In this episode of Ask the Aunties, a 24-year-old #pansexual woman asks: "I pretend to be straight when I'm with my grandparents. Ever since my dad died they've been there for me and never turned me away when I needed help. But, they think #gay people choose to be gay. Do you think I should tell them I’m attracted to women, or is it not worth the risk?"

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