's facing their due.

00:46:16 Because I guarantee you, I guarantee you,

00:46:19 he is taking on way more dangerous challenges than you and I are.

00:46:27 Way more dangerous challenges than you and I are.

00:46:32 So he's not keeping his word.

00:46:40 I mean, it's almost like the wife--

00:46:44 the husband is like literally having a heart attack

00:46:46 and she's complaining that he didn't bring her flowers.

00:46:51 Do you think Ayn Rand would like him?

00:46:53 Yeah, I think so.

00:46:54 I think she would.

00:46:57 I think she would.

00:47:03 I mean, he's as close to John Galt as we're getting, right?

00:47:07 Am I wrong about that?

00:47:11 He's as close to John Galt as we're getting.

00:47:15 I'd do it better.

00:47:17 Yeah, it took years--it took 150 years to get where we are.

00:47:22 The idea that you can just--especially post-Trump,

00:47:25 anybody who thinks, well, it's easy to do the right thing.

00:47:30 I think my comment maybe is something I learned from my mother.

00:47:33 She was always commenting on people she knew little about.

00:47:38 Right.

00:47:40 So what is the purpose?

00:47:42 I'm not trying to be critical here.

00:47:44 Let's be frank, right?

00:47:45 I mean, I have to watch this in myself as well.

00:47:47 So I get--I do the History of Philosophers series

00:47:50 and I get kind of annoyed at philosophers throughout history

00:47:52 who lied and covered up great crimes and immoralities

00:47:56 and didn't focus on childhood.

00:48:00 So what is the purpose of saying to one of the most brilliant people on the planet,

00:48:08 "He's doing things badly and I would do things better.

00:48:10 I would just do things so much better.

00:48:16 He's disappointing me."

00:48:22 Yeah, he didn't have--yeah, I understand.

00:48:23 The guy never has to show up.

00:48:25 I mean, the next 20 generations of Elon Musk's progeny could live off his savings, right?

00:48:29 I mean, he doesn't have to do any of this.

00:48:31 Why is he doing it?

00:48:33 Why is he doing it?

00:48:37 So what is the purpose of vainglorious boasting

00:48:41 about things you know little to nothing about?

00:48:44 And I'm just being frank.

00:48:45 I'm not being harsh.

00:48:46 I'm prey to this as well, so we're all in the same trenches here, right?

00:48:52 What is the purpose of vainglorious boasting about things you know virtually nothing about?

00:49:01 What is the effect of it?

00:49:02 If you want to know what the purpose is, to feel significant, you're not sure?

00:49:05 No, it's not to feel special.

00:49:07 Nope, because you know it's a lie.

00:49:14 Makes a large man small, allows me to feel larger without having to achieve it?

00:49:17 Nope, because you know the truth deep down.

00:49:19 Avoiding responsibility, sounding smart, but you know you're not smart.

00:49:23 Doesn't help your self-esteem.

00:49:25 Excuses for lack of accomplishment, but you know it's a lie.

00:49:31 I will tell you why you do it.

00:49:34 And when I say this, you will immediately grasp it and you will...

00:49:37 Will you donate?

00:49:38 If this is really important and changes your life, will you give me a couple of bucks?

00:49:42 Come on, let's trade.

00:49:44 Let's trade like camel riders in the desert.

00:49:48 There is a benefit.

00:49:50 Of course there is.

00:49:54 It's right here.

00:49:55 I got it right here.

00:49:56 It's going to blow your mind.

00:49:57 Do you want it?

00:49:58 Next month, promise it will be a 20% interest.

00:50:00 All right, that's fair.

00:50:01 Hey, that's fine.

00:50:02 And listen, if you don't have money, don't worry.

00:50:03 Please don't donate if you don't have any money.

00:50:04 That's fine.

00:50:05 Enjoy the show.

00:50:06 Donate later when you make some money.

00:50:07 You sub?

00:50:08 Oh, that's fair.

00:50:09 All right, that's fair.

00:50:11 Okay, so the purpose of vainglorious boasting about things you know little to nothing about

00:50:18 is to keep quality people away from you.

00:50:20 Now, why do you want to keep quality people away from you?

00:50:23 The answer is you don't.

00:50:24 So who in your life benefits from quality people running in the opposite direction whenever

00:50:29 you show up with your vainglorious boasting about things you know little to nothing about?

00:50:33 Who benefits from you not having quality people in your life?

00:50:37 The shitty people in your life benefit from you not having quality people in your life.

00:50:40 So they teach you all this vainglorious boasting about things you know little to nothing about,

00:50:43 so you drive away the quality people that expose them for shitty people and free you from their clutches.

00:50:49 Ugh.

00:50:52 Boom.

00:50:53 Tell me that ain't it.

00:50:55 Why does your mother do it?

00:50:57 Son of a bitch.

00:50:59 Literally.

00:51:00 That's it.

00:51:01 Of course it is.

00:51:02 Of course it is.

00:51:04 You think you're good at lying to yourself?

00:51:06 You're not.

00:51:08 You're not good at lying to yourself.

00:51:10 You know the truth.

00:51:11 You know the truth.

00:51:13 It's a repulsion device to keep the quality people out who are going to say,

00:51:16 "Hey, you're surrounded by pretty shitty people."

00:51:20 You follow?

00:51:24 Whenever something isn't benefiting you, look at who it is benefiting and you'll find the answer.

00:51:30 Principle, principle, principle.

00:51:36 My nutritionist keeps telling me to eat badly.

00:51:40 Well, that's because I assume that you not getting better benefits your nutritionist.

00:51:47 My parents are the shitty people even though they're not in my life.

00:51:51 They seem to be in my head.

00:51:52 Yeah, of course they are.

00:51:54 See, we're not designed to leave shitty people behind.

00:51:56 We're not designed for that because for almost all of human history, you couldn't.

00:52:02 I don't like this tribe.

00:52:04 It seems to be full of really bad people who are very cunning and manipulative and destructive.

00:52:08 So, what are you going to do?

00:52:10 You're going to go join some other tribe?

00:52:11 They don't want you and it's the same damn thing.

00:52:14 So, we're not designed to evolve from parental commandments

00:52:19 because almost all of human history was this unbelievably repetitive Groundhog Day.

00:52:25 We're not designed for any of that.

00:52:28 So, of course they're still in your head because they're never designed to leave your head

00:52:31 because there was never any choices.

00:52:33 You could not, for almost all of human history, you could not ever find and hold on to quality people.

00:52:38 Never, ever, ever, ever, ever.

00:52:42 "Oh, look, I'm a slave but I'm going to choose quality people.

00:52:45 Oh, look, I'm a serf. I'm bought and sold with the land like livestock and a wooden shed,

00:52:49 but I'm going to find quality."

00:52:51 No, no. "Oh, my marriage has been arranged by my elders. Oh, I'll find a--

00:52:54 Oh, I can't do that. Oh, oh, I know. I've been drafted into an army.

00:52:58 I'll just surround myself. Oh, I can't do that.

00:53:01 Oh, I've been sold by my family into a religious cult.

00:53:06 I'll just find quality. Oh, I can't do that.

00:53:08 Oh, I've joined a monastery. I'll just make sure I have quality.

00:53:10 No, I can't do that.

00:53:12 [blows raspberry]

00:53:14 How about no? Speared.

00:53:17 "Lo, I hath been slain."

00:53:19 Yeah.

00:53:21 Yeah.

00:53:23 "Wait, I disagree with the local tribal chieftain and witch doctor.

00:53:28 Wait, I'm attempting to hug wood with nails."

