According to a recent study, yelling at teens continues a vicious cycle and is ineffective and harmful to a teen’s mental and physical health and future behaviors.
You’re already stressed out. The same thing you’ve said a billion times before has been disregarded. Eyes roll. Facial expressions mock. Your concerns are met with disrespectful arguments or complete indifference. Before you know it, you’re yelling at your teen.
According to a recent study, yelling continues a vicious cycle and is ineffective and harmful to a teen’s mental and physical health and future behaviors – regardless of how strong the parent-child relationship may be outside of the yelling.
In a 2-year evaluation, 13-year olds who were yelled at, cursed at, insulted, or called names showed depression, anger, and deceptive or violent behavior the following year. Results were similar with families who shoved or spanked.
Instead, experts recommend using real-life consequences to teach lessons, taking away privileges until they’re earned back, praising kids when they do and say things well.
NYU’s Dr. Timothy Verduin who was not involved with the study noted, “You feel a lot more responsible for your behavior when you're being corrected by someone you respect and admire. Anything you do to berate or shame a kid erodes that power you have.”