Therapist reveals the point of no return in a relationship and how to avoid it

  • 2 years ago
A therapist has revealed what the point of no return is in a relationship and how to avoid it - by looking at behaviour that could be causing your partner pain. Kelly Armatage, 48, explained a person can be in love and overlook conflict - abusive and toxic behaviours - which build up to a "point of no return" where there's no way to get back on track. She says resentment can grow and a final straw will push the relationship over the edge. Kelly warned that once women cross this line "they won’t return". Kelly advises couples to look at the behaviours that might be causing pain to their significant other before they get to this point and says it could help "save their relationship". Kelly, a trained counsellor and therapist, from St Albans, Hertfordshire, said: “A relationship gets to a point of no return when conflict and behaviours are repeated to the point of resentment. “Pain gets bigger and bigger when behaviours are repeated until at one point there is a pain threshold. “If they get passed this point the relationship is over because they don’t care and are now numb. “The other wants to save it but it will be too late for their partner. “Most won’t go back once this line has been crossed. “If you have a lot of conflict in a relationship then look at your behaviours that might be causing your partner pain. "Look to be senstive to their needs and to not take them for granted. “Be empathetic and look at ways to resolve conflict. “It could save a relationship.” Kelly advises people to look inward to themselves and be sensitive to their partner’s needs. “Look to not push your partner past this point of no return,” she said. “Therapy can take a 5 out of 10 relationships to a 10 out of 10 one. “Or stop those heading for a break-up or divorce. “People spend money on phones and TV packages so why not spend some on therapy? “You go to the gym to give you a better body image so it’s the same with therapy. “Men also go past this point of no return, but it is more common in women. “Women are programmed for love and men are biologically wired for freedom and work.”

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