00:53:32 We had no chance whatsoever

00:53:37 to choose quality people throughout almost all of our history.

00:53:43 So when I say choose quality people,

00:53:47 I'm basically saying to your mind,

00:53:51 it'd be great, you know, just fly.

00:53:54 Just, you know, flap your little hands and fly.

00:53:57 Defy gravity. I don't know why you do all this walking stuff.

00:54:00 That's crazy. Just fly. It's way less congested, way less crowded,

00:54:03 and the view's way better. Get that nice breeze in your hair.

00:54:06 And air stewardesses will walk by with peanuts.

00:54:09 Just, you know, just fly. Choose quality people.

00:54:12 I'm saying, well, why do you need all this scuba gear?

00:54:17 Just, you know, draw lines.

00:54:20 Draw five lines like a shark. Draw five lines on your neck and use those as gills.

00:54:24 "The armchair quarterback does repel people.

00:54:30 It's like an indirect criticism for the audience."

00:54:32 Oh, God. Armchair quarterbacks are just...

00:54:35 they're repulsive. Right? And I'm not...

00:54:38 Listen, to the listener, I know this is just an echoing habit.

00:54:41 It's a minor thing you'll hear, so I'm not saying you're repulsive.

00:54:43 I'm just saying that the people who really committed to it, it's repulsive.

00:54:46 I mean, how much advice do I get on how to be

00:54:54 a better live streamer, podcaster, thinker, writer, philosopher,

00:54:59 reasoner, debater, interviewer, public figure, etc.?

00:55:04 How much advice, over the years, have I gotten

00:55:09 on how to do what I do so much better?

00:55:13 Oh, it's a torrent.

00:55:19 "You really should do it this way."

00:55:21 Or that. You're just alienating people if you do that.

00:55:23 Don't be so harsh. You've got to be this. Don't do that.

00:55:25 Deal with this topic. The real important thing is this.

00:55:27 You're not doing it right. The way you present is just off-putting.

00:55:30 It's just negative. I mean, you've got to be more inclusive.

00:55:32 You've got to be warm. You've got to be nicer.

00:55:34 You've got to be harsher. You've got to be more ...

00:55:36 You're too soft. You're too nice to people.

00:55:38 You're such a simp. Whenever you have a call-in show with a girl,

00:55:40 you just flubber all over her and agree with everything she says.

00:55:42 But you're really harsh with the men. It's totally hypocritical.

00:55:44 And you should do this, and you should do that,

00:55:46 and you don't take on this topic.

00:55:48 Now, listen. Don't get me wrong. I take advice.

00:55:56 You should go back. I know, I know, I know

00:56:00 how your life should be run, despite the fact that you have now 18 years

00:56:05 as a public, highly controversial, edgelord philosopher.

00:56:09 And you're still standing, and you're still doing a show,

00:56:11 and you still have an audience, and you still have an income

00:56:14 after 18 years. But I've watched a couple of your shows,

00:56:18 and I know exactly how it should be done.

00:56:20 Now, here's the thing.

00:56:22 I'm happy to take advice. I really am.

00:56:28 And some people have given me good advice.

00:56:31 Some people have given me good advice, for sure.

00:56:34 And some people have pointed out hypocrisy.

00:56:36 That's been very helpful to me.

00:56:38 And it's changed the show.

00:56:40 So I'm really happy to take advice.

00:56:42 Tell me the number of people in your life that you will take advice from.

00:56:48 It doesn't mean automatically, but they have great credibility with you

00:56:50 in giving advice. It's the number of people in your life,

00:56:53 when they give you advice, you take it very seriously,

00:56:56 and they're likely to be right.

00:56:58 Hopefully, including yourself.

00:57:04 What's that old meme?

00:57:08 Would you take $50,000 if it meant giving $100,000

00:57:16 to the person you hated the most?

00:57:18 And someone replied, "Yeah, why wouldn't I want $150,000?"

00:57:21 Ouch. Ouch.

00:57:24 Yeah, I mean, in terms of the people I would really take advice from,

00:57:27 maybe five.

00:57:32 Maybe five people.

00:57:34 So I'm in the median here, right?

00:57:36 Maybe five people that I would seriously take advice from.

00:57:39 Now, again, if somebody's pointed out an illogical thing that I've said,

00:57:42 or if there's evidence that goes counter to what I've argued,

00:57:45 that's totally fine. I'll listen to that, right?

00:57:47 But it's funny how people with no credibility

00:57:52 insist that I listen to them.

00:57:54 And again, that just drives quality people away from them.

00:57:57 Why do they feel this compulsion to lecture people with vastly more experience?

00:58:00 Like, I've seen--oh my God, the things I've seen!

00:58:05 I'm not kidding. The things--

00:58:07 I have peered into the deep, dark, inner gristle

00:58:12 of people's lives now thousands of times.

00:58:15 People have opened up, they've told me their darkest secrets,

00:58:19 their biggest histories, and you guys know--

00:58:21 I mean, there's a whole bunch of those conversations I've never published,

00:58:24 so there's lots more than has even gone out there.

00:58:26 So I've had--and it's a really privileged position--

00:58:29 I've looked deep into the heart of human history and motivation,

00:58:31 probably more so than any other person around.

00:58:34 In terms of bringing morals to it as well, right?

00:58:37 Because some people will do that in terms of psychology,

00:58:39 but they bring empathy, but not usually morality.

00:58:41 Sometimes, but not usually.

00:58:43 So as a philosopher goes,

00:58:46 I'm in possession of the greatest treasure in human history,

00:58:49 which is an examination of the depths of the human soul over decades.

00:58:56 Because I was--I mean, I didn't just walk into call-in shows with nothing.

00:58:59 I have been doing this for many years, just in my personal life.

00:59:02 I've always been curious about what makes people tick

00:59:05 and asking them about their lives.

00:59:07 So I have thousands and thousands of people over the course of my life

00:59:11 that have opened up their hearts, minds, histories, and souls,

00:59:14 their greatest agonies and greatest challenges and greatest potentiality.

00:59:18 And other people will try and tell me about human nature.

00:59:21 Like, they literally will just--

00:59:23 "Oh, well, what you don't understand about human nature is, like,

00:59:26 are you crazy? Like, what is the matter with you?"

00:59:29 It doesn't mean everything I say is right,

00:59:32 but I don't know, man. It's just bizarre to me.

00:59:35 The people who haven't even had one of these conversations

00:59:39 is telling me who has successfully had thousands.

00:59:42 Right, so after I said to people--I don't get much feedback--

00:59:46 a lot of people have emailed me and said how much the show has helped

00:59:49 and how much--I mean, somebody earlier said the show has helped me enormously.

00:59:53 So I've had thousands and thousands of incredibly successful conversations

00:59:56 in the heart of human dynamics

00:59:59 and right at the depths and roots of their souls.

01:00:02 And people will just unironically come up and talk to me about human nature.

01:00:06 "What human nature is this? Human nature is that?"

01:00:09 It's like, dude, there's probably no one alive

01:00:12 who's got a greater and deeper moral view of human nature than I have.

01:00:17 And I've earned that.

01:00:20 And it's not a theory because a lot of them are published.

01:00:24 And people will just tell me.

01:00:31 "Human nature is like this."

01:00:35 Or people--I've said this before--

01:00:37 that people who have like 50 followers would tell me at--

01:00:40 I don't know, peak of my social media,

01:00:43 I had well over 1.5 million followers on various platforms,

01:00:47 probably closer to 2.

