Parenting: Raising Adopted Children - as part of the expert series by GeoBeats. Hi, I am Dr. Laura Markham of ahaparenting.com How can you be a fair parent to your own birth child and your own adopted child. And we might extend that to say “How can I be a fair parent to any children that I am raising?” Because we know the number one refrain from kids is “But that is not fair!” or “You love him more!”, right? So what can you do? You can tell your children that you could not possibly love anyone more than you love him. There is no one who is this child. There is no other "Sammy" in the world, there is no one who is exactly you. I love you uniquely because of all the wonderful things that you are. Who you are in my heart is a place that no one else could be. I have a big heart and I have plenty of room to have you in my heart and have your sister in my heart. And it does not matter whether you are my birth child or a child I chose to bring into the family. You are your unique, wonderful self and I love you uniquely for exactly who you are and there is no way I could ever love anyone more than you.