01:00:49 And people would legitimately, with a dozen or two followers,

01:00:54 would tell me how to manage that.

01:00:56 People who hadn't taken any risks would tell me how to manage risk.

01:01:06 It's incredible.

01:01:08 People who didn't know how to ride a bike would tell me

01:01:10 how to drive the fastest car in the universe

01:01:13 on the toughest terrain that exists,

01:01:15 which I've been doing successfully for decades.

01:01:19 And people would literally tell me how to drive a car,

01:01:24 the fastest car that exists,

01:01:26 moral philosophy over the toughest terrain, people's resistance.

01:01:29 And with no sense of deferral, no sense of irony,

01:01:35 no sense of respect.

01:01:37 It's wild.

01:01:39 Now, don't attack yourself.

01:01:44 So the person is saying,

01:01:46 "Thank you, this is hard to hear, but I do now see how shitty it was of me

01:01:49 to make that comment, and his running of Twitter was somehow bad.

01:01:52 I don't know anything about that stuff, and I feel pretty crap about saying what I did."

01:01:55 So, now, here's the thing too now.

01:01:57 So this is the one-two punch.

01:02:00 So the one-two punch.

01:02:03 The one-two punch is,

01:02:06 first you say this arrogant nonsense about

01:02:09 how you do Elon Musk's job so much better, right?

01:02:14 And when there's pushback on that, you self-attack.

01:02:17 You understand?

01:02:19 This is a secondary line of defense to keeping quality people away from you.

01:02:22 Right?

01:02:24 So, to go from arrogance to self-attack,

01:02:28 both of which are pretty gross

01:02:30 for quality people to be around.

01:02:32 Have you ever been around somebody who just is punching themselves,

01:02:35 "I'm so terrible, I can't do anything right."

01:02:37 Do you feel manipulated?

01:02:39 Do you feel like you want to spend time with that person?

01:02:41 Do you feel like you have any input and you can help that person?

01:02:43 Or are you just like, "I'll let you punch yourself,

01:02:45 because I can't intervene, I can't stop you."

01:02:47 Right? So, you understand?

01:02:49 This is the second line of defense to keep quality people away from you.

01:02:52 The first line is arrogance, the second line is self-attack.

01:02:55 "Well, if you're not turned off by the arrogance,

01:02:57 or you confront me with the arrogance, I'll just start punching myself.

01:02:59 Do you want to hang around with me, watching me punch myself?"

01:03:02 "I'm just such a terrible person!"

01:03:06 Do quality people want to be around that?

01:03:08 You understand? Your mom's still winning.

01:03:10 She's just fallen back to the second line of defense.

01:03:13 Well, of course you self-attack.

01:03:16 That's the flip side of arrogance.

01:03:18 Because you say, "Well, I've got to attack someone,

01:03:21 so I'm going to attack Elon Musk."

01:03:23 And if that's pushback, then you attack yourself.

01:03:28 Arrogance and self-attack are just two sides of the same coin.

01:03:31 Now, why do you have the paradigm that someone's got to be attacked?

01:03:38 And if I push back on you attacking Elon Musk,

01:03:40 then you'll attack yourself.

01:03:42 Why does anybody have to be attacked? Right?

01:03:45 That's the big question. Why does anybody have to be attacked?

01:03:47 Why does anybody have to be attacked?

01:03:54 Why does anybody have to be attacked?

01:03:57 Why does anybody have to be attacked?

01:04:05 Now, the real way to ask that question is,

01:04:08 "Who does it serve that you're hostile,

01:04:11 either to Elon Musk or to yourself?"

01:04:13 "Who does it serve that you're hostile?"

01:04:17 That's the fundamental question.

01:04:19 Because I'm covering something up inside.

01:04:22 Oh my God, people, I don't mean to sound impatient,

01:04:25 but we just went through this.

01:04:27 You've got to internalize this shit. You've got to.

01:04:30 "Who does it serve if you're needlessly hostile

01:04:36 to others or to yourself?"

01:04:38 Doesn't serve you, does it?

01:04:41 Needless hostility doesn't get quality people in your life,

01:04:43 drives quality people away, and only invites people

01:04:45 who either like to be insulted or want to insult you.

01:04:49 "Who does it serve if you're mindlessly hostile?"

01:04:52 The bad people in your life want you to be mindlessly hostile.

01:04:56 Why do they want you to be mindlessly hostile?

01:04:58 Why do the bad people in your life want you to be mindlessly hostile?

01:05:01 Why? Why? Why?

01:05:03 No, not sabotage.

01:05:07 Yes, to keep away better people, but it's more fundamental than that.

01:05:11 So they are the best option. That's true, but that's a consequence.

01:05:18 To hide their abuse, that's a consequence.

01:05:20 No.

01:05:22 No.

01:05:26 Oh, I'm telling you guys, this is going to hurt.

01:05:31 Oh, it's going to hurt.

01:05:33 It's like punching around the rotating rings on the old vector game Star Castle.

01:05:40 Oh, it's going to hurt.

01:05:43 Oh, it's going to hurt.

01:05:47 I mean, it hurts me and I'm past it.

01:05:50 "It serves to help those who are hostile to you to protect themselves

01:05:54 from consequences of righteous judgment."

01:05:56 Nope.

01:05:57 Nope, nope, nope. Oh, boy.

01:06:00 Hit me with a "Y" if you're ready to swallow some pain.

01:06:04 It'll help, but I just need to know. Where's everyone at?

01:06:13 All right, all right. You want it.

01:06:16 You want it. You want to swallow this jagged little pill?

01:06:19 Okay.

01:06:20 The reason that your abuse is implied in you, mindless hostility,

01:06:29 is so you don't get any allies at all.

01:06:33 You never get boon companions. You never get allies.

01:06:39 You never get people who will help you.

01:06:41 You are forever isolated and nobody is on your side.

01:06:46 Nobody will empathize with you.

01:06:51 Nobody will take your side against them.

01:06:53 Nobody will have sympathy for you.

01:06:55 Nobody will be your close friend and boon companion.

01:06:59 You will forever be facing these demons entirely isolated, alone.

01:07:04 Spurned, rejected, ostracized, exiled.

01:07:10 Solitary.

01:07:12 Does that land on the bullseye?

01:07:23 That hits so hard it hurts? Absolutely.

01:07:26 Mindless hostility means you never get an ally.

01:07:31 Rings true here. Accurate.

01:07:37 Nobody ever stands up for you if you're arrogant or self-attacking.

01:07:43 I feel like a baby seal.

01:07:47 Wreck your credibility.

01:07:51 Well, what does it take for someone to be your ally?

01:08:02 What does it take for someone to be your ally?

01:08:06 What is needed?

01:08:08 Virtue? You have to provide some value.

01:08:15 Vulnerability? No.

01:08:18 No.

01:08:20 Trust? Yes. But what does trust require?

01:08:27 What does it require? What does it need?

01:08:30 What does it mean to trust someone?

01:08:33 Not credibility. That's an effect.

01:08:42 Honesty? No. He was honestly telling me about his self-attack.

01:08:45 To be reliable? Yeah. That's right.

01:08:49 Consistency.

01:08:51 Okay, let me ask you this. Have you ever shown up from one of these livestreams and say,

01:08:56 "Oh, I didn't learn anything new from that. Pfft.

01:08:59 He's just rehashing all the old topics. There's nothing new here."

01:09:03 Has that ever happened? Never.

01:09:06 And I've been doing this for close on 20 years.

01:09:09 New, new, new.

01:09:11 That's why you come, right? You come because there's new.

01:09:15 Because smart people want new things and less intelligent people want repetition.

01:09:20 There's always something new. So you need consistency.

01:09:24 Reliability.

01:09:26 Right?

01:09:28 In order to ally with someone, they need to be reliable, they need to be consistent,

01:09:33 they need to be stable to some degree or another.

01:09:36 Right?

01:09:38 Now, if you have arrogance followed by self-attack,

01:09:46 in other words, you're the greatest thing ever and then you're worthless,

01:09:49 are you consistent and reliable and stable?

01:09:55 No.

01:09:58 Quite the opposite.

01:10:03 You're manic, depressive, "I'm the greatest thing ever. I'm the worst person who ever lived."

01:10:08 Nobody can ally with you because you're not reliable.

01:10:12 Ally, rely, ally, rely, ally, rely.

01:10:18 (sighs)

01:10:20 It blows my mind how you still have things to blow my mind.

01:10:29 It will go on for the next 30 years.

01:10:32 I don't know, philosophy is just speaking through me, what can I tell you?

01:10:35 (sighs)

01:10:37 So, when you go from arrogance to self-attack,

01:10:45 you are signaling to people that they cannot be your ally.

01:10:49 Why? Because the person I allied with was punishing me for allying with him.

01:10:58 We're not even at the bottom yet.

01:11:01 We're not even at the bottom yet.

01:11:04 But hit me with a "why" if you want me to keep going.

01:11:11 All right, so he comes all hot about Elon Musk is incompetent, right?

01:11:18 Elon Musk is incompetent, and I break that down.

01:11:21 I'm allying with him, and I'm pointing out that this is harmful to him.

01:11:25 It's arrogant, it's going to drive good people away, so I'm his ally, right?

01:11:30 Do we agree with that? Hit me with an "A" because we just had a bunch of "whys."

01:11:35 Hit me with an "A" if you understand that I was being his ally

01:11:38 in pushing back against his arrogance regarding Elon Musk.

01:11:41 I'm allying with him, right? I'm his ally for his better self, his higher self,

01:11:45 because I want him to have quality people in his life,

01:11:48 so I'm allying with him, I'm setting up an alliance with him.

01:11:51 Right? And then what happens when I ally with him?

01:11:57 What happens then?

01:11:59 You self-attacked and made that hotter. Exactly.

01:12:02 And I'm not criticizing, I'm just pointing out the continuity, right?

01:12:05 You punished me for allying with you.

01:12:08 Ugh, now I just hate myself.

01:12:10 So we're waging a war, you either shoot into the air, hitting nothing,

01:12:18 or you shoot yourself in the foot.

01:12:20 Either way, I'm not being helped.

01:12:22 I'm like, "Don't shoot in the sky."

01:12:24 "Oh, I just shot myself in the foot." "Are you happy now?"

01:12:27 Ah!

01:12:33 You know we have some actual enemies, right?

01:12:36 So I got punished for being his ally.

01:12:39 And tell me this doesn't ring true, we've all done it.

01:12:43 I've done it, you've done it, everyone's done it.

01:12:45 Everyone's done it. We've all punished people for taking our side.

01:12:48 Or rather, the jerks in our life have set that tripwire up.

01:12:52 Remember I said it was the second line of defense?

01:12:55 This is a crazy good perspective.

01:13:01 I know, I know, I give myself goosebumps on a regular basis.

01:13:06 Learned response, it's an inflicted isolation.

01:13:09 "Oh, are you actually trying to help me?"

01:13:13 "Fuck you, I'll just stop punching myself."

01:13:16 "And so that's gross enough that you're going to stop trying to help me."

01:13:19 You punish your allies with self-attack.

01:13:23 Right? You punish your allies with self-attack.

01:13:30 Or rather, the crappy people in your life have programmed you

01:13:35 to drive good people away who are trying to ally with you.

01:13:39 So how many times have I really worked hard to help someone,

01:13:43 particularly in sort of text format or in this kind of format,

01:13:46 how many times have I really tried to help someone?

01:13:49 And by allying myself with their long-term interests,

01:13:53 I get punished by the internalized abuses in their life

01:13:56 in order that they do not gain any allies and remain isolated.

01:14:00 Right?

01:14:06 So when I would say to women online,

01:14:12 "You're mostly infertile at 40, you're going to live to 80."

01:14:16 What happened?

01:14:23 I'm allying with their interests, I'm trying to ally with their best interests,

01:14:27 I'm trying to rescue them from bad decisions.

01:14:29 I'm allying with them.

01:14:31 And what do they do?

01:14:33 So many of the women, and some of the men,

01:14:36 what do they do when I'm allying with their actual self-interest?

01:14:39 What do they do?

01:14:41 Viciously attack, of course.

01:14:44 Now, why are they viciously attacking?

01:14:47 It's not even about morals.

01:14:50 Why did the women viciously attack me online consistently?

01:14:54 And they're doing it now to H. Pearl Davis,

01:14:56 and they're doing it to Rachel, whatever her name is, a bunch of them.

01:15:00 So why is it that women would attack me

01:15:04 for trying to ally with their own long-term self-interest?

01:15:08 Why?

01:15:09 No, they're not programmed to kill their own geneset,

01:15:13 that's not a thing.

01:15:14 It's the anima.

01:15:18 Jungian doesn't explain much.

01:15:20 Okay, who runs the culture?

01:15:30 Case-selected, commitment-prone people,

01:15:35 or R-selected sex addicts?

01:15:37 Who runs the culture?

01:15:39 Yeah, it's R-selected, right?

01:15:45 So R-selected, short-term, hedonistic sex addicts

01:15:48 run the culture as a whole.

01:15:50 So now, if I say to women, "Become mothers,"

01:15:56 that is changing who they want to have sex with.

01:16:00 Do you follow?

01:16:01 I'm trying to get in there, change the levers,

01:16:04 so they stop looking for hotness and short-term wealth and status,

01:16:08 and they start looking for morals and quality,

01:16:10 provide and protect guys.

01:16:13 Now, what happens to an addict when you interfere with his supply?

01:16:19 What do the addicts do?

01:16:23 Yeah, they attack.

01:16:30 Do you know what the phrase that is used to describe an addict's rage

01:16:38 at any interference with the supply?

01:16:40 What is the phrase used?

01:16:43 It's emotional terrorism.

01:16:45 They're emotional terrorists.

01:16:47 So the sex addicts want access to women,

01:16:55 and the way that they maintain that access to women--

01:16:58 how do low-quality men maintain their access to women?

01:17:02 They become antinatalists.

01:17:06 They program women to reject children,

01:17:08 because if women want children, they won't want the low-quality men.

01:17:12 So low-quality men program women to reject babies,

01:17:17 so that the low-quality men can continue to have access to the females.

01:17:22 I mean, have you ever met a writer?

01:17:29 Have you ever met a writer?

01:17:35 Do you think these are high-quality men,

01:17:37 capable of deep empathy, commitment, and--

01:17:40 Do you think that the average writer can protect his family in a fight?

01:17:46 Have you met these people?

01:17:49 They get carpal tunnel syndrome if their keyboard is spaced the wrong way.

01:17:53 Have you seen the people who run the culture?

01:17:59 They look like either Os or apostrophes.

01:18:06 Weak men will train women out of wanting babies,

01:18:10 so that women aren't drawn to strong men.

01:18:13 Why is there a movement away from empiricism

01:18:34 and towards subjectivism and relativism?

01:18:37 Because low-quality males are better at manipulating words than reality.

01:18:43 Manipulating words rather than reality is a bit more of a feminine thing,

01:18:49 and when you train women to reject being mothers,

01:18:54 you train women to value feminized men.

01:18:57 Because when women are vulnerable through pregnancy and labor

01:19:02 and having babies around, they need a strong male protector.

01:19:06 So the weak betas need to program women to reject children

01:19:09 so that women become more masculine, so that they prefer more feminized men.

01:19:29 So the person who self-attacks says,

01:19:32 "So when I say I'm just shit at X, I'm self-attacking

01:19:34 because my parents don't want me to succeed and have allies.

01:19:36 In some ways, I addict myself to self-attack

01:19:39 to make sure I don't get allies so I keep my parents happy.

01:19:42 Am I close?"

01:19:43 What do you mean you addict yourself?

01:19:45 What the fuck are you talking about?

01:19:48 You addict?

01:19:49 You see, this is just another form of self-attack.

01:19:51 All right?

01:19:52 Let me ask you this.

01:19:54 Let me ask you this.

01:19:55 I mean, this is an important question, right?

01:19:57 This is something you can remember every time this comes up

01:19:59 so that you don't pull this bullshit on yourself.

01:20:01 Right.

01:20:02 Okay.

01:20:03 Hit me with a "why" if as a baby you taught yourself English

01:20:07 or whatever language you spoke as a baby.

01:20:10 Did you teach yourself?

01:20:12 Did you start with a blank slate and say,

01:20:14 "Oh, what do you think would be the most productive language to be?

01:20:16 I don't know.

01:20:17 Go to the library.

01:20:18 I'm going to waddle up in my diapers

01:20:20 and I'm going to ask for this, that, or the other."

01:20:22 Right?

01:20:23 The fuck?

01:20:24 You didn't teach yourself.

01:20:25 You didn't teach yourself.

01:20:27 It was taught to me.

01:20:29 It was in the environment.

01:20:30 Right?

01:20:31 So, self-attack is a language.

01:20:35 Right?

01:20:36 Your relationship with yourself is language.

01:20:39 And language is taught

01:20:42 because all self-attack is based on language.

01:20:45 It's a judgment, and judgment is based on language

01:20:47 because if it's not based on language, it's instinct.

01:20:49 And nobody has an instinct to self-attack.

01:20:52 Nobody.

01:20:53 Can you imagine evolving with an instinct to just attack yourself?

01:20:57 Can you imagine a lion waking up and saying,

01:20:59 "I'm kind of hungry.

01:21:00 I think I'll just gnaw the end of my fucking paw off."

01:21:03 So you need language to be manipulated into self-attack.

01:21:10 So whenever you think of negative habits with yourself,

01:21:13 think language.

01:21:15 That's all it is.

01:21:16 And you even said this,

01:21:19 "So when I say I'm just shit at X,

01:21:21 I say..."

01:21:23 So, if you're taught a critical relationship with yourself,

01:21:27 a hostile, angry, bitter, negative, destructive relationship with yourself,

01:21:30 it's language.

01:21:32 So,

01:21:36 when you say, "I addict myself to self-attack,"

01:21:41 you're saying, "I taught myself language that was destructive for me."

01:21:45 Right?

01:21:49 I mean, there's this old Monty Python skit

01:21:51 about some Hungarian-to-English dictionary

01:21:53 where the Hungarian would sound out the English phrase,

01:21:57 and the phrase was, in Hungarian,

01:21:59 it was printed, "Which way to Euston Station?"

01:22:03 And then when he sounded it out in Hungarian

01:22:05 so that you could ask someone in English,

01:22:07 it says, "Please fündl my buttocks."

01:22:10 Right?

01:22:12 And that's funny, right?

01:22:13 That's funny.

01:22:14 Because the guy is just doing what he's told.

01:22:17 He's with good faith accepting what he's told.

01:22:20 [sighs]

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01:22:38 Come on.

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01:22:44 I'm shredding my voice for this.

01:22:47 So I addict myself to self-attack

01:22:48 to make sure I don't get allied

01:22:50 so I keep my parents happy.

01:22:52 [sighs]

01:22:56 Low-quality people need to keep high-quality people away.

01:23:05 Because if high-quality people come around,

01:23:09 low-quality people don't do well.

01:23:12 Right?

01:23:13 Low-quality people need to keep high-quality people away.

01:23:18 Now, it is in your parents' best interest

01:23:21 that you don't have high-quality people in your life.

01:23:27 So they train you to be arrogant,

01:23:30 and then if somebody allies with you against that arrogance,

01:23:33 then their fallback position,

01:23:34 the secondary line of defense against quality people,

01:23:37 is for you to self-attack.

01:23:39 And you did this because if you didn't,

01:23:42 you'd be dead.

01:23:44 I addict myself to self-attack.

01:23:45 No.

01:23:46 What are you addicted to?

01:23:47 Breathing, living, passing on your genes.

01:23:50 So if you hadn't done that,

01:23:55 if you hadn't agreed with your parents

01:23:56 and set up all of these defenses

01:23:58 to keep high-quality people away,

01:24:00 what would have happened?

01:24:01 Evolutionarily speaking,

01:24:02 what happened to children who really oppose their parents?

01:24:05 What happened?

01:24:06 What happened to them, just out of curiosity?

01:24:09 Yeah.

01:24:10 They weren't protected, they weren't provided for,

01:24:13 they didn't make it.

01:24:14 They didn't make it.

01:24:15 I mean, do you understand how precarious childhood was

01:24:19 for almost all of human history?

01:24:20 You know exactly how.

01:24:21 I mean, half the children didn't even make it

01:24:23 to their fifth birthday,

01:24:24 even when the parents weren't killing their children.

01:24:27 And as I talked about in my speeches in Australia,

01:24:31 significant proportions of Aboriginal children

01:24:34 were murdered by their parents.

01:24:36 Significant proportions of Aboriginal children

01:24:38 were murdered.

01:24:40 Yeah, they're fed last, they're saved last, and so on, right?

01:24:45 And even if you struggle and you make it through to adulthood,

01:24:48 attacking your parents means attacking your mother.

01:24:50 Attacking your mother means attacking all the other women

01:24:52 who were raised by other women

01:24:53 who were exactly like your mother, right?

01:24:56 So those women will reject you,

01:25:02 and your genes will die out anyway.

01:25:05 Your parents are just shortening the journey to genetic death.

01:25:09 It's my mom that taught me this.

01:25:13 Ah, yeah, oh.

01:25:15 Okay.

01:25:21 Why do most parents teach their children language?

01:25:24 Yeah, Rome had marble pits they could leave the unwanted kids on,

01:25:27 that's right.

01:25:28 So why do parents,

01:25:30 why do most parents teach their children language?

01:25:32 Well, there's conformity and so on.

01:25:34 They teach their language for two reasons.

01:25:36 Number one, so they can order their children around,

01:25:38 and number two, so their children will be productive,

01:25:40 so the children can provide for their parents in their old age.

01:25:43 So remember, most parents, when they get older,

01:25:48 if they don't have the support of their children,

01:25:50 they die ugly, painful deaths.

01:25:52 So if you are a low-quality parent

01:25:54 and you allow your children to have high-quality people around,

01:25:57 those high-quality people are going to take your children away,

01:26:00 they're going to take them up out of the pit of despair and doom

01:26:03 and the underworld and crap and shit and all of that

01:26:06 that's in these trashy classes.

01:26:08 So they're going to skyhook your kids out.

01:26:11 Right? I mean, I'm not talking theory here.

01:26:16 How many resources do my parents get

01:26:19 after I found and went with quality people?

01:26:22 How many resources do my parents get

01:26:25 after I found and went with quality people?

01:26:28 Or any of my family of origin, for that matter.

01:26:30 My father's dead, my mother's still alive.

01:26:33 They get nothing. Right?

01:26:35 So you understand, you are a crop.

01:26:39 You are a crop to be planted

01:26:44 and harvested.

01:26:48 Now, how do farmers feel about

01:26:51 birds that eat all of their crops, or rabbits, or...

01:26:55 How do you feel if your life depends on your chickens

01:26:58 and there's a bunch of wolves and coyotes about?

01:27:01 You shoot them, you trap them, they're enemies, they'll get you killed.

01:27:04 So you build fences around your chickens

01:27:08 the same way your parents bake defenses into your psychology.

01:27:11 Because quality people will take the resource

01:27:18 that they need for their old age that they've invested into.

01:27:21 They can't make it through the winter of the last quarter of their life

01:27:24 without you.

01:27:26 Now, they can't become higher quality people, probably,

01:27:29 so all they do is they set up these fences around you

01:27:32 to make sure the predators of high quality don't steal you from their livestock farm.

01:27:35 If you had crappy people around you when you were younger,

01:27:44 they smell the scent of the quality people.

01:27:47 And they mark you as their territory.

01:27:53 They mark you as their territory.

01:27:56 We own him. We own him.

01:27:59 He's arrogant. When you ally against that arrogance,

01:28:02 he'll fall to self-attack. We own him. He's branded.

01:28:05 He's one of us. We get to keep him. You don't take him from us.

01:28:08 We own him. We rely upon him.

01:28:11 We need him. We can't become better.

01:28:14 He's got to stay bad.

01:28:17 Yes, that's right, Sammy.

01:28:20 That is right.

01:28:23 But we're not at the bottom. Should we go to the bottom?

01:28:30 Is it worth it?

01:28:33 All right, let me just grab a drink.

01:28:36 It's unfair to my voice to keep it dry.

01:28:39 [silence]

01:28:42 Your ears haven't popped yet?

01:29:02 [silence]

01:29:06 [silence]

01:29:09 Oh shoot, what was my point? Whoops!

01:29:15 If you get off the ride, sometimes the roller coaster just goes away

01:29:18 and you watch it while falling into the lake.

01:29:21 It will come back, I'm sure.

01:29:24 I did a podcast this morning and I was just... crops, yeah.

01:29:27 [silence]

01:29:32 It will return at its right and proper time.

01:29:35 [silence]

01:29:38 You answer so many questions of why my parents did not do X.

01:29:45 Thank you, Stefan Molyneux. You're very welcome, my friend.

01:29:48 You're very welcome.

01:29:51 They own you, marked territory, that's true.

01:29:54 We'll get there.

01:29:57 My brain's probably just taking a slight break so we can not get the bends.

01:30:00 Yeah, they smell quality people, they want to keep those quality people away.

01:30:04 Yes! That's it. That's it.

01:30:07 Alright.

01:30:10 So...

01:30:13 Some people get out, right? This is the bottom.

01:30:16 And we're talking about this with regards to the French Revolution.

01:30:19 And sin.

01:30:22 Some people get out.

01:30:25 If you came from a really bad, trashy, crappy, low-rent situation,

01:30:28 did you get out?

01:30:31 I mean, not 100% whatever that means, but are you mostly out?

01:30:34 [silence]

01:30:37 Hit me with a "Y" if you're mostly out.

01:30:42 Yeah. Fantastic.

01:30:45 Good. That's... you know, that's the evolution

01:30:48 that normally takes a thousand generations.

01:30:51 You did it in one!

01:30:54 Thank you. Thanks to you. I appreciate that. Thank you.

01:30:57 You did it. I mean, I did the recipe, you did the diet, right?

01:31:00 So...

01:31:03 Now...

01:31:06 [silence]

01:31:09 Do you go back to rescue those left behind?

01:31:16 [silence]

01:31:19 Are you tempted to? Do you want to go back

01:31:25 and rescue those left behind?

01:31:28 [silence]

01:31:31 This is not a good or bad or right or wrong. I'm just curious.

01:31:34 You can't, but it is tempting.

01:31:37 I've tried. It's almost impossible, easier to rescue young people.

01:31:40 You want to, for sure.

01:31:43 Yes. Struggling with this with my niece and nephew. Yeah.

01:31:46 Tempted to. Yes. You've tried. Those that are also trying to change their life too.

01:31:49 Yes.

01:31:52 You're not kidding about that.

01:31:55 You're not kidding about that.

01:31:58 You know, farmers can shoot people who destroy their crops, because it's them or us, right?

01:32:01 Not where I wish to be, but I want to find a way to start my own business.

01:32:04 Still trying, still in conversation.

01:32:07 Only help someone as much as they're willing to work for themselves.

01:32:10 Right.

01:32:13 My parents tried to rescue my cousins by bringing them into our house.

01:32:16 Almost destroyed our family, in my opinion.

01:32:19 Yeah.

01:32:22 It seems like you can only lead by example.

01:32:25 I mean, I got out before I started this show.

01:32:28 I was out of that environment.

01:32:31 Right?

01:32:34 How helpful has it been to you

01:32:37 that I came back for you?

01:32:40 That I didn't leave you there?

01:32:43 That I didn't leave you there?

01:32:46 That I didn't leave you there?

01:32:49 That I found a way out, and I came back for you?

01:32:52 I think it made all the difference.

01:32:55 I hope it made all the difference.

01:32:58 I got out of abusive relationships.

01:33:01 I came back for you,

01:33:04 which put me back into

01:33:07 the world of the dead.

01:33:10 I came back for you,

01:33:13 which put me back into

01:33:16 abusive relationships.

01:33:19 Right?

01:33:22 You follow how that works, right?

01:33:25 If you look at what's said about me,

01:33:28 that's all verbal abuse, right?

01:33:31 And threats and violence and all of that, right?

01:33:34 So,

01:33:37 I was repulsed by

01:33:40 manipulation, threats, violence and abuse

01:33:43 in my environment. I got out, I came back.

01:33:46 I came back.

01:33:49 Now, why did I come back?

01:33:52 I could have moved on, I could have just had my comfortable,

01:33:55 happy, peaceful existence. Why did I come back?

01:33:58 You wonder what's making you tear up right now?

01:34:01 No, you don't.

01:34:04 Why did I come back?

01:34:07 Why did I put myself back in the situation

01:34:10 of being terrorized and abused?

01:34:13 Why did I come back?

01:34:16 Hope? No.

01:34:19 You've got to be a female to think that hope is a male emotion.

01:34:22 It's helped me a lot, especially in my marriage.

01:34:25 You wanted to help innocent children and victims,

01:34:28 the future, yeah, it's all very true.

01:34:31 Why did I come back for you?

01:34:35 Oh no, I was finished, I was done with it all.

01:34:38 Increase the number of virtuous people in the world's self-interest?

01:34:41 Yeah, that's true.

01:34:44 That's true, but it's not the primary thing.

01:34:47 You want your child to have healthy peers? No, I came back before I was father.

01:34:50 I found you in 21.

01:34:53 Philosophy is the hardest thing I've ever experienced, but thank you,

01:34:56 appreciate that. Make the world a better place for your daughter?

01:34:59 No, it's certainly part of it.

01:35:02 I had choice, of course I had choice.

01:35:05 Yeah, I had choice. You say I had no choice, I had choice.

01:35:08 It's also going to sting a little, but it's going to be better.

01:35:11 It's not going to be pain, it's going to be sorrow.

01:35:14 Why did I come back?

01:35:17 Why did I come back for you?

01:35:20 Because I love you.

01:35:23 Because I love you.

01:35:26 Because I love you.

01:35:29 Why did I come back for you?

01:35:32 Because, my friends, I so deeply and powerfully remember

01:35:35 what it's like to be left behind.

01:35:38 what it's like to be left behind.

01:35:41 what it's like to be left behind.

01:35:44 what it's like to be left behind.

01:35:47 To be left behind.

01:35:50 Everybody gets out the well and leaves you at the bottom.

01:35:53 I very deeply,

01:35:56 almost against my will,

01:35:59 so vividly remember

01:36:02 what it feels like to be left behind.

01:36:05 what it feels like to be left behind.

01:36:08 My father left me behind, he escaped to the other side of the world

01:36:11 to get away from my mother, left me behind.

01:36:14 My brother escaped to England for years and left me behind.

01:36:17 My brother escaped to England for years and left me behind.

01:36:20 I was friends with some

01:36:23 very nice middle class children

01:36:26 who left me behind. They had their good lives,

01:36:29 they didn't want to hear about anything to do with mine.

01:36:32 Because I so

01:36:40 vividly

01:36:43 remember

01:36:46 I remember my brother, when I was very little, like a couple of years old,

01:36:49 maybe three, I was literally wandering around my neighborhood,

01:36:52 my brother had gone downtown with our babysitter,

01:36:55 I don't know where my mom was, half the time I never knew where my mother was

01:36:58 in my early memories. My brother had gone downtown London

01:37:01 with his babysitter and I had just been left to wander the neighborhood

01:37:04 at the age of honestly three. I remember, because I remember being way

01:37:07 shorter than various items that I know the height of.

01:37:10 And initially I didn't want to go and then I felt

01:37:13 really bad for being left behind. I felt left behind.

01:37:16 I shouldn't have been left behind, of course, right?

01:37:19 Through

01:37:22 ability, intelligence, luck, circumstance,

01:37:25 the magic X of free will,

01:37:28 I found a way out.

01:37:31 I found a way out.

01:37:34 One of the most dangerous things to do in society

01:37:37 is to not go back

01:37:40 for those still trapped.

01:37:43 And I think that's the most important thing

01:37:46 for those still trapped.

01:37:49 Right? You know that, right?

01:37:52 I mean, if you're getting out of a burning building

01:37:55 and someone you love is still in there,

01:37:58 don't you go back? Your children are still in there,

01:38:01 don't you go back?

01:38:04 I would have adopted little Steph.

01:38:07 I appreciate that. I can't thank you enough for coming back for me.

01:38:10 Yeah.

01:38:13 If you develop a cure

01:38:16 and the only way to cure others

01:38:19 is to get sick again or to be attacked again,

01:38:22 then what are you going to do?

01:38:25 What are you going to do?

01:38:28 Yeah, you go back.

01:38:31 You go back.

01:38:34 Also, if you don't go back,

01:38:37 all those left behind become

01:38:40 virulent.

01:38:43 They tear down society.

01:38:46 And I'm not even going to disagree with them that much.

01:38:49 A society that doesn't turn back to help those left behind,

01:38:52 a society that doesn't turn back to help those left behind,

01:38:55 does it have that much to complain about

01:38:58 when those left behind

01:39:01 are being attacked?

01:39:04 I don't know.

01:39:07 What's there to complain about when those left behind

01:39:10 burn society to the ground, so to speak?

01:39:13 I mean, there is a certain amount, obviously,

01:39:16 of self-protection and all of that, but, yeah, man,

01:39:19 I know what it's like to be left behind.

01:39:22 I know what it's like to have to struggle in isolation without allies,

01:39:25 without truth, without a path forward, having to will everything,

01:39:28 having to just put one foot in front of each other like some

01:39:31 plotting death march animal.

01:39:34 I know what it's like to just have to coast your way through the day

01:39:37 with your head filled with dissociative helium because you can't connect

01:39:40 with anyone or anything.

01:39:43 To have your emotions like some forest fire 10,000 feet below

01:39:46 your dissociated airplane. I mean, I know what it's like

01:39:49 to be so distant from your body that you're like a hot air balloon on the moon.

01:39:52 To be so angry that

01:40:00 you have to tear out the roots of your anger

01:40:03 and scatter them to the four winds for fear of doing something irreversible.

01:40:06 I know what that's all like.

01:40:09 I know what it's like to look around

01:40:12 your entire social environment and feel

01:40:15 little other than contempt

01:40:18 and exhaustion.

01:40:21 I know what it's like to be trapped in the decaying orbit

01:40:24 of people's defenses where they'll never change and you'll never give up

01:40:27 trying to change them and you just wear yourself to nothing.

01:40:30 Like an obsessive kid writing

01:40:33 with chalk on a driveway until the chalk disintegrates into nothing,

01:40:36 the rain comes and you just end up with a multicolored bullshit puddle

01:40:39 at the bottom.

01:40:42 I know what it's like to get up with unbelievable weariness

01:40:48 to look at the day filled with the same bullshit

01:40:51 from the same people who never change and never think.

01:40:54 Only defend, only attack.

01:40:57 Stimulus, response, cause and effect, dominoes and nothing.

01:41:00 This is hurting, this is the fellow who I allied with.

01:41:06 When I was a kid my parents would go on tour for weeks or months

01:41:09 and leave me with live-in babysitters, almost right up until I was 13.

01:41:12 I got left a lot.

01:41:15 Maybe some of my original comments come from that.

01:41:18 Somebody says, "I remember you and maybe two people I knew in real life

01:41:21 reached out to help me when I almost died and was at my lowest.

01:41:24 I worked so hard to get out of that place.

01:41:27 Part of it is I never want to go back there again."

01:41:30 But you may at some point develop the strength

01:41:33 to go back and help people like yourself.

01:41:36 It's not a requirement, it's not an absolute,

01:41:39 but it's something I felt I had to do.

01:41:42 I'm not trying to pump myself up morally,

01:41:45 I'm just saying that it was so vivid to remember

01:41:48 the agony and isolation and despair

01:41:51 and hatred and anger of being left behind.

01:41:54 That when I saw people who were being left behind,

01:41:57 it's almost involuntary.

01:42:00 I hate to say it's no free will,

01:42:03 but when you have that level of empathy,

01:42:06 it's almost impossible to not help.

01:42:19 Is teaching virtue the only way to help?

01:42:22 Is that what I'm doing right now?

01:42:25 Am I teaching virtue?

01:42:28 Am I teaching virtue? I don't think I am.

01:42:31 What am I doing?

01:42:34 What am I doing now in this conversation?

01:42:37 Teaching virtue? I don't think so.

01:42:40 I haven't talked about the non-aggression principle

01:42:43 or honesty or integrity or anything like that.

01:42:47 Someone writes,

01:42:50 "Next year makes ten years since I found freedom again

01:42:53 and took my first steps to where I am now.

01:42:56 So easy to be prey to despair/rage,

01:42:59 but now I am turning towards the light,

01:43:02 to turn dreams into a plan of action.

01:43:05 I would be the entrepreneur who can offer jobs

01:43:08 and a hand up to others, as they did for me.

01:43:11 I have deep empathy but lack the means.

01:43:14 I escaped slavery in Ireland but then went back

01:43:17 and by the time he was done had practically eradicated slavery there.

01:43:20 Right. He escaped slavery and he returned to slavery,

01:43:23 the slavery of being attacked.

01:43:26 What am I doing at the moment? Am I teaching virtue?

01:43:29 What am I doing?

01:43:32 I don't think I'm teaching virtue.

01:43:35 This is not an abstract argument that I'm making.

01:43:38 Yeah, I'm lying.

01:43:41 I'm your ally.

01:43:44 I'm also, I think, teaching you that there's strength in vulnerability.

01:43:47 You know, my daughter was saying

01:43:50 the other day that

01:43:53 there was someone who said something kind of rude to her

01:43:56 and hasn't apologized and she said,

01:43:59 "This man is a liar.

01:44:02 He's a liar.

01:44:05 He's a liar and hasn't apologized."

01:44:08 And she said, "If this person apologized,

01:44:11 this person would go up in my estimation so much

01:44:14 it would be crazy." And I said, "Yeah, so apologies come from a place of strength."

01:44:17 To apologize is to be strong.

01:44:20 To be vulnerable is to be strong.

01:44:23 I would say that I'm being fairly vulnerable.

01:44:26 I mean, I'm sort of opening my heart and my history and all that happened

01:44:29 and what motivates me. I mean, I would say that feels fairly vulnerable.

01:44:32 Now, do you view this vulnerability as

01:44:35 weak or pathetic or

01:44:38 low status or anything like that?

01:44:41 I don't think so. I don't feel weak.

01:44:47 I feel that this is just, isn't this just directness and honesty, right?

01:44:50 Because when you're vulnerable you're saying,

01:44:53 "I can..."

01:44:56 When you're being vulnerable you're saying

01:44:59 that

01:45:02 "If you reject my vulnerability, that's fine."

01:45:05 Right?

01:45:08 I mean, if somebody were to, "Oh, look at him crying online about

01:45:11 his childhood 50 years past or whatever, what a pathetic..."

01:45:14 That wouldn't really hurt me because I know that

01:45:17 the honesty is really important for me. I know the honesty is really important to the world

01:45:20 and I can't preach a value or virtue called honesty and then not

01:45:23 speak openly and truthfully about my thoughts and feelings

01:45:26 when I'm asked or when it's appropriate, when it's important.

01:45:29 Right? So vulnerability

01:45:32 comes from a place of strength. So when people say, as this guy did,

01:45:35 "Oh, Elon Musk should do X, Y and Z,"

01:45:38 that's not vulnerable. That's arrogant.

01:45:41 And arrogance comes from a place of weakness because arrogance

01:45:44 is an inability to handle criticism.

01:45:47 And because you can't criticize yourself because all you do is self-attack,

01:45:50 that's what you're programmed to do, you then have to, you know,

01:45:53 "This gun's got to go off. I've got to point it either at someone else or myself."

01:45:56 Right?

01:45:59 You would know it's coming from a weak person if they attacked you. Right.

01:46:02 Right. So curiosity

01:46:05 comes from strength because curiosity is vulnerable.

01:46:08 I don't have the answers. I don't have the answers, it's vulnerable.

01:46:11 Curiosity is, "But I can get the answers." Right?

01:46:14 "I can understand things. I can figure things out."

01:46:17 And vulnerability is a great way

01:46:20 to weed out the assholes from your life. Right?

01:46:23 Because if you're vulnerable and people mock or attack you,

01:46:26 thank you. Isn't that wonderful? I mean, what a wonderful way

01:46:29 to self-identify who should be yeeted out the exit vent. Right?

01:46:36 Who should be voted off the island.

01:46:39 Vulnerability is great.

01:46:42 If vulnerability brings curiosity and a cross-pollination of honesty, openness,

01:46:47 and vulnerability, that's a wonderful thing.

01:46:50 If you're vulnerable and people make fun of you, fantastic.

01:46:53 You know, like those people who are like,

01:46:56 "It's fine to have jokes at your expense. That's fine."

01:46:59 But the people who get kind of pathological mean, it's like, "Yeah, fantastic." Right?

01:47:02 Fantastic. Yeah, science is curiosity. Right?

01:47:05 Science is, you know, in its ideal, it's a strength. Right?

01:47:08 Because it's saying, "I don't know the answer to this, but we can figure it out."

01:47:11 Right? "We can figure it out."

01:47:14 "Honesty, I don't know the answer, and there's confidence that I can figure it out."

01:47:17 So curiosity is great.

01:47:20 If I watch a movie in Japanese, I don't speak Japanese,

01:47:23 I'm not curious about what they say because I can't figure it out.

01:47:28 When someone shows you vulnerability and opens up,

01:47:30 one should take it as a compliment. Right?

01:47:33 So vulnerability brings allies, which is why abusive parents

01:47:39 will always teach you to avoid vulnerability.

01:47:42 So their continual attacks upon you is to hammer this shield of armor around you

01:47:45 so you can't be vulnerable, so you can't get allies.

01:47:49 Because if you're weak but not vulnerable, you're unstable. Right?

01:47:54 If you know that you're physically weak and then you start to start exercising consistently,

01:47:58 you can become stronger.

01:48:00 But if you're weak and you think that you're strong,

01:48:02 then you're just going to make weird mistakes all the time.

01:48:05 You're going to try and lift things too heavy, you're going to pull yourself muscle.

01:48:07 They call them weekend warriors here in Canada. Right?

01:48:09 They call them weekend warriors, like the guys who haven't played hockey in 20 years

01:48:12 but think they can just go out and do it. Right?

01:48:15 Should men be vulnerable to women?

01:48:20 Should men be honest with women?

01:48:24 A woman who mocks a man for his vulnerability will destroy him.

01:48:31 Because a woman wants a man to achieve, and for a man to achieve, he has to take risks.

01:48:35 To take risks is to be vulnerable. That's one of the definitions.

01:48:38 So a woman who mocks a man for his vulnerability is mocking him for taking risks.

01:48:45 And if she's mocking him for taking risks, it's because the trashy people,

01:48:48 like leaving your social circle, getting out of the trashy circles,

01:48:51 that's all taking risks because you might be alone.

01:48:53 You might end up completely isolated.

01:48:56 So a woman who mocks a man's vulnerability is mocking his capacity to process risk.

01:49:08 And therefore she's chaining him down into the dungeons. Right?

01:49:12 Thanks for the great show. Whenever you switch subjects or take a pause,

01:49:15 can I message or email you for a call in show?

01:49:18 Yeah. Email. Yeah. Callin@freedomain.com. C-A-L-L-I-N. Callin@freedomain.com.

01:49:23 All right. I should probably stop here because I've got another big show tonight

01:49:26 and I've got some work to do this afternoon. It's a busy, busy, busy, busy, busy, busy day.

01:49:30 And I might do something with the backdrop here.

01:49:39 Is there a particular topic tonight? You'll have to tune in to see.

01:49:43 But yeah, I think I might fuss around with the background a little bit here.

01:49:47 It's a little dull. I am in the ether void of charcoal nothingness.

01:49:51 All right. Freedomain.com/donate. If you would really like to help out the show,

01:49:55 I would massively, massively appreciate it. And I'll hopefully see you tonight.

01:50:00 There won't be a show on Sunday, I'm afraid. I have to skip Sunday.

01:50:07 So but we'll maybe I'll be able to do it later in the day, but I will get back to that.

01:50:11 Freedomain.com/donate. If you're listening to this later, lots of love, everyone.

01:50:14 Thank you so much for a great, great conversation. I really, really appreciate it.

01:50:18 get it and a lot of love. I'll talk to you soon. Bye.

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